Having observed comments on various other threads, I just wondered if anyone had quickie encounters via SH.
The ones where you don't exchange names/personal details, or chat/msn before you meet, and engage in some level of sexual encounter, very shortly after initial contact, or within minutes of meeting for the first time. I wonder if its more of a single male thing or do couples/fems do it too.
Or does everyone prefer getting to know someone (the proverbial email tennis) Is it a safety (both physically and sexually) issue or more of a personality thing, to do it this way.
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I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single males that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
xanaisx
Ps interesting topic
Ooops me spelling is up the creek again!
xanaisx
Ps interesting topic
Ooops me spelling is up the creek again!
Sex God
Its not something we have done but I do have this fantasy about a picnic bench and a group of very sexy strangers :twisted:
But we wont go there
But we wont go there
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Its not something we have done but I do have this fantasy about a picnic bench and a group of very sexy strangers :twisted:
But we wont go there
We'll bring the sandwiches
Now back on topic we were online one summer evening on the site last year, got chatting to a couple who were up here visiting family and within 15 mins were heading out in the car for a bit of outdoor watch/be watched with said couple.
So, i think that answers that one
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
Having observed comments on various other threads, I just wondered if anyone had quickie encounters via SH.
The ones where you don't exchange names/personal details, or chat/msn before you meet, and engage in some level of sexual encounter, very shortly after initial contact, or within minutes of meeting for the first time. I wonder if its more of a single male thing or do couples/fems do it too.
We don't.
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I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single mails that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
xanaisx
Ps interesting topic
NOPE- NEVER!!!
Nope never have, never will. I'm too wary of strangers and feel the need to get to know people before we meet. Always, always MSN and mobiles, Jay chats on phones and texts and I chat on MSN.
I can understand the fantasy side, but it would have to remain a fantasy of being seduced quickly in a secluded place like the woods for example..
I can understand the fantasy side, but it would have to remain a fantasy of being seduced quickly in a secluded place like the woods for example..
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I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single mails that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
xanaisx
Ps interesting topic
NOPE- NEVER!!!
Well stop asking me!!!!
Quote by Bonedigger
Having observed comments on various other threads, I just wondered if anyone had quickie encounters via SH.
The ones where you don't exchange names/personal details, or chat/msn before you meet, and engage in some level of sexual encounter, very shortly after initial contact, or within minutes of meeting for the first time. I wonder if its more of a single male thing or do couples/fems do it too.
Or does everyone prefer getting to know someone (the proverbial email tennis) Is it a safety (both physically and sexually) issue or more of a personality thing, to do it this way.
I've entertained the thought of a quick meet, but it's not something I could do safely alone
I am guilty of not hanging around before getting down to business on some occasions mind ;)
Sex God
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I am guilty of not hanging around before getting down to business on some occasions mind ;)
And why not!
I'm on the same wavelength with you there Minxy :twisted:
Fee
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Same here
but I still have the fantasy of the total stranger, just dont have the courage to go ahead with it :cry: 
Warming the Bed
I'd never spontaneously meet someone from the internet but I know I'm capable of exchanging knowing looks IRL & 'bumping' into him for a casual something there and then. For some reason that feels less risky! ??
Also, safety aside, I think the build up of sexy chats & emails is important and so fucking sexy!
Also, safety aside, I think the build up of sexy chats & emails is important and so fucking sexy!
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I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single males that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
Its the fisherman theory.........the more rods you cast the more chance of a bite....
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I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single males that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
Its the fisherman theory.........the more rods you cast the more chance of a bite....
ahhhhh, so if ya keep dangling a worm something nibbles it?
Quote by anais
I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single males that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
Its the fisherman theory.........the more rods you cast the more chance of a bite....
ahhhhh, so if ya keep dangling a worm something nibbles it?
yes a fish..............
Quote by markz
I cant answer all of as I dont have personal experience.. but I do see guys in chat wanting to meet now! Its not always single males that ask either... I have wondered if it works for them??? Suppose it must or they wouldn't keep asking???
Its the fisherman theory.........the more rods you cast the more chance of a bite....
ahhhhh, so if ya keep dangling a worm something nibbles it?
yes a fish..............
at least its a main course! Quote by LadyFeeBee
... I still have the fantasy of the total stranger, just dont have the courage to go ahead with it :cry:
Oh me too, frequently! :rascal:
Works out well in my head but in real life i'd probably bottle out of it
Fee
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Me three lol, the closest I ever got to it was in my local. I made eye contact with a nice looking bloke across a crowded bar, we kept meeting each others' gaze for a few minutes, so I got up and walked past him to the back of the pub where the loos are. He followed me and I turned around when we reached the corridor, he grabbed me and pushed me up against the wall for one of the sexiest snogs of my life
I could, ahem, feel that he was interested. Someone walked past so we returned to the bar having not spoken a single word. I don't know if it would ever have gone any further (well not in the corridor at least!) but it was a pretty horny experience :twisted: Quote by BiWelshMinx
Me three lol, the closest I ever got to it was in my local. I made eye contact with a nice looking bloke across a crowded bar, we kept meeting each others' gaze for a few minutes, so I got up and walked past him to the back of the pub where the loos are. He followed me and I turned around when we reached the corridor, he grabbed me and pushed me up against the wall for one of the sexiest snogs of my life
Sounds a little like a horny experience I had once...
...works for me! :rascal:
Fee
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Sex God
Erm we have!!!
I was a wee bit tipsy in chat one day, and so was a girl I was chatting to....
We both had our webcams on and exchanged numbers, and she jokingly said 'i'll come round and help you finish your wine' so i said 'how long would it take you to get here' and so it went on for about half an hour of 'joking' before we both said 'i'm serious if you are'.
Den had just appeared home from work, when I told him said girl was on her way round!!!!
:shock: :twisted:
Well, we all had a very VERY good night! Bad maz and den!!
Can't see us doing that very often though, I think that was down to good timing etc etc.....
I was a wee bit tipsy in chat one day, and so was a girl I was chatting to....
We both had our webcams on and exchanged numbers, and she jokingly said 'i'll come round and help you finish your wine' so i said 'how long would it take you to get here' and so it went on for about half an hour of 'joking' before we both said 'i'm serious if you are'.
Den had just appeared home from work, when I told him said girl was on her way round!!!!
:shock: :twisted:
Well, we all had a very VERY good night! Bad maz and den!!
Can't see us doing that very often though, I think that was down to good timing etc etc.....
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Erm we have!!!
Why the
if it worked out ....Quote by mazandden
Well, we all had a very VERY good night!
I can recall three occasions for me, with couples, emanating from the chat rooms (two here and one on another site). One a secluded outside meet, one leading to a fifty mile drive and a quite exhausting 4 hours, then driving home completely shattered and the other an abortive 100 mile round trip where they bottled out when I rang them from the agreed location!
So you take your chances - all included quick chat room chat and mobile verification.
Have also taken part in non-arranged dogging/sexual activity (i.e. seen a car at a known dogging location, parked up and been invited to join).
All part of life's rich tapestry!
I have a couple of times gone in the chat room late afternoon and asked if any guys want to meet that evening have got ready and gone met them, however when meeting as a single female i think you run a level of risk so if i do quick meets i will only go to clubs to play where i feel its safe.
Just remembered another experience from some time ago:
I answered a couples ad, who wanted to meet at their hotel, later that afternoon.
One e-mail and one brief t/c later all was arranged.
I duly turned up, chatted for about five minutes and was then asked to contribute to the hotel expense (this hadn't been agreed before), which being a fair minded sort of bloke, I duly did.
Well after about half an hour of particularly uninspiring play (which didn't include an orgasm for me) it was obvious it was time to leave.
It transpired that the couple booked a hotel room every month or so and had a succession of single guys during the day and night - which is cool if that works for them, but at no time was the meet flagged up as a 'fuck and go' (which is not something I'm into on a one off basis) and having each guy contribute half the room costs would give them a nice healthy profit from their playtime!
To say I drove home feeling rather dirty and cheap would be a bit of an understatement.
But we live and learn ..........
I answered a couples ad, who wanted to meet at their hotel, later that afternoon.
One e-mail and one brief t/c later all was arranged.
I duly turned up, chatted for about five minutes and was then asked to contribute to the hotel expense (this hadn't been agreed before), which being a fair minded sort of bloke, I duly did.
