First thing is to invite people... couples are a good start followed by whatever takes your fancy...
Couples!!! Did we say Couples Cough Cough Cough Cough!!!
Mike and Julie xxx (a couple)
Oh yeah... advice?? Have a good time set limits etc.. decide on who you want to come. Oh a theme could be fun!! Err did I mention invites?? I just read again and you said an SH party!!! Not sure then lol... maybe a party to start with thats called an SH party but its your party at the end of the day and you get to set all the rules on what where and how many really...
Oh... bring a bottle always helps keep costs reasonable and when we have gone to a party we always take some nibbles too!!
Mike and Julie xx
OMG are you really really sure you have thought about this????
Parties at your house, you make the rules and invite who you want........
things to consider:-
1. where to you allow sex
2. where to you allow smoking.
3. If you do food, only buffet type stuff, get your invited guests to bring their own booze
4. parking and your neighbours?? do you get on with them? :shock:
5. do you let people stay over
6. are you near to local hotels so those that cannot stay over can get to a hotel / BB
If you go ahead, make sure you invite people who YOU know...........do you really want 30 odd strangers knowing where you live??
Have fun
Thanks for the advice. It all helps me work out what I'm aiming for.
Hmmmm smoking, maybe I'll have the party in summer and people can smoke outside then. LOL
My advice....
Put me and Calista at the top of the list ;)
P xx
I can back up what ukvoyeur and Sarah have said. You will only get half of the acceptedinvitations actually ringing your door bell, and only half of your invitations get accepted, so if you look at your guest list, divide it by 4 to get close to what to expect. If you are opening it up to "internet invitations", you can expect your ratio to go down to 1 in 5 people who accept turning up.
Additionally...
Decide in advance and tell everyone if you are having single guys there. No point inviting couples from the "couples only" crowd if there are going to be singles present. Somebody is bound to throw a strop, storm out, and / or create an atmosphere.
Car parking is a major issue. I used to co-run parties in Derby myself, and at a peak, we had 20 couples and 10 single guys turn up...that was 30 cars worth! Nip out this evening and see how many parking spaces there are around you, and remember that on the night of the party, guests could be skimpilly dressed and it could be raining.
How noise-proof is your house? The house that had "my" parties in Derby was also detached, but it was in close proximity to other houses in the estate. It meant that windows could not be opened for fear of the noise getting out. 50 active bodies (producing heat) and closed windows...you can guess the rest...
Which brings me on to ventialtion. You will need lots of it. Fans are good, but those ice powered air coolers are better.
Invest in at least an extra bin per room. All parties ought to be BYOC (C= condoms) but having somewhere very obvious to throw the wrappers / "empties" saves finding them later where you would rather they weren't hidden.
Remember that if you charge an "admission fee", and someone gets hurt and wants compensation, (where there's pain there's a claim) your household insurance company will consider your party to have been done "for profit" and your insurance will be invalid, unless you tell them in advance that your house is being used for a business venture. That said, if you charge an admission fee, SH won't allow you to use their name for it anyway.
I'll go with what's been said - I used to organise parties, but stopped after I kept getting people promising to come and then never turning up - it also wasn't helpful that a week after a party, a couple of guys (one of whom had been invited originally) turne up on my doorstep asking if there was a party that day!
Some rules can of course help, I'd go with what's been suggested and add:
Get a load of condoms/lube from your local Health Practice/GUM clinic. These are free and they won't put it on your medical record that you asked for them.
Explain to those invited that it's them, and not them and half-a-dozen of their mates, that are invited.
Find somewhere to lock valuables away, even if it's a spare room - I once found a couple going through my re-enactment gear at one of my parties. :shock:
what goes down well?
Me! :giggle: (or so im told!)
Sorry.......will crawl back under my rock now.....
Thanks so much for all the help and advice, guys.
I'm definitely going to organise a party here. I think that, being it's the first time, it should be a smallish affair based on personal contacts and their personal recommendations. And it'll be in the summer.
Again, thanks for all the input. :happy:
