Hi, We are new to all this and naturally nervous about meeting others. We know what we like and have set our criteria. We are not willing to lower our sights and when we consider how long it took to find each other, finding the right couple for us may take some time as well. Remember the saying "Good things come to those who wait".
We would like to hear from other newbies who have been to munches and parties or clubs and how they got on. Where they pressured or pestered by single men?
Let us know.
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It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
Quote by racier
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
We know it seems unfair but the first club you need to join is the couples club. If you can find and satisfy a girlfriend so she keeps you, then you may be upto satisfying another. You are judged on who you are with and how long you have been with them to assess your experience. Do you look sexy? too rough or too nice?
The ladies do not like wimps! nor anyone who looks unkept.
Hope this is of help.
Quote by CplDaveAnn
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
We know it seems unfair but the first club you need to join is the couples club. If you can find and satisfy a girlfriend so she keeps you, then you may be upto satisfying another. You are judged on who you are with and how long you have been with them to assess your experience. Do you look sexy? too rough or too nice?
The ladies do not like wimps! nor anyone who looks unkept.
Hope this is of help.
You've not met this lot then :grin:
i think, just try to be yourself ...i think it shine through, weve met 1 cpl of here, we didnt click...but we still enjoyed ourselves, it was like a very nerve racking adventure lol,
weve chatted to a cpl of really nice cpls and hope to meet them to see if we allclick.....
at the end of the day theres nothing to rush about, it`l happen when it happens
weve chatted to a cpl of really nice cpls and hope to meet them to see if we allclick.....
at the end of the day theres nothing to rush about, it`l happen when it happens
i think, just try to be yourself ...i think it shine through, weve met 1 cpl of here, we didnt click...but we still enjoyed ourselves, it was like a very nerve racking adventure lol,
weve chatted to a cpl of really nice cpls and hope to meet them to see if we allclick.....
at the end of the day theres nothing to rush about, it`l happen when it happens
weve chatted to a cpl of really nice cpls and hope to meet them to see if we allclick.....
at the end of the day theres nothing to rush about, it`l happen when it happens
Mod
Quote by CplDaveAnn
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
We know it seems unfair but the first club you need to join is the couples club. If you can find and satisfy a girlfriend so she keeps you, then you may be upto satisfying another. You are judged on who you are with and how long you have been with them to assess your experience. Do you look sexy? too rough or too nice?
The ladies do not like wimps! nor anyone who looks unkept.
Hope this is of help.
Sorry to say this Dave and Ann (whichever is posting!), but that's bollocks. you're saying that the single guys should become a couple first?
The single guys on this Site have a great time, as long as they are good fun, polite and well mannered. Although part of a couple now, for the last two and a half years on this site I was a single guy and never really had much of a problem at all, be it with couples or single ladies or group fun. I've had no end of invites to private parties and there is never a restriction of single guys to munches, that's the whole idea, that ANYONE can attend!
You are definitely NOT judged by who you are with, not by real people.
I cannot understand all these guys who come on here moaning about being single, as if it's a curse. It's not and you just need to grab the opportunities that come your way. It's like a snowball travelling downhill, gaining momentum and size all the time. Get yourself known first on the forums, then at the munches, then the invites for private parties, socials and meets will follow. I know - I've done it and it was terrific!
Mal
Quote by CplDaveAnn
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
We know it seems unfair but the first club you need to join is the couples club. If you can find and satisfy a girlfriend so she keeps you, then you may be upto satisfying another. You are judged on who you are with and how long you have been with them to assess your experience. Do you look sexy? too rough or too nice?
The ladies do not like wimps! nor anyone who looks unkept.
Hope this is of help.
im just trying to get to grips with your comments that single men should join a couples club and that being in a relationship appears to be a benchmark as to suitability...
sheer unadulterated twaddle
the amount of people i know (me included) in deadbeat, unfulfilling , financially incentivised relationships completely outweighs those who are truly living in relationship heaven.
go on... tell me you would be together if you were skint and unemployed??????
i'd ask you also to tell me that you like people for who they are and not what they are... but i can see that you are obviously not those type of people........
good look with your search.... u will need it
Mod
Forgot to mention earlier - you state you are newbies and have yet to be swingers, yet you're offering advice to others? 