Well after about half an hour of particularly uninspiring play (which didn't include an orgasm for me) it was obvious it was time to leave.
It transpired that the couple booked a hotel room every month or so and had a succession of single guys during the day and night - which is cool if that works for them, but at no time was the meet flagged up as a 'fuck and go' (which is not something I'm into on a one off basis) and having each guy contribute half the room costs would give them a nice healthy profit from their playtime!
To say I drove home feeling rather dirty and cheap would be a bit of an understatement.
But we live and learn ..........
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Just remembered another experience from some time ago:
I answered a couples ad, who wanted to meet at their hotel, later that afternoon.
One e-mail and one brief t/c later all was arranged.
I duly turned up, chatted for about five minutes and was then asked to contribute to the hotel expense (this hadn't been agreed before), which being a fair minded sort of bloke, I duly did.
Well after about half an hour of particularly uninspiring play (which didn't include an orgasm for me) it was obvious it was time to leave.
It transpired that the couple booked a hotel room every month or so and had a succession of single guys during the day and night - which is cool if that works for them, but at no time was the meet flagged up as a 'fuck and go' (which is not something I'm into on a one off basis) and having each guy contribute half the room costs would give them a nice healthy profit from their playtime!
To say I drove home feeling rather dirty and cheap would be a bit of an understatement.
But we live and learn ..........
Sounds an awful experience......unfortuntaley I have heard from another that he met a couple who booked a hotel all day long. I actually didnt twigg and nor did he when he told me about the share of hotel costs tho!! Cheeky blightys! Its like being paid for sex....
: You live and learn yes... but how would you ensure it doesnt happen again to you?
xanaisx
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You live and learn yes... but how would you ensure it doesn't happen again to you?
xanaisx
There's no way of ensuring, but there are a number of strategies to employ:
I rarely, and I mean rarely, reply to ads - especially if I've made contact previously and not even been acknowledged. There is a certain wry smile I reserve for couples coming into chat complaining about a 'no-show' when I know they didn't even reply to my e-mail.
I don't knowingly partake in 'cum and go' (excepting where it is just one dish from a sexual smorgasbord, with regular playmates).
I don't do hotels, unless I'm travelling for work, and have made arrangements in advance.
If the other party has a hotel, then I meet them somewhere else first (using the 'no play first meet' maxim).
Other than that, I'm open to being used and abused as is any other member!
Quote by ukbeannie
You live and learn yes... but how would you ensure it doesn't happen again to you?
xanaisx
There's no way of ensuring, but there are a number of strategies to employ:
I rarely, and I mean rarely, reply to ads - especially if I've made contact previously and not even been acknowledged. There is a certain wry smile I reserve for couples coming into chat complaining about a 'no-show' when I know they didn't even reply to my e-mail.
I don't knowingly partake in 'cum and go' (excepting where it is just one dish from a sexual smorgasbord, with regular playmates).
I don't do hotels, unless I'm travelling for work, and have made arrangements in advance.
If the other party has a hotel, then I meet them somewhere else first (using the 'no play first meet' maxim).
Other than that, I'm open to being used and abused as is any other member!Sounds like your using some good strategies and have it covered as much as you can in the curcumstances.
Quote by Bonedigger
Having observed comments on various other threads, I just wondered if anyone had quickie encounters via SH.
The ones where you don't exchange names/personal details, or chat/msn before you meet, and engage in some level of sexual encounter, very shortly after initial contact, or within minutes of meeting for the first time. I wonder if its more of a single male thing or do couples/fems do it too.
Or does everyone prefer getting to know someone (the proverbial email tennis) Is it a safety (both physically and sexually) issue or more of a personality thing, to do it this way.
The first meet that I had via sh was a quickie meet. I joined up ( as a free member) placed an advert, had hundreds of replies :shock: Checked out a guys profile, e-mailed him once, arranged a meet and the rest they say is history.
Luckily he was a very nice guy, we had a great time. Although I definately wouldnt do that again. Especially going on my own to meet someone who I dont know much about. It could of gone tits up, if you know what I mean. I was new to the scene, inexperienced and gagging for it at the time
Now I do prefer to get to know (as much as you can online) people a bit better before diving in
Louise xx
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