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sercher01
Sex God
Can someone please tell me what “almost single” means
there seems to be a lot of “almost single “ males posting in the forums and I have to say when I read there posts some sound like they have a partner and others sound like they are single imo dunno
Is this the way we say “ im thinking of leaving my partner but I need to find someone first “ ?
I understand that there are some people on here that are going through a split with a partner/wife and they are very straight about it in posts. good for them worship , you are not who this post is about
But there are others that are less than specific about there status! confused
So! What dose “almost single “ mean ?
MrsBedz
Sexpert
Quote by sercher01
Can someone please tell me what “almost single” means
there seems to be a lot of “almost single “ males posting in the forums and I have to say when I read there posts some sound like they have a partner and others sound like they are single imo dunno
Is this the way we say “ im thinking of leaving my partner but I need to find someone first “ ?
I understand that there are some people on here that are going through a split with a partner/wife and they are very straight about it in posts. good for them worship , you are not who this post is about
But there are others that are less than specific about there status! confused
So! What dose “almost single “ mean ?

I think your right about the ..... im thinking of leaving my partner but I need to find someone first “ ?
But I suppose it means whatever they want it to do at the time... :dunno:
Or maybe it means.......... WARNING!!...DO NOT TOUCH WITH A 10FT BARGE POLE. rolleyes
Unknown User
I view 'almost single' as a number of things.
'married but don't want to admit it'
'planning to leave my Mrs but not grown the balls yet' springs to mind but so does 'engaged but having a last fling before tying the knot'
There again, it could simply mean separated dunno
I think I put 'almost single' on mine originally when I was first separated as I don't recall seeing the 'almost divorced' category
sercher01
Sex God
this is what im getting at
and then you read the profile and they dont explain " almost single "
i think they should !!!! confused
Unknown User
Of course there is always the possibility that there is a genuine reason (I'm trying to think of one!) and that not everyone who doesn't swing in the 'right' way is a b*stard.
:P
Unknown User
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I view 'almost single' as a number of things.
'married but don't want to admit it'
'planning to leave my Mrs but not grown the balls yet' springs to mind but so does 'engaged but having a last fling before tying the knot'
There again, it could simply mean separated dunno

yep this is how i see it too, and agree with Mrs Bedz its a no go area for me
Earthy xx
sercher01
Sex God
4 ladys sayin if they see " almost single" on a profile
there off wink
just makes me wonder how many profiles will be changed lol :lol: :lol:
northwest____cpl
Sex God
Quote by sercher01
just makes me wonder how many profiles will be changed lol :lol: :lol:

Presumably to single ... confused
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
this is what im getting at
and then you read the profile and they dont explain " almost single "
i think they should !!!! confused

Why not just try asking them - if you want one who will be able to start a loving relationship that is wink
I think you are jumping on something for nothing - at least they are saying there is someone else somewhere in the picture and not just claiming to be 'single'.
So I guess they are being honest to the other members at least.
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
4 ladys sayin if they see " almost single" on a profile
there off wink
just makes me wonder how many profiles will be changed lol :lol: :lol:

Well done you then for bringing it up as an issue and pointing them to the 'single button' :lol:
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
4 ladys sayin if they see " almost single" on a profile
there off wink

I didn't say that - I was actually suggesting another possible angle.
Mike7073
Warming the Bed
I can answer from my point of view (you'll notice that my profile does indeed say 'Almost Single'
Earlier in the year I split with my gf because she had fallen in love with someone else.
I quickly realised that I wanted to give it another try, because I felt that we worked well together and I didn't want to just dump her and have regrets later.
I made it clear that I wanted her back, but she wasn't sure what she wanted, she didn't want to be with this other guy as they had decided to stay friends instead, but to her it brought up issues about our relationship (she *really* is not one for cheating).
So although I wanted her back, I was the wronged party and I was/am not going to hang on like a puppy dog waiting for her to make her mind up. I told her that until we are back together I will be leading my life as a single man, so i have been. I'd still like to get back with her but it doesn't look good.
So I class myself as single but with a few ties, so 'Almost single' seemed to be more honest than saying I was single.
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Mike7073, that sounds like a single description to me bud, not almost single, thats unless your still living together but you didn't mention that.
teachme
Sexlightened
from my side i was still living with my ex partner waiting for the house to be sold,
(well half the time, the other time she was living with my ex best friend.... mad )
and stupidly i still wanted her back as i had built her up to the idea of swinging, she took the other option of swinging on her own, ohwell,,,,,
so therfore i put almost single, and just didnt think about it until this post,
so i admit to being one of those who have changed it,
sercher01
Sex God
Quote by Mike7073
I can answer from my point of view (you'll notice that my profile does indeed say 'Almost Single'
Earlier in the year I split with my gf because she had fallen in love with someone else.
I quickly realised that I wanted to give it another try, because I felt that we worked well together and I didn't want to just dump her and have regrets later.
I made it clear that I wanted her back, but she wasn't sure what she wanted, she didn't want to be with this other guy as they had decided to stay friends instead, but to her it brought up issues about our relationship (she *really* is not one for cheating).
So although I wanted her back, I was the wronged party and I was/am not going to hang on like a puppy dog waiting for her to make her mind up. I told her that until we are back together I will be leading my life as a single man, so i have been. I'd still like to get back with her but it doesn't look good.
So I class myself as single but with a few ties, so 'Almost single' seemed to be more honest than saying I was single.

worship :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship:
well said m8
but like solofun said your single
so why not change your profile to " single" then write an explanation on it m8
see what happens?
teachme
Sexlightened
profile already changed bud, about 4 mins ago,,,,, we'll see if it makes a difference, wink
cheers
celestria
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I view 'almost single' as a number of things.
'married but don't want to admit it'
'planning to leave my Mrs but not grown the balls yet' springs to mind but so does 'engaged but having a last fling before tying the knot'
There again, it could simply mean separated dunno
I think I put 'almost single' on mine originally when I was first separated as I don't recall seeing the 'almost divorced' category

aren't they the almost married's though? wink
I used to have almost single on my profile back in the days before fektart and I got together. I was (and still am) married and for quite some time after we offically decided to separate (9 months) we lived under the same roof. So I didn't feel I could call myself single because that would have given the impression that I could just meet people at the drop of a hat and the ex and I actually set a "going out" rota up so neither of us had to fork out for babysitters. lol Anyone I met around that time was aware of my situation and were hopefully understanding of my situation.
maidenfair
Casanova
i stay away from 'almost single' like its on fire :twisted:
it usually means that someone is waiting till they find someone else (another roof over their heads) or they are married playing alone :shock:
it is open to lies somewhere along the line ...... and where do the lies begin and end?
i like most are here to have some fun with no strings not have someone lie to us, sometimes you get tied up in the lies ...not nice! sad
Mike7073 ..your single so say so ....you can always put a little piece at the bottom of your profile to explain ...you hope to reunite with your ex girlfriend although this may not be looking good!
i think a lot 'almost single' will be changed to SINGLE ....this will make it harder for us ladies! lol
naughtynymphos1
Sex God
i've always though almost single ment just waiting for the devorce to come thro, but then soon as your seperated your single anyway surley? dunno
Maybe on here its means married and cheating i havn't a clue confused
Unknown User
Quote by naughtynymphos1
i've always though almost single ment just waiting for the devorce to come thro, but then soon as your seperated your single anyway surley?

im sure ive ticked the one that says "divorced"........ i'll have to check now.......redface
Unknown User
Quote by HornyBear
sercher01 you were spot on as usual by raising this issue and later by saying write an explanation in your profile but sadly too many people write nothing at all hoping the ticks in boxes will be enough..hence the problem. if you are divorcing say so, if you are playing away say so. Its about making sure those of us in this community have an honest and fairer picture of who you are and what you are about surely?

In an ideal world blar blar balr (actually I just wanted to type 'bollox')
If someone ticks that they are 'almost single' for whatever reason they want, then they are at least warning/implying there is someone somewhere - that is more than some people do. To then say they have to explain why they ticked it to all and sundry is somewhat extreme and IMO overly intrusive, seeing as it has bob-diddly-squat to do with anyone else other than the people they meet.
People may choose to avoid the 'almost singles' but that is their choice and does not mean that the 'almost singles' need to satisfy special requirements by explaining themselves to every Tom, Dickhead and nosey Harry that comes across their profile.
If someone has posted that they have found their perfect partner and later appears as having 'single' on their profile - do they have to write a detailed explanation of what happened and why they are single again now? Do they feck-as-like - they tell the people they feel need to know.
For some people it is the nearest option to tick - they may have a partner but it does not mean they are married or even live together. They may be in an open relationship with this partner. There are plenty of not 'single' situations that are not 'married' situations - 'almost single' may not be an accurate description because of the implied meaning of 'almost' - but what else should they tick?
May be wondering why an explanation isn't on their profile isn’t the right question - may be the question should be are the options appropriate?
bluexxx
Sex God
I've just changed mine to almost single to annoy you all lol :lol: :lol: :lol:
sercher01
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
In an ideal world blar blar balr (actually I just wanted to type 'bollox')
If someone ticks that they are 'almost single' for whatever reason they want, then they are at least warning/implying there is someone somewhere - that is more than some people do. To then say they have to explain why they ticked it to all and sundry is somewhat extreme and IMO overly intrusive, seeing as it has bob-diddly-squat to do with anyone else other than the people they meet.
People may choose to avoid the 'almost singles' but that is their choice and does not mean that the 'almost singles' need to satisfy special requirements by explaining themselves to every Tom, Dickhead and nosey Harry that comes across their profile.
If someone has posted that they have found their perfect partner and later appears as having 'single' on their profile - do they have to write a detailed explanation of what happened and why they are single again now? Do they feck-as-like - they tell the people they feel need to know.
For some people it is the nearest option to tick - they may have a partner but it does not mean they are married or even live together. They may be in an open relationship with this partner. There are plenty of not 'single' situations that are not 'married' situations - 'almost single' may not be an accurate description because of the implied meaning of 'almost' - but what else should they tick?
May be wondering why an explanation isn't on their profile isn’t the right question - may be the question should be are the options appropriate?

ok PL your entiteled to your opinion hun well done for pointing out another side to us all worship
however the magority seem to think that " almost single" is not a good thing and warrants an explanation
there you have it " democracy in action "
now stop saying " bollox" its not lady like wink
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
however the magority seem to think that " almost single" is not a good thing and warrants an explanation
there you have it " democracy in action "
now stop saying " bollox" its not lady like wink

How can you say the majority think it is a bad thing when there are less people on this thread saying so than there are people who have ticked 'almost single' confused
Unknown User
Quote by HornyBear
Well this is a first. I disagree with your interpretation of my words PoloLady and hey if its bollox say so. I don't have an exclusive on wisdom here. :jagsatwork:
You appear to have made more of this than is necessary. I was just saying if there is a 'situation' then a simple word or two about those circumstances (if they are playing away for example) is helpful to those looking at profiles. If they choose to say nowt then fine as well as long as the 'situation' is mentioned in chats before a meet or play. As was said elsewhere if they are married, you aren't told, the wife finds out and you get a snotty phone call would you be impressed?
Your penultimate paragraph captures it wonderfully. You simply don't know do you unless someone explains it. Be that in the profile (which is where i feel it should be) or in some way before a meet is arranged. If they are playing as a single then tick the single box. Simple.
So my perving through profiles for potentially interesting people makes me a Tom, Dickhead or Harry does it? I'll phone the Deed Poll people later.. :giveup:

Forgive me here HornyBear – but you said that sercher was spot on and I do believe sercher said…
Quote by sercher01
this is what im getting at
and then you read the profile and they dont explain " almost single "
i think they should !!!! confused

Saying they have an option (as you now do) is not the same as what was said.
I agree they have the option to explain or not – I disagree with stating “they should”.
I do not accommodate. When I see other singles who do not accommodate I may well assume there is not always an innocent reason for that and then may chose to ignore them – does that mean I ‘should’ explain my personal circumstances to people who it has got fuck all to do with just to satisfy their curiosity?
Unknown User
Just out of curiosity (which may be a very apt word) seeing as sercher’s original point was aimed at males…..
Why would you two ‘straight’ guys feel the need to know if males are single or not? How does it affect you exactly? confused
Unknown User
something i cant quite understand is why 'almost single' has been 'singled' out so to speak what about
almost married, almost divorced, even divorced for that matter, being divorced does not mean you are single.
i think a lot of the profile choices are ambiguous and its trying to fit yourself into the one that you feel suits you the most. There are both sexes on the site down as singles that are married, is almost single worse than portraying yourself as single when you are not, it has already been said, by saying almost single at least there is the indication that someone else is around and if people chose not to play with that profile type then that is a personal choice, same as not playing with certain ages, sizes etc. i dont feel that anyone should have to give an explanation.
i think it is maybe more a problem that there are not enough profile choices and people try and 'fit' themselves into one of the ones available.
Earthy xx
sercher01
Sex God
if your on here to have sex ???????/ god forbid !
i think it only right that " almost single" should be explained
what happens if a wife/partner/ whoever finds out and has a go ?
if the " almost single " explain first you could avoid this situation could you not PL ?
i agree however with you on the fact that it is up to them whether they choose to explain
it is after all a free country !
imho i think they should ( in there profile ) this would stop any confusion !
and PL this is just my opinion
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
if your on here to have sex ???????/ god forbid !
i think it only right that " almost single" should be explained
what happens if a wife/partner/ whoever finds out and has a go ?
if the " almost single " explain first you could avoid this situation could you not PL ?

I think it could be better explained by talking to them (but that is just my opinion) - god forbid you are suggesting that the ladies on here jump into bed based on profile details alone confused
Unknown User
Quote by sercher01
if your on here to have sex ???????/ god forbid !
i think it only right that " almost single" should be explained
what happens if a wife/partner/ whoever finds out and has a go ?
if the " almost single " explain first you could avoid this situation could you not PL ?
i agree however with you on the fact that it is up to them whether they choose to explain
it is after all a free country !
imho i think they should ( in there profile ) this would stop any confusion !
and PL this is just my opinion

if you read above honey this has recently happened to me but they were down as a single not 'almost single'