Newbies

23 Apr 2007

Hi, as a newbie on here i have found some people to be very polite, informative and helpful(and very sexy to) but i have found others to be down right rude in the way they reply.
Personally i feel that i should answer all the messages i get off people, but i guess thats me.i know people can miss messages as they go up the screen but i have had people just ignore me, maybe i'm not what there looking for, and thats ok, but come on people show some concideration for us newbies.
Its not easy for everyone you know to come on here and being ignored just puts them off, lets give a hand up not just hand job people.
Thanks for reading this. biggrin

23 Apr 2007

Hiya

Unfortunately it does depend on who you contact as to the reply response. It's not necessarily personal, but imagine you pm a very popular single fem who gets a lot of pm's .. her time would be permanently spent replying to people!
If you want to get know then the best place to hang around is in the chatroom or in the forum. Join in the conversation and people will soon want to know more and be more responsive smile

Cx

23 Apr 2007

Hi Niteman, welcome to the Cafe wave

I've been around for a while and I still get ignored so don't take it personally confused

Seriously, hope you have fun here and find what you're looking for wink

anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

23 Apr 2007

Very true, i'm not trying to insult people with this post and i appologise if anyone is. The point i'm trying to make is that we all have to start at some point and that i think we should show some patience.

23 Apr 2007

Hi Niteman wave

:wave: :wave: :wave:
Welcome to the Forum. I hope you find what you are looking for. :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
If you are wondering who messed with your post, it was me!! lol

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23 Apr 2007

welcome to the maadhouse smile

jo xx

23 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren
anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

Warwick has them!! lol

Hi and welcome

23 Apr 2007

Quote by Niteman2007
Very true, i'm not trying to insult people with this post and i appologise if anyone is. The point i'm trying to make is that we all have to start at some point and that i think we should show some patience.

yes we do and you have made a good start by joining in the forums, hang around and have a look, join in where you want, we are a nice bunch really
pm's are always a bone of contention and each person handles them different, i try to answer most, but i take offence at a wink that asks me to look at a profile that has no information, so i dont reply to those, thats my personal choice.
i havent taken offence to your thread hun, i just have my own way of dealing with pm's as do others
EARthy xx

23 Apr 2007

Quote by Sarah

anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

Warwick has them!! lol

Thieving bastard evil

23 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren

anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

Warwick has them!! lol

Thieving bastard evil

I think you will find that should be Thieving bastards wink

23 Apr 2007

Quote by Sgt Bilko

anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

Warwick has them!! lol

Thieving bastard evil

I think you will find that should be Thieving bastards wink

There's more than one? :shock:
bolt

24 Apr 2007

Quote by Calista
Hiya
Unfortunately it does depend on who you contact as to the reply response. It's not necessarily personal, but imagine you pm a very popular single fem who gets a lot of pm's .. her time would be permanently spent replying to people!
If you want to get know then the best place to hang around is in the chatroom or in the forum. Join in the conversation and people will soon want to know more and be more responsive
Cx

I'm sure this has been muted before....but i understand that single fems get bombarded by guys and don't mean to be rude when they don't is there a way a sort of premed reply could be sent(like the wink)which says "thanks for your interest...but fuck off".... no,no i'm kidding..... which says"thank you for looking but I'm not interested" or some similar POLITE put down.

24 Apr 2007

i used to have the wink autoresponder but the amount of abuse i got in return wasnt worth it, i just ignore winks now. as it says in my profile, which people dont read. people not reading profiles and self selecting apropriately is the main issue for me.
oh and ive had a sudden influx of people saying "i saw you looked at my profile, you must be interested" my reply is that i look at profiles for many reasons...if i didnt contact you then no, im not interested rolleyes

ive often sent a reply such as "thanks but im not interested" and have been met with insults - "well i never liked you anyway", "you shouldnt be so fussy" or they think its an invite to talk more - "are you sure i cant persuade you", "cant we chat anyway".
for me, if im not interested in the person who has sent me a message then that means they have not read my profile because they dont fit what im looking for. for example, yesterday i received a message from a 42 year old man in plymouth. he's obviously not read my profile so im not going to reply dunno

oh and welcome niteman smile

24 Apr 2007

I do still get messages from TV an single males despite it saying "No single males and TV/CD"on my profile and I simply write a polite message back saying please read my profile carefully,you don't fit my I p.m'd you as well sexkitten....but if you don't venure for looking wink

24 Apr 2007

How very true that all is Sexkitten! :thumbup:
wave

& :welcome: Niteman.

24 Apr 2007

Quote by Bigpaul45
Sorry I p.m'd you as well sexkitten....but if you don't venure for looking

sorry i didnt realise!
hope i replied politely lol

24 Apr 2007

Quote by sexkittenhfx
Sorry I p.m'd you as well sexkitten....but if you don't venure for looking

sorry i didnt realise!
hope i replied politely lol
yeh.....you did ,thank you :wink:

24 Apr 2007

Hello Niteman and welcome.
Sadly lots of people here are not that courteous when it comes to replying to nice thought out PM's or acknowledging pictures, and if that's how people are then I am not interested in them full stop. I may tar everyone with the same brush but actually although it really riles me that people cannot take time to be polite I actually find it a very useful tool in selecting people too. So turn it into a positive and look out for those polite, well mannered people that shine through. Your eventual chat and meet is likely to be very sucessful - that's what we've found anyway wink

pink x

24 Apr 2007

Quote by Sassy-Seren

anyone seen my marbles? :shock:

Warwick has them!! lol

Thieving bastard evil

I think you will find that should be Thieving bastards wink

There's more than one? :shock:
bolt

Goodness me .. have you not met warwick and his two alter egos? Warwick and warwick :shock:

24 Apr 2007

I often get ignored and always get abuse but try to put up with both with good humour rolleyes

Just be yourself Niteman its amazing how people's personality comes out when they chat or post, but you will have to chat or post cos lurking around in chat as some people do will never get you noticed.
I have made a lot of friends on here(I think confused

) who I will never ever see cos of the distance away from them we are but I look upon them as friends anyway.
And the friends I have met are quickly becoming good friends that I can trust.
So welcome Niteman and dive in lol

Woo

24 Apr 2007

Hi Niteman, welcome (again) lol