Newbie Stupid Question #4757 - a small query on etiquette

5 Sep 2004

Hi Again ... we just can't keep away now LOL.
OK this is one that troubled Mr NCIG (tsk, why did we pick that handle!) - and it's probably pretty silly. But like we said, this is all new to us and as 'mid-fifty' yr olds (oops, mentioned that again) we have a lot of catching up to do - but we intend to learn fast lol

OK, so you're in the big Play Room and a couple in front of you are really enjoying themselves. All of a sudden you realise that they are looking at you .. no particular expressions or anything. Mr NCIG said he felt like he was being a bit of a perve (no, he doesn't have any track history of peeping tom behaviour we know of), and broke eye contact, slightly embarrassed.
OK, so we agree it's a great idea to get to know someone first - that's what we'd hope to normally do. But in the atmosphere of the Play Room, just what's the etiquette of eye contact ...invitation, turn on or turn off?
XX

5 Sep 2004

it's not a stupid question, but it is one that i can't answer, lol, sorry. I've replied just because i'd like to know more about etiquette too, especially in couples etc rooms...please can someone give some general do's and don't's. thanks.

5 Sep 2004

Hi,
In an open playroom there is no reason to avoid eye contact...a smile at the same time also goes a long way.
In many clubs it is acceptable to gently touch another couple in an open room. If you get a polite "no thanks" or no response at all, then your attentions are probably not wanted. If however you get a positive response, then you can always get to know them after the event biggrin

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Hope that helps.
Ric n Jax

5 Sep 2004

Now I'm not an expert but are there any house rules to cover the situation - did you ask? If there aren't any house rules, might an enquiring raising of the eyebrows elicit a nod or a shake of the head. Sorry this is probably so naive it's probably bollocks.

5 Sep 2004

In an open play room, watching others and eye contact is fine - in fact, as lots of people who play in those rooms are exhibitionists, they would probably feel upset if you didn't watch! Making eye contact with people you want to play with is also welcomed. Sometimes there can be a sort of stalemate where everyone isn't sure what to do, so making definate eye contact sometimes breaks this sort of ice. Making friendly comments is also OK, although getting into a deep conversation about the state of the economy probably is best left til later! Touching is something that you have to suss out at the time. If there is a full on orgy going, it is generally accepted just to "muck in" :twisted: . However, if just one or two couples are playing they might not want any more participators.... this is where it pays to be sensitive! If you get positive vibes from eye contact, trying a light touch on an non intimate part of the body would not result in a punch - if this is accepted then it is OK to go further. If you want bi male contact in an open play room it pays to play it VERY safe unless it is bi night! confused

5 Sep 2004

thank you, that's just the kinda thing i was after.....