Hello again
After a good night's rest, I've come back to an email filled with responses to my ad but sadly today's responses are not as good as yesterday's. Today seems to be dedicated to married men looking for some extramarital fun - sorry, not my cup of tea!
Anyway, I spent a pleasant night dreaming of all the possibilities and thinking about my forthcoming date with a member of SH. Then panic set in as the reasoning part of my brain began warning me about possible dangers.
I am sure you have been there yourselves and know what I mean, but for those who are not mind readers here is what it is: safe sex.
What is the general rule or tendency in clubs/parties? Do people engage in sexual activities with barriers (condoms, gloves, latex barrier sheets) or do they just dive in, flesh to flesh? How can you safeguard your health when engaged in swinging and more important, how can you safeguard the health of your partner who is placing his/her trust upon you and your better judgement?
And what about the rooms used for play? Does anyone disinfect them between users? Are there disinfectant wipes and is it up to the players to ensure they clean up before and after?
Please educate me, help me get into swinging without seeming like a total fool to the seasoned players, explain the dos and don'ts to me with regards to safety.
Thanks.
Tania
At clubs the majority of the sex you see is safe. We have discussed this topic before at length, so if you do a search through the posts you might come across some interesting stuff. No idea about how clubs do their cleaning, but viruses such as HIV can only live for a very short space of time in the air. I believe their facilities are checked by Health and Safety though.
condoms...condoms condoms...always...like american express...never leave home without them
THERE WAS THIS GEEZER AND HE GOT PRICKED BY A HYPERDERMIC NEEDLE WHILE CLEARING SOME RUBBISH,IT WENT THROUGH HIS WENT TO THE CLINIC AND HAD AN AIDS TEST A WEEK LATER,THEY DONE ONE TO MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER BUT TOLD HIM HE MUST NOT HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH HIS WIFE FOR SIX MONTHS AS IT TAKES ROUGHLY THAT TIME FOR THE VIRUS TO TRAVEL AROUND THE SYSTEM TO BE MONTHS OF WORRYING THAT YOU MIGHT HAVE AIDS,POOR FELLA.
HE GOT THE ALL CLEAR IN THE END.
SORRY THATS 'HE' NOT 'YOU'.BAD GRAMMER.
Interesting topic.
Recently I was in a club with my partner and we swapped partners. The guy of the couple we were with had trouble with the condom and he lost his erection. He asked me if I'd do it without, to which my answer was a firm no. He then asked if I would take it in my ass without. I didn't understand why it would be ok for me to take it in my ass without when I said no to my vagina. It made me think about the reasons some people use condoms, his was blatantly to prevent pregnancy where as mine was to prevent std's and the like.
I am a female but always carry a condom with me because you can't always rely on the man to know where they are or even have some.
Don't you just hate it when they lose their erection whilst trying to get the condom on?!! My lover had this problem and we ended up having unprotected sex for a year... and here's the result: 19 weeks and counting!
There is no excuse for not carrying condoms. Period. Take risks with your own life and wellbeing if you have to, but don't endanger others.
The problem is that this is England, where sex isn't supposed to exist, where it is brushed under the carpet, where it is sorded, depraving corrupting and all of that...so...we don't get educated about it nearly enough. Yes some of us know what condoms are for, and we wonder why the rest of the people don't know, or even how they can not know...but the fact is that ignorance prevails. Witness the teenage pregnancy statistics.
Only today I saw some lunchtime Channel 4 program with Tony Blair in amongst a bunch of kids, and the subject of sex eduacation came up, and everyone condemned the state of it. These were 16 & 17 year old kids who throughout their school life, on average had had an aggregate total of 2 hours of sex education in their schools, and who openly complained about what they don't know and what they haven't been prepared for. STD's and Contraception were a main grievance points.
If it's that bad for todays kids, imagine how bad it was for someone in an older generation. Education needs to be improved for all. Just like TV adverts for tampons, once , now common place have beome acceptable, so adverts for condoms should be on telly to bring the things out into the open and to promote their usage. Additionally, clubs should have them available for free (like they do on in Dutch or German clubs), and not charge the price of a Gin & Tonic for one, because to some people, that equation will also play on the mind.
If you are really woried about being on the scene and keeping safe use condoms and go to the GUM clinic on a regular basis., you can have a routine screen anytime whether you think you have a problem or not. They know whats going around in which areas and tell you how to avoid it. And the condoms are free. They dont judge you for your lifestyle, they just look out for your health like any health care service.
Martha
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: 
Its not something we do just to frustrate you, you know :shock: :shock: :shock: 