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Quote by dambuster
Not wanting to get into a slanging match but do want to say I could NEVER have sex with someone I don't like because they look good, I just wouldn't be turned on, it's as simple as that. :shock:

I don't know which of you posted that, and I can quite easily see that to be the case for most women, but I'd argue until I was blue in the face, that most men could.
Remember tho - I'm talking about straight forward, pure and simple, ball emptying sex
Well, yes, it was me, Flidais, who posted but I have discussed it with my partner in the past and (though I guess he could be lying) he agrees with me. biggrin
As I have no balls to empty I can't say.
I've never been in the situation where I've just had a physical attraction to someone ie based on looks, disliked them, and still had sex with them. Am I ruling it out in the future, never say never, but I don't think it's something I'd do.
Yes, I think probably men and women differ a little on this subject, but I'm not going to make broad generalisations. We are all different, life would be bloody boring if we weren't. I wouldn't think any less of someone who said they could fuck simply on looks any more than I would think more of someone who said they couldn't. I'd think a lot less of someone who lied though, honesty is fundermental.
H.x
Quote by H-x
........ I wouldn't think any less of someone who said they could fuck simply on looks any more than I would think more of someone who said they couldn't. I'd think a lot less of someone who lied though, honesty is fundermental.
H.x

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Quote by H-x
As I have no balls to empty I can't say.
I've never been in the situation where I've just had a physical attraction to someone ie based on looks, disliked them, and still had sex with them. Am I ruling it out in the future, never say never, but I don't think it's something I'd do.
Yes, I think probably men and women differ a little on this subject, but I'm not going to make broad generalisations. We are all different, life would be bloody boring if we weren't. I wouldn't think any less of someone who said they could fuck simply on looks any more than I would think more of someone who said they couldn't. I'd think a lot less of someone who lied though, honesty is fundermental.
H.x

Agreed, it's definitely each to his/her/their own on this one..just saying how it is for me biggrin
Quote by flidais-media
Not wanting to get into a slanging match but do want to say I could NEVER have sex with someone I don't like because they look good, I just wouldn't be turned on, it's as simple as that. :shock:

I can (and do) have sex with people because I find them sexually attractive in some physical way and yet not know them well enough to know their personality.
(having said that how long does it take to know a person? What was it Mr and Mrs West's neighbours said about them????)
I can (and do) have sex with people I have come to find sexually attractive and found interesting aspects to their personality.
I can (and do) have sex with people I find both sexually attractive and mentally stimulating.
I cannot have sex with someone I do not find sexually attractive (unless it involves blindfolds).
I cannot have sex with a good looking twat - who has instantly shown themselves to be a twat.
Physical sexual attraction is part of the chemistry for good sex for me - that is not to say it is the only thing - but it is an important part and the most natural part.
I would not enjoy sex with someone I thought was pig ugly. The physical attraction is part of the biology and psychology of sex - the things that make us more receptive to sex and it's pleasure.... the arousal.
Defining what makes a person sexually attractive is another thing.
Quote by PoloLady
Not wanting to get into a slanging match but do want to say I could NEVER have sex with someone I don't like because they look good, I just wouldn't be turned on, it's as simple as that. :shock:

I can (and do) have sex with people because I find them sexually attractive in some physical way and yet not know them well enough to know their personality.
(having said that how long does it take to know a person? What was it Mr and Mrs West's neighbours said about them????)
I can (and do) have sex with people I have come to find sexually attractive and found interesting aspects to their personality.
I can (and do) have sex with people I find both sexually attractive and mentally stimulating.
I cannot have sex with someone I do not find sexually attractive (unless it involves blindfolds).
I cannot have sex with a good looking twat - who has instantly shown themselves to be a twat.
Physical sexual attraction is part of the chemistry for good sex for me - that is not to say it is the only thing - but it is an important part and the most natural part.
I would not enjoy sex with someone I thought was pig ugly. The physical attraction is part of the biology and psychology of sex - the things that make us more receptive to sex and it's pleasure.... the arousal.
Defining what makes a person sexually attractive is another thing.
...and you have just about summed it up for me. There has to be a physical attraction. That might be enhanced by a personallity that I like, but like you have said, I simply couldn't have sex with someone who I didn't find physically attractive. Fortunately we all have different opinions about what is attractive which kinda means most folk can get outr of the starting blocks.
Actually i have something else to say on this too....
The people who say looks are not important and it is the personality that counts always seem to assume that when someone (such as me) says that looks are important, this means that the person can be a complete tosser as long as they look like Brad Pitt.
I have never (as many others haven't) dismissed the part personalities play. However, it takes a little longer to work out the personality bit than the looks bit - hence looks are the priority for me.
Quote by PoloLady
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Defining what makes a person sexually attractive is another thing.

And, it is your last line that really sums it all up for us...sexually attractive means many things to many people..and let's be thankful for that biggrin
And one more point.....
I know a couple of people round these parts who can fuck someone they neither find sexually attractive or know the personality to any extent - just because it is easier than wanking!
That I just don't get confused
I'll shut up now and go back to sorting out my garden.
There has been some research into this, although we are unaware of it, our sense of smell has a huge part to play. We are physically attracted to people who, if we were to produce children, would produce the strongest genetic make up, our pheremones contain this information and subconsiously we take it into account when we meet our 'mate'
H.x
Quote by PoloLady
And one more point.....
I know a couple of people round these parts who can fuck someone they neither find sexually attractive or know the personality to any extent - just because it is easier than wanking!
That I just don't get confused

True those types we always wonder about too...like what was going on in the club we were in the other night when we spotted a guy of around thirty go to a room with a women who must have been seventy if she was a day (and not particularly well preserved at that :shock: ) We know it should be each to his/her/their own but that was pushing things a bit wink
Quote by H-x
There has been some research into this, although we are unaware of it, our sense of smell has a huge part to play. We are physically attracted to people who, if we were to produce children, would produce the strongest genetic make up, our pheremones contain this information and subconsiously we take it into account when we meet our 'mate'
H.x

Now that is interesting.
I always poohoo'd the idea of ferret moans, based solely on my reaction to the adverts for buying them bottled to use as aftershave. (I read some strange publications when I was younger and dumber and fuller of cum)
But ......................
I had the absolute pleasure of knowing a girl for a few years, that after we got really "tuned in" to each other, I could actually smell when she was starting to get sexually aroused.
I'm not talking about her pussy getting moist, and I am being quite serious.
I would notice a change in her natural smell. And it would be more noticeable as I nuzzled into her neck/shoulder area, something I knew would more often than not, make her a little moist; particularly if my chin stubble was at the correct days growth.
I would sometimes notice this before the physical changes normally associated with a girly getting starting to get a little frisky.
Quote by H-x
There has been some research into this, although we are unaware of it, our sense of smell has a huge part to play. We are physically attracted to people who, if we were to produce children, would produce the strongest genetic make up, our pheremones contain this information and subconsiously we take it into account when we meet our 'mate'
H.x

Wonder how this works if we are beyond the age of producing kids anyway? confused wink
Doesn't matter, animal magnetism isn't agist.
H.x
Quote by H-x
Doesn't matter, animal magnetism isn't agist.
H.x

True, but just wondered if as the procreation 'time span' wears out does the 'scent attraction' thing too?
Or perhaps this explains why old men are attracted to young women (as the older ones don't have the right smell anymore? wink )
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.
Quote by SinnEr
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.

What a lovely post...good one biggrin
Quote by flidais-media
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.

What a lovely post...good one biggrin
well thank u ! i spent the whole afternoon researchin my mind for a good post! haha as its my first! xx
Quote by SinnEr
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.

What a lovely post...good one biggrin
well thank u ! i spent the whole afternoon researchin my mind for a good post! haha as its my first! xx
Erm = what happened to the other nine posts then wink
Phredd_Mids
Quote by Medic_1
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.

What a lovely post...good one biggrin
well thank u ! i spent the whole afternoon researchin my mind for a good post! haha as its my first! xx
Erm = what happened to the other nine posts then wink
Phredd_Mids
I was going to say that :wink:
Quote by flidais-media
you are what you are, you are your emotions, your beliefs, your thoughts, your words , your behaviour, personality,....., and indeed your looks. Simply, by omitting any of those elements, then it is not you!
love making or if you wuna call it sex is goin to involve all that, and if anything is missing and ur only after the looks then certainly the satisfaction is less.... most of the time when u ask someone what attracts u most to another person, they give u an endless list of criteria!! not just looks - at the end of the day, each of us has his own defitnition of beauty.

