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Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple[/quote
You joined the site on 16th November and I remember reading quite a lot of your posts, laughing at your comments, agreeing with you etc etc etc, You have joined in, made yourself known, and let your personality show through. In other words you put in the effort and people on here have appreciated it (well, I appreciate your posts)
Hey im in love now!!!!
Come to glasgow where i will lavish large amounts of ironing and housework upon you.
Seriously though sccouple,no ones TELLING you to go, but if you feel its no fun then dont do it, but i think if you were a little more relaxed about the whole thing youd have better results, after all no one likes pushiness and it does come across to me anyway that youre attitude seems to be a teensy bit pushy. Rihgt im going back into dafty mode all this thinking tires me out!
I guess some people wanna do "hi, here I am, lets fuck" despite knowing nowt and caring less, about the people they might fuck.
Personally, I find the sites where you can do this both impersonal and improbabable. No-one in their right mind would do something so stoopid, surely? I tried another AFFul site and much as they "talk the talk" there really is no 'adult' contact, by which I mean making friends and letting things progress*.
Childishly, those that do get any are acting like we did when I was a kid, pre disease awareness, etc, and lived by the the F's. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em.
Now I have aged (and put childish things behind me
) I no longer need nor desire this kind of life.
*We just wanted to make friends and not have to back off and feel bad if things got even vaguely sexual.
We have met, and laid, more than a handful of people from SH. ALL orf whom we are honoured to call our friends.
Personally, I find the sites where you can do this both impersonal and improbabable. No-one in their right mind would do something so stoopid, surely? I tried another AFFul site and much as they "talk the talk" there really is no 'adult' contact, by which I mean making friends and letting things progress*.
Childishly, those that do get any are acting like we did when I was a kid, pre disease awareness, etc, and lived by the the F's. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em.
Now I have aged (and put childish things behind me
) I no longer need nor desire this kind of life.*We just wanted to make friends and not have to back off and feel bad if things got even vaguely sexual.
We have met, and laid, more than a handful of people from SH. ALL orf whom we are honoured to call our friends.
Sex God
ooooh... 10 days away an my 1st proper post back...
all i am going to say is have a lot look back at what you have written, and look at it from the view of what you have written.....
to be honest, and i am not having a pop in any way shape or form...it doesn't show you in the best light...
in fact going a bit further, you have done well to be invited to the portsmouth social...if only for the fact that you haven't been on long and haven't written much, from a security point of view i hope you see what i am getting at...
so you are going to an event in 2 weeks rather than saw you are excited and looking forward to that...you chose to complain...
there were 50+ people in glasgow last weekend, i am guessing there are going to be 100+ people in wigan on saturday...... do you have you name down for other events, doncaster, birmingham, london, isle of wight, nottingham, bristol????
not everyone can go to every event, but what you will find is that people from all over the country will try to support as many events as posiible, work, money and other events permitting........
i know it is a cliche.... but in this case you do get out what you put in, and patience in this case is very much a virtue.....
I hope it does go well for you.... and once you go to once maybe you'll come to more...
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
all i am going to say is have a lot look back at what you have written, and look at it from the view of what you have written.....
to be honest, and i am not having a pop in any way shape or form...it doesn't show you in the best light...
in fact going a bit further, you have done well to be invited to the portsmouth social...if only for the fact that you haven't been on long and haven't written much, from a security point of view i hope you see what i am getting at...
so you are going to an event in 2 weeks rather than saw you are excited and looking forward to that...you chose to complain...
there were 50+ people in glasgow last weekend, i am guessing there are going to be 100+ people in wigan on saturday...... do you have you name down for other events, doncaster, birmingham, london, isle of wight, nottingham, bristol????
not everyone can go to every event, but what you will find is that people from all over the country will try to support as many events as posiible, work, money and other events permitting........
i know it is a cliche.... but in this case you do get out what you put in, and patience in this case is very much a virtue.....
I hope it does go well for you.... and once you go to once maybe you'll come to more...
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Vix
I guess some people wanna do "hi, here I am, lets fuck" despite knowing nowt and caring less, about the people they might fuck.
Personally, I find the sites where you can do this both impersonal and improbabable. No-one in their right mind would do something so stoopid, surely? I tried another AFFul site and much as they "talk the talk" there really is no 'adult' contact, by which I mean making friends and letting things progress*.
