Its fantastically pointless to fuck other people separately when youre in a relationship with someone who's into swinging. Its like buying a mercedes and cycling to work every morning.
I dont undertsand couples who want separate rooms and I probably never will (mainly because when I hear the word 'separate rooms' I start mentioning scat with a maniacal, dribbly grin to get rid of them)
I thought I was in an open relationship just recently, but when my partner started to exclude me from her activities it was hard not to feel resentful. But I did accept it. However, when told not to go looking at any of her pics on her PC I'm afraid curiosity got the better of me. Turns out they were only pictures of her own minge which I'd seen many times before close up.
Was not expecting to be kicked out onto the street however and deprived of my worldly possessions.
So much for an open relationship.
perhaps i am over simplifying things, but. If your regular 'shop' only supplies 90% of your needs you have to find another 'shop' to cater for the remaining 10%. Doesnt mean you have to stop using the regular shop though as the other shop is unlikely to stock everything.
This is one of the most interesting threads I've seen - great to see the many different ways that other people have discovered, and the way that works for them. I'm pleased most of the stories have been happy ones where the swinging or openness, in whatever form, led to more honesty and trust. It's always sad to hear of times when it hasn't worked, but I think it has to be about expanding on a good basis of caring and communication (hope that doesn't sound like pontificating)
As a single male I guess I'm not best paced to contribute,but a few thoughts have popped into my head whilst reading this very interesting thread.
As many have mentioned trust and love are major one partner is insecure then surely swinging or open relationships are a major no no.
I can say that with a degree of experience,my ex(yes HER again!) and I enjoyed a fantastic sexual relationship,we were continously pushing the her instigation we had a threesome with a friend of hers,great fun was had by an hour she was on the phone saying how awful she felt about needed me to tell her that I found her more attractive than her kept coming up weeks later and she needed constant a weird way I think it contributed to our split.
She was obviously not mature or secure enough.
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