&quot;Normal and acceptable&quot;

8 Jan 2011

This thread has been inspired by a couple of threads that are current, the cafe is not my normal place for thread starting but here goes any way.
As we are people who step outside of what most of society would consider "normal and acceptable" behaviour. Does that make us more tolerant to other peoples differences, quirks, difficulties or perhaps less so. A stranger who looked in here might say less so dunno

What do you think?

8 Jan 2011

Who is to say what is normal and acceptable?
Judges have been found to be bound up with silk stockings taking 50 lashes with a leather whip in their quieter moments of reflection and men of the cloth sexually abusing small boys!
I'd say we in this community are a whole lot more sane and balanced socially to be frank :lol2:

8 Jan 2011

Quote by GnV
Who is to say what is normal and acceptable?
Judges have been found to be bound up with silk stockings taking 50 lashes with a leather whip in their quieter moments of reflection and men of the cloth sexually abusing small boys!
I'd say we in this community are a whole lot more sane and balanced socially to be frank :lol2:

So Gnv, would you say, as a whole, are more tolerent or less?

8 Jan 2011

I'd say more.
Hell, we're always saying "more" :grin:

8 Jan 2011

Interesting question Blue.
I personally think coming here has made me explore a part of my mind that prehaps I hadn't open that well before, so I would say I am much more open minded in a certain part of myself than I was before.
Tolerent I don't think being here or part of the swinging scene makes us more tolerent, if we were not tolerent before coming here I don't believe it makes us that way.
I personally believe it can make those with tolerance stand out against those which are less so and can fuel intolerance given the fact the site is fueled with Testosterone.

8 Jan 2011

Quote by Theladyisaminx
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I don't think being here or part of the swinging scene makes us more tolerent, if we were not tolerent before coming here I don't believe it makes us that way.

I'm in complete agreement with that!

8 Jan 2011

Quote by Max777

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I don't think being here or part of the swinging scene makes us more tolerent, if we were not tolerent before coming here I don't believe it makes us that way.

I'm in complete agreement with that!
So am I, but does the fact that we step outside of the norm, make us more acceptable of others who may step outside of the norm, in other areas of life. Or are you saying no, we are only more tolerant of our way of life, which is exactly what I feel is the case.

8 Jan 2011

Isn't this one of those 'irregular nouns'?
I'm Normal.
You're Acceptable.
They're just Wierd!!!!
:giggle:

8 Jan 2011

LOl foxy brilliant.

8 Jan 2011

Quote by Bluefish2009

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I don't think being here or part of the swinging scene makes us more tolerent, if we were not tolerent before coming here I don't believe it makes us that way.

I'm in complete agreement with that!
So am I, but does the fact that we step outside of the norm, make us more acceptable of others who may step outside of the norm, in other areas of life. Or are you saying no, we are only more tolerant of our way of life, which is exactly what I feel is the case.
I believe tolerance is a state of mind, is isnt about what we do or others do for that to change.
I think you might be meaning that we might become more open minded in seeing things differently as we learn more about things we knew little about before.

8 Jan 2011

Quote by Bluefish2009
A stranger who looked in here might say less so
What do you think?

Answered your own question there I think

8 Jan 2011

Quote by Bluefish2009

snip..........
I don't think being here or part of the swinging scene makes us more tolerent, if we were not tolerent before coming here I don't believe it makes us that way.

I'm in complete agreement with that!
So am I, but does the fact that we step outside of the norm, make us more acceptable of others who may step outside of the norm, in other areas of life. Or are you saying no, we are only more tolerant of our way of life, which is exactly what I feel is the case.
Yes, I am saying no wink

9 Jan 2011

No, this is all about sex primarily ours lol

We are what could be described as would be swingers who disprove of dogging. Thats just one example. We are here for our own ends and preferences when it comes down to it so I dont think it changes our tolerance levels of anyone else at all.

9 Jan 2011

There is a normal and an acceptable and it is found in one word
queue
which represents the nature and behaviour of the british admirably well. for in its use you have everything upon which one is agreed.
it is not normal to find a queue unacceptable.

9 Jan 2011

Even on a site like this where we would expect people to be accepting of other peoples preferences we see time and time again people slating others who do not conform with what individual people see as 'normal'. For example, guys on cam in stockings, tv's, etc end up being abused by others in the chatrooms because the watcher doesnt like what they see. I say, if you dont like it then turn the cam off!!
I am very accepting of others preferences, it doesnt mean that I would do what they do, or that I understand why they choose to do it but I'm sure some people dont understand why I do some things that I do either. It is all down to personal choice. I dont understand why people are unaccepting of others choices. As long as no one is trying to force their choices on to you then what harm can it do?
These are of course my opinions and they carry throughout my life, not just in the swinging world. Each to their own I say!!

9 Jan 2011

Following on from the last post I would like to state that I am 100% acceptable to others preferences where that preference does not unwillingly involve others. A TV in stockings on cam does not bother me. Doggers in public places at 7pm on a summers evening does. We may not be 100% accepting of everybody else's preferences but there is normally a good reason why.

10 Jan 2011

Cant argue with any of that, my experiences are similar.

10 Jan 2011

Quote by brucie
my experience is that swingers on the whole are less tolerant and more judgemental than most people i meet. they are also older fatter and less attractive generally. that might be a socio economic thing though as outside of swinging i am usually found in gastropubs and expensive bars. it might also have to do with the fact that swinging couples seem to be so defensive about single males that they lead their swinging lives with more "rules" than normal people lead their sexual lives. swingers will more easily reel off their do's and dont's about sex than vanillas (as vanillas have usually given it less thought and deal with each situation when confronted).

I was trying to think of an intelligent argument, but all I can come up with is - What a load of rubbish!

Quote by brucie
i forgot to mention "more right wing". oh and racist. i have come accross quite a few woman who want "black cock" but see it in a Mandingo kind of way...

Why the hell are you a member of a site full of fat, ugly, intollerant, right wing racists then?

10 Jan 2011

Quote by brucie
my experience is that swingers on the whole are less tolerant and more judgemental than most people i meet.

Maybe it's just you they won't tolerate?

Quote by brucie
they are also older fatter and less attractive generally. that might be a socio economic thing though as outside of swinging i am usually found in gastropubs and expensive bars.

What an arse.

Quote by brucie
it might also have to do with the fact that swinging couples seem to be so defensive about single males that they lead their swinging lives with more "rules" than normal people lead their sexual lives.

Seems sensible given that swinging often involves laying one's self bare to strangers

Quote by brucie
swingers will more easily reel off their do's and dont's about sex than vanillas (as vanillas have usually given it less thought and deal with each situation when confronted).

Can't disagree there - doesn't make either group right or wrong.

10 Jan 2011

Quote by brucie
chill out honey. you look gorgeous.

I'd take that as a compliment if it came from someone who wasn't so shallow.

10 Jan 2011

Quote by brucie
you are becoming predictable foxy

Which means you must be being repetative. biggrin

11 Jan 2011

Quote by brucie
my experience is that swingers on the whole are less tolerant and more judgemental than most people i meet. they are also older fatter and less attractive generally. that might be a socio economic thing though as outside of swinging i am usually found in gastropubs and expensive bars. it might also have to do with the fact that swinging couples seem to be so defensive about single males that they lead their swinging lives with more "rules" than normal people lead their sexual lives. swingers will more easily reel off their do's and dont's about sex than vanillas (as vanillas have usually given it less thought and deal with each situation when confronted).

Pot, kettle, black :lol2: You just do not learn, do you? You have the audacity to claim that swingers are older, (note the comma) fatter and less attractive and yet you have a photo in your private gallery, which, by your own admission, is 10 years out of date! Why? rotflmao