And this?
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
And this?
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
Sex God
Quote by racier
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
there are NO restrictions whatsoever on attendance for single guys at munches! they're purely social events, and we don't allow "couples only" munches cos it's irrelevant!
:D :D single guys are perfectly welcome at munches, clubs, meets, etc etc, so long as you have the right attitude.
CplDaveAnn, i've taken your post in the spirit i hope it was intended. i.e. you weren't knocking single guys at socials were you?
;) you certainly won't get pestered at a munch, but if you were, they'd soon be given short shrift by other attendees, and made unwelcome. more than likely, anyone overstepping the mark would be banned from the site.in the light of comments made since i began typing this lot up . . . . .ummmm . . . why did i bother? lol: spot on mal! ;)
neil x x x ;)
Quote by DeeCee
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work. I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastry lol!
Life's soooo unfair
We know it seems unfair but the first club you
need to join is the couples club. If you can
find and satisfy a girlfriend so she keeps you, then you may be upto satisfying another. You are judged on who you are with and how long you have been with them to assess your experience. Do you look sexy? too rough or too nice?
The ladies do not like wimps! nor anyone who looks unkept.
Hope this is of help.
im just trying to get to grips with your comments that single men should join a couples club and that being in a relationship appears to be a benchmark as to suitability...
sheer unadulterated twaddle
the amount of people i know (me included) in deadbeat, unfulfilling , financially incentivised relationships completely outweighs those who are truly living in relationship heaven.
go on... tell me you would be together if you were skint and unemployed??????
i'd ask you also to tell me that you like people for who they are and not what they are... but i can see that you are obviously not those type of people........
good look with your search.... u will need it
The simple answer is some guys have it and others don't. Why are there so many single men looking? Do they need a make over? The lucky ones write letters let yours and the one before.
Quote by Mal
Forgot to mention earlier - you state you are newbies and have yet to be swingers, yet you're offering advice to others?
And this?
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
Mal,
You forgot we are looking for same room soft swing with cpls who like to socialize and have fun but mostly be good friends too. Or is that too much to ask from SWINGERS?
Sex God
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:We're liking that thought a lot polo ;)
Wondering just how long theyd last at a munch now that theyve insulted a vast majority of the membership with their couples= elite group shite.
Single guys are welcome and i have many personal friends who are single guys regardless of whether i play with them in a swinging sense. To say that untidy and unkempt chancers are only worthy if them have a woman on their arm is so offensive to me as a woman its untrue.
Freedom of choice and each ot their own, but dont force your veiws on the masses.
Gem. x
Mod
You need to be able to walk before you can run. I'm not saying compromise on what you are looking for, but you need to split one area (swinging) from the other (long term friendship). With one may come the other, but not necessarily, so don't wrap up your wants too tightly with something that, to others, are not relevent to swinging. A bit like asking them to have all the swinging attributes, but then tag on they must have a certain make of car! Totally irrelevent to swinging!
You do need to get yourself to a Munch or social and talk face to face to other swingers to get the hang of it. Once you have, you may have a different outlook on it.
Mal
You do need to get yourself to a Munch or social and talk face to face to other swingers to get the hang of it. Once you have, you may have a different outlook on it.
Mal
Mod
Psssst!! Gem!!
You logged on as N-I-L !!!! :shock:
(but I agree with your sentiments!)
Mal
You logged on as N-I-L !!!! :shock:
(but I agree with your sentiments!)
Mal
Quote by Mal
Forgot to mention earlier - you state you are newbies and have yet to be swingers, yet you're offering advice to others?
And this?
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
Almost forgot!
Our advice was to find a girlfriend, not necessarily a swinger! since there are far more non swingers, there is greater chance of finding one out side the swinging scene. Would you not agree? We do not give any advice about swinging itself.