Childishly, those that do get any are acting like we did when I was a kid, pre disease awareness, etc, and lived by the the F's. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em.
Now I have aged (and put childish things behind me
*We just wanted to make friends and not have to back off and feel bad if things got even vaguely sexual.
We have met, and laid, more than a handful of people from SH. ALL orf whom we are honoured to call our friends.
You been on the poppers again Vix? :P
PS: 'Hi' to Reese
Sex God
Quote by sccouple
As a matter of fact we had followed up but no decent replies... one of them was even moaning at us!
No decent replies? Well I hope Missy, The Muttleys, and all the other members who expressed an interest are not offended by your comments :undecided:
I also don't see anyone moaning at you either, unless you took this as a moan?
Quote by RedHot
Funin and Mike are already thinking abvout planning a possible social night in Southampton.
Details here : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/62367.html
This is planned if it goes ahead to be on a Mondy evening, but perhaps if there is enough interest, a Fri or Sat may be possible?
Tracy-Jayne
This was merely some advice not a moan ffs! You are new to the site and as a local social is already being planned, I thought you may not have seen the thread and merely pointed you in that direction.
You could have put your names down to attend that one first to get yourselves known and see how it's done on SH.
After all, as you've already said yourself, you did not get the quality or quantity of replies you may have wished for on your own thread. This is almost entirely down to the fact of your newness.
We know very little about you, so given the choise of a social night organised by a known member or a relative newbie, most people would opt for the know element which is natural.
I doubt from seeing your attitude now, that many people would want to come to any event you may be planning anyway. It seems that most the them are not *decent enough* for you lot
T-J
Sex God
Hi guys 
I obviously do not know your circumstances, but like yourselves We live in the south, and have found that until recently, south and southwest activity was very slow, if not no-existent.
Luckily for us southerners, things could be looking up (as we’d always hoped) and we have certainly done our bit to promote this site whenever possible throughout the south and with luck, it is beginning to pay off. That is not to say that we claim any credit for the influx of people from the south, but we are sure that every little must help. As has been said ad infinitum, you get out of this lifestyle (and this site) what you put into it.
Now this is not directed at the originator of this thread personally, but I wonder just how many people who come on here and whinge about the lack of action, have actually bothered to make any real sort of effort? For instance, how many use-groups have they created on , MSM, Geocities, Blue yonder all the other possibly thousands of places where it is possible to create news-groups, user groups, personal webspace, blogs, etc etc? and out of those that have, how many of them promote this site?
We run three group swing sites, two of which are location specific, one MSM user group, a personal website, and 360, on all of the above there is a prominent link to this site because we would love for more and more people from our geographic location to join. Whenever we go to a non SH meet, we talk about the site, every new IM contact we make, we talk about the site. So to all of those who join SH expecting a lavish and immediate introduction to some Romanesque debauchery, all I can say is, in the words of Britney Spears …. “Why don’t YOU do something?â€
To be honest, we did get a little despondent in the first few months of being here, and we even took some time out (though that was for other reasons) but in the end we decided that nothing is for nothing in this life, so when you get handed such a wonderful free resourse such as SH there has to be a price, and the price for us has been patience, determination and effort.
Yes we can now look back at the times when we despaired of ever taking our needs and desires beyond the stage of fantasy, and smile, that oh so knowing secret smile, but that smile is made sweeter by the knowledge that we worked hard to achieve our results.
There are many restrictions to this lifestyle, and I think that me and my lovely Caron probably suffer from most of them. Time wasters, location, lack of free time, lack of money, problems with transport, nippers at home, age, and be being an ugly old git lol. But we got there in the end and now have a lovely circle of friends that is slowly expanding all the time. Who knows, one day we might even make it to a munch.
Our advice? Stick with it, want it badly enough, and be prepared to put the effort in.
I obviously do not know your circumstances, but like yourselves We live in the south, and have found that until recently, south and southwest activity was very slow, if not no-existent.
Luckily for us southerners, things could be looking up (as we’d always hoped) and we have certainly done our bit to promote this site whenever possible throughout the south and with luck, it is beginning to pay off. That is not to say that we claim any credit for the influx of people from the south, but we are sure that every little must help. As has been said ad infinitum, you get out of this lifestyle (and this site) what you put into it.
