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Well to add to this i have same problem, i never can have an orgasam from penatrive sex alone.
I thought i was strange at first but after reading this i am not
MikeC
I thought i was strange at first but after reading this i am not
MikeC
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Quote by Suze43
Oh Helen thank god for that - i thought i was just me!!! One of my recent lovers swore blind it must be with a problem - he said i was the only woman he had shagged who couldnt come!! Made me feel just great i can tell u!! i can cum quite easily using the tongue or fingers (esp both). I told him that about 80% of women cant cum thru penetrative sex but no, he wouldnt have it - he kept on and on grinding into me saying "oh is that right" "how about this". Talk about being under bloody pressure!! I have spoken about this to my mates and only two of them can cum from intercourse but i cant and i want to!! Oh well at least its not just me ........... xxx
Suze, don't worry, he was just crass. I think your 80% is about right.
John
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Quote by KitKat
Go for the best of both worlds Helen, him kneeling for full, deep, slow penetration, vibrator on the clitoris, and just for good measure, a couple of nipple clamps in case he wants to give you instructions:
1) Pull the left one for slower
2) Pull the right one for quicker
3) Pull both to stop
4) Pull both repeatedly for "Fuckinghellihopeyourreadyimcomingdontstophereitcomesomyfuckinggodicantholditanymore aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"
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Quote by VenusnMars
If I want to cum the same time as Mars, I sit on top which will hit my g-spot, and ride him like a bitch on heat, not up and down, but back and forth because it gets my clit at the same time. If he sits up to suck on my boobs, that also adds pressure to my clit, but will interfere with the rythmn as I'm getting closer, so I throw the poor sod back, ride him faster, and sometimes will play with my clit at the same time until I have reached an earth shattering climax which has possibly injured him in the process. I am very selfish when I want to cum, but I always apologise afterward. Promise!
Um, yeah, mebbe I'll shut up now :uhoh:
Venusxxx
:eeek:
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Quote by VenusnMars
If I want to cum the same time as Mars, I sit on top which will hit my g-spot, and ride him like a bitch on heat, not up and down, but back and forth because it gets my clit at the same time. If he sits up to suck on my boobs, that also adds pressure to my clit, but will interfere with the rythmn as I'm getting closer, so I throw the poor sod back, ride him faster, and sometimes will play with my clit at the same time until I have reached an earth shattering climax which has possibly injured him in the process. I am very selfish when I want to cum, but I always apologise afterward. Promise!
Um, yeah, mebbe I'll shut up now :uhoh:
Venusxxx
:eeek:
Don't stop now Venus, just got into the swing of this, little bit bruised and battered, but enjoying it all the same.
John
:bounce: :bounce:
It is clearly a common problem, my last girlf had only ever come thru pen once, and never with me. And we really, and I mean really, got to know each other's bodies well. My girlf before her came easily (once we got the hang of it).
I think smokerjim may be right about there being a psychological aspect to this. I think it can be physical, psychological or both. And I include your partner in that. Both factors could depend on both of you. I've certainly had a psychological issue that took a while, and a patient partner, to get past. Can you guess?
One thing that can get in the way is if you both want you to come like that. Any pressure causes anxiety. Pressure to please yourself, or him. Pressure to be "normal" etc. so try not to try so to speak, while following all the tips people mention and also trying not to do anything but enjoy what is going on.
By the way, anyone got tips on how to stop ejaculation when she's just about to come?! I had this once and just got over it (with Gilf-2) but could never with Gilf-1? Perhaps a seperatre thread is called for? Or maybe we should both call (see sex columnist thread)
Is the shower hot yet? I'm nesh.
Mark
I think smokerjim may be right about there being a psychological aspect to this. I think it can be physical, psychological or both. And I include your partner in that. Both factors could depend on both of you. I've certainly had a psychological issue that took a while, and a patient partner, to get past. Can you guess?
One thing that can get in the way is if you both want you to come like that. Any pressure causes anxiety. Pressure to please yourself, or him. Pressure to be "normal" etc. so try not to try so to speak, while following all the tips people mention and also trying not to do anything but enjoy what is going on.
By the way, anyone got tips on how to stop ejaculation when she's just about to come?! I had this once and just got over it (with Gilf-2) but could never with Gilf-1? Perhaps a seperatre thread is called for? Or maybe we should both call (see sex columnist thread)
Is the shower hot yet? I'm nesh.
Mark
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Helen
Here is a position you should try:
Have him lie on his back
Ride his cock but face his feet
Bend forwards so your clit presses against his balls
Hold on to his feet if he is not too short/tall
Ask him to put a finger up your back hole
And begin movement
If your knees get tired you can always stretch your legs backwards and sort of lie on top of him.
It's been ages since I last tried this position but it used to work for me. Another position that worked was in the car riding him whilst holding on to seat in front. A variation of that is riding him with his cock up your back hole and your fingers on your clit.
Hope you find a way that works well for you!
Here is a position you should try:
Have him lie on his back
Ride his cock but face his feet
Bend forwards so your clit presses against his balls
Hold on to his feet if he is not too short/tall
Ask him to put a finger up your back hole
And begin movement
If your knees get tired you can always stretch your legs backwards and sort of lie on top of him.
