Warming the Bed
excuse my ignorance but when people advertise as "we are profesionals so discresion is needed". what do they mean? the rest of us plebs are insgnificant?
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pros!
No it is simply their way of stressing the importance of discretion. For example, swingers come from all walks of life.....but what do you think would happen to a teacher, if it was made public that they were a swinger?
If you like, look upon those words in the ads as the people saying "Please be discreet, because you could really fuck up our lives ( particularly work ), for no reasonable purpose."
Don't take it personally mate, but just because you have an enlightened view of the world ( and sexual relatioships, and their place within it ) does not mean the rest of the world shares your view ( Exhibit A, The News of The World, on any Sunday of your choosing )
If you like, look upon those words in the ads as the people saying "Please be discreet, because you could really fuck up our lives ( particularly work ), for no reasonable purpose."
Don't take it personally mate, but just because you have an enlightened view of the world ( and sexual relatioships, and their place within it ) does not mean the rest of the world shares your view ( Exhibit A, The News of The World, on any Sunday of your choosing )
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Warming the Bed
ooops. i look very silly now dont i?
Thank you, SmokerJim. I think there are quite a few people on here whose work could be detrimentally affected if their swinging lifestyle is known by their colleagues. Sometimes, it can come across as quite suspicious and snooty of someone when they are being so vague about what they do for a living but most of the time, it is for a good reason. 
Exactly Maia, its vital that discretion is at the top of everyones list when it comes to swinging.
I dont think it matters though, whether one is a teacher, or say a gardener like me, if they want discretion, for whatever reason, then they should be shown it in no uncertain terms.
I, as a gardener wud not be affected too adversely by peeps knowing i was a swinger, but, i am still very big on my requirement for discretion, and give the same at all times, whether its required or not.
My point is, discretion should be assured at all times, for everyone.
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I dont think it matters though, whether one is a teacher, or say a gardener like me, if they want discretion, for whatever reason, then they should be shown it in no uncertain terms.
I, as a gardener wud not be affected too adversely by peeps knowing i was a swinger, but, i am still very big on my requirement for discretion, and give the same at all times, whether its required or not.
My point is, discretion should be assured at all times, for everyone.
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Exactly Maia, its vital that discretion is at the top of everyones list when it comes to swinging.
I dont think it matters though, whether one is a teacher, or say a gardener like me, if they want discretion, for whatever reason, then they should be shown it in no uncertain terms.
I, as a gardener wud not be affected too adversely by peeps knowing i was a swinger, but, i am still very big on my requirement for discretion, and give the same at all times, whether its required or not.
My point is, discretion should be assured at all times, for everyone.
I totally agree......I am open on here about what I do - I am a Student Nurse but also a Chatline Operator. Now if the people who I work for as a Student Nurse knew that I do the Chatline thing and also if they knew that I am a Swinger then I would be thrown out immediately on the grounds of bringing the Profession into Disrepute.
There are very few on here that know my full name, but for those that do it wouldn't be hard for them to put it on the open forum and then I'm buggered.....
So I need discretion from those that I meet up with, those that either know my full name or my address are people i trust and that's important to me......
Sorry, here I go waffling on, thats typical of me when I'm ill..... :roll:
Interesting!
I`ve only just joined the Forums; crossing the divide (so to speak) from the BDSM/Fetish community, where the same principals apply, ie basic good manners, etiquette etc etc...
Nice and refreshing to see all these qualities: seriously! it is ... excellent!!
`Cos I was a bit wary, you know...
I`ve only just joined the Forums; crossing the divide (so to speak) from the BDSM/Fetish community, where the same principals apply, ie basic good manners, etiquette etc etc...
Nice and refreshing to see all these qualities: seriously! it is ... excellent!!
`Cos I was a bit wary, you know...
To me it's just an extension of basic courtesy & people's right to privacy - I'm very exhibitionistic & sometimes enjoy being recognised, Ali on the other hand is far more private, there are virtually no pics of her on the net, and is quite careful about who knows what.
The attitude varies a bit from one part of the scene to another, some people who's general lives are more "sympathetic" to the sex-scene may go to clubs & parties where it's less of an issue (eg many fetish clubs), other only go to the more reserved clubs (eg champagne, fever) or only to private parties where they may feel that the level of discretion is greater.
Personally I know quite a few people in the London sex scene who are "professionals" who's reputation & private life would be *very* badly damaged if others knew that were into the sex scene - lawyers, police, politicians, city types, teachers etc.
Em
The attitude varies a bit from one part of the scene to another, some people who's general lives are more "sympathetic" to the sex-scene may go to clubs & parties where it's less of an issue (eg many fetish clubs), other only go to the more reserved clubs (eg champagne, fever) or only to private parties where they may feel that the level of discretion is greater.
Personally I know quite a few people in the London sex scene who are "professionals" who's reputation & private life would be *very* badly damaged if others knew that were into the sex scene - lawyers, police, politicians, city types, teachers etc.
Em
I totally agree with the views expressed above. A private life is just that - private - and I wish that we could respect each other's right to privacy in the way we would wish them to respect ours. For me, swinging is a very separate part of my persona that I like to indulge in, and if it were to be compromised by the indiscretion of others, the magic of it would be ruined.
Take care and have fun!
Ashxx
Take care and have fun!
Ashxx
I'd never mention what I do for a living... :lol2:
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
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I'd never mention what I do for a living... :lol2:
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
Have you thought about Pat??
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I'd never mention what I do for a living... :lol2:
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
Have you thought about Pat??
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
No! I can't stand Postman Pat . When we were on strike that scab was delivering mail in Greendale every day... grrrrrr 
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Quote by Jags
I'd never mention what I do for a living... :lol2:
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
Have you thought about Pat??
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:Oooooooooooooo* I know someone who won't think it's funny to rip the piss out of his name :shock:
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Quote by postie
I'd never mention what I do for a living... :lol2:
Though if it became common knowledge at work, I could possibly be sacked (disrepute) but more likely just have to put up with years worth of piss taking. I've often thought about changing my name to something less conspicious, but I think I am stuck with it now. And i can't think of anything that would suit me either.
Have you thought about Pat??
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: No! I can't stand Postman Pat . When we were on strike that scab was delivering mail in Greendale every day... grrrrrr He had a cat too didn't he? What's your cat called?
