This is the single most sexiest aspect of swinging for me; pleasuring another mans wife is the horniest thing i can think off.
How do the rest of you feel about this? Single guys what gets you off about it? The married men, how about you? And finally the lovely horny wives, what do you like about it?
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Pleasuring another man's wife. Lets have all points of view
Sex God
All I can say is that if you want to buy shoes fer someone else's mrs. then knock yourself out.
:rotflmao::rotflmao::rotflmao:
Casanova
For me it is a massive put-off to realise or be told that a man I am flirting with is particularly aroused by my marital status. I will admit some are worse than others, ie. there are different reasons and motivations that make men like going with other people's wives...
But at the end of the day, I find this approach a bit disrespectful: I am not someone else's wife, I am my own person - I even buy my own shoes, on occasion! (
skinny) Also, I look to the swinging scene for sexual liberation, not for a reminder of how proprietary our relationships really are, still.
But at the end of the day, I find this approach a bit disrespectful: I am not someone else's wife, I am my own person - I even buy my own shoes, on occasion! (
skinny) Also, I look to the swinging scene for sexual liberation, not for a reminder of how proprietary our relationships really are, still. Well said pebble.
From my point of view as the fem half of a long term couple but not actually married, the best bit is that it reminds me of how great my love life is with my partner. The guys pleasuring me do their best but they are never as good as tiny, This maybe due to lack of an emotional connection with playmates or that tiny knows my body so well and how to stimulate it that I am guaranteed a pleasurable time or most likely a bit of both.
From my point of view as the fem half of a long term couple but not actually married, the best bit is that it reminds me of how great my love life is with my partner. The guys pleasuring me do their best but they are never as good as tiny, This maybe due to lack of an emotional connection with playmates or that tiny knows my body so well and how to stimulate it that I am guaranteed a pleasurable time or most likely a bit of both.
Warming the Bed
Well....... I am someone who likes pleasuring and taking pleasure with someones wife. The reason I guess it's seen as naughty, and that's something that could be seen as a kink. People get on by all sorts of things, but I think a large part of it is because they can be seen as socially unacceptable or naughty etc - Why do some men like womens underwear for example.
So maybe the turn on for people is playing with the concept that during our swinging lifes we can shed our social inhibitions and become sexually liberated. Whether societies rules make sense is something very different though.
So maybe the turn on for people is playing with the concept that during our swinging lifes we can shed our social inhibitions and become sexually liberated. Whether societies rules make sense is something very different though.
Sex God
we talked about this a while back after a guy emailed us about a month after we had a meet with him,
he explained how he relived the night over and over and wanted a repeat meeting
we read the mail closed it and then both said we couldn't even remember what he looked like and had to look at his profile to remember
in fact when we started to think about it,we couldn't really recall details of any of the people we had met including couples. for us it proved we was far more into seeing each other enjoying themselves. and other people in our sex life are just people or pawns if you like, and absolutely none of them made a real memorable impression regardless of how good they where/are
and i think this is where tinytimmy hits the nail on the head with no real emotional connection
the question now:
is pleasuring another mans wife really making the difference that guys think it is
he explained how he relived the night over and over and wanted a repeat meeting
we read the mail closed it and then both said we couldn't even remember what he looked like and had to look at his profile to remember
in fact when we started to think about it,we couldn't really recall details of any of the people we had met including couples. for us it proved we was far more into seeing each other enjoying themselves. and other people in our sex life are just people or pawns if you like, and absolutely none of them made a real memorable impression regardless of how good they where/are
and i think this is where tinytimmy hits the nail on the head with no real emotional connection
the question now:
is pleasuring another mans wife really making the difference that guys think it is
Quote by jfpassingfun
Well....... I am someone who likes pleasuring and taking pleasure with someones wife. The reason I guess it's seen as naughty, and that's something that could be seen as a kink. People get on by all sorts of things, but I think a large part of it is because they can be seen as socially unacceptable or naughty etc - Why do some men like womens underwear for example.
So maybe the turn on for people is playing with the concept that during our swinging lifes we can shed our social inhibitions and become sexually liberated. Whether societies rules make sense is something very different though.
I am a woman who likes a man to pleasure me, and for me to pleasure him whilst my partner watches, this is a big turn on for all 3 of us. I love the attention I get from someone new, a different body, a different experience, everything! The anticipation, the seduction, the kissing, the touching, I am always so aroused and can't get enough of someone new to be honest! Hubby gets his fantasy acted out in front of his very eyes and is in heaven. The man gets turned on by me and the fact that he is fucking someone's partner... Orgasms all round......
Quote by Sookie_boo_boo
Well....... I am someone who likes pleasuring and taking pleasure with someones wife. The reason I guess it's seen as naughty, and that's something that could be seen as a kink. People get on by all sorts of things, but I think a large part of it is because they can be seen as socially unacceptable or naughty etc - Why do some men like womens underwear for example.
So maybe the turn on for people is playing with the concept that during our swinging lifes we can shed our social inhibitions and become sexually liberated. Whether societies rules make sense is something very different though.
I am a woman who likes a man to pleasure me, and for me to pleasure him whilst my partner watches, this is a big turn on for all 3 of us. I love the attention I get from someone new, a different body, a different experience, everything! The anticipation, the seduction, the kissing, the touching, I am always so aroused and can't get enough of someone new to be honest! Hubby gets his fantasy acted out in front of his very eyes and is in heaven. The man gets turned on by me and the fact that he is fucking someone's partner... Orgasms all round......
Brilliant post, sums it up for me.
I am the husband who loves the talking about doing it, the getting ready and watching her becoming excited, the travelling to the selected location the excitement of waiting and then eventually watching her getting aroused, exposed to the lucky guy and then watching them pleasuring each other. It is obviously a mind pleasure for me.
It is true to say that there are guys out there who get off on the fact that (in their eyes) they are devouring another mans woman. I shared both my ex wives (not the reason we split up lol) and met a couple of such men. In both cases it was a one off event and they wanted to "own" her whilst it took place. For me and the ladies in question it did not add to the excitement on either occasion.
My 1st wife i shared twice,my 2nd several times.
I have shared 3 other girlfriends but my current lady will not go through with it despite secretly yearning for a young muscular man to fuck her as she runs her nails over his abs - her fantasy.
I first shared a mates girlfriend when i was 16,she was 18 and he was 17.
Whilst it was a great experience i felt/wondered if she only went through with it to please him and at no time did i want to own her.
Later,when i shared my 1st wife it was a lovely experience for all of us. Highly erotic and very memorable. It lasted from late afternoon until early the next morning.
The 2nd time i shared her it was with a work colleague and whilst very intense it lasted only an hour or so. He was aggressive in fucking her and after cumming firstly over her then in her mouth he insisted on putting his cock back up inside her,telling/instructing me to "use her mouth,i am staying in here". We didnt have a repeat performance.
I later moved on and had a few girlfriends.
I shared two of these. One lady was shared with five guys on one occasion,exhausting all of us. We split up (on very good terms) shortly afterwards but she quickly went on to marry a celeb who is still very much in the public eye. An older guy who often looks understandably tired. It gives me a grin from time to time.
Then i remarried. I shared my 2nd wife with two local neighbours/friends after a BBQ at one of their houses. One of these guys was in to "owning". Whilst not aggresive he wouldnt let her go after fucking her. Again we didnt repeat it.
I shared her or rather we shared ourselves several times over the next few years. We bought an old pub/inn near Colchester and she was a very popular lady.
Sadly we sort of drifted apart,after selling the pub and returning back to our house i eventually moved out one Sunday night and surprise surprise my best mate moved in on the Monday! I still miss him. lol . I was fairly indifferent about it at the time but thinking back he then not only slept every night in what was my bed with what was my Mrs but also drove what was my car. LOL.
Fair enough you may say but he was even wearing the remaining clothes i had left there!!
Now i am with a lovely lady,we are both happy but i will admit i am frustrated by her lack of willingness to realise her dream.
I even arranged for a couple of guys from here to meet up with us on some pretext but it went nowhere. She says she wants a young,muscular nice guy to get to know her/us,become friends then gradually seduce her.
Leaving that to fate is like buying a lottery ticket. Its never going to happen.
Hence here i am.
Regards to all.
My 1st wife i shared twice,my 2nd several times.
I have shared 3 other girlfriends but my current lady will not go through with it despite secretly yearning for a young muscular man to fuck her as she runs her nails over his abs - her fantasy.
I first shared a mates girlfriend when i was 16,she was 18 and he was 17.
Whilst it was a great experience i felt/wondered if she only went through with it to please him and at no time did i want to own her.
Later,when i shared my 1st wife it was a lovely experience for all of us. Highly erotic and very memorable. It lasted from late afternoon until early the next morning.
The 2nd time i shared her it was with a work colleague and whilst very intense it lasted only an hour or so. He was aggressive in fucking her and after cumming firstly over her then in her mouth he insisted on putting his cock back up inside her,telling/instructing me to "use her mouth,i am staying in here". We didnt have a repeat performance.
I later moved on and had a few girlfriends.
I shared two of these. One lady was shared with five guys on one occasion,exhausting all of us. We split up (on very good terms) shortly afterwards but she quickly went on to marry a celeb who is still very much in the public eye. An older guy who often looks understandably tired. It gives me a grin from time to time.
Then i remarried. I shared my 2nd wife with two local neighbours/friends after a BBQ at one of their houses. One of these guys was in to "owning". Whilst not aggresive he wouldnt let her go after fucking her. Again we didnt repeat it.
I shared her or rather we shared ourselves several times over the next few years. We bought an old pub/inn near Colchester and she was a very popular lady.
Sadly we sort of drifted apart,after selling the pub and returning back to our house i eventually moved out one Sunday night and surprise surprise my best mate moved in on the Monday! I still miss him. lol . I was fairly indifferent about it at the time but thinking back he then not only slept every night in what was my bed with what was my Mrs but also drove what was my car. LOL.
Fair enough you may say but he was even wearing the remaining clothes i had left there!!
Now i am with a lovely lady,we are both happy but i will admit i am frustrated by her lack of willingness to realise her dream.
