Hi All,
Could somebody please tell me why i'am not getting replys to my posts.I give as much information as I think people need to know without boring them and I get nothing back.
Is there something basic that I'am doing wrong, even the ad that are gagging for it never respond ??
Dennis
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And even when you have photos on there, your main problem is that for every advert that gets put out, yours will probably be one of LOADS of replies.
When I put my one and only advert on, I received 72 replies in the first 2 days.
It was a matter of looking through them and rejecting (harsh word but you know what I mean) ones that didn't stand out from the others.
It's a bit like applying for a job, I suppose!
So - make your profile and replies stand out, in some way - certainly a photo, but as Lyns says, not just a cock shot - maybe a nice torso pic or a full length one with face blurred if you need to.
But fully clothed is also interesting.
And some humour, or maybe reply in rhyme - I don't know, anything to make your reply stand out.
And, I've said it before but I still think it's true you get yourself (ie your personality) known by posting on the forums - some people will much more readily meet with people they feel they "know" already.
Good luck! :thumbup:
When I put my one and only advert on, I received 72 replies in the first 2 days.
It was a matter of looking through them and rejecting (harsh word but you know what I mean) ones that didn't stand out from the others.
It's a bit like applying for a job, I suppose!
So - make your profile and replies stand out, in some way - certainly a photo, but as Lyns says, not just a cock shot - maybe a nice torso pic or a full length one with face blurred if you need to.
But fully clothed is also interesting.
And some humour, or maybe reply in rhyme - I don't know, anything to make your reply stand out.
And, I've said it before but I still think it's true you get yourself (ie your personality) known by posting on the forums - some people will much more readily meet with people they feel they "know" already.
Good luck! :thumbup:
and :welcome: to the forum from me!!
Sex God
Hi and welcome
Maybe a move to the cafe might help.......
Maybe a move to the cafe might help.......
Quote by Cherrytree
It was a matter of looking through them and rejecting (harsh word but you know what I mean) ones that didn't stand out from the others.
It's a bit like applying for a job, I suppose!
:thumbup:
David Brent might have gone about it in a slightly different way ...
“Avoid employing unlucky people - throw half of the pile of CVs in the bin without reading them”
:lol:
Sex God
Quote by dennis20472001
Hi All,
Could somebody please tell me why i'am not getting replys to my posts.I give as much information as I think people need to know without boring them and I get nothing back.
Is there something basic that I'am doing wrong, even the ad that are gagging for it never respond ??
Dennis
Only the people you've emailed/PMd would be able to tell you why. Maybe you're not what they're looking for? As Cherry said, they might not have time to answer all the responses to their ads. Having never seen any of the posts (PMs? emails?)you've sent, nobody will know what you're doing wrong so they can't really say with any certainty.
Do people say in their ads that they are gagging for it? :shock:
Quote by Jpsauce
where are these ad's from people who are 'gagging for it'....:
Yeah thats what I want to know
But on a more serious note mate, and I say this quite a bit, you have to be realistic sometimes, it's a numbers thing.
You are one of about like 250,000 single guys using the site looking for your particular sexual preference if the membership figures are to be believed. This means that even if you do match the criteria or have the things that others are looking for you may still be statistically speaking in a sub group of maybe 10,000 single guys.
Keep posting on the forums and maybe use the chatrooms, I know that from the single guys I know using the site that regularly get on the forums or chat, these are the ones that seem to have the most success at getting meet ups etc!!
As others have said maybe a photo etc might help I know its something we look for when we look at adds, we don't even look at adds that don't have photo's TBH, but were very shallow :lol:
Sex God
There is nothing at all in your ad or profile that would make it stand out from anyone else's. Worse, there is no pic.
We can't speak for other couples but we would never read an ad from guys looking for couples cos there are just too many - so we think an ad (from a guys perspective) is a waste of time, but the profile is very important. We place ads when we want something cos we know that guys do look at ads and then we trawl through the replies. Again, can't speak for others but our rules are:
No pic - delete
Didn't read our ad/profile - delete
Didn't make an effort to compose an intelligent reply - delete
When we read a reply we are looking for something different, and something positive - either in the reply or the guys profile. Millions of guys tell us they like our profile and would love to meet, but very few come up with something positive to immediately grab our attention -
For example - I am going to Manchester on Saturday night and staying over at the ***** Hotel would love you two to join me
OR - I live in ***** and would love to entertain you two this week-end for an afternoon/evening.
Avoid expressions which may sound good in a gay chat room but we think turn most womens stomach - heavy cummer is a great example.
Be slightly more positive without being arrogant and give a little more detail in your profile about your personality and character. There are many reasons why guys don't put pics on there profile but to be honest, there are just so many guys out there it is pointless not putting a pic on otherwise you will be deleted almost 100% of the time - well we think so anyway. Finally, if you do put a pic on there make sure that it is presentable and does not show you with greasy unwashed hair, unkept toe and/or finger nails etc etc
Hope that helps you
We can't speak for other couples but we would never read an ad from guys looking for couples cos there are just too many - so we think an ad (from a guys perspective) is a waste of time, but the profile is very important. We place ads when we want something cos we know that guys do look at ads and then we trawl through the replies. Again, can't speak for others but our rules are:
No pic - delete
Didn't read our ad/profile - delete
Didn't make an effort to compose an intelligent reply - delete
When we read a reply we are looking for something different, and something positive - either in the reply or the guys profile. Millions of guys tell us they like our profile and would love to meet, but very few come up with something positive to immediately grab our attention -
For example - I am going to Manchester on Saturday night and staying over at the ***** Hotel would love you two to join me
OR - I live in ***** and would love to entertain you two this week-end for an afternoon/evening.
Avoid expressions which may sound good in a gay chat room but we think turn most womens stomach - heavy cummer is a great example.
Be slightly more positive without being arrogant and give a little more detail in your profile about your personality and character. There are many reasons why guys don't put pics on there profile but to be honest, there are just so many guys out there it is pointless not putting a pic on otherwise you will be deleted almost 100% of the time - well we think so anyway. Finally, if you do put a pic on there make sure that it is presentable and does not show you with greasy unwashed hair, unkept toe and/or finger nails etc etc
Hope that helps you
Orgasminator
the secret to getting lots of replies is..................
wait for it................
hang in there its coming...........
oh wait , no its not its a secret lol
I dare say every possiblibility has already been covered but my advice is simple..
get yourself known, whether in the forum, the chatroom or both, people will find it far easier to respond to you if they have already had 'some' contact, rather than you just being a name on a screen.
hope this helps
sleazy
wait for it................
hang in there its coming...........
oh wait , no its not its a secret lol
I dare say every possiblibility has already been covered but my advice is simple..
get yourself known, whether in the forum, the chatroom or both, people will find it far easier to respond to you if they have already had 'some' contact, rather than you just being a name on a screen.
hope this helps
sleazy