Now this is not directed at the originator of this thread personally, but I wonder just how many people who come on here and whinge about the lack of action, have actually bothered to make any real sort of effort? For instance, how many use-groups have they created on , MSM, Geocities, Blue yonder all the other possibly thousands of places where it is possible to create news-groups, user groups, personal webspace, blogs, etc etc? and out of those that have, how many of them promote this site?
We run three group swing sites, two of which are location specific, one MSM user group, a personal website, and 360, on all of the above there is a prominent link to this site because we would love for more and more people from our geographic location to join. Whenever we go to a non SH meet, we talk about the site, every new IM contact we make, we talk about the site. So to all of those who join SH expecting a lavish and immediate introduction to some Romanesque debauchery, all I can say is, in the words of Britney Spears …. “Why don’t YOU do something?â€
To be honest, we did get a little despondent in the first few months of being here, and we even took some time out (though that was for other reasons) but in the end we decided that nothing is for nothing in this life, so when you get handed such a wonderful free resourse such as SH there has to be a price, and the price for us has been patience, determination and effort.
Yes we can now look back at the times when we despaired of ever taking our needs and desires beyond the stage of fantasy, and smile, that oh so knowing secret smile, but that smile is made sweeter by the knowledge that we worked hard to achieve our results.
There are many restrictions to this lifestyle, and I think that me and my lovely Caron probably suffer from most of them. Time wasters, location, lack of free time, lack of money, problems with transport, nippers at home, age, and be being an ugly old git lol. But we got there in the end and now have a lovely circle of friends that is slowly expanding all the time. Who knows, one day we might even make it to a munch.
Our advice? Stick with it, want it badly enough, and be prepared to put the effort in.
Sex God
What a pathetic whinge :huh:
Sex God
Quote by postie
Are we on the wrong site. if so can anyone suggest any other sites
Steven and Caz
Here ya go
Hope you are as happy there ! :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
T-J
Orgasminator
Quote by Angel Chat
A familiar pattern which I call the "WAFT" process:
Whinge by newbie
Advice from regs
Flounce by newbie
Tata
We've been wafted again.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Excellent, I'd never had any idea there was a name for it :giggle: Brilliant! :rotflmao:
:rotflmao:
ta very muchly Ice... :giggle:
Sex God
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Quote by Pete_sw
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Pete
They are still about, and I bet, reading this and taking notes
phredd G?xxx
Quote by postie
Are we on the wrong site. if so can anyone suggest any other sites
Steven and Caz
Here ya go
Hope you are as happy there ! That should suit them down to the ground.
I was tempted to post something like 'give it time' and be friendly. But, to be honest after reading the whole thread - I just can't be botheredd. They obviously are happy complaining and wish to go elsewhere - so why not?
If they can't be bothered to make an effort - I'm afraid, neither can I.
Sex God
Quote by Alexandra
If they can't be bothered to make an effort - I'm afraid, neither can I.
You know Alex, I really wish I'd waited before I went to all that effort, because that's the most sensible sentence on a thread of sensible suggestions
Sex God
Quote by Fred aka Medic 1
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Pete
They are still about, and I bet, reading this and taking notes
phredd G?xxx
Well let's hope they don't start any more whingeing threads :roll: :roll: :roll:
It hacks me off after a long day's work. I come here to enjoy myself.
Sex God
Quote by EagerSlut
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Pete
They are still about, and I bet, reading this and taking notes
phredd G?xxx
Well let's hope they don't start any more whingeing threads :roll: :roll: :roll:
It hacks me off after a long day's work. I come here to enjoy myself.
Blatant Hijack
:shock: :shock: :shock: And this from you ES :shock: :shock:
uwwe me truks coald, the flatbeds too wide, I can't park it, its too long, its got too much of an overhang........................... ring any bells?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
now ive done it
Sex God
Quote by Pete_sw
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
's awright mate, you weren't at your best when you wrote it anyways
Only joking Pete.......... twas a nice post actually :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by Pete_sw
:shock: :shock: :shock:
Feckinell .......... there was one reply to this thread when i started to write my "war and peace" version .............. now you lot have fecked them off they'll never get to raed it ffs
note to self ........................... take anal ratention and send to Siberia
:shock: deja vu
Pete
They are still about, and I bet, reading this and taking notes
phredd G?xxx
Well let's hope they don't start any more whingeing threads :roll: :roll: :roll:
It hacks me off after a long day's work. I come here to enjoy myself.