I even arranged for a couple of guys from here to meet up with us on some pretext but it went nowhere. She says she wants a young,muscular nice guy to get to know her/us,become friends then gradually seduce her.
Leaving that to fate is like buying a lottery ticket. Its never going to happen.
Hence here i am.
Regards to all.
Sex God
What I don't like is when single guys send messages to my hubby asking to join us, as if the decision is all his and I don't have a say! (Well I suppose I am just the wife hey) 
Needless to say, I am very polite in my response!
Needless to say, I am very polite in my response!
We used to regularly play with a friend of my wife. It was soft stuff really - blowjobs mainly (and she loved to swallow) and just one occasion when we fucked wearing a cover. Then she got married and continued to play with us - but much less frequently. Anyway, one time, she was sucking me and I reached down to play with her clit. She was soaking - literally dripping. So I massaged her clit in a gentle circular action. After just a couple of minutes, she said "oh fuck it" and threw a leg across my hips. She then proceeded to lower her soaking wet but very tight and extremely hot pussy onto my cock. I didn't know what to do at first and the moment I thought about the fact that I was bareback inside another man's wife I exploded. She just got off me and wandered over to talk to my wife and another of her friends. She repeated the act a couple of days later (It was my birthday weekend!!). I often have a sly wank thinking about it. The fact that her husband treated her like crap (no, he wasn't invited - nor even aware) and moreso that he had no idea that I had cum in his wife was such a turn on. We turned her bi that weekend as well. She seemed to love every minute of it.
Forum Virgin
I look upon it as an honour to be invited to join a couple in their lovemaking and am fully aware that I am a form of 'rent-a-cock'. That said I do get turned on by her husband's excitement as he watches me enter her and having swung as a couple in the past know that my partner enjoyed having a strangers cock in her with me present.
Warming the Bed
I totally agree with Yorknudeguy. I treat it as an absolute honour to be invited also and the couple ‘both’ have my utmost respect and admiration. I do not forget that I am an invited guest and have to fit in with the couple. First and foremost I want to make sure the woman feels at ease and enjoys herself. I also like to make sure the male feels involved and not left out. It gives me pleasure to know I have enhanced a couples relationship and sex life. The biggest pleasure for me is seeing the wife orgasm while I am attending to her, while the husband maybe holds her hand and watches us while encouraging us both.
Quote by Lizaleanrob
we talked about this a while back after a guy emailed us about a month after we had a meet with him,
he explained how he relived the night over and over and wanted a repeat meeting
we read the mail closed it and then both said we couldn't even remember what he looked like and had to look at his profile to remember
in fact when we started to think about it,we couldn't really recall details of any of the people we had met including couples. for us it proved we was far more into seeing each other enjoying themselves. and other people in our sex life are just people or pawns if you like, and absolutely none of them made a real memorable impression regardless of how good they where/are
and i think this is where tinytimmy hits the nail on the head with no real emotional connection
the question now:
is pleasuring another mans wife really making the difference that guys think it is
Lizaleanrob, totally agree with this statement. We are about to entertain another man in our sex life for it is my fantasy to have two men at the same time. There is no emotional connection between the other guy and me, there has been lots of messages to and fro and it is just a fun sexual experience as I know when I am at home the best man for me will always been my husband.
I have fucked another man's wife bareback in front of him - and creampied her, which is what they wanted. It was surreal as it was my first experience of swinging.
I am now in a fantastic marriage with a lady who is perfect in every way. She has a friend whose husband was a real wanker, running around behind her back and treating her like shit. Before she got married, she had had a few threesomes with me and the wife. Eventually, she visited after she realised what a bastard her husband is. She was sucking me while my wife watched and talked to another of her friends (It was my birthday treat) and on her initiative she climbed astride me and slid down onto me bareback. The very thought that I was inside one of my wife's oldest friends and that her husband knew nothing about it made me blow. The thought that his wife was getting her revenge sex with me was such a turn on. After I had cum inside her, she just climbed off and went across to chat to my wife and her other friend.
I have also watched my wife with our fuckbuddy a few times. It is such a turn on to hear her say "put his cock in me sweetheart" and then watch it slide into her after I have placed him at the entrance to her pussy.
We are a confident couple who are secure in our relationship and with our sexuality. I trust her and vice versa. I have told her she is free to fuck other men if she wants to.
Warming the Bed
fucking a woman that you shouldn't be fucking is absolutely the best sex ever
Pleasuring another man's wife gives value all round. I know as "4a3some" I have been doing this for years (on a very discreet basis). I accept it might be very unacceptable practice for some.
But I do not know a more rewarding activity for all concerned sexwise.
Just to watch a wife look at her husband whilst having sex with another is fantastic. xxxxxx
4a3some
Warming the Bed
Quote by Funlovers2009
What I don't like is when single guys send messages to my hubby asking to join us, as if the decision is all his and I don't have a say! (Well I suppose I am just the wife hey)
Needless to say, I am very polite in my response!
I would say he was showing respect to your husband, but can still understand how you were a bit miffed. But how would your husband feel if he only contacted you. I try to keep in touch with them both by creating a group chat. So that I am contacting them both instead of just the one.
