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not sure where the hell to start so if i ramble then im sorry its nerves.
i have spoken to my partner and told him i will be posting, the reasons why will become very clear soon (i hope) lol................
ok here we go pull up a seat we may be here quite a while..
A few years ago i went into work as i would any normal day after an hour or so i received a call from the area manager telling me to close the shop and send my staff home we as a company had gone bust the date of this was 28th december. As i single parent to 2 boys it could not have come at a worst time for me fear and panic set in my bills were massive and then the tears came how the hell was i supposed to live? how the hell was i supposed to support 2 kids?
A few days later when the shock had wore off i knew then and there that i had to sort this out quick i needed an income, my boys were my world and i had to sort this out. I decided to become an escort just for a few weeks i told myself just give me some time to sort out another job but there was a problem i had a boyfriend and i then decided i certainly was not going to tell him what i was doing after all how the hell would i be able to expect him to sleep with me after i was sleeping with others for money?
I have been into swinging for many years it was something that started when i was married and i loved the scene to me swinging and my "work" was 2 totally different things, my "work" paid my bills the swinging was for my pleasure never once did the 2 worlds cross.
Anyway a few months later during an argument with my then boyfriend i text him the link to my "working web site" he didnt speak to me for a good few weeks but then we talked about it and he assured me as it was only something i would be doing short term he could live with it and would never hold it against me. In the whole i did love my job, the money was fantastic not only was i able to pay my bills and have nice things it paid for regular holidays for my children we never went without anything, and the then boyfriend also benifited from my wages with expensive "gifts" and such like.
It is true what has been said some days i certainly did not want to go to work at all but knew i had to it was like living 2 seperate lives i had my normal life and i had my "working" life. Never once did i walk the streets or put myself in any sort of danger that way, i worked from a controlled enviroment and had security while i worked, my work came from a web site and most of my "clients" became regular and alot of my work was also word of mouth.
I then after a long time decided i wanted a "normal" job i was terrified people found out what i was doing for a living was scared of other peoples reactions to it was terrified it would cost me my boys even though i never worked from home nor did they have any idea as to what i was doing. we talked about this and the outcome was how the hell do i find a "normal" job that would pay me around £700 a week, this was the sort of money i was earning as an escort. so once again i just carried on with my job.
My relationship ended and i suppose it was somewhat down to my chosen carrer, i then decided i wanted out and i did it. I got a "normal" job and learned to live on a normal income it has not been easy but it was something i needed to do for myself i wanted to put the escorting to bed once and for all and i also met a wonderfull man who i adore even though we have our ups and downs like any other couple but i made the decission he would never ever know about my past as he finds the swinging hard to get his head round i knew the escorting would kill him. Well fate has a nasty habbit of biting you on the arse will not go into to much detail on here but my ex boyfriend decided to start telling my friends on this site what i used to do for a living, even down to a comment that really hurts me he said to one of my friends, how can you trust the word of somebody who is on the game!! i was mortified this has really hurt me, i was an escort yes but in my eyes i was never on the game. The outcome of this is ive had to tell the man who i adore my past and it has distroyed him he cant even look at me at the moment we are still together and its JUST i dont think he will ever be able to forgive my past, we have gone from living together and planning our wedding to him not living here but comes to see me alot of the time but it always ends up in us having words, would i change my past?? honestly i really cant answer this i did what i did at the time and i thought it was my only way, did it affect swinging??? certainly not its 2 different worlds just both involve sex.
sorry i think ive hi jacked this thread
ops:
i have spoken to my partner and told him i will be posting, the reasons why will become very clear soon (i hope) lol................
ok here we go pull up a seat we may be here quite a while..
A few years ago i went into work as i would any normal day after an hour or so i received a call from the area manager telling me to close the shop and send my staff home we as a company had gone bust the date of this was 28th december. As i single parent to 2 boys it could not have come at a worst time for me fear and panic set in my bills were massive and then the tears came how the hell was i supposed to live? how the hell was i supposed to support 2 kids?
A few days later when the shock had wore off i knew then and there that i had to sort this out quick i needed an income, my boys were my world and i had to sort this out. I decided to become an escort just for a few weeks i told myself just give me some time to sort out another job but there was a problem i had a boyfriend and i then decided i certainly was not going to tell him what i was doing after all how the hell would i be able to expect him to sleep with me after i was sleeping with others for money?
I have been into swinging for many years it was something that started when i was married and i loved the scene to me swinging and my "work" was 2 totally different things, my "work" paid my bills the swinging was for my pleasure never once did the 2 worlds cross.
Anyway a few months later during an argument with my then boyfriend i text him the link to my "working web site" he didnt speak to me for a good few weeks but then we talked about it and he assured me as it was only something i would be doing short term he could live with it and would never hold it against me. In the whole i did love my job, the money was fantastic not only was i able to pay my bills and have nice things it paid for regular holidays for my children we never went without anything, and the then boyfriend also benifited from my wages with expensive "gifts" and such like.
It is true what has been said some days i certainly did not want to go to work at all but knew i had to it was like living 2 seperate lives i had my normal life and i had my "working" life. Never once did i walk the streets or put myself in any sort of danger that way, i worked from a controlled enviroment and had security while i worked, my work came from a web site and most of my "clients" became regular and alot of my work was also word of mouth.
I then after a long time decided i wanted a "normal" job i was terrified people found out what i was doing for a living was scared of other peoples reactions to it was terrified it would cost me my boys even though i never worked from home nor did they have any idea as to what i was doing. we talked about this and the outcome was how the hell do i find a "normal" job that would pay me around £700 a week, this was the sort of money i was earning as an escort. so once again i just carried on with my job.
My relationship ended and i suppose it was somewhat down to my chosen carrer, i then decided i wanted out and i did it. I got a "normal" job and learned to live on a normal income it has not been easy but it was something i needed to do for myself i wanted to put the escorting to bed once and for all and i also met a wonderfull man who i adore even though we have our ups and downs like any other couple but i made the decission he would never ever know about my past as he finds the swinging hard to get his head round i knew the escorting would kill him. Well fate has a nasty habbit of biting you on the arse will not go into to much detail on here but my ex boyfriend decided to start telling my friends on this site what i used to do for a living, even down to a comment that really hurts me he said to one of my friends, how can you trust the word of somebody who is on the game!! i was mortified this has really hurt me, i was an escort yes but in my eyes i was never on the game. The outcome of this is ive had to tell the man who i adore my past and it has distroyed him he cant even look at me at the moment we are still together and its JUST i dont think he will ever be able to forgive my past, we have gone from living together and planning our wedding to him not living here but comes to see me alot of the time but it always ends up in us having words, would i change my past?? honestly i really cant answer this i did what i did at the time and i thought it was my only way, did it affect swinging??? certainly not its 2 different worlds just both involve sex.
sorry i think ive hi jacked this thread
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or 'Charlie's Angels'... I could help!
Sex God
Quote by brucietook me a while work it out columbo :bounce: :bounce:
we could be starsky and hutch
Although I'm no expert on the subject of prostitution. I have a very limited knowledge (did Women's Studies that was mainly about street prostitution from a feminist viewpoint and that's it) and I see prostitution and escorting a little differently.
I feel escorting (know bugga all about escorting an all) 'can' be more of choice these days for woman/men and street working isn't as clear cut. Lots of similarities between them yes but its how/where a service is provided. Hence why I see street work as different and perhaps more risky
: (tho, I realise they are risks for example regarding safety for escorts).
I had a good mate who was a street worker - started as a child (with parental troubles) and definitely wasn't a career choice. But - it did became a career choice as she got older. She liked the things the money brought her - owned her own beautiful house by time she was in her early 20's, had a great social network, brilliant friends and she was confident about who she was (that happened over time). It also had its downfall - in that she didn't live long enough to enjoy all it brought her. She never had one day of regret about what she did for a living.
My aunt was also a street worker - similar story as above but alive an well and went through many awful years of personal troubles from a young age that effected her whole life. As for regrets I have no idea, she lives for the moment. All I know is she is the most amazing woman I know.
