Newbie Question

1 Sep 2004

Ok, so I've just put an ad up on the main site (I'm member: 141630), only to see it disapear within 1 minute onto page 2...!!! eh!
Obviously there are many more men on here than women (cos lets face it, women can get it whenever they want right, not quite the same for us men, plus we are all horny 24/7)
So my question is.. is there any point? Ladies, do you ever look through the mens listing or do you just let them come to you. Guys, do you ever get any replies from your ad? or only to Girls you mail directly?
Just wondering... don't have much time to waste if this doesnt work, maybe i'm better off back down the club, thinking i'm cool but really being a sad, slimey geezer in the corner.. cool

(I'm not like that really, honest)

1 Sep 2004

Quote by G-spot
Obviously there are many more men on here than women (cos lets face it, women can get it whenever they want right, not quite the same for us men, plus we are all horny 24/7)

I know of women that are horny 24/7
I would also imagine that there are alot of women who dont get what they want.

Quote by G-spot
So my question is.. is there any point? Ladies, do you ever look through the mens listing or do you just let them come to you. Guys, do you ever get any replies from your ad? or only to Girls you mail directly?

Is there any point - I guess that is up to you (with that defeatest attitude I would suggest no)
However, you could always claim to have a massive cock!!!
D wink

1 Sep 2004

Thanks for the reply, and good point.... I know that sounded realy defeatest for a newbie to this site (not a particularly attactive trait) but I have been on other similar sites for a while with similar results, so my question was in some way valid.
I do not concider myself particualrly unattractive or uninteresting, but just feel like the 'man' market is completely saturated. Isn't this experience supposed to be fun?! Not some endless quest to just get seen, let alone any further.
I HAVE A MASSIVE COCK, if that helps.... it's not particualrly true though.. haha... it's not a bad size though, i'm happy with it, and so have my partners been.
So, still wondering if any of you ladies look through the male personals, or if theres just too many to bother with. lol

1 Sep 2004

The mods read them - is that answer enough for you :shock: lol

:lol: :lol:
There's plenty of help and advice for single guys on the site already and I'm not going to repeat any of it here - get yourself known on the forum is probably a good way to get success.

1 Sep 2004

Quote by surreycouple2003

Obviously there are many more men on here than women (cos lets face it, women can get it whenever they want right, not quite the same for us men, plus we are all horny 24/7)

I know of women that are horny 24/7
I would also imagine that there are alot of women who dont get what they want.

How true! ME

1 Sep 2004

I have never needed to look at the mens ads..............as we're only after couples....
But to b honest u should lighten up..............u can't just cum on any site and think your going to get a hit straight away...................the market is just full of me single or married....
I must say that we as a couple r just testing the water so to speak as we r young...well i am hes 5 years older than me....
And yes this is a site for swinging and looking for sex...but is also a great place to meet people and get to know each other before jumping straight into group gangbangs...or such.......i personally like to get to know people before i just jump into bed with any1....but thats just me....
So good luck with your search but u must b prepared to wait awhile....
Have fun....
Gmah

1 Sep 2004

You will have to have patience G-spot what makes you any different than all the other men on here who have been leaving messages and chatting to people and have had the patience without moaning.

1 Sep 2004

Hey Gmah,
Reply noted, appreciated and some good advise given.
To make my original post clearer, I wasn't suggesting that I should get any replies straight away. I was more than expecting to wait a while for the right woman to see the right ad, or to cultivate an online relationship first using the ad as a start point, I was just shocked at how my ad went onto page 2 (i.e kiss of death for being viewed) in under 1 minute! Hense my 'is this worth it' question...
... It really was just a question that poped into my head, and I'm sure many others think the same thing. lol

1 Sep 2004

Yeah, Swinging Heaven is just SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO busy these days! I advertise in the couples seeking men section and when I update mine it goes down to page two very quickly.... men seeking women is even faster!
Blame Mark for making such a successful site! wink

:wink: :wink:

1 Sep 2004

I blame Mark!..... biggrin

1 Sep 2004

just glad to help...im still a newbie...in the swinging sense..but i love logging on here and catching up with what every1 else is doing...it brightens up my day.....
Good luck hunny and your ad is fine......

1 Sep 2004

Mark is wrong. My new ad (#116436) has been up for weeks and I haven't had a single reply. I want my money back! :taz: :taz: :taz:

1 Sep 2004

Do people use the search facility at all?
I know I havn't... I just look at the most recent posts. Hmmm, maybe I should go use the search facility to find the right match in a hope that it spurs others on to do the same, then 'the right woman' will stumble upon my ad even thgouh it's way down in the listings.... it's all becoming clear... it's all about having faith in the system.... :P
OK, i'm off to search... cool

1 Sep 2004

search facility??? ok I still haven't mastered the god damned sh clock! redface

1 Sep 2004

Oh Roger!!! that avatar

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
G-spot, I would say the best way to go about it would be to do what you're doing now, posting in the forums. Get to know people that way, and let them get to know you. It's easy to put details down in an ad - but very few manage to get their personality down too.
So, my advice would be to contribute to the forums, get to know us, get yourself to one (or 2 biggrin

) of the munches to put faces to names, you will have a blast!
Good luck and enjoy :D

1 Sep 2004

the site is good
i am still a newbire and have met a couple of people through the site who i am gettin to Know
everyone on the site is really friendly

2 Sep 2004

Yeah thats one thing i have noticed about this site and mainly the forum is the "love that is being spread around" what i mean by that is everyone seems really nice and genuine and all that palavar.
Its good that you guys are happy to give advice, no doubt some users of other forums on the net would just look down their noses at topics like this and also some of the topics i have created these past few days.
Whats also great is the fact that there are so many people on whilst i am at work, which gives me a break from the monotamy of web site programming....... (god i must sound really dull, esp that i cant spell smile

, i try not to be though :P ) and allows me to "speak" to other people by posting to topics and such.........
I'm babling.... sorry :)