One thing we have leart is that no matter what you say on this site, someone is ready to jump down your throat with an opersite oppinion!
Quote by CplDaveAnn
Forgot to mention earlier - you state you are newbies and have yet to be swingers, yet you're offering advice to others?
And this?
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
Almost forgot!
Our advice was to find a girlfriend, not necessarily a swinger! since there are far more non swingers, there is greater chance of finding one out side the swinging scene. Would you not agree? We do not give any advice about swinging itself.
One thing we have leart is that no matter what you say on this site, someone is ready to jump down your throat with an opersite oppinion!
That's what opinions are made for
BTW - well done on being fast learners :wink:
Quote by PoloLady
Forgot to mention earlier - you state you are newbies and have yet to be swingers, yet you're offering advice to others?
And this?
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
I don't think you've quite grasped the concept of swinging yet!!
Mal
Almost forgot!
Our advice was to find a girlfriend, not necessarily a swinger! since there are far more non swingers, there is greater chance of finding one out side the swinging scene. Would you not agree? We do not give any advice about swinging itself.
One thing we have leart is that no matter what you say on this site, someone is ready to jump down your throat with an opersite oppinion!
That's what opinions are made for
BTW - well done on being fast learners :wink:
PoloL
Can you give aome chocolate to Mal please.
Mod
Quote by CplDaveAnn
PoloL
Can you give some chocolate to Mal please.
Don't worry - if she has any left, she will!! :twisted:
Mal
Sex God
Quote by racier
It would appear (from most comments i have read) that being a single guy has no advantages whatsoever. :shock:
I, for one, am dying to go to a meet/munch etc but with all these "no single guy" restrictions, its kinda hard work.
Just to make sure you have got it: there are no restrictions on single guys at munches and social meets. I am a single guy and have been to about 20 SH munches and meets. However you probably will need to have been posting on the forums for a while so that you have become known to a few people.
Quote by racier
I do, however, understand why there are restrictions but at this rate, I might as well take a job in a monastery lol!
Life's soooo unfair
I know a good monastery!
Sex God
dear cplDaveAnn.....
I was actually so pissed off by what you said before that you actually made me go and get a beer out of the fridge....... then i wrote this lovely long piece about what you wrote before what absolute BS and that is sounded more like contempt for single guys....
To be honest... what an attitude like that i do wish you luck... because you may need it... because as a single guy if you were ever inclined i wouldn't give you a 2nd look and even if i had hanging off my arm... i still wouldn't.......
if that is the preconcieved notions you come into swinging with..... can i offer you one friendly piece of advice from a single guy (yes i know you look down on us! but i would listen to someone who has been here a little bit longer than you.......)
leave that one at the door... trust me... the more you write right now... that bigger the hole you are digging for yourself......
Sean xxxx (single guy who organised 2 munches)
I was actually so pissed off by what you said before that you actually made me go and get a beer out of the fridge....... then i wrote this lovely long piece about what you wrote before what absolute BS and that is sounded more like contempt for single guys....
To be honest... what an attitude like that i do wish you luck... because you may need it... because as a single guy if you were ever inclined i wouldn't give you a 2nd look and even if i had hanging off my arm... i still wouldn't.......
if that is the preconcieved notions you come into swinging with..... can i offer you one friendly piece of advice from a single guy (yes i know you look down on us! but i would listen to someone who has been here a little bit longer than you.......)
leave that one at the door... trust me... the more you write right now... that bigger the hole you are digging for yourself......
Sean xxxx (single guy who organised 2 munches)
To socialize and share weekend breaks, country walks, skiing holidays and holidays abroad.
Maybe you should try joining a rambling club.
If you are newbies you are not in a position to say that single men are not worthy unless part of a couple , for a start it shows you have not grasped the concept of swinging.
There are singles in the scene who are after a quick shag or not looking to swing but looking for a long term relationship. Howver there are guys who want to have a swinging relationship but not a long term partner, so in my opinion these guys remain single cos they want to be.
A girl on the arm of a bloke is not the sign he is a good shag.