Although both had choices (limited ones)and made decisions that they needed to at the time due to circumstances (perhaps) or for survival. To an extent they did have an unhappy side to their lives. More to do with rejection by family, children and school friends. The ones who meant a lot to them both and had a need for their acceptance.
The word 'escort' feels more acceptable somehow. Yet, I'm sure some of the above can apply to escorts depending on circumstances etc.
I suppose what I'm getting at is, do people see escorting as more socially acceptable than street work? Or is it just me who feels its maybe viewed this way?
I feel escorting (know bugga all about escorting an all) 'can' be more of choice these days for woman/men and street working isn't as clear cut. Lots of similarities between them yes but its how/where a service is provided. Hence why I see street work as different and perhaps more risky
: (tho, I realise they are risks for example regarding safety for escorts).I had a good mate who was a street worker - started as a child (with parental troubles) and definitely wasn't a career choice. But - it did became a career choice as she got older. She liked the things the money brought her - owned her own beautiful house by time she was in her early 20's, had a great social network, brilliant friends and she was confident about who she was (that happened over time). It also had its downfall - in that she didn't live long enough to enjoy all it brought her. She never had one day of regret about what she did for a living.
My aunt was also a street worker - similar story as above but alive an well and went through many awful years of personal troubles from a young age that effected her whole life. As for regrets I have no idea, she lives for the moment. All I know is she is the most amazing woman I know.
Although both had choices (limited ones)and made decisions that they needed to at the time due to circumstances (perhaps) or for survival. To an extent they did have an unhappy side to their lives. More to do with rejection by family, children and school friends. The ones who meant a lot to them both and had a need for their acceptance.
The word 'escort' feels more acceptable somehow. Yet, I'm sure some of the above can apply to escorts depending on circumstances etc.
I suppose what I'm getting at is, do people see escorting as more socially acceptable than street work? Or is it just me who feels its maybe viewed this way?
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I suppose what I'm getting at is, do people see escorting as more socially acceptable than street work? Or is it just me who feels its maybe viewed this way?
It's still selling sex. I see no real difference in it's social acceptability. I do, however, think that the life of (most) street girls is a damn site harder than that of (most) "parlour" based hookers. I think it's usually far more of a last resort.
Quote by anais
I suppose what I'm getting at is, do people see escorting as more socially acceptable than street work? Or is it just me who feels its maybe viewed this way?
I've knew a woman a few years ago who made a substantial income from being an escort though her role was purely escorting for social events without the 'extras'. Many times she was offered obscene amounts of cash to have sex with the guy but as it wasn't what she was doing the job for, she always refused. The choice was always hers. The company she worked for made it clear to the client that sex was not on offer and this was accepted.
I know a lot of women ( and men ) use the term 'escort' as a front for prostitute but that's not to say ALL of them do. The same with masseurs/masseuses - a lot of them especially in certain establishments, offer sex as an extra which sadly tars all massage therapists with the same brush
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
Easy - is this a new game 'I think it and you draw it?' If so, flower appears to be on the same wavelength too...
Try refreshing the page BIoke. The pictures seem to be stalling when loading.
I dont have a problem with folk doing whatever they wish to be they workers or clients.
Sadly because of the laws surrounding prostitution its not something that I could get involved in or support.
The sad reality is that four grand will buy an eastern european woman to be enslaved in the sex trade.
That said, welcome to the forums Brucie, I hope folk settle down and your threads lead to more debate and less attack.
Sadly because of the laws surrounding prostitution its not something that I could get involved in or support.
The sad reality is that four grand will buy an eastern european woman to be enslaved in the sex trade.
That said, welcome to the forums Brucie, I hope folk settle down and your threads lead to more debate and less attack.
Warming the Bed
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I wanna know if these prossie's escorts on the game woteva u call them.. were they claiming from the social whilst doing this *Job* ? Did the DSS know...