Blatant Hijack
:shock: :shock: :shock: And this from you ES :shock: :shock:
uwwe me truks coald, the flatbeds too wide, I can't park it, its too long, its got too much of an overhang........................... ring any bells?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
now ive done it
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
Um..............
ops: :oops: Bad Pete
:smackbottom: :eeek: :eeek:
Sex God
Quote by Vix
I guess some people wanna do "hi, here I am, lets fuck" despite knowing nowt and caring less, about the people they might fuck.
Personally, I find the sites where you can do this both impersonal and improbabable. No-one in their right mind would do something so stoopid, surely? I tried another AFFul site and much as they "talk the talk" there really is no 'adult' contact, by which I mean making friends and letting things progress*.
Childishly, those that do get any are acting like we did when I was a kid, pre disease awareness, etc, and lived by the the F's. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em.
Now I have aged (and put childish things behind me
*We just wanted to make friends and not have to back off and feel bad if things got even vaguely sexual.
We have met, and laid, more than a handful of people from SH. ALL orf whom we are honoured to call our friends.
says it all really :thumbup:
Yes! We have been taking note and reading your replies
Sadly some of you took offence to our blunt remarks, to which we are truly sorry. But under the circumstances, it was the only way to get to the truth we were looking for.
Yes! like many of you out there, we understand the meaning of responsibility, security but most importantly respect and the truth.
For the record: Although we are newbies to your site we followed your rules by joining in as much as feasably as possible... replying to threads ...new topics etc as commitments would allow.
We understand that some of you are just content with sitting behind a computer to get your kicks... thats fine
Some of you, like us, want to get out and meet other like minded people to socialise and when some sort of trust has bonded, then go wherever the mutual mood takes us (this is not our first time in that department) so we do understand
However, when we did kindly ask to attend your socials and meets... we either got no replies or told we were too new... despite learning tonight that single males get invited in far less time (a week!)
When we asked if anyone wanted to meet us.. Yes!, people initially replied to which we were greatful and excited but unfortunately when we responded back in turn... no one wanted to know anymore.
A further attempt was made to arrange a social meet... but again no one replied or explained why we were given the cold shoulder.
dosnt this count as making an effort? Althogh 37 replies wasnt enough... we are restricted as "newbies" we loose either way
we are not a pushy couple as when we get no replies... we respect that and so we dont continue to pester, we just want an honest answer
Yes we know that we have only been on this site for a short while, and must wait until we are vetted and trusted by everyone before we are allowed to meet. but when we here of single males being trusted in far less time than a harmless "family" couple like us, you cant blame us for feeling a bit let down and disapointed?
Think about it! anyone can hide behind a computer screen and call themselfs what they want and say what they like! I and no one would be any of the wiser! All WE tried to do is let everyone see exactly what we were really like... Honesty comes before Trust.
Disappointingly, our last thread reavealed just how many of you were quick to jump down on us, take the piss and tell us where to go. Admittingly although we wernt excited about many of your comments.. But it did at least explain how you REALLY felt about us, and it did explain why we were being ignored when it came to following up with those intended meets.
If your asking us to prove ourselfs behind a computer screen, then sorry we cannot. As we could lie to you as much as possible, and vise versa.
Now the truth is out! there is no more bad feelings from us with the fact, that you do not wish to know us.... just wish you were more honest with us in the first place.
Obviously, as a result of tonights revelations we will not be visiting the site anymore. Caz is too upset by this all and I have always backed her 500%. So if anyone knows who is responsible for removing our details from your list could you please either pass on this message or delete them for us, as i cant seem to able to do this myself
The best of luck to you all in what you do to be happy
Thanks
Sadly some of you took offence to our blunt remarks, to which we are truly sorry. But under the circumstances, it was the only way to get to the truth we were looking for.
Yes! like many of you out there, we understand the meaning of responsibility, security but most importantly respect and the truth.
