Prostitute for FFM - would you?

15 Jan 2007

Summer of last year my GF and I tried to find another girl for our fun and games. Its something she mentions regularly when we are having a session but we failed to find someone. We tried looking for local groups but we just seem to live to far from the action.
Its probably the hardest task in this game to find a female willing to step into the ring with a couple she doesn't really know. We talked about a couple of people we know who could be candidates but we have decided we don't want anyone we know to protect the relationship and our privacy.
One idea was maybe pay a prostitute who was willing to be paid to join us. Our concern is that we might expose ourselves to the wrong types of people and that it probably wouldn't be the same as 3 people actually choosing to be there rather than us paying her to be with us. Plus all the more obvious health issues.
We are planning a trip to Amsterdam soon to check out the sex scene over there. As to what we get up to there we aren't sure yet. smile

Any advice greatly appreciated folks :)

15 Jan 2007

hi there....yeah sounds like a bit of a dilemma...to be honest if youre going to use a prostitute amsterdam is the best place...its all legal over there, and all girls have regular health checks...it is a reputable profession, and some lovely girls...
I went a few years ago with my gf at the time and we were offered ffm on several occassions by some absolutely stunning ladies..i would go for it...but only if your gf is up for that sort of thing...remember there is still quite a stigma attatched to ladies who work in that profession...

15 Jan 2007

Have to say that I agree with Scandal here... I'm the fem half of a couple in a similar situ to yours and I would say that neither of us would ever go down the prostitute road whether single or whether in the search for the elusive FFM... as Scandal has said, for us it is all about the seduction, eroticism and fun of introducing someone into our sex lives who *wants* to be there because of us rather than wanting to be there because we are willing to pay...
A good friend has just returned from Amsterdam recently - he is a good looking guy and not been laid in a good while and he couldn't bring himself to do it either, he felt in a similar way to how myself and Mr Lys does I guess... not so much a pride issue, but a love of the thrill of the chase and catch.
If you want to do the FFM and aren't all that bothered about who it is with then sure, go for the prositute option, as aj has said Amsterdam is no doubt the best place to do it, but do make sure that your girlfriend feels the same way and that you aren't seduced at the cheap 'suck and fuck' offered to you by women who are stunning, as I hear that some of these Amsterdam professionals are.....
In an honest opinion I'd say stick to here, going out and chatting up people in clubs rather than paying for it - and thats not a moral or ethical objection to prositiution, just the way that we'd rather play it. Of course, each to their own..
Do let us know how it goes and what you decide.
Peace and love
Layla x

15 Jan 2007

Personally I see nothing wrong with anyone using the services of an independent escort (street hookers, brothels and backstreet massage parlours, anything associated with sex-trade women being bought and brought from Eastern Europe is a different matter though) if that is what they want and the most convenient way to fulfil a fantasy..
Whether it will work for you (I guess) depends on the pro’s (excuse the pun) and con’s in relation to what you want from the experience.
Pro’s:
You can select who you want looks wise (though photos can be misleading)
It’s about what you want (the customer is always right)
You don’t have to worry about making a good impression and charming them first
You are pretty sure it is game on once you have booked one
Con’s:
You may get one who looks good but is just plain useless
It may be obvious that they are going through the motions for the money, instead of enjoying themselves.
You could be getting overpriced tat.
Clock watching – you’re on a timer
I am sure there are a lot more – but it was all I could think of for now.
Unless you are sure this is the way to go, I would suggest trying other options: such as a club with couples only play areas wink

15 Jan 2007

You will have to go very upmarket for this kind of action. Not much change out of a grand, certainly 500 plus. Check out the sites and talk to the madams. be specific and businesslike. You are not asking for something inhuman, so there will be plenty who will be interested. You will find someone, its just a question of how assured you will be of getting someone and something special. cool

15 Jan 2007

I agree with Ducan - there are many uk sites which offer girls who include ffm's in their "repertoire". I'd say you were better with one of these rather than an Amsterdam girl. They're all very pretty (except down one particular alley!) but offer quite a clinical service charged on a per half hour basis. Mr Funster and I go to Amsterdam on a regular basis and the window shopping is a lot of fun!! (Mind out for very uneven pavements whilst ogling!)

16 Jan 2007

Thanks for the replies guys.
The prostitute thing was a last resort comment that we discussed. I've been to Amsterdam before I met my partner and have to say I didn't have a problem paying for it.
However, my partner wants the experience to be sensual and both females giving each other pleasure for the pleasure and not really for the money.
We haven't really tried the local clubs because we don't want anyone local. I'm not too bothered but my partner is concerned for privacy reasons. Funnily enough the closet we got to FFM was with my partners brothers fiancee! The girls flirted and saw how much it turned me on.
SOOO annoyed her bro was with us. Probably for the best but at the time...... ;)

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
For me though I like the chase and chatting up, convincing, flirting, anticipation, excitement
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Bad boy, go to my room ! smackbottom

:rascal:
sorry for that little hijack innocent

You haven't mentioned if you've been using the LMU or ads on here at all. The thing is, you're looking for a single bi fem ( the Holy Grail ) and even though you may have 10 replies to an ad or forum thread, it may take you some time to sift through and find someone who you both 'click' with. Be patient and keep looking, I would say.
I agree with PL about the pros and cons of using a prostitute though I see the cons fair outweighing the pros.
That said, you have the last word. Good luck in finding someone to help you and your partner. I hope you have a great time :thumbup:

16 Jan 2007

All I am saying you need to spend some money, Check out escorts in you local area, google it.
They will say if they like to do FF and in most cases its £150 per hour plus call out expenses.
Allways check out for reviews on the girl.

16 Jan 2007

I really don't understand where you are coming from at all.
Go to a Swngers Club on a Couples night either close to your home or as far away as Amsterdam and you will surely find another couple with similar interests.
You obviously have not yet been to a Club and my advice would be to go to one on a Couples night.

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Too Hot
I really don't understand where you are coming from at all.
Go to a Swngers Club on a Couples night either close to your home or as far away as Amsterdam and you will surely find another couple with similar interests.
You obviously have not yet been to a Club and my advice would be to go to one on a Couples night.

Agreed.....go to a club.....hell of alot cheaper!

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Too Hot
I really don't understand where you are coming from at all.
Go to a Swngers Club on a Couples night either close to your home or as far away as Amsterdam and you will surely find another couple with similar interests.
You obviously have not yet been to a Club and my advice would be to go to one on a Couples night.

I thought they are looking for a single female for a FFM. If they don't want any involvement from another male then a couples night doesn't really help. They are likely to find FF or MFFM play but FFM will be much less likely in a club unless the female is prepared to allow the other male to join in at some stage. FFM does happen quite often but only where there is reciprocation.

16 Jan 2007

Quote by northwest-cpl
I really don't understand where you are coming from at all.
Go to a Swngers Club on a Couples night either close to your home or as far away as Amsterdam and you will surely find another couple with similar interests.
You obviously have not yet been to a Club and my advice would be to go to one on a Couples night.

I thought they are looking for a single female for a FFM. If they don't want any involvement from another male then a couples night doesn't really help. They are likely to find FF or MFFM play but FFM will be much less likely in a club unless the female is prepared to allow the other male to join in at some stage. FFM does happen quite often but only where there is reciprocation.
There are clubs that do have couples and single girls only nights....we have also met a couple where the guy was just happy to watch his partner play with another couple....unfortunatley my wife is straight.....and would rather the guy joined in....something his partner didn't want him to do....shame really as we got on really well with them and my wife fancied him!

16 Jan 2007

tbh get yourslef to a cluba nd get to know people and you never know what can happen smile

Mike

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Mr-Powers
I really don't understand where you are coming from at all.
Go to a Swngers Club on a Couples night either close to your home or as far away as Amsterdam and you will surely find another couple with similar interests.
You obviously have not yet been to a Club and my advice would be to go to one on a Couples night.

