says it all really, been on here for a while now and not really had much success...i know us men are in huge quantities on here but wondered if anyone had any advice for me ..... people have said go to the munches but not really looking to be "into the scene" as it were, more just meeting like minded women for some fun
know this is a pointless post and i'm gonna get flamed, but hey if theres advice in there as well, then its done its job
oh, and Happy New Year!!!!!
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read the tips - got decent(ish) ads -where am i going wrong?
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Quote by hornyderby76
says it all really, been on here for a while now and not really had much success...
Ten days and four posts later?
Now that's what I call impatience!
:lol: Happy New Year to you too! :thumbup:
Why would anyone 'flame' you - you've asked a question in a constructive way... it's moaning that gets people's goat! 
My advice - I'd lose the cock shots in your profile, or at least remove all but one - you look like a good looking bloke in your avatar so why not use that pic on your profile too? If people open a profile and see 5 pics of a knob, they may start to think you are one.... I'm sure most of the people on here know what a dick looks like (nice as it is like :wink: ).
Your profile says you joined on the 21st December so still not a month and not long at all in 'swinging' time... post on here, get known a little and give people a reason to invite you into their homes, hotel rooms, ice cream vans, lorries :shock: etc etc :wink:
Good luck mate :thumbup:
Edit - just seen your reply to ES about your joining date so point taken... also, your profile says you're a 'straight male' but you're looking for a 'couple with a bi male'....why?
Not trying to be clever here mate, just honest :P
The best advice I was given when I joined this site was 'be specific about what you are and what you want and it will come to you in time'....
My advice - I'd lose the cock shots in your profile, or at least remove all but one - you look like a good looking bloke in your avatar so why not use that pic on your profile too? If people open a profile and see 5 pics of a knob, they may start to think you are one.... I'm sure most of the people on here know what a dick looks like (nice as it is like :wink: ).
Your profile says you joined on the 21st December so still not a month and not long at all in 'swinging' time... post on here, get known a little and give people a reason to invite you into their homes, hotel rooms, ice cream vans, lorries :shock: etc etc :wink:
Good luck mate :thumbup:
Edit - just seen your reply to ES about your joining date so point taken... also, your profile says you're a 'straight male' but you're looking for a 'couple with a bi male'....why?
Not trying to be clever here mate, just honest :P
The best advice I was given when I joined this site was 'be specific about what you are and what you want and it will come to you in time'....
Sex God
like bloke says ,you have to sell your self ,nothing wrong with munches thats where you can make most of a impression meeting in person but get posting join in even start a post ,make it interesting take the piss just join in ,any way hope you find some fun you will get addicted
Pretty simply put - this isnt a sex contact site just for guys to meet 'like minded women for some fun'. Its a swingers site - thus, here you will find sexuality of all denominations and understanding of it.
Swinging Heaven, as I understand it is (was, maybe still is really :shock: ) a community of like-minded people utilising a website to meet others with shared interests. Ultimately of course what you do get is many people - couples, individuals and groups enjoying 'recreational sex' for the fun and mutual enjoyment of it........but theres a difference between that, and 'Adult Contacts'.
Sounds to me like you're specifically looking for a 1:1 meet with a female, you're not interested in getting to know people socially via munches and the social scene generally...which is, as many many people here will tell you, the best way to meet like-minded people ...... so, you're basically here for a quick shag......
Dont get me wrong - you may well find it, especially with the influx of people who are also here thinking its an adult contact site......... but, unless you can outshine the thousands of single males who are also here looking for a non-scene quick shag, then you've got your work cut out!. In your ad you're looking for very different things, but in your post you say you're looking for women - you're confusing me already! (it aint hard! ). Your pics are fine, couple of good facial shots, cock shots aint bad either :lol: , your profile is a positive one too which is good- the one thing that'll put people off I think is when guys start whinging and bloody moaning about how they havent managed to meet anyone yet! - makes us think there's sommat wrong with you!
but, Good luck hun, hope ya find what you're looking for. :shock:
Happy New Year!
Swinging Heaven, as I understand it is (was, maybe still is really :shock: ) a community of like-minded people utilising a website to meet others with shared interests. Ultimately of course what you do get is many people - couples, individuals and groups enjoying 'recreational sex' for the fun and mutual enjoyment of it........but theres a difference between that, and 'Adult Contacts'.
Sounds to me like you're specifically looking for a 1:1 meet with a female, you're not interested in getting to know people socially via munches and the social scene generally...which is, as many many people here will tell you, the best way to meet like-minded people ...... so, you're basically here for a quick shag......
Dont get me wrong - you may well find it, especially with the influx of people who are also here thinking its an adult contact site......... but, unless you can outshine the thousands of single males who are also here looking for a non-scene quick shag, then you've got your work cut out!. In your ad you're looking for very different things, but in your post you say you're looking for women - you're confusing me already! (it aint hard!
). Your pics are fine, couple of good facial shots, cock shots aint bad either :lol: , your profile is a positive one too which is good- the one thing that'll put people off I think is when guys start whinging and bloody moaning about how they havent managed to meet anyone yet! - makes us think there's sommat wrong with you! but, Good luck hun, hope ya find what you're looking for. :shock:
Happy New Year!
thanks darkfire - makes sense really!!! you seem to have me pretty sussed as well....suppose if you look at it like that i am here for a quick shag, but to be fair, would rather meet someone off here for something a bit more regular ... just saying one offs are fine as well..
anyway, off to nurse the hangover with hair of the dog - Darren x
anyway, off to nurse the hangover with hair of the dog - Darren x
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Quote by hornyderby76
says it all really, been on here for a while now and not really had much success...i know us men are in huge quantities on here but wondered if anyone had any advice for me ..... people have said go to the munches but not really looking to be "into the scene" as it were, more just meeting like minded women for some fun
know this is a pointless post and i'm gonna get flamed, but hey if theres advice in there as well, then its done its job
oh, and Happy New Year!!!!!
It's quite simple --- no-one must fancy you!
:lol: :lol: :lol: We have got an add for single guys..
only put the post in a couple of hours a go and had about 40 messages from it so far...
so its simple... there is more guys than anything else on here so try and make yourself stand out over the rest...
And if your going to put some pics on your profile, at least try to make them clear lol
The is nothing worst than seeing tony squinting and getting pissed of looking at poor quality pics when he is trying to find someone for my to shag!!
Shaz x
only put the post in a couple of hours a go and had about 40 messages from it so far...
so its simple... there is more guys than anything else on here so try and make yourself stand out over the rest...
And if your going to put some pics on your profile, at least try to make them clear lol
The is nothing worst than seeing tony squinting and getting pissed of looking at poor quality pics when he is trying to find someone for my to shag!!
Shaz x
Quote by shavenmr
Try a swingers club, this is Swinging Heaven so why wouldn't u try a club where swingers go. Get to know people in the club and enjoy the atmosphere of swinging, if only more single guys would do this we could all have more fun.
Not necessarily
just because a single male can get (often limited) membership to a swingers club, it still doesnt guarantee you a shag! many of the fems and couples in the clubs are the same fems and couples here on the site, and others.
Not that i can speak from experience on this one as I dont do clubs - but am sure that someone will back me up and say that really what many swingers clubs dont need are more single males! There are more than enough already who follow people around clubs hoping to 'get lucky' - now I'm not saying all clubs, and all single guys are like that - but its the main thing that puts me off going - especially when there's a chance that ANY of them will have your 'well you're a swinger aint you, lets have some fun' attitude.
Of course clubs, couples and singles will often welcome participation from single males, (usually only on designated 'mixed' nights though,) but never think for one minute that being in a club guarantees you a 'good time'.
Didn't say going to a club means you are going to have some fun. The point I was trying to make was you mix with other swingers and get to know the atmosphere and that we are like everybody else really. Then maybe single guys will realise one liners and 'do u want a shag' isn't the way to go. For someone who hasn't been to a club u know alot about it???? The only point i do agree with u is the singles who follow couples, 'foot soldiers' i call them, a pain in the arse.
just because im a single guy and not lookin to be part of the scene, doesnt mean i just send out one-liners and have that "attitude" that all swingers are just easy lays.....also you say "we are just like normal people" - well durr yeah....your sexual predilictions doesnt transform you into anything else..my initial point to this post was to get some advice as readin the adverts (as i do) - it appears there are a fair few women on this site who are also looking for "fun" without being part of the scene....
and lets be honest - if all i wanted was 1 quick shag, im sure that kind of thing can be bought in....
and lets be honest - if all i wanted was 1 quick shag, im sure that kind of thing can be bought in....
Orgasminator
maybe your being a bit too fussy in just wanting a woman lol. there are hundreds of blokes in the men for men section looking for instant gratification/looking to give instant gratification.
getting a meet with a single female on here is nigh impossible so maybe time for a rethink?
getting a meet with a single female on here is nigh impossible so maybe time for a rethink?
Quote by shavenmr
Didn't say going to a club means you are going to have some fun. The point I was trying to make was you mix with other swingers and get to know the atmosphere and that we are like everybody else really. Then maybe single guys will realise one liners and 'do u want a shag' isn't the way to go. For someone who hasn't been to a club u know alot about it???? The only point i do agree with u is the singles who follow couples, 'foot soldiers' i call them, a pain in the arse.
Ah i see, if I mis-read your post then I apologise. I certainly agree with the 'mix with other swingers and get to know the atmosphere and that we are like everyone else really' bit - but Mr HornyDerby doesnt 'do' the social scene (and yes, you can go to a club and just be there socially but I dont think that's what he'd be there for)
As for me seeming to know alot about clubs - thats probably because I've been here a while, I pay attention to threads and advice/ support given by others and I understand how this works because of that. I've met alot of people from here and had good discussions & conversations about many many aspects of the swinging scene, including clubs, with those who do know from experience...... but then, thats what you get from respecting what the social side can offer you and not being here just for a quick shag.