For the record: Although we are newbies to your site we followed your rules by joining in as much as feasably as possible... replying to threads ...new topics etc as commitments would allow.
We understand that some of you are just content with sitting behind a computer to get your kicks... thats fine
Some of you, like us, want to get out and meet other like minded people to socialise and when some sort of trust has bonded, then go wherever the mutual mood takes us (this is not our first time in that department) so we do understand
However, when we did kindly ask to attend your socials and meets... we either got no replies or told we were too new... despite learning tonight that single males get invited in far less time (a week!)
When we asked if anyone wanted to meet us.. Yes!, people initially replied to which we were greatful and excited but unfortunately when we responded back in turn... no one wanted to know anymore.
A further attempt was made to arrange a social meet... but again no one replied or explained why we were given the cold shoulder.
dosnt this count as making an effort? Althogh 37 replies wasnt enough... we are restricted as "newbies" we loose either way
we are not a pushy couple as when we get no replies... we respect that and so we dont continue to pester, we just want an honest answer
Yes we know that we have only been on this site for a short while, and must wait until we are vetted and trusted by everyone before we are allowed to meet. but when we here of single males being trusted in far less time than a harmless "family" couple like us, you cant blame us for feeling a bit let down and disapointed?
Think about it! anyone can hide behind a computer screen and call themselfs what they want and say what they like! I and no one would be any of the wiser! All WE tried to do is let everyone see exactly what we were really like... Honesty comes before Trust.
Disappointingly, our last thread reavealed just how many of you were quick to jump down on us, take the piss and tell us where to go. Admittingly although we wernt excited about many of your comments.. But it did at least explain how you REALLY felt about us, and it did explain why we were being ignored when it came to following up with those intended meets.
If your asking us to prove ourselfs behind a computer screen, then sorry we cannot. As we could lie to you as much as possible, and vise versa.
Now the truth is out! there is no more bad feelings from us with the fact, that you do not wish to know us.... just wish you were more honest with us in the first place.
Obviously, as a result of tonights revelations we will not be visiting the site anymore. Caz is too upset by this all and I have always backed her 500%. So if anyone knows who is responsible for removing our details from your list could you please either pass on this message or delete them for us, as i cant seem to able to do this myself
The best of luck to you all in what you do to be happy
Thanks
Orgasminator
:| :| :| :| :| Quote by sccouple
However, when we did kindly ask to attend your socials and meets... we either got no replies or told we were too new... despite learning tonight that single males get invited in far less time (a week!)
but when we here of single males being trusted in far less time than a harmless "family" couple like us, you cant blame us for feeling a bit let down and disapointed?
My first thoughts are "How fucking dare you ! ! ! ! ! !"
One of the "secrets" of this place, and I dare say; the "lifestyle" is one of attitude.
Yours stinks.
What the fuck makes you any more trustworthy or "harmless" ????
It wasn't because he/they were the dreaded "single males" - It was because they had and have the right attitude.
:gagged:
Sex God
Quote by dambuster
However, when we did kindly ask to attend your socials and meets... we either got no replies or told we were too new... despite learning tonight that single males get invited in far less time (a week!)
but when we here of single males being trusted in far less time than a harmless "family" couple like us, you cant blame us for feeling a bit let down and disapointed?
My first thoughts are "How fucking dare you ! ! ! ! ! !"
One of the "secrets" of this place, and I dare say; the "lifestyle" is one of attitude.
Yours stinks.
What the fuck makes you any more trustworthy or "harmless" ????
It wasn't because he/they were the dreaded "single males" - It was because they had and have the right attitude.
:gagged:
What he said. Well done that man :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by dambuster
However, when we did kindly ask to attend your socials and meets... we either got no replies or told we were too new... despite learning tonight that single males get invited in far less time (a week!)
but when we here of single males being trusted in far less time than a harmless "family" couple like us, you cant blame us for feeling a bit let down and disapointed?
My first thoughts are "How fucking dare you ! ! ! ! ! !"
One of the "secrets" of this place, and I dare say; the "lifestyle" is one of attitude.
Yours stinks.
What the fuck makes you any more trustworthy or "harmless" ????
It wasn't because he/they were the dreaded "single males" - It was because they had and have the right attitude.
:gagged:
:cheers: 