Newbies needing help

8 Jan 2007

Hello all,we are blonde and brown and we need your help,and im sure you nice people can help us.
A couple of things have come to our attention,firstly when we arein the chat room people ask us to whisper,can you tell us why and how.
Secondly as we are new to this we would like the situation to become real,but feel to meet some one blind would be to much for us so is it better to go to a club and see how things go,but we dont want to be put under any pressure,is the club scene more pushy than the 1 2 1s.
cheers all wink

8 Jan 2007

:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

8 Jan 2007

Quote by blonde
:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:

8 Jan 2007

I used to be blonde :-(
BTW... there's lot's of advice in the links on the left hand side ;-)

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:
Sorry Was just saying Hello coz you are new!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
Hello all,we are blonde and brown and we need your help,and im sure you nice people can help us.
A couple of things have come to our attention,firstly when we arein the chat room people ask us to whisper,can you tell us why and how.
Secondly as we are new to this we would like the situation to become real,but feel to meet some one blind would be to much for us so is it better to go to a club and see how things go,but we dont want to be put under any pressure,is the club scene more pushy than the 1 2 1s.
cheers all

to whisper someone when in the chatroom....click on there names which is in the chatter list on the right off your screen...at the bottam left of your screen there name will appear....you are now whispering them....but always remember to ask first in the open room and get a positive reply....
some ppl like to meet at clubs....some like to play at home...if you are going to play at home get to no them first,chat on here in the chatroom...or chat on msn.....and always chat on the phone.....we've only ever been to one club and found it very very non pushy...and this is probs the case with 99% of the clubs........
hope this helps in some way....

8 Jan 2007

Quote by blonde
:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:
Sorry Was just saying Hello coz you are new!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Don't apologise; you did nothing wrong in welcoming them. They just took it in a negative way that's all. Not your fault.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by creampie123
Hello all,we are blonde and brown and we need your help,and im sure you nice people can help us.
A couple of things have come to our attention,firstly when we arein the chat room people ask us to whisper,can you tell us why and how.
Secondly as we are new to this we would like the situation to become real,but feel to meet some one blind would be to much for us so is it better to go to a club and see how things go,but we dont want to be put under any pressure,is the club scene more pushy than the 1 2 1s.
cheers all

to whisper someone when in the chatroom....click on there names which is in the chatter list on the right off your screen...at the bottam left of your screen there name will appear....you are now whispering them....but always remember to ask first in the open room and get a positive reply....
some ppl like to meet at clubs....some like to play at home...if you are going to play at home get to no them first,chat on here in the chatroom...or chat on msn.....and always chat on the phone.....we've only ever been to one club and found it very very non pushy...and this is probs the case with 99% of the clubs........
hope this helps in some way....
Thank you for your help,much appreciated unlike some people that seem to go outta their way to be sarky.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:
She welcomed you to the forum. The incorrect forum for one of your questions at least, as there is a dedicated forum for chat-based questions and problems. As has been pointed out by someone else, there is also a section to the left of this window where you'll find help and advice. The clubs section above^^^^ has lists and details of clubs, with reviews.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
Thank you for your help,much appreciated unlike some people that seem to go outta their way to be sarky.

You're not exactly ingratiating yourself in here with comments like that.

8 Jan 2007

We haven't done any meets yet but have been to a club a few times, seemed less scary than a meet.
From our limited experience the club was non-pushy and there was no pressure to do anything but we did :mrgreen:. Even if you decide not to do anything there's usually something to watch silly

hwoar: and that has usually been enough to get rid of any inhibitions we might have had , it's hard to be scared when your so so so turned on passionkiss

You are in charge, if you say no, people listen, in all situations
We don't know how a meet would compare as we haven't had one yet (but we are looking for the right couple :shock: ), advice we've had is that again you should feel no pressure to make things happen. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. It's supposed to be fun :grin:
We just felt a club suited us better at the time as we could go at short notice if we got a babysitter, nothing to arrange (or fail to arrange).
Good luck and most importantly - have fun
h & c kiss

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Freckledbird

Thank you for your help,much appreciated unlike some people that seem to go outta their way to be sarky.

You're not exactly ingratiating yourself in here with comments like that.
They were just trying to get some info, go easy, we're all new sometimes, all make mistakes smile

8 Jan 2007

Quote by hornyncurvy

Thank you for your help,much appreciated unlike some people that seem to go outta their way to be sarky.

You're not exactly ingratiating yourself in here with comments like that.
They were just trying to get some info, go easy, we're all new sometimes, all make mistakes smile

Absolutely, we all were. But Blonde was only saying hello and welcome. Why should people bother, if they're going to get a shitty response?
And I was going easy.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
:welcome: ....................... but I am blonde :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:
That wasn't very nice.
.

