New to the scene

9 Jul 2012

Hi to all out there
We are new to the scene and have been talking to a lovely couple not far from us and we have arranged to meet up on Friday to chat and see where we go from here.
i would welcome and advice from those of you who have done this before on do's and don'ts as its our first swap for both couples and although we both know it won't be the best to start with neither of us want to totally cock it up as we are hoping it will be a regular thing

9 Jul 2012

Hello both, welcome and all that. I'm sure there will be others along to give you some advice but in the meantime and for a brief read you could check out this link.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/swinging-guide.html
Essentially there are no hard and fast rules, only go with what you're comfortable with, no really does mean no, maybe have a buzz word between you for when you want things to stop/get out/leave the building (er..not quite like Elvis) but above all do try to relax at the same time as remembering it's all about having fun and if it aint fun, it aint fun and finally, don't give up on the first attempt cos if it's something you really both might enjoy then a hiccups here or there is a small price to pay.
Good Luck!

9 Jul 2012

:welcome: to :swingingchair:

9 Jul 2012

Hello and :welcome: to the site and forum :-)
Have a look around, chill out and have fun.
Anais

9 Jul 2012

Hi guys welcome to the site and really do hope your meet goes well on Friday night.
The main advice I would give, is not necessarily for the actual night, but is more for the before and after event. That is TALK, talk and then talk again. It is very important you are both 100% comfortable with what you are doing and that you fully understand both your limits and that of your partner. We found the best way to do this, was to keep talking.
For the meet its self, I would say do not do anything that you are not comfortable with. If at any time either of you feel uncomfortable, stop. It really does not matter if you upset the other couple, and if they are decent, they would understand anyway, but if you do something you are not comfortable with, and then regret it, you cant turn the clock back.
What ever happens, remember there is no rush to do anything at all, and sometimes, the nice leisurely journey getting there is much more enjoyable that reaching the destination wink

11 Jul 2012

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Hi guys welcome to the site and really do hope your meet goes well on Friday night.
The main advice I would give, is not necessarily for the actual night, but is more for the before and after event. That is TALK, talk and then talk again. It is very important you are both 100% comfortable with what you are doing and that you fully understand both your limits and that of your partner. We found the best way to do this, was to keep talking.
For the meet its self, I would say do not do anything that you are not comfortable with. If at any time either of you feel uncomfortable, stop. It really does not matter if you upset the other couple, and if they are decent, they would understand anyway, but if you do something you are not comfortable with, and then regret it, you cant turn the clock back.
What ever happens, remember there is no rush to do anything at all, and sometimes, the nice leisurely journey getting there is much more enjoyable that reaching the destination

this ^^ couldnt have put it better myself. commnication is the best advice ever, and it really helps to discuss expectations , boundaries and your own rules beforehand, so each of you are clear on what you want to get out of the night, and what the other one is comfortable with. e.g does your partner mind you kissing the guy/lady you are meeting with, do they mind you giving/receiving oral etc. its best to discuss these things beforehand, as it minimises the chance of something happening that may make one or the other of you unhappy during a meet.

15 Jul 2012

Thank you for all your advice we met up with a lovely couple on Friday and as it was the first time for all of us it went ok we chatted for a while then we all removed our clothes and played with our own partners until we all orgasmed then we sat round naked and just talked again. We have agreed to meet up again and we enjoyed their company and we have promise next time that maybe we just swap partners

16 Jul 2012

just be yourself and have fun!!!!!!!!!!
:bounce:

16 Jul 2012

Welcome folks. I'd just like to apologise, on behalf of my fellow forumites, as they seem to have failed to advise you that, as newbies to the site, you ought to mail skinny and make arrangements to spend a weekend with him in Brighton.
Have fun.

16 Jul 2012

Quote by skinny
Welcome folks. I'd just like to apologise, on behalf of my fellow forumites, as they seem to have failed to advise you that, as newbies to the site, you ought to mail skinny and make arrangements to spend a weekend with him in Brighton.
Have fun.

bring rubber gloves..he's got a stack of washing up.. coffee

18 Jul 2012

:welcome: to the site.
Sounds like you had a good night. Best thing is, as others have said, to do what you are all comfortable with and talk lots about it.
Oh but also, post lots in the forum too - we love new posters!
:rose: