I can see a great deal os sense in the postings made so far, and largely I concur! However, they are equally quite from specific perspectives.
Swinging for some is still a very intimate and considered affair, and as such, an 18 year old is often considered to be 'too risky', 'too young' or 'too inexperienced' etc.
However, here's the good news...
There are still lots of couples who enjoy the 'younger man' scenario. They could be couples of a similar age (although relatively rare). MOst of the younger couples are looking for a bifem... since men have a real issue with insecurity about wife or g/f with another man (esp if the husband is only young too). You're still at an age when there are some serious uncertainties about handling seeing your partner with another. They could also be oldr couples who like the fantasy of younger men (more common than young couple seeking a young man).
Of all the options available to you though, I would consider the 'casual sex' type swinging theme to be most fruitful. I'm not about to criticise clubs for condoning casual sex, but, clubs tend to be a slightly more 'one night only' affair. Where if you take someone's fancy, you might well enjoy your first taste of swinging. In this situation, it's purely physical sex... make no mistake, you will be used for sex, and enjoyed, but that will be the end of it... wham bam, and thank you young man. Your only problem here is that many clubs won't allow single males of 18 years old to enter. The reason?... because many who have gone before you have acted like idiots in a candy store, and exhibited all the traits that older couples fear.... lack of respect / patience / sexual maturity.
Summary -
Get yourself off to a club, behave impecably, never be pushy or rude, and wait to be approached. If you're not approached, just watch and learn. Good luck!!!!
/TheKid
Oh to be 19 again... 'cos 18's crap lol
The ones in clubs are less choosy about age because it's purely physical... they can seperate themselves from the thought of you being 18... if you look good and you appeal to them, then they might go for you.... of course the alcohol flow helps / hinders too.
Mixed bag of ages, but mostly 30's+
The majority of people post once, expect women to fall at their feet... leave disappointed after a day or two. No patience, not self control, and worst of all.... lousy attitude. That's how it works for the majority. That's swinging sites for you. A refuge for great people, and a magnet for fly by night idiots.!!
sounds like a job for.... "pls Mrs Robinson!"
stick around mate... but, take your shoes off if you're playing in the ball pool! :-)
haha... wish it was like this when I went... that's SOME homework you've got.... "discover the pleasures of older ladies" hehe
Stick around, it's fun and chatty and once you prove you're basically a decent bloke it gets better!...
I've managed, and now the people running the site have been ever so kind and decided to only cut off one of my bollocks!
the cafe is full of mad people, but fun things happen - stay a while!
Search the ads... that's your best bet... but be wary of 'too good to be true' ads
im also young (19) but its more to do with the kind of people id like to meet. i do understand however the slight awkwardness caused by the fact most swingers who use this board are 30 + but i guess its unavoidable
Just add me to the growing pile of young men who visit this site. Nineteen year old art student myself.
"Youth is wasted on the young", as good old Oscar Wilde would say.
Seriously though, isn't it about experience rather than age anyway? I mean if someone comes into the swining game at 40 surely they're just as nervous (etc) about it as someone who is 18?
OK, I know there's a lot more to it than that, physical attractiveness for one (i.e. some people like youngsters and others prefer the more "seasoned" look!), but at the end of the day, we're all looking for a certain thing - let's just be nice to each other in the process (because I'm in a mellow mood today!) :P
Just back from a long lay off in hospital so forgive me for the delay in adding to this discussion.
I've just spent a Fascinating 35 minutes reading through all the messages in this discussion. I can sympathise with begentle as I went through a similar experience when I first started to venture into the swinging and dogging scene. I remember the "you're very young therefore you must be immature" attitude that I encountered and still do encounter, (although the older I get; the more of a compliment it becomes).
I disagree that there are not many "mrs Robinson's" out there. On the contrary, I have encountered lots of them. I can only speak for the Manchester area but I go to clubs where meeting a Mrs Robinson esque lady who is interested in a casual encounter with a young guy is a virtual guarantee. The lady I am seeing at the moment is 55 years old, and she tells me that her last fling was with a 19 year old guy.
I firmly believe there is plenty of opportunity for every single person regardless of age, sexuality, looks or any other category that people are placed into. The tricky bit is finding the locations. Thats where time and patience comes into it. Fortunately, we now have a wonderful tool to help with that search, the good old world wide web.
Regards. Kev.
Very articulate and well put!
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I agree with Juliane on this one. For a lot of folks (female and male who enjoy young men (the under 20s mainly) do so because of their inexperience, and even their naivete and innocence. If I were a young lad I would play on it :twisted: - be innocent but horny, and admit to inexperience - so many older people want to teach you - let them :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: