I'm completely new to posting on any forums and I've been lurking rond here for about 12 months before I joined. To be completely honest these forums are what convinced me to join Swinging Heaven. I personally like the debates that go on especially because on occasion I've really had to think about certain topics in a different way. I've especially enjoyed topics which have given me a opportunity to make my decisions about the swinging lifestyle - again they've given me plenty to think about.
As far as individual posters go I like the posters who can make me laugh, can be naughty without being too naughty if that makes sense and who can also participate well in debates.
Columbia x
One thing I notice about myself and with other posters is that we will post in threads where we can use our debating skills to make the same point or improve on each point by creating an new version of it.
Because the threads are cyclical, and benefit from being restarted, the topics all return with a renewed interest. As a result we can make our points again and readjust the style and language.
This is also because I choose to add to a limited range of topics and when I see an opportunity to express myself. It does not always occur, because the thread may be slightly out of focus and my perception would not fit into the general feel at that moment.
I also look out for other posters who can help me grasp the feeling of the thread. So I often find their contributions have more relevance than the originators or the other main participants.
I tend to focus on what's written in the debate, as opposed to what I imagine people are like or their mood at the time. Sometimes this comes across very descriptively in their writing.
I love it when someone quotes me to agree with my point and I always check out a profile of a member who shares something I like such as a film or group.
I like posts that aren't too chuffing long that are written from the heart (possibly not read through properly) and not carefully crafted, to be perfect, to try and look clever. A few typos are fine but text speak makes me droop......
People who can be objective rather than vague and subjective in everything they type.
People who know the difference between disagreeing and disliking.
People who don’t bend like a willow in the wind trying to keep everyone happy with their opinions.
People who are not offended by being challenged as to how their opinion was formed.
People who see debate as being about the subject rather than the people involved.
People who are more than a fancy pink ribbon tied around an empty box.
People who don’t see questions as a form of attack, but a method to provoke thought and gain understanding.
People where if I did look at their posting history there would be something worth reading and not 100 one-line flirts or single emoticons between each post which actually contains more than 10 words.
People who can roll with the punches.
People who can take a joke as well as they dish them out.
People who just ‘get it’!
Normally I'm happy in forums to drop PM's to anyone and everyone, but on here it doesn't feel quite right, somehow. I guess I worry on here that people always see a PM as a 'come and get me, bebe' sorta thing. I _have_ pmed people here with specific stuff, but I guess I must be painfully shy or something.
What was the question?
Ooh, yes. I suppose what piques my interest in people in general on forums is a similar sense of humour, a liking for similar sorts of stuff (music, films, etc) - any hint they are a bit alternative, a liking for fluffy kittens and so on and so forth.
But I am crap at letting people know I like them, and I am crap at keeping in touch with people who tell me they like me, so I tend to just dawdle away in the background lots.
To be honest, I'm still trying to get used to the colour scheme on here so wile reading the threads I don't tend to see who has written what until after I've read the whole page.
If it is something sureal or completely genuine then I look for the posters name, may quote the post or just remember that writing style for the next time I see it.
Very rarely do I pm people, but rather look for their posts instead and get to know them that way.
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I like people who are fair and actually think about what they post before they press submit. 
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