Playing the "are they, aren't they?" game

23 May 2007

We just love playing the "are they, aren't they" game. This is particularly good fun at airports, stations etc.
We are certain we spotted some swingers this weekend. We were in a busy airport cafe and happily eating and chatting to each other when Blue said he could see this couple looking at us. Blue had spotted her in the check in queue commenting on her nice hair. What for me was the giveaway was that they were sitting opposite sides of the table, both sitting directly facing the rest of the cafe and just people watching quite obviously.
When we got up to walk out, we looked across, they were looking at us and smiling and holding our gaze for a long long time. They had a flirty kind of confidence that I think comes much mroe easily with swinging couples, (i.e. many vanilla couples are cross with their partners for simply looking)
After discussing it we thought if you did start talking (we didn't) how on earth do you bring up the conversation "So do you shag other folk recreationally then?" dunno

Has anyone ever been in this situation?
What behaviour would you think swingers may display?
I suppose it's easier if you know you'll never see them again (as in our case)as there's no chance of them being local. Blue is far more forward than me, he'd probably ask in such an unsubtle way knowing him rolleyes

whereas I'd rely on instinct and body language more to get vibes.
over to you.....
pink x

23 May 2007

I've never been very good at reading body language,always worried of being wrong...unless they litually say "wanna shag"...i wouldn't have a clue!

23 May 2007

We play that game all the time and in pubs have been CERTAIN that those people over there ARE swingers, but as its local pubs, we don't take it any further. But if we were in a non-local pub we might try and manouvere ourselves close to the couple and see if a convo could be established.
If so we would ask stuff like, where do you go on holiday? Cap D'adge??? Oh really??? Have you been in any of the clubs there??
Or, do you ever go in Gay pubs? Apparently lots of swingers go in gay pubs, does that mean???
John & Shel

23 May 2007

We played this at the Hoppins last year, waiting for the kids to finish their rides we were eying up couples wondering if they were swingers.. good fun and gets you all horny in the process! cool

23 May 2007

I know tomorrow at work Im going to be playing this game with all the customers......
Not played it before though.

23 May 2007

Jaymar, bet it was you two we saw in a pub and thought......DEFINATLY!!! Think it was the "we are swingers" T shirt which gave it away.
John & Shel

23 May 2007

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
Jaymar, bet it was you two we saw in a pub and thought......DEFINATLY!!! Think it was the "we are swingers" T shirt which gave it away.
John & Shel

yeah we bought them from the sale of your sex toys that fell out of your handbag on the rides at the hoppins! lol

Mar & Jay xx

23 May 2007

We play this game at SH munches lol

No on a more serious note i think that if you did hav a conversation with a couple you thought might be swingers you could broach it in the way we have in the past whilst on holiday, we simply started talking about the female being attractive and Miss SRNE mentioned that the male was an attractive guy too. We then casually mentioned we are "quite liberal sexually" and the "idea of having other people join us sexually" appealed to us. The flowing drink did make it easier TBH but i think we would have been confident to say what we did without it!!
Turned out the female was bi - curious but unfortunately nothing sexual happened other than some flirting and suggestive remarks :twisted: !!

23 May 2007

Love this game. It's usually us sitting at the table watching the world and his wife go by. You can tell it's us by the simultaneous 'Phwoar' from both of us when a good looking woman walks past. ;-)

23 May 2007

It can be a great game depending on when you play it :!: Mrs Tweeky has the following versions of the game she likes to play surprised

1: Is that nice then? this is the common reaction when I have initiated the game in stealth mode.
2: Caww dont look I mean dont look at that now. Means the total opposite biggrin

Mrs Tweeky has spotted boobs on display or the worlds shortest belt.
3: OHHH FUCKING NICE is she :kick: This is normally the result of initiating the game in stealth mode at the wrong time of the month rotflmao

24 May 2007

Quote by blueandpink
We just love playing the "are they, aren't they" game. This is particularly good fun at airports, stations etc.
We are certain we spotted some swingers this weekend. We were in a busy airport cafe and happily eating and chatting to each other when Blue said he could see this couple looking at us. Blue had spotted her in the check in queue commenting on her nice hair. What for me was the giveaway was that they were sitting opposite sides of the table, both sitting directly facing the rest of the cafe and just people watching quite obviously.
When we got up to walk out, we looked across, they were looking at us and smiling and holding our gaze for a long long time. They had a flirty kind of confidence that I think comes much mroe easily with swinging couples, (i.e. many vanilla couples are cross with their partners for simply looking)
After discussing it we thought if you did start talking (we didn't) how on earth do you bring up the conversation "So do you shag other folk recreationally then?"
Has anyone ever been in this situation?
What behaviour would you think swingers may display?
I suppose it's easier if you know you'll never see them again (as in our case)as there's no chance of them being local. Blue is far more forward than me, he'd probably ask in such an unsubtle way knowing him whereas I'd rely on instinct and body language more to get vibes.
over to you.....
pink x

If you had not seen her queueing to check in they may have been police. They sit around looking for people behaving in strangely at airports. Were you behaving strangely?
How would you approach someone? We were in a restaurant. We started talking with the couple on the next table. Later they asked us to a party that week end.

24 May 2007

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Later they asked us to a party that week end.

.......and.......??
<<<<< Choon in suspended animation >>>>> wink

I defy anyone here to say that they haven't done this. It is good fun and I agree with Jaymar can make you feel quite sexy - seems to create an atmosphere.
Even if they're not it can make a darn good fantasy. Jeez does that make me sound pervy?
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24 May 2007

Quote by westerross
Later they asked us to a party that week end.

.......and.......??
.....
.We had to catch a train sad

24 May 2007

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Later they asked us to a party that week end.

.......and.......??
.....
.We had to catch a train sad

..to the party?
There's nothing to be ashamed of in going to a party by train! cool

24 May 2007

Another tactic is to have a conversation (about swinging) that you know the other couple can overhear. It's pretty easy to work out whether they then start to listen in (look out for slight smiles and/or long silences in their own conversation). After a couple of minutes put the "oh gosh" expression on your face, turn to them and say "oh, I'm so sorry, I just realised how loud I was. I hope we're not offending you." Their reply will tell you all...... human nature is to say "no, no problem", but a swinger is much more likely to add "we're into it as well" or whatever.
We were talking in a pub recently. Subject was 3-somes. We hadn't realised we were being overheard by the couple on the next table. They got up to leave at the same time as I was off to the gents. As I went past them he said "3 somes are great fun" to which she added "yes, it's the only time I get a good f*****g!"

24 May 2007

Quote by blueandpink
When we got up to walk out, we looked across, they were looking at us and smiling and holding our gaze for a long long time. They had a flirty kind of confidence that I think comes much mroe easily with swinging couples,

yeah - swinging really gives us a sense of ourselves and so we look at the world in a confident way. no shy retiring types-R-US
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24 May 2007

Thanks all for your input.
Moorcroft and MR SRNE, great ideas. Shall think of those ideas if we next get into such a situation.
C'mon guys more stories please poke

24 May 2007

Quote by blueandpink
Thanks all for your input.
Moorcroft and MR SRNE, great ideas. Shall think of those ideas if we next get into such a situation.
C'mon guys more stories please

Once upon a time in a land far far away,
there lived a little girl with a red coat lol

24 May 2007

Thanks all for your input.
Moorcroft and MR SRNE, great ideas. Shall think of those ideas if we next get into such a situation.
C'mon guys more stories please

Once upon a time in a land far far away,
there lived a little girl with a red coat
I have a feeling the big bad wolf is a coming.....Mr SRNE enter stage left

24 May 2007

To be honest (and thats breaking the habit of a lifetime!) I'm rather shy and slow in making any advances of the sexual type (one lives in fear of a swift kick in the meat and two..."I'll take that as a no then?")
However, Mrs DD is as subtle as a brick in the teeth... example..
Attending a motorbike thing a couple of years ago, we are with some vanilla friends. Mrs DD sees a very nicely formed female butt wrapped in what can only be loosly termed as a skirt (the belt on my jeans was thicker!) with a lovely view of the bottom of her butt cheeks just winking away at us as she walked.
Mrs DD quickly walks forward and says "you have such a cute bum, would you mind if I gave it a stroke or two?" "not at all" says the woman much to the amazed look on our friends face.
Whilst groping away, the ladies husband asks where we are staying... "Errr.. we are driving back home to daughter" I quickly say in an effort to stop the conversation going to were we thought it was heading to... :shock:
Mrs DD enjoys her quick grope says thanks and returns to us. Through her alcoholic haze, she now realises what she has done...our friends faces are now in total confusion...FFS!!!, how the hell is she going talk her way out of this redface

She did and it involved several trips to the bar...
However... more to the point, how did she know that the woman and chap would be welcoming to her advances?? Mrs DD replies - "I can just tell - it's a look".... worship

25 May 2007

Quote by Moorcroft_69
Another tactic is to have a conversation (about swinging) that you know the other couple can overhear. It's pretty easy to work out whether they then start to listen in (look out for slight smiles and/or long silences in their own conversation). After a couple of minutes put the "oh gosh" expression on your face, turn to them and say "oh, I'm so sorry, I just realised how loud I was. I hope we're not offending you." Their reply will tell you all...... human nature is to say "no, no problem", but a swinger is much more likely to add "we're into it as well" or whatever.

If someone did this next to me I would have to hand them a little gold statue.
Reminds me of a time as well when Me and Mrs Tweeky were sat in a restraunt and two girls on the next table were having a conversation about thier friend not that she would still call them that if they heard what was being said about her. One piped up quite loudly and excitedly at one point and said " I dont know what ***** is doing with her he's gorgeous I would fuck him anytime"
Woman rolleyes

us blokes dont do things like that bolt