What a lovely post...good one biggrin
well thank u ! i spent the whole afternoon researchin my mind for a good post! haha as its my first! xx
Erm = what happened to the other nine posts then wink
Phredd_Mids
I was going to say that :wink:
haha i expected this - well this is my first proper post - the other 9 were rubbish and simply didint put any effort - so in a way this is the first one on here, as part of a discusstion. thanks for raising the issue anyway lol and hope ya all are having a great nite x
personality affects sexual performance imo so even with the playroom encounter with no chatting b4hand it makes a big difference
Quote by H-x
OK - let's look at it this way...
How many threads have there been on this site which involved famous people you would fuck??? It is not the personality that is making your bits twitch when you see your favourite movie star is it? You don't know them! Yes, I know this is a fantasy thing - but it still shows physical attraction as being an important part of mentally stimulating you for sex.
If there is no physical attraction what-so-ever - does that mean you will fuck anyone as long as they are charming?
It is true however we are all attracted to different things physically as well as mentally, but to deny there needs to be some attraction is somewhat strange. It doesn't mean someone needs to be stunning and again stunning to one is ordinary though another person's eyes.
I have made this point before, but I feel it worth making again...
If you were having sex and the person you were with looked you in the eyes and said...
"do you know what, I don't find you physically attractive at all, but you have a cracking personality" ...
How would that make you feel?

Once again, the oracle has spoken. :thumbup:
H.x
agreed............
In my experience over the years, quite a few single males talk or post quite a lot of crap, rubish like id prefer a woman/couple whos got a good personality over looks. now hey dont get me wrong if you want to pork and have fun with a ugly bugger, now thats your choice. ( we just know your desperate) personally i didnt. i preffered the good looking ones who didnt mind that i was dislexic.
we`re all mature adults!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
well supposed to be..............
barbie & ken ?????????
don`t think so.................
people need a personality!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote by m1970
People on here say you need a personality to have sex with them, well I must be the minority because I would rather have it with someone with a nice shape regardless of their personality, it's not like your going to live with them. Surely you must have to be attracted to someone before bedding them?
Please reply with a face pic.
Wife "God hes ugly luv and is a bit small",
Husband " perhaps hes got a good personality lets go for it"
That will make a good meet then. lol
Lets not forget "some" couples advertise for we, vwe and vvwe.. does that include a good personalty
Quote by H-x
There has been some research into this, although we are unaware of it, our sense of smell has a huge part to play. We are physically attracted to people who, if we were to produce children, would produce the strongest genetic make up, our pheremones contain this information and subconsiously we take it into account when we meet our 'mate'
H.x

that`s ours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and we made em together!!!!!!!!!!!
6` hunky things that everyone`ld love 2 get their hands on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
had 2 call a hault to a single fem we knew when she was after our 16 yr old boy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think in that moment in time the person or persons you are with are very precious and sharing something very profound with in a brief club encounter its surely better done with feeling,giving something of yourselves even if it is only for a one and one only wild sexual fling.
And it should great fun as well of course.
The couple I had my best ever threesome experience with weren't a Barbie and Ken,no,but they weren't ugly were just open,giving,enthusiastic and good humoured people to share sexual play with.I felt at ease with them,free to do whatever with of our personalities enhanced the physical pleasures we indulged in.
Quote by Versace Vase
In my experience over the years, quite a few single males talk or post quite a lot of crap, rubish like id prefer a woman/couple whos got a good personality over looks. now hey dont get me wrong if you want to pork and have fun with a ugly bugger, now thats your choice. ( we just know your desperate) personally i didnt. i preffered the good looking ones who didnt mind that i was dislexic.

The thing is one person's 'ugly' is another person's beautiful. Someone here commented on fancying Jo Guest whereas we think she looks like 'something the cat dragged in' wink Isn't it lucky we don't all have the same taste?
The thing is, if you get on with them and you click personality wise then you do find them 'sexually attractive', people with brains tend to find 'sexual atractiveness' is more than just looking like a 'supermodel' rolleyes