I thought they are looking for a single female for a FFM. If they don't want any involvement from another male then a couples night doesn't really help. They are likely to find FF or MFFM play but FFM will be much less likely in a club unless the female is prepared to allow the other male to join in at some stage. FFM does happen quite often but only where there is reciprocation.
There are clubs that do have couples and single girls only nights....we have also met a couple where the guy was just happy to watch his partner play with another couple....unfortunatley my wife is straight.....and would rather the guy joined in....something his partner didn't want him to do....shame really as we got on really well with them and my wife fancied him!
We've experienced this too - there are many couples in which the male is purely a voyeur or even likes his wife/gf to play with a couple in an FFM scenario without watching, all for her to report back later..... we've met couples like this, but the chemistry hasn't been right.. damn shame but living proof that this *does* exist!
If you don't want to pull anyone local then maybe try clubs and/or swingers events out of town?

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Mr-Powers
my wife fancied him!

I fancy your wife redface

16 Jan 2007

I have a friend who had a very positive FFM experience in Amsterdam a couple of years ago... the girl they played with was really in to it, and far from it being a 'clinincal' transaction they both felt it was a really warm and positive (not to mention horny) experience.
Just another side of the coin.
Japes

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Japes
I have a friend who had a very positive FFM experience in Amsterdam a couple of years ago... the girl they played with was really in to it, and far from it being a 'clinincal' transaction they both felt it was a really warm and positive (not to mention horny) experience.
Just another side of the coin.
Japes

Or maybe she was just very good at her job? wink

Comments like mine aside, best to do what both yourself and your gf are most comfortable and happy with....

16 Jan 2007

Quote by Shireen
my wife fancied him!

I fancy your wife redface

Stop it......if my wife turns bi.....i'll have to do the same!.....well so i told Bloke! lol

16 Jan 2007

We have heard reports of people hiring girls in Amsterdam for FFM and the girl being really up for it ie not clock watching and asking to meet again. We don't have personal experience that way so can't comment first hand.
But as to the general question of hiring a prositute to join a couple, suppose its how specialised your fantasies are, if you want a blonde Indian girl to have sex with you both while riding a llama, then probably paid for company is the easiest way to find one.
If its just "ordinary" FFM then try the ads or the clubs, we have had success both those ways.
John & Shel

17 Jan 2007

Quote by sulacouk
One idea was maybe pay a prostitute who was willing to be paid to join us. Our concern is that we might expose ourselves to the wrong types of people and that it probably wouldn't be the same as 3 people actually choosing to be there rather than us paying her to be with us. Plus all the more obvious health issues.

sorry but this comment has really got to me............in actuall fact most girls tested regually whether they have been put at 'risk' or not and actaully look after their sexual health a lot better than others do so........even within the swinging lifestle........ rolleyes

17 Jan 2007

Poshkate - sorry if I caused offence. None was meant but you must admit, prostitution is a high risk industry. However, I can imagine that some do indeed have regular tests and would probably more safer to sleep with than others.
We aren't looking for another couple. We have talked about couples with a bi-fem but my partner wants FF more than anything else. I freely admit I'm not sure how I would cope with another male present.
As for going to clubs etc, we can't find anything local to us. Maybe Swansea or Cardiff but thats 1 to 2 hours drive. We have a place to go in Cardiff so I guess we could find out which clubs might be worth a visit. Groups seem pretty non-existent or hard to find out about round these parts.
Guess we just keep trying. smile

17 Jan 2007

personally i'd sooner go without that pay for sex, saying that i have no problems with escorts etc so if thats what u want go for it ;)

18 Jan 2007

Quote by Cossie
Allways check out for reviews on the girl.

I had a nosey on here and nearly wet myself laughing at one of the reviews rotflmao

I guess you don't always get what you pay for :small-print: lol