Owner of a lonely heart

28 Sep 2006

Quote by lambchop
Owner of a lonely heart...............................
much better than the owner of a broken heart......discuss

I agree that owning a lonely heart is better than owning a broken heart. My last broken heart took me years to repair and rebuild, but I eventually did it and here I am today. The very tough lesson I learnt is that I now don't give it away easily, if ever 100%.
Loneliness can still occur in relationships. I certainly feel it at times as life's stresses take over. The realisation that one person cannot be everything to you and cannot fulfill every need and desire; that would be a great responsibility to place on one person. To combat this, I fill my life with the things I want to do and the people I want to spend time with.
To recognise your lonely is the first big step of doing something about it. Only you as an individual can change the way you feel about yourself and your life. The way we feel about ourselves cannot be bought or given from something or someone else, it comes from within.
To all who feel that they are in the same situation as LampChop, :therethere: kiss

. I really hate this saying but it is so true, time is a great healer and just remember that you will not always feel as bad as this.
Take care
Alex xxxxx

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Lammy hun, only you can make the decision to stay friends though it's good you can see that you can take longer to get over it when you're still in contact but your friendship will reach a whole new level because of what you felt for each other.
I'm still best mates with my ex because that's what we were before we let sex get in the way and that's what we'll be until the end. He's my soulmate and I'll love him forever, I just can't be IN love with him.

Thank you for that sassy...i would rather be friends with her than have no contact whatsoever..it was circumstances rather than any bad feeling that we split up. I really want her to be happy with someone who lives a hell of a lot nearer to her than I do.

30 Sep 2006

Lammy, anyone who can quote one of the best lines from Withnail & I deserves to be happy and you will again I'm sure of it kiss

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Lammy, anyone who can quote one of the best lines from Withnail & I deserves to be happy and you will again I'm sure of it

I must have watched that film 50 times in the last week to cheer me up..anyone want to threaten me with a dead fish?

1 Oct 2006

Quote by lambchop
Lammy, anyone who can quote one of the best lines from Withnail & I deserves to be happy and you will again I'm sure of it

I must have watched that film 50 times in the last week to cheer me up..anyone want to threaten me with a dead fish?
To cheer you up? blink

Hell's teeth! Try a comedy! :giggle:
There again, last night me and my friend were watching some so-called 'lesbian' porn she'd bought in Germany and it was such a laugh to watch, we were in stitches ! Hardly erotic but it was a giggle :giggle:

1 Oct 2006

Quote by madchick
Owner of a lonely heart...............................
much better than the owner of a broken heart......discuss

I agree that owning a lonely heart is better than owning a broken heart. My last broken heart took me years to repair and rebuild, but I eventually did it and here I am today. The very tough lesson I learnt is that I now don't give it away easily, if ever 100%.
Loneliness can still occur in relationships. I certainly feel it at times as life's stresses take over. The realisation that one person cannot be everything to you and cannot fulfill every need and desire; that would be a great responsibility to place on one person. To combat this, I fill my life with the things I want to do and the people I want to spend time with.
To recognise your lonely is the first big step of doing something about it. Only you as an individual can change the way you feel about yourself and your life. The way we feel about ourselves cannot be bought or given from something or someone else, it comes from within.
To all who feel that they are in the same situation as LampChop, :therethere: kiss

. I really hate this saying but it is so true, time is a great healer and just remember that you will not always feel as bad as this.
Take care
Alex xxxxx
I week ago I had my world turned upside down and my heart completely shattered, so I've been reading this thread with interest and I I understand what your saying. I've filled my life with my friends (and believe me, I know who are my true friends now) and things to do and I know time is a great healer but if anyone has any words of wisdom on how to conquer the next 24 hours, then the next, then the next...all advice would be greatfully received because, to be honest, i can't see past the next 5 mins at the moment.
When I felt really low, I used to take each day as it came and set myself little goals to get myself through that day. Although my friends said I was strong, inside I felt as weak as a kitten. I also felt guilty of burdening them with my problems when they clearly had enough of their own. There are organisations that can offer support, which your GP can give you details for.
Be kind to yourself.
Alex xx

3 Oct 2006

Thanks for the response with this thread. I thoughtI t was feeling better,but If I'm honest then thats not true. I cant really talk to any of my mates about this as they only talk about football and anything else they would just find silly and embarrassing.
Think in answer to my question a lonely heart is much easier than a broken heart.

3 Oct 2006

Sheeeshhh - A lonely and a Broken heart at the same time sad

Now thats someting that I have had before I think. Thank fleck that it didnt last for long.
So, just for the record Lambchop it does get better after a while
And hey, if all else fails book yourself a holiday to Fiji for two weeks...
Does wonders - trust me I know. :cheers: :cheers: :thumbup: