ive not constructed an add yet to go on the sight i have decided to wait a bit and perhaps learn a little about advert construction having seen some of the terrible efforts posted.(and the flaming descent to hades that follows thereafter).
however i guess if you wouldnt walkup to a person in the street and say it you really shouldnt say it in you advert. as in my experience the lines above would result in svere violence if used one on one so why do muppets (no offence Jags) think they will work online. do women suddenly transform into idiots when using a computer and loose all inhibitions or taste. i think not.
so i'll bide my time and sculpt a stunner of an ad. (probably)
From your rather cynical view of my posted ad I shall take hints, but also umbrage at your badly judged presumptions.
I certainly don't just grab whatever's at the top of the washing basket - by saying that I don't wear a suit is to give you an indication that my style is not uptight and 'smart casual' - that awful blood curdling phrase, but sylish and fashionable without being teenage.
The comment about the partner - I thought it was obvious that I was looking for a woman; the indication that partners would also be welcome if that is what the woman was looking for.
The comments of Wanton etc.. is the type of girl i am looking for that is excited about sex as I am. I think we have all had those times when there has been a lackof communication between people and it never rises above the mediocre - i don't think it is too much too ask in an ad for someone to be vocal. All The things that I ask for would be given in return.
I am not after a nymphomaniac but I think it is fair enough to say that there are plenty of women who enjoy being the focus of attention, revered for their sexual power and enjoy both being pleased and pleasing someone else.
Please rethink your rather harsh judgement, just as I will try to rephrase future ads so that these misconceptions won't happen again. I'm pretty new to this as far as the web goes, but not in life. there's no need to adopt such a hoity tone with people that haven't been in this particular place as long as you.
Best wishes, and with hope for a more amicable future
Patrick
Why not just say "Hello, I was pleased to find this site. Having looked round the posts I was pleased to find many that seem to enjoy the same things I do"
"What would that be Roger?"
"Glad you asked......."
*laughing so hard* You made my nite kit LOL!!! The bit about the "washing basket" lol oh how true that is!
Hiya all
Just thought I'd put in my twopennath worth.
What Kit said about it being the most common form and therfore copied is dead right.
I work as a financial advisor and see this sort of behaviour from the public all the time. Shares start rising and the intelligent people get in whilst they are a low and therefore make a lot of money. These people are the same ones who would write an advert on here that actually makes some sense and doesn't include the "F" word. The rest are sheep who enter the market place after it has had some exposure in the press(Can you see where I'm going with this) and then bemoan the fact when suddenly their hard earned pennies have disappeared when the market crashes. These same people then leave the market place leaving "real" investors in the market place. Because a lot of people have now cashed in their chips, so to speak, the market dives due to there being too much supply and not enough demand. The intelligent people who have stuck with their investment then buy more and again makke another fortune.
The point is that it is all cyclical and eventually the bad press will go away and things will return to normal. People are naturally sheep and follow the latest crazes or fads and soon get bored when what they were wanting or expecting does not transpire.
Anyways Love to All
N
You make a good point; a community sets its own standards of acceptable behaviour and right now the "community" on the Let's Meet Up forum is overwhelmingly a bunch of horny morons who want sex 2nite with a hut b8be.
I remember seeing my first cock pic. I thought "woah, is that how it's done? Who'd've thought women get attracted by something like that?" It had never occurred to me to point a camera at my crotch but when I saw other people doing it, it didn't occur to me (for a while at any rate) that it was a dumb idea; I thought it was just the way things were done.
But what's the solution? You can ban new users from using certain words but then they'll just get inventive and say stuff like "ride my massive throbbing love-rocket" (which might have humour value but little else). The only real answer I can see is to change the balance of that "community" by finding some people to post "good" adverts there so the newbies at least have some quality to inspire them.
It makes sense to "reward" good posts and ignore bad ones in theory.... but oh, how difficult it is going to be not to make sarcastic comments - I will try - honest!
And then there is the danger that we are supposed to be the enlightened ones of the social community, the ones who can see outside of the social "norms" that so many want to place on us. And then what do we do? We go and create a stereotype of the sort of person/advertiser/poster "we*" want here.
Are we not sending the wrong signals out? Educate by all means, direct, cajole and encourage a better standard of posting/advertising etc, but to take the piss is not just rude and superior, it smacks of hypocracy. We can be rude, belittle you, pick on your level of education or understanding of swinging, but forbid that you should post a one liner that we might might take offence to.
Live and let live....it might not do it for you...but it may for someone. When we first joined the site our first postings were in "Lets Meet" and consisted of the one line variety. Had we had the same sarcastic treatment we would no longer be here, have to say it really does suck. Surely the "Lets Meet" section is for the short, I'm available, are you? style posts. If not, what is the point of the ads section? If we are expected to drivel on in "Lets Meet" then lets lose the ads section. Surely its purpose is to begin a dialogue within a fairly small time frame, ie Midday for tonight etc. it serves a purpose, this piss taking and rudeness does not.
Enough from me, I think Stu said enough on the last thread about "name and shame", needless to say we both think this approach is far more damaging than the "easyshag merchants" mediocre postings.
Fran
* According to some of the Mods and a number of posters here*
I agree that the oneliners with offensive overtones have little merit to them - in my opinion, but as others have said they may well work for some people.
What I have noticed is how many of these posts have several 'views' but zero replies. I think that speaks for itself. Anyone new to this site and looking for hints about the kind of post that works best may be tempted to imitate the most common approach but would soon find that it doesn't really work. A closer look would encourage them to either copy the style that attracts replies or, best of all, just be themselves.
So there is probably no need to censor (providing it is not illegal or directly offensive bigotry) just allow natural selection to take its course.
Will
