&quot;Have you had many meets?&quot;

21 Mar 2012

I get asked this on a regular basis, from complete strangers, within the first few lines of communication (eg. hello, fancy camming, have you had many meets). Why do people ask this? Am I alone in thinking this doesn't even make sense? Many meets compared to what? On occasion I will reply "none of your business", which I know to be a fair reply yet is perceived as abrupt, if not bitchy. Do others get this? What do you make of this type of questioning?

21 Mar 2012

They want to know if you are a swinger or a tourist I imagine.

21 Mar 2012

We get asked it too. Our usual reply is along the lines of 'none of your business'. maybe it's our wierd way of looking at things, but we would be more interested in chatting with someone about the possibility of our next meet, than discussing or even thinking about the last.

21 Mar 2012

i usually reply with "oh i've had one or two ta" they want to push any further they usually get ignored.

21 Mar 2012

I think some people just use it as an opening line as they dont really know what else to say to get the conversain going, but we usually explain that we have met hundreds and hundreds of people off this site, and at least 150 of them were at the last Munch we went to wink

It either frightens the life out of them and never hear from them again, or it acts as a good ice breaker and gets the conversation going lol

Now if they ask how many we have played with, that is a different matter and they get told in no uncertain terms that it is none of their business :twisted:

21 Mar 2012

Speaking as a “newbie” couple wave

, I cannot understand this question either it’s a bit like asking how many people do you know dunno

it maybe they are trying to “break the ice” but there’s better ways drinkies

, I mean would you walk up to a stranger and ask “how many people have you slept with” :doh:

21 Mar 2012

Quote by Fun_for_two
I mean would you walk up to a stranger and ask “how many people have you slept with” :doh:

Erm, you would be suprised, but some people would ask that lol

Anyway, welcome to the site and the forums and hope we get to see many more of your posts :welcome:

21 Mar 2012

As a newbie as well, I put my hand up, I am guilty of asking that question..more like "have you met many people on here?"
I guess I'm just new and genuinely curious to know if people do meet each other, what it's like, etc. Not intended as "how many notches on your bed do you have?"
Having said that, it's never my opening line! Likely asked after intros and when we've been having a chat smile

Am I forgiven? rolleyes

21 Mar 2012

Depending on the stranger that asks it, I usually find it's asked by a newcomer to SH who's simple trying to find out from people if the site actually works and that you can get to meet people off here etc.
Bit like asking some people fishing if they have caught anything yet? If they answer no then possibly it's a crap place to fish (or their baits not up to it?! lol

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21 Mar 2012

Quote by pebble
I get asked this on a regular basis, from complete strangers, within the first few lines of communication (eg. hello, fancy camming, have you had many meets). Why do people ask this? Am I alone in thinking this doesn't even make sense? Many meets compared to what? On occasion I will reply "none of your business", which I know to be a fair reply yet is perceived as abrupt, if not bitchy. Do others get this? What do you make of this type of questioning?

On a more serious note, Have you had many meets? lol

22 Mar 2012

Quote by Bluefish2009
On a more serious note, Have you had many meets?

:lol2:
On an even more serious note, I'm sure there are as many reasons for the question as there are posers. At the risk of re-igniting an old debate, I think one reason could be to gauge how hardened/experienced the subject of the question is. I'm sure this would be important to someone with little experience themselves.

22 Mar 2012

Quote by Ben_Minx
They want to know if you are a swinger or a tourist I imagine.

"Do you meet?" might be a more direct way of finding that out. And I do reply to that!
"Have you had any meets?" is a good question for the curious and also a way of asking if the website is working for one. I answer to that too!
"Have you had many meets?" now! Do you want my time-meets graph in a histogram or a line chart? rolleyes

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Now if they ask how many we have played with, that is a different matter and they get told in no uncertain terms that it is none of their business :twisted:

Quote by Fun_for_two
I mean would you walk up to a stranger and ask “how many people have you slept with” :doh:

See this is the reason why the question gets my back up - because for many in the chatrooms there is no such distintion, so "have you had many meets=have you had many cocks".

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
It either frightens the life out of them and never hear from them again

In light of the above... these probably think your 150-strong munch was an orgy of Roman proportions! :shock: lol

Quote by M1ssVery
As a newbie as well, I put my hand up, I am guilty of asking that question..more like "have you met many people on here?"

Again, a question acceptably phrased! I like comparing notes as much as anybody! (A certain smartass of a forumite PMed me with this thread :lol smile

. But perhaps not with every random stranger who has openly shared no info on their profile and can't even start a conversation with me - yet is asking me to divulge the details of my private life.

Quote by SinSi
Bit like asking some people fishing if they have caught anything yet? If they answer no then possibly it's a crap place to fish (or their baits not up to it?! :lol: )

Funnily enough... my angler friend takes serious insult when people make such small talk! He finds it very intrusive :lol: and also a bit of a jinx.
Is SH a good place to fish? Are your baits up to it?!

Quote by Bluefish2009
On a more serious note, Have you had many meets? :lol:

Err, I've had my fair share redface

Quote by Cubes
At the risk of re-igniting an old debate, I think one reason could be to gauge how hardened/experienced the subject of the question is. I'm sure this would be important to someone with little experience themselves.

Cubes, if anything the feel I get is that they are trying to see if I am loose enough to fuck them :wary: Or else - as I am sure skinny would say - they're having a wank over it, aren't they!

22 Mar 2012

We don't mind this question when asked for the right reasons, that being, when someone wants to establish wether we are genuine meeters or just here for the cams, pics or dreaming.
The answer to wether it is the former or the latter is always given in the next few questions, what are you wearing, did you have fun, what did you do etc just tell us we have someone on the other end getting off on our experiences or in our case about to get very dissapointed.
We will not discuss anything about our meets that is of an intimate nature, we do not kiss and tell and have no interest in hearing about other peoples sexual encounters.

22 Mar 2012

yeah know what you mean pebbs x

22 Mar 2012

Quote by pebble
..... Do others get this? What do you make of this type of questioning?

Yes I get this, I am sure not as often as you...and sometimes I ask.

22 Mar 2012

I have taken this thread to heart. In future I will stick to "Are you wearing any knickers" to avoid offence.

22 Mar 2012

Quote by
..... Do others get this? What do you make of this type of questioning?

Yes I get this, I am sure not as often as you...and sometimes I ask....It's one way to move on to and would you like to meet me.

22 Mar 2012

we normally tell them had 20-30 inc ostrich kangaroo and crocodile
which is normally replied to with a ??? or wtf .....at which point we explain we're dyslexic :silly:

22 Mar 2012

Quote by Ben_Minx
I have taken this thread to heart. In future I will stick to "Are you wearing any knickers" to avoid offence.

:rotflmao:

22 Mar 2012

I could tell them how many people I meet each year, approx., just for sex, but that would be very misleading, and most newbies either wouldn't believe me or they would be banging their heads off a wall 2 weeks down the road wondering what they must be doing wrong. I suppose I could tell them that that part of my life has nothing to do with swinging heaven....but I'm not sure I'd feel inclined to go that far in response to such a crass question.
Naughty Wigan's answer's a good 'un....and m1ssvery's forgiven wink

22 Mar 2012

Quote by Ben_Minx
I have taken this thread to heart. In future I will stick to "Are you wearing any knickers" to avoid offence.

A loaded question if I ever knew one! Quite *what* are you *implying* there?! :P lol

preferolder: :welcome: kiss

You earn 600 cyber-stalker points and pass on to the next level, hehe.

22 Mar 2012

oh u for got the whispers that say hi,,,,then r u alone....when u r on cam....

22 Mar 2012

Quote by pebble
I have taken this thread to heart. In future I will stick to "Are you wearing any knickers" to avoid offence.

A loaded question if I ever knew one! Quite *what* are you *implying* there?! :P lol

preferolder: :welcome: kiss

You earn 600 cyber-stalker points and pass on to the next level, hehe.
Well if you ask what colour they usually say I aint wearing any eh. lol

23 Mar 2012

If the question was asked by anyone random in chat room or just by message it would be ignored. Other than that we dont have a problem answering it and as many have said would just view it as a verification question.

23 Mar 2012

this is my pet hate on here. i also hate when someone tells me about their bad meets they had on here. (i really don't care!!!!!!! )

23 Mar 2012

Random stranger: "Have you had many meets?"
Me: "Yes thanks"
Random stranger: "Do tell"
Me: "Im sorry, I'm not here to provide you with wank material, if that's what you're looking for go look at my pics!"

25 Mar 2012

I think I'm a bit ambivalent about this question, to be honest. dunno

I'm like others who've posted, in that I wouldn't necessarily answer it were it asked by someone as an opening gambit. However I wouldn't be unduly offended by them having asked it.

27 Mar 2012

fancy camming,I can many meets,I can one that gets me is,do you meet,cant think of any other reason wh I would be on a site of this nature if I

27 Mar 2012

Quote by Karentvxx
fancy camming,I can many meets,I can one that gets me is,do you meet,cant think of any other reason wh I would be on a site of this nature if I

Sadly there are lots that don't meet.