i have to say i went through alot of emotions firstly there was this cause i was finaly going to a munch then the week before i was we got to notts the night before did a bit of shoping went to lunch then got ready for the pre-munch drink when we found the place the next feeling was we went inside and saw a group of people, i then spotted Goose and went back to and i'm like OMG what do i say what do i talk about from there went for tea the off to the munch where this came back walked in to the venue and its was great still did know what to talk about though we left on a high
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Well
I just love them.
I just love them.
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
That's easy when you're in the area and haven't spent weeks sorting out travel, hotels, babysitters, house sitters etc etc.
Not sure about the others but no matter if you go with someone you know, it's still like walking into a pub full of strangers :shock:
I agree, but even at our local Manc Munch I still get a little nervous (well ok a lot nervous), that's why I tend to sit away from the group usually congregating near the door and wait for folks to make their way over (ok I admit it! I'm usually eyeing up women as well. HEY! I'm only human ffs
)Quote by Scandal
I'm not averse to the social aspect of swinging, live and let live.
I am averse to very drunk people though!! :shock: which is my experience of 6 munches.
I just don't like it. I'd prefer a meal or lazing about on the grass on a hot summers afternoon ;)
I do like the idea of lazing around somewhere just chatting rubbish (anyone who's ever read any of my posts will know I love chatting rubbish :lol: ) and I agree to the drunk people bit. The thing is I've found a solution that works really well for me................
I get smashed along with everyone else.
:beer: I don't usually drink so I guess it helps to make a Munch feel even more of an event.
I love them, I don't get nervous but really really excited. On the day of the munch it's like that Christmas morning feel as a kid, when you can see Santa's been.
The fact that today is the day again I can be with likeminded people and have fun.
Totally agree with you here Dark
The only other thing is the post munch letdown, knowing its going to be a while before you can get together with friends (if you can get a sitter
)
The fact that today is the day again I can be with likeminded people and have fun.
Totally agree with you here Dark
Quote by Darkfire
IThe worst bit about munches is the morning afterfeel like they got run over by a 10 ton truck
The only other thing is the post munch letdown, knowing its going to be a while before you can get together with friends (if you can get a sitter
) 
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I have never got nervous before a munch at allNo idea why :lol2:
I am not sure if it shows though:giggle:
You mean sharing a room with me didn't scare the bejesus out of you? :shock:
She sleeps with me every night of the week,,,,,,,
Sharing with you would be a walk in the park
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Quote by Mallock2006
I have never got nervous before a munch at all
I am not sure if it shows though
You mean sharing a room with me didn't scare the bejesus out of you? :shock:
She sleeps with me every night of the week,,,,,,,
Sharing with you would be a walk in the park
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:Hardly a comparison there hun :dry:
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I have never got nervous before a munch at all
I am not sure if it shows though
You mean sharing a room with me didn't scare the bejesus out of you? :shock:
She sleeps with me every night of the week,,,,,,,
Sharing with you would be a walk in the park
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:Hardly a comparison there hun :dry:
You aint met me yet :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Quote by hisandhers
You are are a shining star that comes into the room at a munch hun
ops: :oops: Says she that looked stunning at the munch last year 
Quote by Sassy-Seren
You mean sharing a room with me didn't scare the bejesus out of you? :shock:
Bluddy hell no :lol2: Like Steve said I sleep wih him everynight of the week.... I am not scared of sharing a room with anyone now :smug: Although there are one or two that I would be horrified to wake up next to :giggle:
And that doesn't include you
assionkiss: I have to say, I just don't get what all the fuss is about
From my perspective it only becomes a big deal when threads like this make it a big deal.
It is a social which is meant to be a non-pressure, relaxed environment - I can't help think that if first-time munchers get so anxious and nervous prior to going... what does that say about the effects of the hype?
Munches will be an important event to some people, a night out for a laugh with a few mates to others and something else to anyone left over. Not buying in to the "importance" hype or not placing the event as a high priority in ones life does not make someone the anti-Christ (which has been the case in some threads in the past) it just means they view them differently.
I would agree with that, but add... who you have never met , yet they think they somehow know you so it is OK for them to make inappropriate contact
From my perspective it only becomes a big deal when threads like this make it a big deal.
It is a social which is meant to be a non-pressure, relaxed environment - I can't help think that if first-time munchers get so anxious and nervous prior to going... what does that say about the effects of the hype?
Munches will be an important event to some people, a night out for a laugh with a few mates to others and something else to anyone left over. Not buying in to the "importance" hype or not placing the event as a high priority in ones life does not make someone the anti-Christ (which has been the case in some threads in the past) it just means they view them differently.
Quote by Scandal
I am averse to very drunk people though!!
I would agree with that, but add... who you have never met , yet they think they somehow know you so it is OK for them to make inappropriate contact
Sex God
hmmmmm
intresting one.....
some munchs i have been as nervous as hell as, some i hav had why the hell am i here, some i have been on full tart moad, some i have pissed off...
for me it depends whats happened leading up to a munch....
example notts, i had a bad start to the day, due to stupidity, my football team one, the train was late getting to notts, so i was paniking, eventually get to place of stay, i get changed in to outfit in mad panic then walked in to the munch, only to be told its a private party
which did make me laugh......then it was dishing out the hugs and kisses to everyone, and showing my blow job technique
MIke
intresting one.....
some munchs i have been as nervous as hell as, some i hav had why the hell am i here, some i have been on full tart moad, some i have pissed off...
for me it depends whats happened leading up to a munch....
example notts, i had a bad start to the day, due to stupidity, my football team one, the train was late getting to notts, so i was paniking, eventually get to place of stay, i get changed in to outfit in mad panic then walked in to the munch, only to be told its a private party
which did make me laugh......then it was dishing out the hugs and kisses to everyone, and showing my blow job technique
MIke
"munch" and i have had quite an up and down relationship over the past year overall though, i do enjoy them, especially now as i see them as a great way to catch up wih friends who live all over the country that i otherwise would find it difficult to see. i've never been particularly nervous, more excited
about the drunk people thing...this is the reason that ive not been munching lately as my relatively recent partner doesnt drink, so to him a munch is just a big piss up that he isnt part of, he has a totally different view of them to me and the one or two we have been to havent been quite as fun because of it - theres him in his little sober bubble..... and theres me and a hundred others chatting drunken bollocks, he just cant keep up and i do so much talking he feels like he might aswell not be there
i once (ok maybe twice...) complained to friends about feeling alone/left out at munches as a single. i now realise that then at least i only had my own feelings to consider! much easier :lol:
overall though, i do enjoy them, especially now as i see them as a great way to catch up wih friends who live all over the country that i otherwise would find it difficult to see. i've never been particularly nervous, more excited about the drunk people thing...this is the reason that ive not been munching lately as my relatively recent partner doesnt drink, so to him a munch is just a big piss up that he isnt part of, he has a totally different view of them to me and the one or two we have been to havent been quite as fun because of it - theres him in his little sober bubble..... and theres me and a hundred others chatting drunken bollocks, he just cant keep up and i do so much talking he feels like he might aswell not be there
i once (ok maybe twice...) complained to friends about feeling alone/left out at munches as a single. i now realise that then at least i only had my own feelings to consider! much easier :lol:
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I don't need to be drunk to talk bollocks. I'm fluent in that :smug:
you can talk bollocks to me anytime hun
Well for my first munch i wasnt overly worried about the munch itself more so that the hotel room was booke correctly and id get there on time and all the other stuff surrounding the event would run smooth. As it was it did and i turned up to the premunch drinks at the hotel bar feeling relaxed and all went well as have the others i have been to.
No my next munch i have had to book a hotel not on the list and so have to find the venue ect my self as i will be the only sh er in the hotel i have found so am worried more about that
As for the munches i love em thy are great weekends out for me
No my next munch i have had to book a hotel not on the list and so have to find the venue ect my self as i will be the only sh er in the hotel i have found so am worried more about that
As for the munches i love em thy are great weekends out for me
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I don't need to be drunk to talk bollocks. I'm fluent in that :smug:
Really
We hadn't noticed :giggle:
I love attending munches and i find the more i go to, the more confident im becoming, of course a few voddies help!! My very first munch back in the summer of 2005 was soooo scary, i literally shook from head to foot and ive been told i looked terrified.
Its different nowadays, Bart and I go off on our own, chatting to our respective mates and meeting new people. I love the build-up, wondering what im going to wear, who is on the list, what time we can finally manage to leave the house, getting directions off the pc and because our printer is knacked, trying to read barts writing in the dark.
I love chatting about it in bed afterwards and laughing at different things.... i love this community, to me its wonderful!!
Suze xx
Its different nowadays, Bart and I go off on our own, chatting to our respective mates and meeting new people. I love the build-up, wondering what im going to wear, who is on the list, what time we can finally manage to leave the house, getting directions off the pc and because our printer is knacked, trying to read barts writing in the dark.
I love chatting about it in bed afterwards and laughing at different things.... i love this community, to me its wonderful!!
Suze xx
who ever invented 'munches' wants a damn good fucking!!
:spit:
we can think of no better way to reward the genius of this marvelous celebration of sexually liberated friendship
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munches are great - so come one come all and have a balll!!!
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:spit: we can think of no better way to reward the genius of this marvelous celebration of sexually liberated friendship
:worship: :worship: :worship: munches are great - so come one come all and have a balll!!!
:bounce: :moon:
hwoar: :bounce: :phwoar: :passionkiss: :moon: :bounce: Quote by Freckledbird
So folks - how did you feel at your first munch or before you attend any others
Nervous and still get butterflies
you look so confident frecklebird when I see you hun :shock:
:shock: well apparently I hide my nerves well then!
Its always a pleasure seeing you coz you bring a lot of good advice & laughs into this community. Wouldn't be the same without you at a munch
Bloody hell, can I frame that comment? :shock:
OI folks look I'm nice, I am!
cough, splutter
i love munchs my first one i was terrified and spent ages on the net beforehand with a certain lady trying to convince me i neednt be scared, she came and met me in the car park and introduced me to everyone, then that was it no more nerves.
i must admit i used to start the night before getting clothes and everything ready, making sure i had directions, hotel and venue details, the mad panic on the munch morning of doing hair, packing bag etc, meeting all my friends ad new people at the pre munch drinks, having a ball at the munch itself, talking bollocks until the early hours
the hungover drive back home the next day is the bit i hate with a passion but it doesnt stop me drinking lol, i then need to sleep for the rest of the sunday so for me the munch does take up my whole weekend.
the last couple i have been to i havent had that buzz of excitement and i dont know if thats because i started off as a single going to them and now go as part of a couple and i dunno why but its different probably cos i have someone else to consider and cant just bugger off and please myself. i do miss the buzz of a big munch, am sure it will come back at some point.
Earthy xx
i must admit i used to start the night before getting clothes and everything ready, making sure i had directions, hotel and venue details, the mad panic on the munch morning of doing hair, packing bag etc, meeting all my friends ad new people at the pre munch drinks, having a ball at the munch itself, talking bollocks until the early hours
the hungover drive back home the next day is the bit i hate with a passion but it doesnt stop me drinking lol, i then need to sleep for the rest of the sunday so for me the munch does take up my whole weekend.
the last couple i have been to i havent had that buzz of excitement and i dont know if thats because i started off as a single going to them and now go as part of a couple and i dunno why but its different probably cos i have someone else to consider and cant just bugger off and please myself. i do miss the buzz of a big munch, am sure it will come back at some point.
Earthy xx
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Quote by Scandal
It's only like a night in the pub FFS! :shock:
The last one I went to, I played football, went home, had a shower, turned up had a glass of lemonade, talked to a few people and went home again! :shock:
It's good to hear that they let you in that time, Scandal.
:lol: Quote by Darkfire
i do get a bit apprehensive as to whether anyone's gonna talk to me or not though (its a fickle world)
Same here, and I must say the results are mixed. I have attended quite a few SH munches since my first one in May 2004, and enjoyed some, while other times I have come away resolving to stop going to them. I have met some wonderful and friendly people. I'm not too shy to go up and introduce myself to people whose name-badges I spot and recognise. I have received friendly responses to some approaches resulting in long friendly chats, other receptions have been distinctly cool, frosty, or downright rude. At some munches the tightly-knit little groups which have formed have just a little too...erm...tightly-knit, and it seemed to make others (not just me) feel rather excluded.
I fully acknowledge that for some people they have been a fantastic experience, life-changing even, and that's great to know, but for others they have been a mixed experience.
I'm taking a break from munches for a while, but might go to one later on in the year.
My first munch was in Leicester and it was a mini-munch, but I still had to be collected from Cardiff by a very nice man from Birmingham to accompany me on the drive. He was also my munch buddy for the night.
My second munch was in Birmingham and I managed to drive there alone, but I had had plenty of encouragement beforehand from a lovely group of ladies. I also had said lovely group at the end of a phone in case I felt the need to turn around and drive home.
My third one was organised by myself in Bristol and I had someone I trusted to drive me there ;) Big thanks to the people who were there on the night to support me as well
I also attended a social in Portsmouth but I wouldn't have been able to make that had I not been able to pick up a lovely couple in Bristol to keep me company on the drive ;)
Anyone see a pattern emerging here lol ? Driving anywhere is a real issue for me (something I really should get sorted) but I am an even worse passenger lol. With the majority of munches being 100+ miles from me it does pose a problem
On top of that I am painfully shy (although no-one believes me :shock: ) in social situations and if you have ever spoken to me, chances are I am 3 sheets to the wind (except in Bristol ;) ). Although anyone at the pre-munch drinks in Bristol would be able to attest to my nerves :?
So, while I agree that munches shouldn't be a big deal (relaxed, non-pressure etc) for some people they are. Nerves are a problem for me around munches and I haven't been to half as many as I would have liked to because of them. I think it's part of the reason that I am organising Bristol Mk 2, I mean I can't wimp out of my own munch can I ?
My second munch was in Birmingham and I managed to drive there alone, but I had had plenty of encouragement beforehand from a lovely group of ladies. I also had said lovely group at the end of a phone in case I felt the need to turn around and drive home.
My third one was organised by myself in Bristol and I had someone I trusted to drive me there ;) Big thanks to the people who were there on the night to support me as well
I also attended a social in Portsmouth but I wouldn't have been able to make that had I not been able to pick up a lovely couple in Bristol to keep me company on the drive ;)
Anyone see a pattern emerging here lol ? Driving anywhere is a real issue for me
(something I really should get sorted) but I am an even worse passenger lol. With the majority of munches being 100+ miles from me it does pose a problem On top of that I am painfully shy (although no-one believes me :shock: ) in social situations and if you have ever spoken to me, chances are I am 3 sheets to the wind (except in Bristol ;) ). Although anyone at the pre-munch drinks in Bristol would be able to attest to my nerves :?
So, while I agree that munches shouldn't be a big deal (relaxed, non-pressure etc) for some people they are. Nerves are a problem for me around munches and I haven't been to half as many as I would have liked to because of them. I think it's part of the reason that I am organising Bristol Mk 2, I mean I can't wimp out of my own munch can I ?
Quote by BiWelshMinx
My first munch was in Leicester and it was a mini-munch, but I still had to be collected from Cardiff by a very nice man from Birmingham to accompany me on the drive. He was also my munch buddy for the night.
My second munch was in Birmingham and I managed to drive there alone, but I had had plenty of encouragement beforehand from a lovely group of ladies. I also had said lovely group at the end of a phone in case I felt the need to turn around and drive home.
My third one was organised by myself in Bristol and I had someone I trusted to drive me there ;) Big thanks to the people who were there on the night to support me as well
I also attended a social in Portsmouth but I wouldn't have been able to make that had I not been able to pick up a lovely couple in Bristol to keep me company on the drive ;)
Anyone see a pattern emerging here lol ? Driving anywhere is a real issue for me
On top of that I am painfully shy (although no-one believes me :shock: ) in social situations and if you have ever spoken to me, chances are I am 3 sheets to the wind (except in Bristol ;) ). Although anyone at the pre-munch drinks in Bristol would be able to attest to my nerves :?
So, while I agree that munches shouldn't be a big deal (relaxed, non-pressure etc) for some people they are. Nerves are a problem for me around munches and I haven't been to half as many as I would have liked to because of them. I think it's part of the reason that I am organising Bristol Mk 2, I mean I can't wimp out of my own munch can I ?
I agree with you there munches shouldn't be a big deal, but for the first timer it can be very scary, if you think about it i went and i could tell you what most peoples bums tits and other parts look like but not there faces and ad the fact that i am also shy and social retarded it makes it a big deal
Well i have my first social meet to attend in feb in Derby all being well, and i know that i will be nervous, i`v attended dogs shows where i`v been a member of an online community and i`v been nervous there too.
I wont be getting bladdered though at least thats the plan, but i do intend to try and enjoy the time non the less, and put faces to names
r1rider
I wont be getting bladdered though at least thats the plan, but i do intend to try and enjoy the time non the less, and put faces to names
r1rider
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Quote by earthchild
OI folks look I'm nice, I am!
cough, splutter
:cry: :cry: You don't think I'm nice then?
I get excited and nervous which I used to hide with a couple of vodka's. Sadly I can't do that so I have to jump in with two feet which means sometimes I hide my nerves by being a bit cheeky
It does make a difference to me if I know who is going though. Sometimes I feel a lot more nervous than others, specially if I don't know a lot of people. Other times I know I'm going to have a scream at because I'm going to spend a lot of the evening with friends I know well.
I love the build up on the forum, pms or text with others about what time we will get there and to which hotel.
Discussing who I need to meet, who I am looking forward to seeing again.
I love munches :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
It does make a difference to me if I know who is going though. Sometimes I feel a lot more nervous than others, specially if I don't know a lot of people. Other times I know I'm going to have a scream at because I'm going to spend a lot of the evening with friends I know well.
I love the build up on the forum, pms or text with others about what time we will get there and to which hotel.
Discussing who I need to meet, who I am looking forward to seeing again.
I love munches :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
I am averse to very drunk people though!!
I would agree with that, but add... who you have never met , yet they think they somehow know you so it is OK for them to make inappropriate contact
They don't necessarily have to be drunk to do that though! :shock:
