I enjoy browsing the forums and look in most of them time to time. However I have noticed a distinct lack of responces in the LMU part of the forum excluding munches and socials. We tend to meet up with ppl we have met socially first and I am assuming that thats what the majority of ppl do. Initially I had the view that relationships deff didnt need to be formed in any way before swinging with someone but have found that to be far from the truth. Often "frienships" prevent us from exploring others sexually whether this is good or bad is debateable personally we are happy to have made good friends even tho we may have missed out physically. I guess what i'm aiming at asking is has your perception of swinging changed and how.......
Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
perceptions of swinging
last reply
11 replies
827 views
0 watchers
0 likes
Sexpert
Our perception has changed quite a bit, when we first started me & Mrs C decided that we'd never swing on a first date so to speak....which is all well and good in theory.
Having recently been to Infusions in Blackpool it doesnt quite work like that does it?
In that sense our perceptions have changed in that we now do whatever we feel comfortable with.
With regards to the lack of posts in LMU, i would hazard a guess that its down to 90% of the requests being from single males. A (very) quick scout through the posts backs this up as i struggled to find a post from a couple or single female that hadnt had at least 1 reply!
Having recently been to Infusions in Blackpool it doesnt quite work like that does it?
In that sense our perceptions have changed in that we now do whatever we feel comfortable with.
With regards to the lack of posts in LMU, i would hazard a guess that its down to 90% of the requests being from single males. A (very) quick scout through the posts backs this up as i struggled to find a post from a couple or single female that hadnt had at least 1 reply!
Quote by Clove-hitch
However I have noticed a distinct lack of responces in the LMU part of the forum excluding munches and socials.
I dont know about any other fems but if there is an advert in the Lmu thats a single male and im interested, I dont always reply via the forum
Although I do see that socials and munches are definately the way to go, to meet people.
My perception as such of swinging hasnt changed.
What I want out of swinging constantly changes though.
louise xx
Its changed for us 
when we first dipped our toes into swinging many moons ago :shock: We would have described it as partner swapping / wife swapping.
Nowadays though it seems the lifestyle is more about exploring sexualities, not that thats a bad thing! A browse through the ads will show a good percentage of couples are only looking for fem/fem fun or the emphasis on any fun is based around this, it seems to be getting more difficult for straight couples who are in the scene, we've also noticed that socialing or getting to know people well seems to be the way things are now done (excluding clubs)
Perceptions, definitions, descriptions, whatever you want to call it then yes its evolving like everything else.
when we first dipped our toes into swinging many moons ago :shock: We would have described it as partner swapping / wife swapping.Nowadays though it seems the lifestyle is more about exploring sexualities, not that thats a bad thing! A browse through the ads will show a good percentage of couples are only looking for fem/fem fun or the emphasis on any fun is based around this, it seems to be getting more difficult for straight couples who are in the scene, we've also noticed that socialing or getting to know people well seems to be the way things are now done (excluding clubs)
Perceptions, definitions, descriptions, whatever you want to call it then yes its evolving like everything else.
Warming the Bed
Quote by Fun Scottish Couple
it seems to be getting more difficult for straight couples who are in the scene
Got to agree with that! We also seem to be finding more and more bi-fems who expect to be able to "convert" Red. Not really likely....
We're also finding more couples who don't seem to know just what they want, presumably because of not having talked things through fully before they dip their toes in the water. That does make it a little tricky for those like us, who know exactly what we want
CB
Sex God
I don't think It is a bad thing that people what to "get to know people" it just means that people are finding other ways to swing, as long as people are comfortable doing it whatever way they like I can only see this as a good thing...
Some people are always going to want to "get down to it and not know anything about the people they are playing with" which is fine.....I have been in clubs in that atmosphere, play and loved it....the anoninity of it all is very appealing
however some people are also going to want to know that they are more comparable on a friendship level.... and nothing wrong with that either.....again I know a lot of people like this and I love that too...makes it better for me knowing that I connect with people on more than just a sexual level
it just like the same arguement with regards to single men in regards to swinging, some people are going to like to play with them, some are not....Heck I see a lot of people putting it in capitals (one of the things i really hate.. you are basically saying i can't read)
As long as people don't view other people in the other groups with suspicion (which I did think happened here with the forums and the expanded chatrooms setting up there own socials but I am glad to see that that is going away with more of both people going to others socials..) then swinging and the lifestyle is big enough to be all-inclusive and that in the end can only be a good thing in the end
sean xxxxxxx
Some people are always going to want to "get down to it and not know anything about the people they are playing with" which is fine.....I have been in clubs in that atmosphere, play and loved it....the anoninity of it all is very appealing
however some people are also going to want to know that they are more comparable on a friendship level.... and nothing wrong with that either.....again I know a lot of people like this and I love that too...makes it better for me knowing that I connect with people on more than just a sexual level
it just like the same arguement with regards to single men in regards to swinging, some people are going to like to play with them, some are not....Heck I see a lot of people putting it in capitals (one of the things i really hate.. you are basically saying i can't read)
As long as people don't view other people in the other groups with suspicion (which I did think happened here with the forums and the expanded chatrooms setting up there own socials but I am glad to see that that is going away with more of both people going to others socials..) then swinging and the lifestyle is big enough to be all-inclusive and that in the end can only be a good thing in the end
sean xxxxxxx
Sex God
think socials is good for ppl to put names to faces and helps new members spes for single agree you find yourself getting mroe freindly with some ppl that you find you cant swing with them because you have got to close and maybe dont want to go that little bit further and spoil best to go with that gut feeling,we have met ppl who have we have turned down and found them great to get on with socially and had some good times, like mr c we said we would never meet and play on a first meet ,but travel to a club a bit away from home and we have done,think its how ya feel at the time if it feels good go for it .
Sex God
Quote by dekntanplenty more fish in the sea hun.........oops thout ya said haddock
im more the addict
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Sexlightened
Quote by Mrcoupleseekfun
Our perception has changed quite a bit, when we first started me & Mrs C decided that we'd never swing on a first date so to speak....which is all well and good in theory.
Having recently been to Infusions in Blackpool it doesnt quite work like that does it?
In that sense our perceptions have changed in that we now do whatever we feel comfortable with.
With regards to the lack of posts in LMU, i would hazard a guess that its down to 90% of the requests being from single males. A (very) quick scout through the posts backs this up as i struggled to find a post from a couple or single female that hadnt had at least 1 reply!
Ours didn't get any replies
