One for Bareback? would you be put off?

23 Nov 2009

Due to medical reasons I wont go into here Mrs Tweeky and I have no need for contraception. As we have been together for a very long time also we dont use contraception for STD's either. I guess were as sure as anyone can be that were not doing anyone else. I often wonder when it comes to play time if this will be put men or men in a couple off? I dont get on with using them at all when I have tried, condoms that is as I just have never had to wear them. Ive considered only joining in in a soft role as I dont think TBH Condoms will do a lot for me after all this time not wearing them.
In a nutshell. Would men be put off if I am playing with my wife without a condom and they have to wear one? Obviously if I was to swap with another mans partner I would use one anyway, goes without saying.

23 Nov 2009

Mr Stuff doesn't use a condom with me, neither on our own nor whilst swinging. He would for sex with anyone else, as I would expect of any of my playmates (fertile or not).
In edit: he also does not ejaculate inside me if we are 'entertaining'. Nor immediately before the evening begins. If he ever wanted to, I would insist on a condom out of respect for the other participant(s).

23 Nov 2009

Are you also saying that if you were playing with others you probably would not expect to wear a condom?

23 Nov 2009

There is no reason why any regular couple should use condoms with each other whether they are playing with others or not. The only thing that would put me off in an mmf is if I was expected to fuck or go down on a woman after her partner had shot his load in there, I would refuse to do that but I'm sure there are others who would like the idea. It's all down to personal choice again, horses for courses as it were.

23 Nov 2009

Quote by duncanlondon
Are you also saying that if you were playing with others you probably would not expect to wear a condom?

I don't have the equipment :shock: but I would expect the men I play with to wear one, was that not clear?

23 Nov 2009

Quote by duncanlondon
Are you also saying that if you were playing with others you probably would not expect to wear a condom?

Not sure whom this was directed at but I'll answer it anyway. If I was playing with the female of another couple I would of course expect to use one. What I might do though is pass on full play and just go with soft play as my experience of condoms is almost non existent. When I have used them did not really get on all that well with them.

23 Nov 2009

Ummmm this is a tough one. Worlass does not use Contraception. I don't need to.
We play with other couples with condoms. We played with a couple earlier this year and when I went down on the female. I could taste the male on her. They had obviously had sex before we met them - unprotected. Worlass and I were musing over this afterwards and then thought about what might have happened if I had (to be blunt) used my fingers on the woman and then on worlass. Would she be at risk of pregnancy ?
Now, I aint that proficient on the statistics.. but I know that were worlass to be pregnant from my fingers it isn't a virgin birth but surely it must be unlikely???
But back to the original question. I would prefer that when couples play with us they use condoms. We now wonder if we should ask for them to use them before too ? And if so how long before ?
dunno

23 Nov 2009

I think the risk of pregnancy is extremely low Splendid as I am led to believe sperm are delicate little fellas and wouldn't transfer well dunno

but there may be a risk of infection from the afore mentioned sperm :dunno:
*awaits someone more knowledgeable*

23 Nov 2009

never ever read such a confusing thread before!!

23 Nov 2009

my partner and i do not use condoms as protection as i do not feel the risk of an STI (i use a coil to protect me from unwanted pregnancy) is there from him and if any potential playmate didnt like that then they was quite within their right to say they was not happy and to 'walk' away with no hard feelings. this is our choice on our love making and shouldn't be anyone else's business on how we play together but whilst playing with other partners then condoms are a must and is non negotiable.
splendid i know how you feel because not only is there a risk of highly unlikely pregnancy but also a slightly higher risk of an STI as live sperm is involved even from the fem (although not as high as unprotected sex with the male) i do not have the statistics as to either risk tho.
ok something else we all know that there is a small risk of an STI from unprotected oral sex with a male but there is also a risk from a female the only way around this is to use a femidom or other form of barrier between your tongue and the female

23 Nov 2009

We dont use condoms when playing at home with each other, however, if we are in a club, or any other situation where there may be others around, out of respect, we would always use them (even if it is a situation where I would not necessarily be having full pentetrative sex with another male).
Just our preference but if we were playing with another couple, I think I would find it very uncomfortable if her partner had already had unprotected sex with her.

23 Nov 2009

Quote by Lassy09
never ever read such a confusing thread before!!

You should read one i have been involved in then :undecided:

24 Nov 2009

In my (limited so far as I'm fairly recent to all this) MMF encounters it's been no surprise (obviously) to see the couple not use a condom. For all I know she may be on the pill or have other contraception in place. When it's been my 'turn' I fully expect to be expected to use a condom and bring my own along anyway. As it happens there's been a supply there that have been handed to me. Never been a problem as it's usually been made clear in the profile. If not I just assume that it will be the case anyway.

24 Nov 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
We dont use condoms when playing at home with each other, however, if we are in a club, or any other situation where there may be others around, out of respect, we would always use them (even if it is a situation where I would not necessarily be having full pentetrative sex with another male).
Just our preference but if we were playing with another couple, I think I would find it very uncomfortable if her partner had already had unprotected sex with her.

Thanks all for the replies.
Another good few points there NWC. Had not thought of those before.

24 Nov 2009

Quote by The_libertine69
In my (limited so far as I'm fairly recent to all this) MMF encounters it's been no surprise (obviously) to see the couple not use a condom. For all I know she may be on the pill or have other contraception in place. When it's been my 'turn' I fully expect to be expected to use a condom and bring my own along anyway. As it happens there's been a supply there that have been handed to me. Never been a problem as it's usually been made clear in the profile. If not I just assume that it will be the case anyway.

If I wasn't already taken...twice...in a no longer playing the field kinda way...that would be a nice avatar.
As you were redface

24 Nov 2009

Quote by Witchy
If I wasn't already taken...twice...in a no longer playing the field kinda way...that would be a nice avatar.

PMSL. I'll take that as the compliment in which it was obviously intended. :-)

24 Nov 2009

Quote by tweeky
We dont use condoms when playing at home with each other, however, if we are in a club, or any other situation where there may be others around, out of respect, we would always use them (even if it is a situation where I would not necessarily be having full pentetrative sex with another male).
Just our preference but if we were playing with another couple, I think I would find it very uncomfortable if her partner had already had unprotected sex with her.

Thanks all for the replies.
Another good few points there NWC. Had not thought of those before.
Certainly food for thought!

24 Nov 2009

Quote by anais
We dont use condoms when playing at home with each other, however, if we are in a club, or any other situation where there may be others around, out of respect, we would always use them (even if it is a situation where I would not necessarily be having full pentetrative sex with another male).
Just our preference but if we were playing with another couple, I think I would find it very uncomfortable if her partner had already had unprotected sex with her.

Thanks all for the replies.
Another good few points there NWC. Had not thought of those before.
Certainly food for thought!
We only use them as it could be a bit 'messy' for anyone joining in if we didnt and they may not be quite as appreciative as me redface

28 Nov 2009

I always use condoms! I love them, although I once had a girlfriend who hated them oddly..:shock:

29 Nov 2009

my view on it is that if i am with a couple and they have sex infront of me then i presume they will not wear a condom... why should they when they are in the relationship and dn't when they are alone........ i have to admit thou the majority of the time i find it a turn on to him in her and her on him or i'm just being a lil bit tooooo dirty ha ha
also hmmmmm sorry and this is only my vie3w but if a couple had been together for x amount of years i would why they are using condoms unless not on some form of contrception
but hey ho this is only me seeing saying ....
Gurly x

29 Nov 2009

Quote by Gurlonloan
also hmmmmm sorry and this is only my vie3w but if a couple had been together for x amount of years i would why they are using condoms unless not on some form of contrception
Gurly x

I carry the gene for Cystic fibrosis. One in 20 adults in the UK carries the gene for Cystic fibrosis. If two adults both with the gene have children you have a 25% chance of a child with Cystic fibrosis. That child will definitely also carry the CF gene even if they dont have the disorder. Cystic fibrosis is the largest genetically passed on disorder in Caucasians. Many men who carry the CF gene are infertile, its probably natures way of trying to stop the disorder from being passed on. This is the case for myself, I had to have ICSI treatment in order to have children of my own. We were very lucky that it worked out for us.
Cystic fibrosis is a horrible disease that causes extremely shorter life span for sufferers. Its a good job that that the government have now decided to screen all babies for the CF gene so in the future we shouldn't see anywhere near as many children with CF.
I said I wouldn't discuss this in the opening post but eh, there ya go.

29 Nov 2009

Quote by Gurlonloan
my view on it is that if i am with a couple and they have sex infront of me then i presume they will not wear a condom... why should they when they are in the relationship and dn't when they are alone........ i have to admit thou the majority of the time i find it a turn on to him in her and her on him or i'm just being a lil bit tooooo dirty ha ha
also hmmmmm sorry and this is only my vie3w but if a couple had been together for x amount of years i would why they are using condoms unless not on some form of contrception
but hey ho this is only me seeing saying ....
Gurly x

I have friends who have been together for ten years. They still use condoms. She has an intolerance to oral contraception and they find condoms easier to deal with than her having the injection. It is their choice. It is nothing sinister - and I am fairly sure that there are plenty of other couples who use condoms for a variety of reasons. As NWC stated earlier, it can also be a matter of courtesy.
Nola x

29 Nov 2009

Quote by Gurlonloan
also hmmmmm sorry and this is only my vie3w but if a couple had been together for x amount of years i would why they are using condoms unless not on some form of contrception
but hey ho this is only me seeing saying ....
Gurly x

Because the person/s you are playing with may not fancy a gob full of something sticky from my hubby lol

30 Nov 2009

i've never heard a guy say he loves condoms before!