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older guys (love em or hate em)

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I have often wondered what makes some ladies go for an older guy. I can see an arguement for younger but what do you ladies see in the older bloke that attracts how much older is acceptable on an average.
(of course i do not have a vested interest in this enquiry) lol
(not much I havn't)
Quote by racer3
(of course i do not have a vested interest in this enquiry) lol

I do! biggrin
I like the whole older weathered mature look! ;) Not oo old, weathered or mature mind you!
My shagging partners 10 yers older than me and really does it for me! I think its got a lot to do with conversation too! Most fo my friends are all older than me!
I have no problem with older men at all :twisted: :twisted: wink
I think for most women, age is not necessarily a factor when they meet a person IRL. Mostly (personally speaking) it would come down to how that person makes me feel, wouldn't matter how old they are. BUT some of the younger guys (both on the forum and in chat) come across as, well - young - and act so immaturely that they put people off. They may not be like that IRL but they won't get a chance to prove that because of their attitude in chat or forum.
I am guilty of telling some people that they are too young, because it's probably easier than saying 'you're immature and I don't like your attitude' and it's less likely to result in them being pissed of with me and causing bad feeling.
With older men you just have the maturity inbuilt, plus they have the experience that women need and the patience to wait and not desperately need a shag 'right here, right now'
Bevxx
Older guys are more comfortable with themselves on the whole and of course life experience makes a more interesting person. I like to see character in a face too, so if a little weather beaten, so much the better smile
From the young guys we have swung with (only about half a dozen) I find that they are always out to prove themselves sexually, but actually just don't cut the mustard as far as I'm concerned.
They seem to think being young is enough to turn me on - after all, shouldn't I be honoured to get such a young stud? rolleyes
A lot of them are also very immature in their attitude and ways and really don't have great social skills. They would probably be fine chatting up girls in a local club, but I'm afraid I'd like more of a conversation that the latest PC game or number one records in the charts confused
Besides which, I *HATE* it when we get mail from young guys asking for a meet because it is their fantasy to shag an older woman :!: evil
I'm not here just to help them all fulfill their fantasies y'know. I do have some of my own to fulfill and am happily working my way through the list, which doesn't include shagging young studs :roll: wink
Tracy-Jayne
Older men as Tracey Jayne said are usually more comfortable with who they are and what they want and usually know how to hold a good conversation. Saying that I also have a number of friends who are younger than me. Age is a number and guys of 45 who walk around acting like medallion men are as irritating as young bloods who are just doing the numbers game. Every person has gifts to share and hopefeully they will take the time to show them smile :) :)
Age is a number and guys of 45 who walk around acting like medallion men are as irritating as young bloods

Also true, Corrie
Bev
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Every person has gifts to share and hopefeully they will take the time to show them smile :) :)

Oh goody, what you giving me Corrie? lol :lol:
Dawn :silly:
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Every person has gifts to share and hopefeully they will take the time to show them smile :) :)

Oh goody, what you giving me Corrie? lol :lol:
Dawn :silly:
Dawn you know you have the whole of me all the time what more can I give you :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: my gifts come in all shapes and sizes mostly from Anne Summers hahahahahaha
Quote by corriefem
Every person has gifts to share and hopefeully they will take the time to show them smile :) :)

Oh goody, what you giving me Corrie? lol :lol:
Dawn :silly:
Dawn you know you have the whole of me all the time what more can I give you :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: my gifts come in all shapes and sizes mostly from Anne Summers hahahahahaha
Oh goody, lets get a strap on for the next dogging session :giggle:
Dawn :silly:
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Every person has gifts to share and hopefeully they will take the time to show them smile :) :)

Oh goody, what you giving me Corrie? lol :lol:
Dawn :silly:
Dawn you know you have the whole of me all the time what more can I give you :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: my gifts come in all shapes and sizes mostly from Anne Summers hahahahahaha
Oh goody, lets get a strap on for the next dogging session :giggle:
Dawn :silly:
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as an older man you have certainly made my day with your comments thank you one and all.
A young fit guy who looks good and gets your juices flowing, has a big hard cock and knows how to use it and the stamina to keep going until YOU are satisfied is a real find.
I know, when I found mine I married him!
And I share him with all my friends. (Ladies, see our ad below and apply via email or PM)
However most young guys are just boys, they have those skinny undeveloped bodies, they cum too soon, they have no idea how to satisfy a woman, they are vastly inexperienced though they always claim otherwise.
An older man is mature, he may have been fucking for ten or twenty years, will have likely been in a long term relationship or marraige and will know how to satisfy a woman. His aging body will not be a physical match for the stamina of the young stud, neither will his erections, but as I said, most young boys are not experienced studs anyway.
The older man will not have the hangups and insecurities of the younger boy.
Though there are obvious exceptions, the older man will have the experiences and the talent that the younger boys lack. Given the choice between an 18 year old boy who still lives with his mum and a 40 year old man who is, or has been, married, I'll go for the older guy every time (I'll let the young boy watch so he can learn something)
And if you are a young boy reading this and it is a disappointment, don't worry - you are getting older every year!
Rachel
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chick you have been with the wrong 'old geezers' nout wrong with my stamina or erections (but then i do come from essex) lol
I have been with a LOT of men, and no-one has the stamina of hardness of my husband, certainly not at twice his age! Nobody is as good at an athletic pursuit after the age of thirty as they are in their twenties, and you get slower each year, that is a fact of life.
And we certainly pursue sex as an athletic hobby!
However that is the point I am making, the advantages of the experience of the older men more than make up for the physical decline that age brings. Besides it is perfectly usual for a guy in his forties who has worked to maintain his shape and fitness to be twice as fit as a guy in his 20s who just drinks beer at the weekends.
Your stomach, butt and cock may not be as hard as a 20 year athlete, and don't pretend that they are, but you have 20 years more experience of making them work. That is the advantage of "old geezers".
I would choose Brad Pitt over George Clooney for the physical reasons.
But I would choose George over one of those tossers from Blazing Squad, or even all of the at once!
Rachel
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I don't see age as a factor, it's more for me to do with how i can make the other person feel and how they make me feel. smile
I'm fairly submissive - so perhaps there is an element of the mature, experienced man taking control!! redface
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I like the whole older weathered mature look! ;) Not too old, weathered or mature mind you!
My shagging partners 10 yers older than me and really does it for me! I think its got a lot to do with conversation too!

