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Ello SurreyNewbie 
I've only been to Abfab the once, but it was so brill! :bounce:
OK can't remember too much about what you do with your stuff
When you phone up to ask to be put on their list (they like to know numbers, and you have to phone in advance.), ask what happens with valuables, if it's small things like a wallet, they might have a safe or something to keep it in, or you can keep it on you.
Dress code - go in smart casual, no trainers, but wouldn't go overboard in full tux either :lol2: Just a smart shirt n trousers/jeans (prov. jeans are allowed
). Once again, ask them if they have a strict dress code, any no nos etc. Make sure that you are comfortable with what you're wearing too. If it's your first time to a club, then you'll be nervous about enough, without the added burdon of being uncomfy in yer clothes 
Another thing - whatever you do choose to wear, make sure it's immaculate. This will be peoples first impression of you. Clean clothes, newly ironed is gonna have more of an impact than anything slightly scruffy, or slightly 'worn out' looking.
Next thing - make sure you are spotlessly clean before you go. Take the time to get ready. If you're clean shaven, then make sure you're very clean shaven. If you've got facial hair, then make sure it's trimmed to perfection. All little things that people won't really notice ......... unless it hasn't been done :?
When you enter abfab, if it's your first time, someone will show you around the place. After that take your drink to the bar bit in the lounge/social area. Whatever you drink, take it, even soft drinks. Then pour yourself one, and the start of your eve has begun
You will still be fully dressed at this stage - in fact the only time people are undressed, from what I saw, was when they were actually playing (or swimming!). Although the later the eve, the less people seemed to wear :lol:
Go with the presumption that you will not be playing - that way you won't be disappointed. Just be friendly and chatty to people. So long as people don't do the heavy 'come on' to others, they'll usually chat quite happily.
We're supposed to be going this Friday (babysitter permitting
). If you want, we will meet you in there so you're not completely on your own at the start of the eve. This will be a purely social arrangement mind you :lol: Once you get comfy, curious, whatever, then you can wander off on your own and have a nose around. See how others act etc. This is a very loose arrangement at the mo, hoping we can get there, but can't be sure til later in the week :roll: If not, then another time.
You'll have a good time there - it really is a wonderful place 8-)
I've only been to Abfab the once, but it was so brill! :bounce:
OK can't remember too much about what you do with your stuff
When you phone up to ask to be put on their list (they like to know numbers, and you have to phone in advance.), ask what happens with valuables, if it's small things like a wallet, they might have a safe or something to keep it in, or you can keep it on you.Dress code - go in smart casual, no trainers, but wouldn't go overboard in full tux either :lol2: Just a smart shirt n trousers/jeans (prov. jeans are allowed
). Once again, ask them if they have a strict dress code, any no nos etc. Make sure that you are comfortable with what you're wearing too. If it's your first time to a club, then you'll be nervous about enough, without the added burdon of being uncomfy in yer clothes Another thing - whatever you do choose to wear, make sure it's immaculate. This will be peoples first impression of you. Clean clothes, newly ironed is gonna have more of an impact than anything slightly scruffy, or slightly 'worn out' looking.
Next thing - make sure you are spotlessly clean before you go. Take the time to get ready. If you're clean shaven, then make sure you're very clean shaven. If you've got facial hair, then make sure it's trimmed to perfection. All little things that people won't really notice ......... unless it hasn't been done :?
When you enter abfab, if it's your first time, someone will show you around the place. After that take your drink to the bar bit in the lounge/social area. Whatever you drink, take it, even soft drinks. Then pour yourself one, and the start of your eve has begun
You will still be fully dressed at this stage - in fact the only time people are undressed, from what I saw, was when they were actually playing (or swimming!). Although the later the eve, the less people seemed to wear :lol:Go with the presumption that you will not be playing - that way you won't be disappointed. Just be friendly and chatty to people. So long as people don't do the heavy 'come on' to others, they'll usually chat quite happily.
We're supposed to be going this Friday (babysitter permitting
). If you want, we will meet you in there so you're not completely on your own at the start of the eve. This will be a purely social arrangement mind you :lol: Once you get comfy, curious, whatever, then you can wander off on your own and have a nose around. See how others act etc. This is a very loose arrangement at the mo, hoping we can get there, but can't be sure til later in the week :roll: If not, then another time. You'll have a good time there - it really is a wonderful place 8-)
Quote by quimninja2003
missy can me and mrs ninja join you and surrynewbie, we want to go to one but feela bit intimidated
Yer daft pair!!!!! You've already got the safety as a couple!!! But it would be fun - we'll have to sort out a date when we're all free :shock: :bounce:Then I can laugh at you 5 mins after entering the place and start saying, oh there was nothing to worry about at all :lol2:
I remember my first club, although not a swingers club as such, was still nervous. Was going to Rios, I wasted 3 whole weeks beforehand in complete terror, and within 2 mins of being in the place I was "ooooh this is nice"ing everywhere
Thing is, no matter how many times I was told I would be fine, I didn't believe it once
You'll only really know how relaxed, non pressured and friendly the places are once you get in there. Casanova
Quote by Missy
Dress code - go in smart casual, no trainers, but wouldn't go overboard in full tux either :lol2: Just a smart shirt n trousers/jeans (prov. jeans are allowed
Another thing - whatever you do choose to wear, make sure it's immaculate. This will be peoples first impression of you. Clean clothes, newly ironed is gonna have more of an impact than anything slightly scruffy, or slightly 'worn out' looking.
Next thing - make sure you are spotlessly clean before you go. Take the time to get ready. If you're clean shaven, then make sure you're very clean shaven. If you've got facial hair, then make sure it's trimmed to perfection. All little things that people won't really notice ......... unless it hasn't been done
Missy - I'm SOOOO glad you pointed these things out, not just for SurreyNewbie's benefit, but for all to see, as I am firmly of the opinion that Personal Turnout standards amongst males in particular in swingers clubs is in severe decline.
Some sauna type clubs let anyone in regardless of appearance, and why not, their scruffies go staight into the lockers when they swap them for a towel. But that's led to scruffy attire becoming the norm for swingers who then expect to get away with it when they visit nightclub style swingers clubs too.
It's only my personal opinion here, but if a person can't be bothered with his personal appearance, how can he be trusted with this personal hygeine? If a guy has a wanton attitude towards his dress sense how can anyone be sure that he doesn't have a wanton attitude all-round, including on matters like safe sex?
Three cheers for Missy on pointing out the importance that appearance and grooming has in an inter-personal environment. :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:
