Now assuming ALL swingers use protection during swinging or other sexual activities outside the main relationship ok thats fair enough!
But common sense tells me that this isnt always going to happen!
What to do in the situation where (obviously!) the female ends up pregnant as a result of an accident while swinging?
Do you have an abortion (as raw as it sounds its an option!) or where else do you go from there!
This is something that has crossed my mind and is not a total impossibility!
Just wondered what others thought of this?
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Ok is this interesting enough!? - Pregnancy and swinging!
Sex God
Do you mean, if a female becomes pregnant whilst swinging, is the baby her partners or someone elses?
I don't have to worry about becoming pregnant but i can see where you are coming from if that is what you meant.
How would you know who the father was
Accidents do happen :shock:
G x
I don't have to worry about becoming pregnant but i can see where you are coming from if that is what you meant.
How would you know who the father was
Accidents do happen :shock:
G x
I don't think people should reply on condoms for birth control. They do break (and hey, if the gentle gyration of my swollen matchstick can break a condom, I'd hate to see what someone who was bigger and more vigorous can do to it!). Obviously I'm a guy, but I can't help but think it's prudent for women to use two contracteptive methods to lessen the chances of "little accidents" - condoms and the pill, or whatever.
Of course, this raises the question - what if the lady is trying to currently trying to conceive with her regular sexual partner?
Of course, this raises the question - what if the lady is trying to currently trying to conceive with her regular sexual partner?
Sex God
I'm afraid I feel in this day and age, there is no need for an *accidental* pregnancy in any walk of life. Contraception is freely available to anyone over the age of 12. The fact that it is not used correctly or indeed at all and pregnancy occurs does not make it an *accident*.
Surely, if one is having sex with no wish to become pregnant (whether a swinger or not), you would use more than one method of birth control, pill, condoms, barriers creams etc? This is especially so if having multiple partners.
I know a guy from this site who was swinging with a couple from Middlesex. They always insisted he not use condoms and he went along with it for several months until they confessed they were hoping he would make her pregnant as the husband was infertile and they couldn't afford IVF!!! :eeek:
Luckily for him, she didn't get pregnant, but what if she had? Would they have expected him to pay maintenance until the child was 18?
It beggars belief what some people will get up to
:evil:
The simple answer is, if a woman does not wish to become pregnant, she should make damn sure she doesn't :roll:
Tracy-Jayne
Surely, if one is having sex with no wish to become pregnant (whether a swinger or not), you would use more than one method of birth control, pill, condoms, barriers creams etc? This is especially so if having multiple partners.
I know a guy from this site who was swinging with a couple from Middlesex. They always insisted he not use condoms and he went along with it for several months until they confessed they were hoping he would make her pregnant as the husband was infertile and they couldn't afford IVF!!! :eeek:
Luckily for him, she didn't get pregnant, but what if she had? Would they have expected him to pay maintenance until the child was 18?
It beggars belief what some people will get up to
:evil:The simple answer is, if a woman does not wish to become pregnant, she should make damn sure she doesn't :roll:
Tracy-Jayne
The point here is not "everyone should use protection", etc, the point is what IF a woman becomes pregnant while swinging - maybe after a month where she's attended a party or two - and would then have no idea who the father was.
The issue of "she should have been using condoms and the pill", etc, is redundant at this point.
I've been at several parties where many "unsheathed" men were moving between the women on the bed who didn't seem to find anything wrong with it.
One got most upset when I insisted he roll one on before entering me (didn't stop him though!).
I have also been at parties where more than one man has come inside me (I make them dress for it, many women don't as I said), yet these have been people where I not not only never knew their names but never even spoke to them. Part of the fun of full swing. The downside of course is unwanted pregnancy.
So it certainly COULD happen, probably DOES happen, and the question is, what should one do?
Rachel
The issue of "she should have been using condoms and the pill", etc, is redundant at this point.
I've been at several parties where many "unsheathed" men were moving between the women on the bed who didn't seem to find anything wrong with it.
One got most upset when I insisted he roll one on before entering me (didn't stop him though!).
