through my trawl of the internet, and lack of success in meeting up with someone, have had phone numbers, people wanting sexy chat etc, was wondering what people are here for, judging by the posts there seems to be some genuine players, also alot of time wasters. was wondering about a players only forum. could be stricter membership categories.
What's a "player"? I play Championship Manager 4, does that qualify me?
We think this is just someone who has been messed about too often sounding off.
This is a cafe, and so should welcome everyone, when we started we knew nothing, and had done nothing, so we not have been able to join in. It was because we could join in that we got the answers we needed and have now started to have some real fun.
This forum in its current format really helped. Leave it as it is.
It seems like once a week, you get a guy coming in here complaining that people are timewasters or aren't players. This normally seems to translate as "Everyone should jump straight into bed with me or else they aren't genuine".
Most of the people in this forum have experience of swinging, and because they do they realise the value of chatting, getting to know people and generally having a good time before (or if) they want to fuck someone. Most of the guys who come here and whinge seem not to bother being friendly or chatting. They just expect a queue of people to form in front of them, full of women who are desperate to shag them.
My advice to those men is to realise that there are many reasons why people might not want to fuck them. Yes, it may be true that some people here are timewasters, but there are also who are just discriminating about who they play with, and they are not likely to bother with cocksure single males who don't bother to introduce themselves and yet expect the world to fall at their feet.
We are not swingers but I would be very sad to be excluded.
FFS I'd need a cold turkey SHAGGER. Geez the connotatation of that with Christmas and frozen turkeys coming up has just registered with me!!
Nope. I joined here on 17th September. I'm just used to posting on messageboards. They really are all the same, even if this one is about swinging.
I should clarify what I was saying. What I mean is that most people here are genuine. Either they are swingers, or they are curious - but either way, they are honest about themselves and what they want. The people who post in the Cafe are mostly genuine, friendly people and it annoys me when people come here to complain about non-response to ads, because most people who post ads don't post here. They place their ad in haste, and then check their email once a month when they remember. I'd like to think that the people who post in here are genuine enough to reply to ads, even if it's just to say "thanks but no thanks".
It's like anything else in life: you reap what you sow.
It annoys me when people think they can post an ad and wait for the semi-naked dancing girls to roll in. If they get lucky, great! But when they don't, they inevitably come here (I've seen it 10 times and I've only been here 2 weeks) and start complaining. But they've made no attempt to be friendly or interract - they just moan.
:lol: . This format seems to to work for the majority of people and those that join in whatever catergory you fall into in terms of your tastes and desires stand a fighting chance of meeting like minded people. 
), love the intellectual shagging in here 
