Pre munch feelings

21 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster

I love munches :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:thumbup:
My sentiment entirely kiss

:thumbup:
how did you feel going to your first one though?

21 Jan 2007

Quote by hisandhers
our first one though I was so :scared:

we recall that it didn't take you long to get over this wink

lilnfil xxxxx

21 Jan 2007

Quote by lilnfil

our first one though I was so :scared:

we recall that it didn't take you long to get over this wink

lilnfil xxxxx
had good company though :wink:

21 Jan 2007

Quote by hisandhers
how did you feel going to your first one though?

I'm afraid you're in danger of pushing an open door when you ask that of me.
I was very lucky.
I was able to blag an invite to what we used to call a "Mini Munch" - following a 1am :shock: "audition phone call" from the organiser - another single bloke wink

I had so much going on in my personal life at the time, I went very quietly along to see just how perverse these "swingers" really were. Due to the "stuff" going on at home, I didn't stay very long, and I doubt anyone even knew I was there.
The first "real" Munch I went to was a complete blast. In fact - I still measure current Munches by that one.
I was welcomed and encouraged to come - as a single bloke.
Nerves ???
I don't really think so. In truth, did it really matter what they were like ? Not really. It was (in my mind) just another night out.
How wrong I was.
It was a FANTASTIC night out. As they still are.
They don't appeal to everyone. Just as "I" don't. Does anyone ? Does anything ?
Of course not.
I read and hear a lot about pre-munch nerves. The reasons for them, the problems they can cause. I hear and read people that don't like them, won't go to them - for a wide variety of reasons. But - it genuinely warms me and makes me smile to myself when I see, after a "successful" munch, the amount of people (newer members) that seem to go on a posting frenzy putting their names down for subsequent munches that are listed. As I've often said to people that think Munches are a victim of their own success, or that they're not really up to much, or they won't last - "If any of that were really true, they wouldn't 'work" - but they do. I struggle to think of Munches that have been poorly attended. I can think of two from the top of my head; but I could (but won't here) give my opinions of why they didn't work.
To those wondering if Munches are for them. Or worried about how they'll feel "walking into a room full of strangers" - I would say this . . .
Take your balls in your hand and go. Anyone that makes you feel unwelcome or unwanted, or gives you reason to feel nervous or worried; is saying far more about themselves than they are about you.
I don't subscribe to the formal "hand-holding" schemes/arrangements that have become popular recently, but - anyone that wants to spend half an hour beforehand and possibly the first 20 minutes or so chatting or asking questions - the PM button is below.
And to the dammy-dissenters (politest word I could come up with at short notice) I would say this - While I was mentoring I had an unwritten rule that I would try to shag those I was mentoring while I was mentoring them. I stood by it. The same applies to nothandholding.
To those thinking of organising one - I refer to the weird naked indian guy "Build it, and they will come"
:thumbup:

21 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster
And to the dammy-dissenters (politest word I could come up with at short notice) I would say this - While I was mentoring I had an unwritten rule that I wouldn't try to shag those I was mentoring while I was mentoring them. I stood by it. The same applies to nothandholding.

I know you meant you wouldn't Dammie kiss

21 Jan 2007

" . . . . . wouldn't try to shag . . . . . "
surprised

ops:
:doh:

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Shireen
And to the dammy-dissenters (politest word I could come up with at short notice) I would say this - While I was mentoring I had an unwritten rule that I wouldn't try to shag those I was mentoring while I was mentoring them. I stood by it. The same applies to nothandholding.

I know you meant you wouldn't Dammie kiss

I knew what he ment as well.
I even took one of his mentorees as he felt he wanted to shag her!
:giggle:

21 Jan 2007

I was nervous as hell before my first one, which was Notts last week.
I found going to the pre munch drinks really helped. Meeting some people in a 'normal' setting, and getting to know them that way.
According to the guy I shared with that night, I got over my nerves very quickly!!!
It was a great night, but I can see how they arn't for everybody.
However, they are definatly for me!!!!

21 Jan 2007

Quote by redangel
I was nervous as hell before my first one, which was Notts last week.
I found going to the pre munch drinks really helped. Meeting some people in a 'normal' setting, and getting to know them that way.
According to the guy I shared with that night, I got over my nerves very quickly!!!
It was a great night, but I can see how they arn't for everybody.
However, they are definatly for me!!!!

Redangel munch tart!!

21 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster

how did you feel going to your first one though?

I'm afraid you're in danger of pushing an open door when you ask that of me.
I was very lucky.
I was able to blag an invite to what we used to call a "Mini Munch" - following a 1am :shock: "audition phone call" from the organiser - another single bloke wink

I had so much going on in my personal life at the time, I went very quietly along to see just how perverse these "swingers" really were. Due to the "stuff" going on at home, I didn't stay very long, and I doubt anyone even knew I was there.
The first "real" Munch I went to was a complete blast. In fact - I still measure current Munches by that one.
I was welcomed and encouraged to come - as a single bloke.
Nerves ???
I don't really think so. In truth, did it really matter what they were like ? Not really. It was (in my mind) just another night out.
How wrong I was.
It was a FANTASTIC night out. As they still are.
They don't appeal to everyone. Just as "I" don't. Does anyone ? Does anything ?
Of course not.
I read and hear a lot about pre-munch nerves. The reasons for them, the problems they can cause. I hear and read people that don't like them, won't go to them - for a wide variety of reasons. But - it genuinely warms me and makes me smile to myself when I see, after a "successful" munch, the amount of people (newer members) that seem to go on a posting frenzy putting their names down for subsequent munches that are listed. As I've often said to people that think Munches are a victim of their own success, or that they're not really up to much, or they won't last - "If any of that were really true, they wouldn't 'work" - but they do. I struggle to think of Munches that have been poorly attended. I can think of two from the top of my head; but I could (but won't here) give my opinions of why they didn't work.
To those wondering if Munches are for them. Or worried about how they'll feel "walking into a room full of strangers" - I would say this . . .
Take your balls in your hand and go. Anyone that makes you feel unwelcome or unwanted, or gives you reason to feel nervous or worried; is saying far more about themselves than they are about you.
I don't subscribe to the formal "hand-holding" schemes/arrangements that have become popular recently, but - anyone that wants to spend half an hour beforehand and possibly the first 20 minutes or so chatting or asking questions - the PM button is below.
And to the dammy-dissenters (politest word I could come up with at short notice) I would say this - While I was mentoring I had an unwritten rule that I would try to shag those I was mentoring while I was mentoring them. I stood by it. The same applies to nothandholding.
To those thinking of organising one - I refer to the weird naked indian guy "Build it, and they will come"
:thumbup:
wow what a reply - you never cease to amaze me about your responses. HLB & your good self are one of many people who I admire on here

21 Jan 2007

Quote by hisandhers
wow what a reply -

As I said - Munches are an open door with me :thumbup:

Quote by hisandhers
you never cease to amaze me about your responses. HLB & your good self are one of many people who I admire on here

I can't deny being a fan of Munches.
I do though see them for what they are - to me.
A slight side-track.
I've been hunting but I can't find the bit where I very nearly didn't go but was "encouraged" to - this is the Munch I measure all other Munches by . .
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/17798.html

21 Jan 2007

How many Munches do you need to go to to be a Munch tart.
I've been to 19 or 21 (I can't remember lol

) events last year....:shock:
:giggle:

21 Jan 2007

Quote by hisandhers
The Manc munch will be my first and I do feel alittle apprehensive cos I wont know many people.

come & find us then we will make anyone welcome
Aaww thank you, I am looking forward to putting faces the names. I`ll keep a look out for you. smile

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Darkfire
I love that proper munch bubble feeling....the planning, the panic stations, the phoning hotels and its engaged and you just know its because the hotel list's gone out and its one of our lot hogging the line also booking a room I like the 'what are you wearing?' conversations, the making of the 'people I must speak to' list, the texts on the Saturday morning saying 'are you fookin up yet? ' and a bit later... 'right we're off, see you there! ' I once had one that reflected the military planning behind it all saying 'en route to destination, ETA 2.5 hours' - cracked me up and had me giggling like a girl all the way there
I dont get nervous anymore - which is a far cry from my first social where I had to call the organiser from the carpark and get her to come get me :rotflmao: but maybe the adrenaline from running round my house searching for lost munch clothes, sticking vodka jelly in the freezer cos its not set yet & jumping on the holdall to get it fastened, reaching panic stations after getting lost en route for the 3rd time or trying to beat the clock and not be late as usual masks it well :lol:
i do get a bit apprehensive as to whether anyone's gonna talk to me or not though (its a fickle world) :lol: and tend to spend a fair bit of the night propping up the bar on me tod until someone either takes pity on me or I'm in thier face saying 'so, who are you then?' :rotflmao:
The worst bit about munches is the morning after :lol: - semi-comatose funny colour people attempting to eat breakfast, the mad hunt for coffee and room-raiding for supplies :lol: throwing shoes in the car swearing never to wear them again & the journey home when your liver positively hates you and your feet (and other bits, depending on what you got up to afterwards :twisted feel like they got run over by a 10 ton truck :rotflmao:

omg!! Stop it, I`m getting butterflies already! List of people I want to talk to......hadnt thought of that but thanks for the tip, will make one.
I think I know what I`m wearing but that could change a hundred times between now and Feb 10th...you know what us females are like. rolleyes

Thankfully I dont have to do the hotel bit cos I live in Manchester.

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
I've been to 19 or 21 (I can't remember ) events last year....:shock:

How many? :shock:
You're joking right? That's nearly half of all your weekends. :shock:
Isn't real life a fucker !?!?!?!?
Getting in the way of Munches/Socials/Playing rolleyes

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
real life

:worship: :worship:
The Sh GANDHI has spoken.
Scandal, Dude.
Thank you. I'm flattered.
To some people (and I openly include myself) this place is part real life.

21 Jan 2007

All I can say is that The community is important to me. Very important.
At one stage I had more in common with you all than my former flatmate....... rolleyes

21 Jan 2007

its pretty cool to hear so many people are nervous about going to a munch..including people who have been to them before...im new to the swinging scene, and hoping to go to my first munch soon, feeling very nervous about it..but really excited as well... like wineman id consider myself to be really socialble, but guess there is a different kinda feeling about this sort of meeting..
as for drinks...i guess i will be there at the bar when i do make it to one..but guess its really important not to have too many?? really important to make a good impression and get on with the people there.. smile

do name badges and stuff get given out? wink

are there any other singles on here who have advice for my first time?
AJ

21 Jan 2007

Quote by aj1980
do name badges and stuff get given out?
are there any other singles on here who have advice for my first time?
AJ

Be yourself. Talk to people and just have fun. But remember to respect other peoples limits and views.
Hope your first is a good one biggrin

21 Jan 2007

Quote by aj1980
stuff get given out?
AJ

Nope

Never handed out glitter, glo sticks, or florscent strips :lol:

21 Jan 2007

thanks Dlep. am certainly looking forward to when i go to one cool

21 Jan 2007

Quote by aj1980
its pretty cool to hear so many people are nervous about going to a munch..including people who have been to them before...im new to the swinging scene, and hoping to go to my first munch soon, feeling very nervous about it..but really excited as well... like wineman id consider myself to be really socialble, but guess there is a different kinda feeling about this sort of meeting..
as for drinks...i guess i will be there at the bar when i do make it to one..but guess its really important not to have too many?? really important to make a good impression and get on with the people there..
do name badges and stuff get given out?
are there any other singles on here who have advice for my first time?
AJ

Are you still interested in Bristol ? ;)

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
Are you still interested in Bristol ? ;)

Jeez! How brazen are you? lol

I never get asked questions like that :lol: :lol: :lol:
she said 'Bristol' not 'bristols' rolleyes

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
Are you still interested in Bristol ? ;)

Jeez! How brazen are you? lol

I never get asked questions like that :lol: :lol: :lol:
Brazen? Me ?
(Keep ya phone on ;) )

21 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
Are you still interested in Bristol ? ;)

I never get asked questions like that lol

:lol: :lol:
:lol: what can i say..just am lucky :lol:
Yeah think so minxy...although now i really am nervous!! redface

22 Jan 2007

Quote by dambuster
real life

:worship: :worship:
The Sh GANDHI has spoken.
My claim to fame is; I got to pour Dammy coffee in the hotel lounge :smug: rotflmao

22 Jan 2007

My first Munch is coming up soon in Essex and ive got to say that im a nervous wreck. Im excited, scared and generally worrying about everything. Although i will hopefully be travelling there with a couple of nice people, so when we get to the Munch i will just hide behind them with a vodka and coke untill i feel brave enough to come out. redface

Louise xx

22 Jan 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe
My first Munch is coming up soon in Essex and ive got to say that im a nervous wreck. Im excited, scared and generally worrying about everything. Although i will hopefully be travelling there with a couple of nice people, so when we get to the Munch i will just hide behind them with a vodka and coke untill i feel brave enough to come out.
Louise xx

Im a very shy and nervous person in social situations i dont know with people i dont know, but having attended my first munch(notts) can say hand on heart you will be fine and within a hr will be thinking what was all the worrying about kiss

I would love to be able to attend more but due to being a expectant granny in both march and may, i need to stay close to home for the next few months as i'm needed and dont want to miss the births :happy:
But otherwise im sure i could easily have become a munch tart :giggle:
Nicky

22 Jan 2007

Quote by Juniper_couple
My claim to fame is; I got to pour Dammy coffee in the hotel lounge :smug:

Ah but has he tested your cakeybun yet? wink

22 Jan 2007

hey louise, know exactly how you feel...and definitely agree with the vodka and coke bit!!!!