Its all about the money :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
I think there are many women on the game that are on DSS i think they do it to supplement their income to provide a better life for themselves and their family. In my line of work i have had to work with sex workers to provide support to them with many sex workers they have very destructive lives and in a lot of cases have huge low self esteem weather its from a broken relationship or what not. I am sure the DSS don't know what they do as its illegal over here to be a sex worker. I do not judge what people do but me personally would not go down the road of selling myself to earn an extra buck i don't think i could live with myself by doing that. There are women who earn fortunes by sleeping with wealthy men who in some cases give them lives that i could only dream of.
I am sure if the DSS was to know what a woman was doing that they would stop their benefits. We all choose what we do with our life and we have to live with them choices....
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It's not illegal to be a sex worker. The act of receiving money for sex is, at present, legal. However, I do expect it would lead to some head scratching at form filling in time.
we didnt think this was true as i'm sure many won't so did a quick google .......
Is prostitution illegal?
The law is complicated. The act of one consenting adult paying another for sex is NOT actually illegal. So, a woman who works on her own, in her own house and charges people for sex is NOT breaking the law.
But the laws that exist around it make it almost impossible to carry out prostitution legally.
To put it as simply as possible...
Brothels are illegal - that's a room where more than one woman works - even if they work on different days or at different times. A massage parlour is normally a classier name for a brothel.
It's also illegal to live off immoral earnings - that could include pimps, massage parlour managers, and receptionists.
It's illegal to advertise for sexual services - though not to advertise massage or escort services like those in the papers and on the internet. It's also quite likely that people renting a house and using it as a brothel are committing planning and tenancy offences. At a street level it's illegal to solicit for trade, and curb-crawling is illegal.
Warming the Bed
ok i know what i meant that you will get arrested if you are caught on the streets selling your services i also know that ita legal to advistise escorts etc as long as it does not mention sex... but thank you guys for correcting me lol xx
Sex God
Quote by Witchy
It's not illegal to be a sex worker. The act of receiving money for sex is, at present, legal. However, I do expect it would lead to some head scratching at form filling in time.
:thumbup:
Just to clarify, I've never claimed benefits and have always paid tax on my income, what ever job I'm doing. The tax man doesn't care how you earn your money so long as he gets his cut!
Sex God
how do you know he didn't :lol2: :giggle:
in my case it was done to put food on the table and for gas and electric for my kids, yes i did get addicted to the money in the end and as for self esteem mine was fine lol was nothing wrong with that at all, all i cared about was putting clothes on my kids backs and making sure they were fed and warm and that is why i started
Love it or loath it the oldest profession is here to stay and no amount of legislation or campainers by moral dogooders wll ever make it go away.
Have it legalised as they do in certain continetal countries and let stop pretending that we can assume any moral high ground.
Men want sex ...simple ...woman ( and some men) will accept payment for sex...simple.
I would rather have a legal brothel in my town than a sexualy abused child that has been by some horny degenerate on a drunken Saturday night.
Have it legalised as they do in certain continetal countries and let stop pretending that we can assume any moral high ground.
Men want sex ...simple ...woman ( and some men) will accept payment for sex...simple.
I would rather have a legal brothel in my town than a sexualy abused child that has been by some horny degenerate on a drunken Saturday night.
Quote by john60
Love it or loath it the oldest profession is here to stay and no amount of legislation or campainers by moral dogooders wll ever make it go away.
Have it legalised as they do in certain continetal countries and let stop pretending that we can assume any moral high ground.
Men want sex ...simple ...woman ( and some men) will accept payment for sex...simple.
I would rather have a legal brothel in my town than a sexualy abused child that has been by some horny degenerate on a drunken Saturday night.
how tasteless and ignorant is that statement ??? ummm probably 10/10. To insinuate that a would not commmit if sex workers were freely available is both incorrect and truly offensive. What about the sex workers who get ??? I would imagine that isn't a possibility in your world ?
And being as a sex worker isn't just when they don't get paid. For anyone who might trot in with a banal 'joke'.
As for your '(and some men)' comment. You have inferred from that that all women will accept payment for sex.
perhaps you want to come back into the thread when you have something more enlightened to offer ?
