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Hi, we've finally made that final decision that we want to join and enjoy swinging. We have just joined this site and have found the people very friendly so far. We have yet to enjoy that FIRST EXPERIENCE redface . Any advice on where we should go next......do we join a club............plunge right in and contact someone? Obviously like everyone else nerves are the main issue and we're worried that we will end up with a couple who will try and rush the process. From posts on here a lot of people say their first time was with a couple who took it slow with them.
Anyway enough rabbiting on I sound like a terrified virgin biggrin .
Hello and welcome.
Stay around get to know people here
and
HAVE FUN
wave :wave: :wave: :wave:
Forum Virgin
biggrin God I'm so glad to read your message... My fella and I are in the same boat. Got our first party on Saturday. Good Luck and make sure you you don't over think everything (He's driving me crazy trying to organise everything when he's as cluless as me!) Have fun. The "community" seems really friendly and welcoming.
great to meet another newbie, cheers for the advice, i do tend to over-organise, enjoy your party, let me no how it went (if you dont mind) wink
Hello and :welcome:
I think having the word 'swallows' in your name will do your popularity no end of good wink
Sex God
Hiya Kazswallows wave
Welcome to the forums biggrin
Best advice I can give would be to take things slowly, only go as far as you are comfortable with.
Ideally come along to one of the munches :D They're purely social events with likeminded people. That way you can meet people, many of them in the same boat as you, with absolutely no pressure whatsoever. A great way to put faces to names, have a chat, a couple of drinks etc, a great night out I can assure you.
Then as your confidence grows you can talk to each other about what aspect of swinging you both like and maybe explore that a bit.
There is ways and means of getting into swinging without going whole hog the first time you venture out - I'm proof of that lol been on here months, and only just now beginning to feel more confident in exploring what I want to.
It's all about having fun and enjoying yourselves - whatever you decide, then do it for you, noone else ...... never ever go beyond your boundaries .... and just as important, talk everything through with each other. Don't push the boundaries once you are out - there's always a next time if you both decide upon it.
Good luck and have fun :D
Welcome Kaz (and partner!) wave
That's excellent advice from Misschief. Just join in and have fun on the Forum. Meet people in a friendly and social environment first (the munches are perfect) and then take it from there at your own pace.
look forward to seeing your posts.
Will
Welcome kazswallows!
We are also in the process of doing a adoption service to include single males, however this is in its early stages and as yet is only in its beta version. The full VHS (Versatile Handy Singles) models will be out later this year.

Yes, I'm one of those single males up for adoption. I'm very vesatile, I can come in handy whenever you need me and I'm most certainly single (at the moment). I'm looking for couples or females to adopt me. I'm highly skilled and capable of multi-tasking. I'm a natural entertainer and a charming escort. I'm an effective communicator and I always turn up to meetings. I also give a guaranteed service of satisfaction or your money back! What more could you ask for, I ask! Give me a call......
Hope you enjoy the site as much as I have! cool
LC wink
:welcome: and wave
Nothing i can add to the good advise already posted,just take your time and enjoy it here
Master of Sex
ive only been here a few days and ive been made to feel part of the board.i love it here even though im a single guy and we arnt in too much demand things are looking up! its the humour and the atmosphere here too that make this board unique to me,youll find it cool here and i send you my best wishes,GOOD LUCK!.XXX mark.
Warming the Bed
Hi guys, just like you we are new to all this, we only joined the forum a few days ago, but in the main they are a nice bunch, and pretty helpful. Mind you they also talk in a weird language, and say some mindless things at times.
As for tipping your toe into the waters, well what we did was go to the Toucan Club in London last tuesday for our first experience, and it was fab, we both had a great night. It was really interesting, openned our eyes and C's legs and we just dived in.
However it also openned alot of other questions, and now we are curious about doing other stuff, just to experience it.
Do what you feel most comfortable with.
C&P
Quote by JudyTV
We have yet to enjoy that FIRST EXPERIENCE redface . Any advice on where we should go next......do we join a club............plunge right in and contact someone? biggrin .

Hello wave , welcome and enjoy, However your mental state is now in severe danger.
Now then, whenever anyone asks for advice about what they should do next I always point them in the direction of my ad. After reading this piece of litery garbage you may want to consider the adoption scheme that is proving to be quite popular. This is the SHAP program, which stands for Swinging Heaven Adoption Process. This is where you adopt someone to act as your mentor and adviser and the beauty of the scheme is you get to keep the person you adopt if you choose the right scheme. There is a condition to the SHAP program as it doesn't include Trannys and SHAP isn't a permanent adoption. So for that option you have to go to the TAPET program this is the Tranny Adoption Program Extension and it is this module where you can keep the Tranny that you adopt. You will of course be given a choice of Tranny so you can get the most from the program so you have to decide what type of Tranny you would like. The list includes Dom leather type and frilly maid type and submissive please spank me every day types. You also get a choice of hair colour but they all have the same working parts. These parts are fully tested before delivery and come with a 12 month guarantee. The service is free and SH will send you various pics for you to choose your Tranny. At the moment there are no silent ones, they are all fully automatic and come with various outfits ie, maid, slut, Nun types, Trinnion girls and various others. All Trannys come with a choice of Bi, hetero, and those that cant decide yet, they are the ones who have the tittle of Bi-cure.
The service is free and comes as part of your no charge membership to this wonderful site. All Trannys can be exchanged providing other stocks are available.
We are also in the process of doing a adoption service to include single males, however this is in its early stages and as yet is only in its beta version. The full VHS (Versatile Handy Singles) models will be out later this year.
The highly popular Tranny model at the moment is the SH 69144 type you will find this one in the photo ad section and a working model is available on free trial by pressing the search box after entering the model number.
I'm sure you will be highly delighted with your new Tranny and I'm in no doubt she will give you many years of satisfactory service.
On a more serious note I hope you have as much fun on here as I have had and if you manage to retain your sanity you have achieved what many others have failed to do.
JudyTV........TVmodel distribution co-coordinator.
Judy darling.
You are definatley off your trolly.
All your chairs are not in one room.
you are not playing with a full deck of cards.
Nutts.
Bomkers.
and
All other types of daftness.
lol :lol: :D :D rotflmao :rotflmao:
thanx to everyone that PM'd and left a message on here, all i can say is thankyou.
Judy - i had to have a bottle of wine to understand that msg, the mind boggles :confused: lmao
How to i get invited to a munch, did ask about the medieval one but told i need to be seen around for a few months first (fair enough) is that standard practice, god i dont think i can wait a few months for a 69position :cheers: smackbottom and a hump
speak to everyone soon.
ps is the chat room a good way to meet and talk to people or is the cafe better?
sorry for the questions you,ve all been asked a thousand times rolleyes
Sex God
Hi Kazsawllows and welcome to SH! All of the advice given by my esteemed colleagues is sound so I won't repeat it, apart from to say, to become a muncher stick around the forum, post, and get to know us as we get to know you. As for preferences between the chatroom and the cafe, try both and see which one you feel happiest with - or even better do both!
This scene is all about choice and on this trip you're the driver. Go with your instincts as a couple and above all relax. Looks like you've made a pretty good start.
Have fun in the forum!
Sappho xxx
Quote by Marya
Hello and :welcome:
I think having the word 'swallows' in your name will do your popularity no end of good wink

Kazgetshertitsoutfortheboys would be quite popular as well. :twisted:
Steve
hi to all,
we're new here, as you may have gathered, and we were grateful to see the advice given to Kaz and lee which we also found useful. We are interested in the idea of easing our way into things by attending some social functions and clubs. On this point, we have been reading the thread on the 'sex maniacs ball' which sounded wonderful. Could someone please explain what and where this is held and how we might obtain tickets for next year? Thankyou.
Is there anything else like this around? Apologies now if we're asking age old questions, we have just started enjoying this outside of the fantasy element so we're pretty lost right now. We've just come back from a nudist holiday in south of France which was a great start point and thought we would start looking around closer to home. If any one has any good clubs to recommend that would be greatly appreciated. Being clean and well run would be a pre requisite for us. Thanks. smile
Sex God
Quote by kazswallows
Hi, we've finally made that final decision that we want to join and enjoy swinging. We have just joined this site and have found the people very friendly so far. We have yet to enjoy that FIRST EXPERIENCE redface ... From posts on here a lot of people say their first time was with a couple who took it slow with them.
Anyway enough rabbiting on I sound like a terrified virgin biggrin .

Belated welcome from me kazswallows ... I think your current avatar appeals to the foot fetishist part of me surprisedops:
Quote by marcus and mich
hi to all,
we're new here, as you may have gathered, and we were grateful to see the advice given to Kaz and lee which we also found useful. We are interested in the idea of easing our way into things by attending some social functions and clubs. On this point, we have been reading the thread on the 'sex maniacs ball' which sounded wonderful. Could someone please explain what and where this is held and how we might obtain tickets for next year? Thankyou.
Is there anything else like this around? Apologies now if we're asking age old questions, we have just started enjoying this outside of the fantasy element so we're pretty lost right now. We've just come back from a nudist holiday in south of France which was a great start point and thought we would start looking around closer to home. If any one has any good clubs to recommend that would be greatly appreciated. Being clean and well run would be a pre requisite for us. Thanks. smile

Marcus and Mich ... Welcome to the site ... If you haven't realised it already, I think you'll both find that the people here are all well balanced, clear headed and totally sane ... apart from the regular posters lol
You can get tickets to the Sex Maniacs Ball, via their website or from some of the more well known fetish stores - they've renamed it to Night Of The Senses now but the website is still the same Night Of The Senses (click me!) ... can't tell you any more than that as I haven't been to one yet ... but next year hopefully ...
wave
Well i thik the best way is to get to know peeps and take it from there,theyre not all bad! lol :lol: :lol:
Kazgetshertitsoutfortheboys would be quite popular as well.
Steve

Anytime biggrin
Come and join us all in the chatroom too. If you get hassled by any in there tell a moderator and they will sort it out for you. Its a pretty friendly room so come on in!!!!

I've been in and found in general most people friendly, so if you see me in say hello please.
Marcus and Mich ... Welcome to the site ... If you haven't realised it already, I think you'll both find that the people here are all well balanced, clear headed and totally sane ... apart from the regular posters

Who's sane............................ rotflmao
Welcome Marcus and Mich
Quote by JudyTV
All Trannys come with a choice of Bi, hetero, and those that cant decide yet, they are the ones who have the tittle of Bi-cure.
JudyTV........TVmodel distribution co-coordinator.

And what about the Gay tv who's only interst in life is to find the right guy?
hi all
thanks Kaz for the friendly welcome, and thanks everyone for the advice and tips. We'll be floating around and we'll check out that website too. wink
Sexlightened
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Judy!! Im sure the 'mentoring' was my idea-- and you didnt offer yourself up for adoption!! Im sure myself and The Loose One would be more than happy to follow your lessons with baited breath!!
Sexlightened
woohoo! more newbies...
Just relax and don't worry about it... We've only had a couple of experiences, both at clubs and found it really good. The first we pre-arranged to meet at the club with a particular couple and the second we met up with lots of people from on here, although, strangely, we didn't have any relations with anyone on here..... Met a couple at the club and ended up with them....
We are both very young compared to most (from what we've been told) and my partner was more than happy to go at it like a bull in a china shop... I was less sure than my other half and I think it showed cos I kept being asked "Are you sure about this?". People are very understanding - everyone has to have a first time... My partner and I use the safe word system at home, but find that inappropriate when out, but if we 'prod' each other in a certain place we know we have to stop.
The only thing I have a problem with now is my beer belly, but hey, I'm only human. lol
Whatever you do, make sure you enjoy it and make sure you say no when something happens that you aren't happy about.