12 years older he is. I like it that he is older and has a bit more up his sleve than he lets on. smile although he is more like my age as he looks youthful and sometimes acts it too.
Nothing worse than a 60 year old trying to be hip and with it. I call them Richard after Richard Meadley (Richard and Judy) cos they are simply trying too hard to turn back time.
Can't beat confidence, the willingness to be open to new experiences and to use the tricks you already know, at any age really.
Well thank you Ladies.
I think you may have just averted my second "mid-life crisis" and I won't, after all need to go out and get myself an open top sports car and start wearing pastel coloured shirts. (seriously)
Just a question tho'
When does a guy become an "older guy" ??
Good question. Suppose it's defined by how much older than them self a person deems old.
Some might say 5 years older than them is old, some might say 10 years older than them is old.
Does that make sense?
Then again, it might depend what mood someone's in or how much they are trying to put someone off confused
Bev
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When does a guy become an "older guy" ??

When the Ladies say so
and when the platitudes send you in that direction wink
A slightly different slant on my Ageism thread...
Maybe, when you need Viagra and Red Bull, you can answer the question yourself. I don't, yet.
I'll remember this in 20 years time, when you all decide that perhaps slightly younger is better!
although saying that, in 20 years, if the theory remains the same, I'll be with a 20something lady biggrin WOOHOOOOOOO can't wait :twisted:
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When does a guy become an "older guy" ??

When he's older than the lady in question.
By which I mean significantly older. I'm 29 so a guy who was 28 or 30 would not be "older or younger" for all intents and purposes.
A guy who is 20 is younger, a guy who is 40 is older. There is a significant age gap.
When I was 15 I had a boyfriend who was 19, so that was a significant age difference.
If at 42 you are shagging someone who is 46, you might not think of them as being "older" at all.
Rachel
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My class of 10/11 year olds and my own children (13 & 14) think that I am ancient at 40, so it's all relative really confused
Bev
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I'd like to think that the older a fella gets and gains more experience of life and not just sex, he becomes a more thoughtful person. I know that sadly there are exceptions to this. Some older guys are bed post notchers just as younger ones might be. And also there are some younger guys who are thoughtful. But speaking generally an older guy might want to put his partner's pleasure first before his own. Her enjoyment is paramount. He gets turned on by HER ecstacy and its not because he sees himself as a kind of stud but rather that he is sharing something intimate and so enjoyable with her.
I think also that older fellas would be more interested in the whole person (female or male) and and not just their body. If I find someone's personality attractive, I'll automatically find them sexually attractive. And any sexual contact that takes place will be that more enjoyable and richer.
Speaking as an older bloke (51) I'm in no hurry to jump into bed with someone. Quality rather than quantity has never been truer.
As for slowing down as you get older, yes of course it happens. Some older blokes would hate to admit it but its a fact of life. A definate advantage of slowing down is that sex seems to last longer and thats good news!
Older blokes are very much at ease with themselves. They've got nothing to prove anymore. We have our off days too but its no big deal. We don't lose any sleep over it. We're all only human with all the gamut of human emotions. We're not machines.
When I look back over my sex life I'm a very different guy from who I was when I was in my 20's. Sex is much more fun now. It seems to last longer, has more laughter, and a lot of tenderness and warm smiles.
Love Cicero
I only hate older guys when they tell you how to park/barbeque/plan your route .
You dont wanna do it like that! You wanna do it like this .
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speaking generally an older guy might want to put his partner's pleasure first before his own. Her enjoyment is paramount. He gets turned on by HER ecstacy and its not because he sees himself as a kind of stud but rather that he is sharing something intimate and so enjoyable with her.

My sentiments exactly, it's more fun for both when you don't try to out do your peers as some younger guys do - the "wham, bam, thank you mam" syndrome.
Well my hubby is 7 years older than me and ive always been atracted to older guys
BRAD PITT VERSUS GEORGE CLOONEY?
WELL GEORGE GETS IT EVERY TIME!! LOL
I LIKE THE BADGER BOY LOOK, IN A DISTINGUISHED RESPECTFUL WAY , I ALSO LIKE A MAN WITH PADDING AND NOT A SIX PACK BUT EACH TO HIS OWN
also agree with lots of other comments on here
love pepps xxxxxxxxxxxxxx wink
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I only hate older guys when they tell you how to park/barbeque/plan your route .
You dont wanna do it like that! You wanna do it like this .

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Actually, despite everything I said earlier..........................and sorry in advance Eager hunni, but Silk and Big G you are sooooooooooooooooooooooooo right!!!!!!!!!!
I got told off for resting my hand on the gear stick when driving, for leaving the ignition on when stopped and criticised for my choice of route to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FFS!
When i complained i got ............................... just do as you're told babe!!!!!!!!!
ok so i kind of liked that redface surprisedops: