I've created this post from a couple of others I've posted today in the LMU forum - ( http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/64956.html )
I'm hoping for some help or info, and the cafe here is probably a better place to ask, so please forgive the cut & paste nature of this post and bear with me!
Within a week my house will finally be my own again (yipee!) after a few months of acting the good samaritan putting up a friend in need. Well, the friend's in need no more, and I will have the place to myself once again.
I'd like to take this opportunity to canvas your opinions on holding a party at mine. If there was enough interest, I'd love to do so, as it would be an excellent opportunity to meet new peeps and breathe some life into the North Wales scene! Seems we need all the help we can get here, as most meets and clubs require a trip over the border...
So, a question for those who have thrown a private party, as I've never done so before - I've got a 3 bedroom house with a large-ish kitchen & living room. What sort of numbers would be acceptable / is the norm for a party to go with a comfortable swing? Any other helpful hints or do's and dont's?
Any help / info very much appreciated, thanks in advance!
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The most forgotten question now...how many car park spaces have you got around you?
Seriously, if you wanted to fill your house, I've organised parties for a house that size where 20 couples and 10 guys all came. That's 30 cars that need to be accommodated. Now where I live, there's little enough room for 30 skateboards, and if someone has no room to park, or thay have a long (and depending on your surroundings) or an "uncomfortable" walk, and who knows what sort of weather they will have to walk through, then you might not see them again for a second party.
So there's food for thought. Talking about food, I assume you will be laying on some forms of buffet. Think about your budget. "Real" parties are done on a BYOB basis, with other costs borne by the host, so the buffet gets paid for out of your pocket...so how much are you willing to spend?
How big is your circle of existing friends and how much are you relying on the advert? If the reliance is on the advert, you will need to count on 3 invitation acceptances to get one person (or couple) actually knocking on your door on the night. Sad but true. If you have a circle of friends who you know, then this ratio goes down to 2 for 1.
Sounds like common sense, but put away anything valuable or breakable. Especially with a house full of strangers, There may be someone there who can't resist the temptation to provide your phone with a new owner etc.
Personally I would aim to start small, and get 10 couples, and if you want single guys, then no more than a ratio of 1 guy per 2 couples. See my coments about over-booking to achieve these sort of numbers. Tell people what you are expecting, so that when yo hit your target you get brownie points. There's nothing worse than telling people (and they do ask) that you are aiming for 20 couples (just to sound good and "unmissable) and only half that many turn up.
Work on your PR with those who come, to ensure that they will want to come again, and build up your nucleus that way.
I'd avoid cheesy party games. I found that inviting people who I know to be "players" is all you need to get the party swinging. Their natural instincts are better than any artificial incentives.
Most of all, HAVE FUN. Best of luck!
Seriously, if you wanted to fill your house, I've organised parties for a house that size where 20 couples and 10 guys all came. That's 30 cars that need to be accommodated. Now where I live, there's little enough room for 30 skateboards, and if someone has no room to park, or thay have a long (and depending on your surroundings) or an "uncomfortable" walk, and who knows what sort of weather they will have to walk through, then you might not see them again for a second party.
So there's food for thought. Talking about food, I assume you will be laying on some forms of buffet. Think about your budget. "Real" parties are done on a BYOB basis, with other costs borne by the host, so the buffet gets paid for out of your pocket...so how much are you willing to spend?
How big is your circle of existing friends and how much are you relying on the advert? If the reliance is on the advert, you will need to count on 3 invitation acceptances to get one person (or couple) actually knocking on your door on the night. Sad but true. If you have a circle of friends who you know, then this ratio goes down to 2 for 1.
Sounds like common sense, but put away anything valuable or breakable. Especially with a house full of strangers, There may be someone there who can't resist the temptation to provide your phone with a new owner etc.
Personally I would aim to start small, and get 10 couples, and if you want single guys, then no more than a ratio of 1 guy per 2 couples. See my coments about over-booking to achieve these sort of numbers. Tell people what you are expecting, so that when yo hit your target you get brownie points. There's nothing worse than telling people (and they do ask) that you are aiming for 20 couples (just to sound good and "unmissable) and only half that many turn up.
Work on your PR with those who come, to ensure that they will want to come again, and build up your nucleus that way.
I'd avoid cheesy party games. I found that inviting people who I know to be "players" is all you need to get the party swinging. Their natural instincts are better than any artificial incentives.
Most of all, HAVE FUN. Best of luck!