It's been ages since I last tried this position but it used to work for me. Another position that worked was in the car riding him whilst holding on to seat in front. A variation of that is riding him with his cock up your back hole and your fingers on your clit.
Hope you find a way that works well for you!
Step one .... go to ann summers
Step two... buy a vibrating cock ring(i think they are about £10)
Step three. Go home and start fucking.... keep it at a low speed (the vibrator not the shagging...)
Step four... Crank it up to full blast.. Keep on top and enjoy your orgasm sweets. Hope this helps.. It helped me
Step two... buy a vibrating cock ring(i think they are about £10)
Step three. Go home and start fucking.... keep it at a low speed (the vibrator not the shagging...)
Step four... Crank it up to full blast.. Keep on top and enjoy your orgasm sweets. Hope this helps.. It helped me
As per blondie suggestion, vibrating cock ring thing gave us both some mind shattering sex, but the cable is a pain, and get a soft one as the green one is too damn small (narrow) at least for me.
They do a cordless one, got to be less intrusive...
Another position is normal missionary, but get him to move up the bed so he is rubbing past your clitoris on the way in.
Another option open your legs in the missionary position and get him inside, then swap your legs with his so he is astride you with your legs closed. Nice and tight and works for us, to finish your partner cross your legs... hmmm....
Anyways everybody is a different shape, these work for us, may help you if you similar layout down below
They do a cordless one, got to be less intrusive...
Another position is normal missionary, but get him to move up the bed so he is rubbing past your clitoris on the way in.
Another option open your legs in the missionary position and get him inside, then swap your legs with his so he is astride you with your legs closed. Nice and tight and works for us, to finish your partner cross your legs... hmmm....
Anyways everybody is a different shape, these work for us, may help you if you similar layout down below
Quote by tallnhairy
Another option open your legs in the missionary position and get him inside, then swap your legs with his so he is astride you with your legs closed. Nice and tight and works for us, to finish your partner cross your legs... hmmm....
We do that! Drives him nuts :twisted:
Venusxxx
Quote by VenusnMars
Another option open your legs in the missionary position and get him inside, then swap your legs with his so he is astride you with your legs closed. Nice and tight and works for us, to finish your partner cross your legs... hmmm....
We do that! Drives him nuts :twisted:
Venusxxx
What she said :rascal:
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:taz:Quote by VenusnMars
I am very selfish when I want to cum, but I always apologise afterward.
Venusxxx
I personally love women being a little selfish. If they're going at ten a dozen and making sure that they're enjoying it, they can be damn well sure I am.
POSSIBLE SOLUTION:
Try Kegel exercises. It's a set of exercises that improves the general health/ tightness/fitness of your groin area. It's applicable to men and women. I used it in order to control ejaculation so that I could wait until the girl came. It worked a treat. I swear that on a couple of occasions I even orgasmed without cumming and could immediately go again. It improves the blood flow to your vagina aswell. (well.. if you've got one) so it's supposed to make penetrative sex for women easier. Couldn't test this theory out as I'm lacking the necessary vagina but it's worth a shot. A google search for kegel exercises should come up with something.
ANOTHER SOLUTION:
Viagra for women. Probably not legal but if women take viagra it increases blood flow to the vagina, increases sex drive and heightens the possibility of a penetrative orgasm.
OH AND ANOTHER:
lift the female partners hips up onto a pillow the tip of the penis will push upwards onto the upper wall of the vagina and this is where I have personally found the best way to hit a womans g-spot. You know when you've found it because their eyes glaze over.
But most important of all. Have fun trying.
Sex God
Quote by DreamerHelen
Mmmmm I can see my partner and I having lots of fun in the near future.....
That last suggestion sounds logistically impossible but we'll see what we can do.....
nah trust me.. ......... it works! :twisted:
Sorry for the late reply, Wife 1 never did Wife 2 does its just nature dont stress
Have you ever been with a guy with a PA piercing? As the jewellery stimulates the vagina walls and can hit the old G spot might help, and clit hood piercing is good as well as the movement stimulates the clit shaft more natural than trying to keep vibes and such in place.
Have you ever been with a guy with a PA piercing? As the jewellery stimulates the vagina walls and can hit the old G spot might help, and clit hood piercing is good as well as the movement stimulates the clit shaft more natural than trying to keep vibes and such in place.
Hi all,
Have just read the thread and Iam one of those ladies that v.v rarely orgasms through penetration alone. I find that if I get him to sit on the sofa and I get on top that usually does the trick. I have only had an orgasm once in the missionary position.
I must say though it doesn't bother me that much. I enjoy sex loads and have great orgasms by other means!!
!!!!
Vicky x
Have just read the thread and Iam one of those ladies that v.v rarely orgasms through penetration alone. I find that if I get him to sit on the sofa and I get on top that usually does the trick. I have only had an orgasm once in the missionary position.
I must say though it doesn't bother me that much. I enjoy sex loads and have great orgasms by other means!!
!!!!Vicky x
Orgasminator
If a guy knows how to use his pubic bone, ( i think thats what its called, but im just back from a long weekend celabration and couldnt be bothered to read the full thread ) with the woman on top, he really shouldnt have a problem, not bragging, just from personal experience.. whoops another secret is out.
