Quote by Tania
You have friends who you sleep with regularly - why is this NSA not classed as swinging in your eyes?
I always considered swinging to be an activity that couples do, something formal associated with going to clubs or private parties. I thought swinging was done within a group of friends, not on a one-night stand basis with total strangers. I don't think I have the hang of it yet. I think I am just dipping my toes in the water as opposed to swimming properly without armbands in the open sea. I am probably wrong about everything, let me think about things a bit more.
The thing is everyone has there own idea of what swinging is, and for a lot of members on here it's about respect and attitude and not whether you are part of a couple or a defined group who have sex with one another or others.
Many people who would class themselves as swingers will have sex with others outside of formal clubs or parties and still class it as swinging as well.
As a single woman you have to set your boundaries and expectations. None of us can do this for you, so we can't advise what is right or wrong.
There is really no point in spilling it all on the forum and expecting everyone to be nice about it if you haven't been.
What I would say, is if you are looking to become a couple so you can class yourself as a swinger in your own mind, then it's perhaps not the best way to go about it.
The more you try to force a relationship, in a lifestyle where NSA plays a bloody big part, the less likely you are to succeed.
Most of the people who have found relationships on here have landed in them almost to their own surprise, and not because it was what they were here for.
Perhaps your best way forward would be to look amongst your friends who you have NSA with and see if any of those would be willing to swing with you as a couple?
Alternatively if you keep looking via the site be a little more careful in your feedback regarding your dates as it could really put off possible future partners if they know they will be commented on, on an open forum.
Remember if you post for a meet and then later tell everyone your disappointments people may well look at who answered your meet request and jump to conclusions or make assumptions about who you are referring to. Can be quite off putting.
Jas
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