I have also been at parties where more than one man has come inside me (I make them dress for it, many women don't as I said), yet these have been people where I not not only never knew their names but never even spoke to them. Part of the fun of full swing. The downside of course is unwanted pregnancy.
So it certainly COULD happen, probably DOES happen, and the question is, what should one do?
Rachel
Quote by Vix
Is there something we should know, Fruity?
Definetly not haha!
Just thought it was an interesting subject and something I had thought of, true I dont think you would truly know what to do about unless you were in the situation!
But it could happen and could be very messy too?
But then life is messy eh!
I personally make sure I am double protected, I take the pill which has been very reliable for me for a number of years and also insist on condoms every time. I hope that this is enough because I would be heartbroken and very worried at the prospect of an unplanned pregnancy under any circumstances.
This has come up for us ..... in that we've discussed it very recently. Morbius has had a vasectomy so no worries there but I don't need contraception obviously. We simply won't play without condoms but are also aware that they can be unreliable and the risk of pregnancy is there.
I also suffer from terrible periods and it was suggested that I have the Mirena Coil fitted to help with that and also now I have the added protection.
Our view is that if we want to swing then we need to protect me as much as the other party involved.
Calista.
I also suffer from terrible periods and it was suggested that I have the Mirena Coil fitted to help with that and also now I have the added protection.
Our view is that if we want to swing then we need to protect me as much as the other party involved.
Calista.
Sex God
I am a man- a young one at that and I would make sure that i had the covers on. Its for 2 reasons
1) Not having any sprogs around 9 months later
2) No nasty sexual diseases.
I would not have a go at anyone who does or doesnt use them but i would suggest people think about the dangers involved before undertaking sexual activity.
I know two people that one got pregnat and one got a nasty sexual disease, so be carefull every1.
Mike
1) Not having any sprogs around 9 months later
2) No nasty sexual diseases.
I would not have a go at anyone who does or doesnt use them but i would suggest people think about the dangers involved before undertaking sexual activity.
I know two people that one got pregnat and one got a nasty sexual disease, so be carefull every1.
Mike
Quote by fruity1976
Now assuming ALL swingers use protection during swinging or other sexual activities outside the main relationship ok thats fair enough!
But common sense tells me that this isnt always going to happen!
What to do in the situation where (obviously!) the female ends up pregnant as a result of an accident while swinging?
Do you have an abortion (as raw as it sounds its an option!) or where else do you go from there!
This is something that has crossed my mind and is not a total impossibility!
Just wondered what others thought of this?
Quote by fruity1976I have no problem(s) with my woman getting pregnant from a swinging scene, unless some African impregnated her. I would gladly raise the baby as my own. I do not use birth control or safe sex.
Now assuming ALL swingers use protection during swinging or other sexual activities outside the main relationship ok thats fair enough!
But common sense tells me that this isnt always going to happen!
What to do in the situation where (obviously!) the female ends up pregnant as a result of an accident while swinging?
Do you have an abortion (as raw as it sounds its an option!) or where else do you go from there!
This is something that has crossed my mind and is not a total impossibility!
Just wondered what others thought of this?
Quote by Clare_Lincs
I guess youve just gotta be aware and take the precautions necessary,should be that if an accident were to happen for whatever reason then i guess youd only know what to do when you find yourself in that situation.
No precautions necessary. If you were swinging with me and you got pregnant, I'd take further actions to make sure you were pregnant and then hold your hand and head the rest of our baby's youth and adolescence.
Sex God
:roll: Something tells me Dr.T has only joined this site to cause problems . . .
Dr T, myself and my partner would love to swing with you! our only rules are that you meet us alone in the forest wear a blindfold and dont tell anyone where you're going!
We might also ask you to dig a hole first ...so we can, erm.....see your big white muscles working!!! thats right...make it about 6 feet deep or whatever you'd find comfortable.
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We might also ask you to dig a hole first ...so we can, erm.....see your big white muscles working!!! thats right...make it about 6 feet deep or whatever you'd find comfortable.
