As you are probably aware, we have not been members long and are pretty new to the whole swinging world.
We are getting a lot of interested, but it seems to be a lot of people (aparntley bi females) that are asking for extra pics of us. How do you find out if these people are genuine? before we send other pics. Are there a lot of pic collectors on this site and does anyone have any advise of the members to stay away from. We dont mind sending pics of what anyone wants to see but only really to genuine members.
Any advise would be appreciated
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Picture Collectors
There are bound to be some hunni but I doubt you'll know if they're genuine until you actually meet them. You could verify who they say they are ( ie a fem or couple not just a perby male ) by chatting on cam through msn or meeting for coffee/drinks if they're local.
If you're not sure then don't send pics until you feel comfortable but don't let these spoilsports put you off having a good time.
Have fun ! :thumbup:
If you're not sure then don't send pics until you feel comfortable but don't let these spoilsports put you off having a good time.
Have fun ! :thumbup:
Hiya
To be honest I don't think pic collectors are as common as they used to be - after all we have a gallery of pics for people to view now.
I imagine you're nervous as a couple as to whether someone is genuine or not - from a single female looking to meet a couple, security is going to be very important to them.
If you send some further pics to them with your faces blurred and you're clothed and then ask them to do the same, you can start to build up the trust between you all :thumbup:
To be honest I don't think pic collectors are as common as they used to be - after all we have a gallery of pics for people to view now.
I imagine you're nervous as a couple as to whether someone is genuine or not - from a single female looking to meet a couple, security is going to be very important to them.
If you send some further pics to them with your faces blurred and you're clothed and then ask them to do the same, you can start to build up the trust between you all :thumbup:
We have tried that and they say untill they have seen the other pics they dont know if there interested. Its a hard decsion to make, we dont want our pics flying around everywhere on the net, but it we dont send them and its a genuine person we loose.....
We are starting to think this is much too much hard work..........
If there was just genuine, honest people this is site would be fantastic and every other site at that, its just a shame genuine people loose out for the sake of sad time wasters pretenting to be something there not.......urrrggghhh its makes us angry.
I think we will give it another month and see what happens......
We love the forum and most people on here seem to be genuine. its just when you try look through the photo ads you dont know what genuine and whats not.
Sorry to moan on Monday (I bloody hot one at that)
We are starting to think this is much too much hard work..........
If there was just genuine, honest people this is site would be fantastic and every other site at that, its just a shame genuine people loose out for the sake of sad time wasters pretenting to be something there not.......urrrggghhh its makes us angry.
I think we will give it another month and see what happens......
We love the forum and most people on here seem to be genuine. its just when you try look through the photo ads you dont know what genuine and whats not.
Sorry to moan on Monday (I bloody hot one at that)
Master of Sex
Its the same on any site unfortunately. You have to go with the gut instincts.
We usually have a cam conversation just to prove all people are genuine and happy. Nothing pervy at all, just to be sure on all sides.
You are going to find that if its anyone asking for pics it will be the bi-females (blokes pretending to be women) But we have never come across it yet.
And then comes the dreaded verification word......
We usually have a cam conversation just to prove all people are genuine and happy. Nothing pervy at all, just to be sure on all sides.
You are going to find that if its anyone asking for pics it will be the bi-females (blokes pretending to be women) But we have never come across it yet.
And then comes the dreaded verification word......
Sex God
Quote by davidandtracy
We have tried that and they say untill they have seen the other pics they dont know if there interested. Its a hard decsion to make, we dont want our pics flying around everywhere on the net, but it we dont send them and its a genuine person we loose.....
We are starting to think this is much too much hard work..........
If there was just genuine, honest people this is site would be fantastic and every other site at that, its just a shame genuine people loose out for the sake of sad time wasters pretenting to be something there not.......urrrggghhh its makes us angry.
I think we will give it another month and see what happens......
We love the forum and most people on here seem to be genuine. its just when you try look through the photo ads you dont know what genuine and whats not.
Sorry to moan on Monday (I bloody hot one at that)
Hi
We empathise with you totally.
When we first found this Site we were messed around and abused in the same way and now rarely use it to arrange anything. The anonymity of forums like this is bound to attract the weirder side of life.
Without reading your profile and knowing what you are looking for I can only suggest that you arrange/advertise meets in Clubs and you will soon filter out the rubbish.
We wish you luck
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We have been trying to find out when the next social or munch is in our area (surrey) and there is nothing planned at the moment, we will just keep an eye in the ''Lets Meet Up'' forum.
If anyone has any news on any of the above pleas elet us know.
Thanks everyone that has replied..... xxxxxxxxx
If anyone has any news on any of the above pleas elet us know.
Thanks everyone that has replied..... xxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Ah having read your profile - the problem is now apparant.
You seek the Holy Grail and the profile that you seek are unlikely to meet you in a Club. I would suggest that you go to a Club on a couples only night as there does seem to be large number of bi or bi curious femaels on couples only nights and this may at least start to satisfy your interests.
Good luck
You seek the Holy Grail and the profile that you seek are unlikely to meet you in a Club. I would suggest that you go to a Club on a couples only night as there does seem to be large number of bi or bi curious femaels on couples only nights and this may at least start to satisfy your interests.
Good luck
just my personal oppinion, but if someone isnt satisfied with a face pic/ clothed body pic and presses for more, then I'm afraid its a no no for me. I dont have pics on profile because i like the anonimity - but i'll give them out on request - but never immediately. Similarly, if the pics arnt reciprocated, its a no no. I never send boob/gynae pics either - face and personality are enough to tell me if i'm interested, the rest comes from a social meet, and the kind of people i'm attracted to are usually of the same mindset. If someone cant make thier mind up without seeing my boobs/ pussy in a picture then they're not the sort of people I'd meet anyway, ya know 
Thats just me though. Most people see me at socials and stuff anyway - its only if i'm contacted through the ads (which is rare now
) that I find this little hurdle 
Thats just me though. Most people see me at socials and stuff anyway - its only if i'm contacted through the ads (which is rare now
) that I find this little hurdle The only experience I have of pic collectors is the persistent numpty that was asking then badgering me then offering money the other night in chat for any pics I might have of PK 
To be honest I was a tad taken aback by it all as I'm new myself to this couple thing as far as SH is concerned
in edit: he went off with NO pics ofcourse
To be honest I was a tad taken aback by it all as I'm new myself to this couple thing as far as SH is concerned
in edit: he went off with NO pics ofcourse
Quote by sheddy
The only experience I have of pic collectors is the persistent numpty that was asking then badgering me then offering money the other night in chat for any pics I might have of PK
To be honest I was a tad taken aback by it all as I'm new myself to this couple thing as far as SH is concerned
in edit: he went off with NO pics ofcourse
oh sheddy... I thought that we agreed that you wouldn't tell anyone..... I feel hurt and betrayed :cry:
Being a character of extremely hi moral standing I normally find anyone who is genuine & asking for pics will be more than willing to converse via MSN with cam
This way vanilla pics can be sent to & fro while both parties build up a modicum of trust & friendship
At least that way the jobs a guddun :thumbup:
This way vanilla pics can be sent to & fro while both parties build up a modicum of trust & friendship
At least that way the jobs a guddun :thumbup:
Quote by davidandtracy
We have tried that and they say untill they have seen the other pics they dont know if there interested. Its a hard decsion to make, we dont want our pics flying around everywhere on the net, but it we dont send them and its a genuine person we loose.....
We are starting to think this is much too much hard work..........
If there was just genuine, honest people this is site would be fantastic and every other site at that, its just a shame genuine people loose out for the sake of sad time wasters pretenting to be something there not.......urrrggghhh its makes us angry.
I think we will give it another month and see what happens......
We love the forum and most people on here seem to be genuine. its just when you try look through the photo ads you dont know what genuine and whats not.
Sorry to moan on Monday (I bloody hot one at that)
Hi We have the same problem all the time peeps wanting pics. If the fem wont have a quick hello on phone. chance are they not geniune in my experience. Therefore i wouldnt take the chance of sending my pics out. Like steve says there is a chatroom where u can put a cam on to prove peeps are a couple.
We geniune say hi to us anytime
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Babe1
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Since writing *cam or phone essential* wherever I visit in SH towers I've had very little contact from men pretending to be women or timewasters! 
If a person is not willing to even just leave me a voicemail message (if they say thay don't feel confident enough to talk) they certainly aren't getting any pictures from me.
That usually sorts the wheat from the chaff in about 10 seconds flat!
If a person is not willing to even just leave me a voicemail message (if they say thay don't feel confident enough to talk) they certainly aren't getting any pictures from me.
That usually sorts the wheat from the chaff in about 10 seconds flat!
Orgasminator
It sounds as though you have fallen prey to picture collectors because I can't think of a reason a genuine swinger would want a full set of pics to decide whether they want to take it further or not.
If it were me, I would expect to see a face pic, even if the characteristics are blurred. Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even. If all was well, we'd talk on the phone. We would then proceed to exchanging an unedited face pic or a full body shot (clothed or not) or chat via webcam. Then we'd arrange to meet. Note here that if you do go to a meeting and the other party does not show up that does not necessarily mean he/she/they were after your pics, but probably they lost their bottle at the last minute.
Munches/socials are the best places to meet people who are serious about swinging. Speak to Robert1961 as he will be arranging another social for autumn (LOL I have just volunteered him) for people in the wider London area. The next big social is Black on White but I do not remember what area it will be in, probably far, but you could always make a weekend of it.
Good luck and don't lose hope, nor faith.
If it were me, I would expect to see a face pic, even if the characteristics are blurred. Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even. If all was well, we'd talk on the phone. We would then proceed to exchanging an unedited face pic or a full body shot (clothed or not) or chat via webcam. Then we'd arrange to meet. Note here that if you do go to a meeting and the other party does not show up that does not necessarily mean he/she/they were after your pics, but probably they lost their bottle at the last minute.
Munches/socials are the best places to meet people who are serious about swinging. Speak to Robert1961 as he will be arranging another social for autumn (LOL I have just volunteered him) for people in the wider London area. The next big social is Black on White but I do not remember what area it will be in, probably far, but you could always make a weekend of it.
Good luck and don't lose hope, nor faith.
Quote by Tania
Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even.
Personally I don't see what difference it makes as to whether you passed A levels or not, I can understand character etc but levels of education?
Quote by Alleyson
Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even.
Personally I don't see what difference it makes as to whether you passed A levels or not, I can understand character etc but levels of education?
Perhaps O levels then?
Quote by Happy Cats
Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even.
Personally I don't see what difference it makes as to whether you passed A levels or not, I can understand character etc but levels of education?
Perhaps O levels then?
I knew as soon as I hit submit that someone would say it!
Quote by Alleyson
Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even.
Personally I don't see what difference it makes as to whether you passed A levels or not, I can understand character etc but levels of education?
Perhaps O levels then?
I knew as soon as I hit submit that someone would say it!
:giggle:
I shouldn't laugh as I do see your point Alleyson!
Quote by Alleyson
Then there would be a brief exchange of emails where you can tell the other party's character, educational level, attitudes, morality even.
Personally I don't see what difference it makes as to whether you passed A levels or not, I can understand character etc but levels of education?
Perhaps O levels then?
I knew as soon as I hit submit that someone would say it!
Couldnt resist! :lol: :wink:
Quote by davidandtracy
We have tried that and they say untill they have seen the other pics they dont know if there interested. Its a hard decsion to make, we dont want our pics flying around everywhere on the net, but it we dont send them and its a genuine person we loose.....
speaking as a genuine single bi female, i have to say that personally im not interested in any action shots a couple may have, one or two good clear pics of both of your faces is all i need to make my decision, that along with a good rapport when chatting.
on the flip side, i think alot of new couples fall into the trap of fakes and begin to think thats what people want to see and will send such pics alnost straight away.......ive even occasionally been accused of not being genuine when ive cancelled peoples file transfers of action shots!