8 Jan 2007

Dont know much about clubs but i have been to one once and it felt very relaxed.
One thing to try is dont be to quick and get to know people in the chat rooms that take your eye.
But one note is to try your best to be honest and say in text form what you mean this is somthing i have had lot of problems with and still havent got it right.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by flower411
But it is interesting that you found some of the replies sarky and some people really unhelpful in pointing out that you had posted in the wrong place while not saying anything helpful at all !!
I'm assuming you mean me, as it was me who pointed out that they posted at least partially in the incorrect place. However, if you re-read my post, you'll find that I did suggest where they could look for help. As did some others.
You will find that this place is full of misunderstandings both in chatrooms and in the forums but that most people are pretty decent ...
Absolutely. Just like Blonde, welcoming them to the forum anyway.
There are unfortunately a few who take delight in taking the piss out of others and there are a few who follow them
There are also many who say that people are being sarky when they are in fact trying to be helpful.
So welcome to the whole sh experience AND don`t let the bastards grind you down !!
Cos most aren`t bastards !!! :D
Again, absolutely correct. :thumbup:

Just to add, I had typed out a reply with links to the help they needed, but after seeing their response to Blonde, I deleted it. And I know I wasn't the only one who did that.

8 Jan 2007

Quote by Freckledbird

Thank you for your help,much appreciated unlike some people that seem to go outta their way to be sarky.

You're not exactly ingratiating yourself in here with comments like that.
They were just trying to get some info, go easy, we're all new sometimes, all make mistakes smile

Absolutely, we all were. But Blonde was only saying hello and welcome. Why should people bother, if they're going to get a shitty response?
And I was going easy.
I better remember not too upset you then :scared: biggrin

If you're very new here (and we still class ourselves as new, just not very anymore) I think it can be a bit scary and the responses can be off.
There is a rapport between the frequent posters that can seem hard to get into at times and people won't always know posters personality until they've been lurking a while.
And I think I'd have been a bit worried to have this sort of response to an early post. Maybe their initial repsonse was slightly off I agree, but I also think they were jumped on from a great height fairly quickly too for a faux pas, probably forgivable for a newbie poster.
I think we just all need a group SH hug now, and we all know where that can lead passionkiss

tc h & c

8 Jan 2007

I'm with FB on this one if you read from the begining Blondie did nothing wrong, she welcomed them with open arms and just mention that she is also called blondie thats all and all FB did was to tell blondie she didn't need to say sorry she did nothing wronfg and i agree

8 Jan 2007

Quote by flower411
OOOPs I forgot to mention the clever pedants !!!
Watch this space !! :roll:

Read the whole thread. There had been NO sarcastic or unhelpful posts before they complained of sarky people. There haven't been any sarky posts since, either.
Clever and pedantic I may be, but I did read the whole thing first.
Edited to say that this was the first sarcastic post:

Quote by Blondeandbrown
yeah very helpful;anyone else? :cry:

8 Jan 2007

whats a pendant rolleyes

8 Jan 2007

Can I just say ............................... ENOUGH
I feel like I started something ................ from nothing :cry:
I didnt mean to annoy or upset anyone .................... I just saw another "blonde" ....... and I dont think there are enough of us :giggle:
Anyway .............. Blondeandbrown and I have PM'd and we are fine with each other .. so can everyone go back to saying hello to them .........................
coz if you dont be nice ................ I wont be able to sleep!!! :smoke:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

8 Jan 2007

Quote by markz
whats a pendant

A necklace???
bolt

Welcome Blondeandbrown.

8 Jan 2007

if they have sorted it out between them.... can i suggest to a mod that this is locked please... as you always say that if i question in a thread is answered, then it serves no other purpose.....
cheers........

9 Jan 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Clever and pedantic I may be....

There's no maybe about it, FB, you are truly the Lynne Truss of SH! worship

:worship: :worship:
(And no, not the Lynne Trus's or the Lynne Tru'ss).

9 Jan 2007

Quote by Blondeandbrown
Hello all,we are blonde and brown and we need your help,and im sure you nice people can help us.
A couple of things have come to our attention,firstly when we arein the chat room people ask us to whisper,can you tell us why and how.
Secondly as we are new to this we would like the situation to become real,but feel to meet some one blind would be to much for us so is it better to go to a club and see how things go,but we dont want to be put under any pressure,is the club scene more pushy than the 1 2 1s.
cheers all

Hi Blondeandbrown, seeing as your questions have been answered i will just like to say :welcome: toSh Hope to see you around.
Louise xx

9 Jan 2007

Children, children........... rolleyes

:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: wink