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Sex God
it i this was a brilliant discussion until Dr.T opened his mouth.....
there was a part of me that said "let it slide sean........" :? :?
well since i am american and caribbean... and british... and part irish..... i suppose the african comment doesn't apply to me...unless you want to go back a couple of hundred years!!!!
anyway... speaking as a guy it is something that you do think about... especially with the amount of ads you see for people wanting "bareback" playing russian roulette isn't my idea of enjoyable swinging.....
sean xxxxx
there was a part of me that said "let it slide sean........"
:? :? well since i am american and caribbean... and british... and part irish..... i suppose the african comment doesn't apply to me...unless you want to go back a couple of hundred years!!!!
anyway... speaking as a guy it is something that you do think about... especially with the amount of ads you see for people wanting "bareback" playing russian roulette isn't my idea of enjoyable swinging.....
sean xxxxx
If i was younger, single and finacially secure i would probably accept any such pregnancy as a stroke of fate and live with the consequences without bothering the father. My only reservations would be if the father clearly had a low IQ(nothing to do with colour!!). So anything resulting form an encounter with Dr.T would obviously have to be aborted and urgently!!!!!!
See I'm a mother of 3 wonderful children already. I'd have to take their needs into consideration first along with the finances (not good). But most importantly I'd have to take his feelings on the situation into consideration. It's not like there was only one person there when the pregnancy occured. Surely it's not just one person's decission? Yeah I know, ideally it shouldn't be just one person's choice. Yet ultimately it is.
But I'd have to go for the two for the price of one deal myself. It needs to be discussed privately.
But I'd have to go for the two for the price of one deal myself. It needs to be discussed privately.
Quote by 2_DissidentzMy intention was not designed to be offensive on that comment. I was only looking out for the benefit of children that might be born, because other children have a habit of being offensive to mixed blooded ones. Children can be awfully cruel on racial matters, and oftentimes are, on playgrounds, in parks, etc.
Dr T, myself and my partner would love to swing with you! our only rules are that you meet us alone in the forest wear a blindfold and dont tell anyone where you're going!
We might also ask you to dig a hole first ...so we can, erm.....see your big white muscles working!!! thats right...make it about 6 feet deep or whatever you'd find comfortable.
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If you don't care about your kids, that is your business....I do care about mine, and want them happy.
Quote by Dr.T
Children can be awfully cruel on racial matters, and oftentimes are, on playgrounds, in parks, etc.
If you don't care about your kids, that is your business....I do care about mine, and want them happy.
Actually, children show very little racial awareness until it is demonstrated to them by adults. Adults on the other hand can be racialist bigots.
Sex God
Quote by Dr.T
[ My intention was not designed to be offensive on that comment. I was only looking out for the benefit of children that might be born, because other children have a habit of being offensive to mixed blooded ones. Children can be awfully cruel on racial matters, and oftentimes are, on playgrounds, in parks, etc.
If you don't care about your kids, that is your business....I do care about mine, and want them happy.
Children are cruel to other kids full stop. They will taunt and bully for a thousand reasons. For instance I was bullied mercilessly as a small child because I have *ginger* hair
So because I now have children who have also inherited this hair colour from what you are implying, this means that I am an unfit parent because I choose to gave birth to children who would quite likely have *ginger* hair and therefore stand a chance of also being bullied
Luckily for them, none of them were bullied even though they all have red hair.
If someone wishes to have a child of mixed race, that is entirely their choice and not for people like you to pour scorn upon
It's people like you who make children grow up with bad ideas about skin colour. All children are born without an inkling about skin colour. It is their family and society in general which shapes their ideas about such things.
I think you are here to cause a outrage. I can see no other valid reason for your comments made earlier
Tracy-Jayne
Quote by foxylady 123It takes one to know one....
If i was younger, single and finacially secure i would probably accept any such pregnancy as a stroke of fate and live with the consequences without bothering the father. My only reservations would be if the father clearly had a low IQ(nothing to do with colour!!). So anything resulting form an encounter with Dr.T would obviously have to be aborted and urgently!!!!!!
