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16 Jun 2003

Hi I am new to this scene and having looked around a bit it seems like any other chat room where not much happens. I am curious to this swinging scene and seek advice on getting into the scene. At the moment I am bored and seek a little excitement in my life. Thanks for any replies
John

17 Jun 2003

Welcome to the site, the chat room is different on different days mate, we have had success in there so keep trying.
Have you placed an ad mate, you never know and good luck.
Mark and Linda

19 Jun 2003

I agree, Mark, the chatroom is a bit of a hit/miss affair, but it is worth perservering. There does seem to be very little posting activity on the "let's meet" and "Dogging" forums.
I guess that there must be lots of PM's floating through the ether instead.
Good luck John
Steve

19 Jun 2003

You are right mate, we get some PM's, but we get loads and loads of email asking when Linda is available.
I just say, "when its your turn on the list", lol.
Mark and Linda, "fuck i love this site"

20 Jun 2003

We had success using the chatroom on our first night of using it. Steve was kind enough to recommend a nice couple. Thanks smile

We recommend you put your stall out, relax and enjoy the friendly banter with the people present. When you find someone you like, simply send them a private message and talk further in private like we did.

21 Jun 2003

nice to see it working for others as well as us, good luck with future dates CnV.
Mark and Linda xxx

22 Jun 2003

Thanks for the feedback will stick my head out. I also have a female partner who is interested in this swinging thing so anyone interested drop me a line!
John

24 Jun 2003

The title of this topic got by attention immediately, and I'm glad I read it.
Great advice people, and you'll be pleased to know I took it, you can have a look at my advert yourselves, number 5458 under 'men seeking women'. Let me know what you think (I know, put a photo on, and I will, soon, honest).
I need to ask a bit more advice from you sages of internet swingdom: single guys are obviously not very welcome in these domains a lot of the time, presumably due to the behaviour of a significant portion of them. I've seen plenty of comments like "learn the rules of swinging" and similar. The last thing I want to do is piss people off.
So what exactly are the rules? More importantly, what sort of things do single men do that really gets you annoyed, and how should we behave? If you have any tips on how to get along well in the swinger community I'd love to hear them.
All advice gratefully received!
PS, is this a fairly lively online community, or the kind where hundreds of people swan in and out at random?

25 Jun 2003

Hi John, Linda and I got into swinging about two years ago, i had always wanted to see and watch her with other guys.
She couldn't understand this, and i understood where she was coming from, had the shoe been on the other foot theni would have thought it a little strange too.
Over this time we have met up with five different guys, two mates and three strangers we met through the net.
All you have to remember mate is that you set your ground rules down before you meet up, chat via email for quite a while before meeting up, you can get to know people better than you think.
If you are meeting a couple, compliment both of them not just the lady, if she is stunning "as is Linda wink

" you will only have one thing on your mind, so tell them both how nice they are and look.
Never be tempted to do anything that you might seem trivial if you have been asked not to do, they will probably call it off there and then or will never make contact ever again.
Always be clean and well turned out, when we meet a guy for the first time, if he smells nice then he's on to a winner with Linda from the start.
Never be offended if either of the couple want to stop at any time, it might be there first time or they might just not feel comfortable, it may not be your fault so don't worry.
We hope this has helped you my friend and good luck, oh, just one thing,
never never, like a guy we met from Nottingham, talk for hours and hours, he never let us get a word in, and in the end Linda and I for got why we were there he went on for that long, "he was a nice chap though", and no, we ended up calling it a day and it never came off.
Thanks, Mark and Linda

25 Jun 2003

HI Mark and Linda
I had agreat experience last Saturday see the Dogging board under Herts/Kent article.
I followed the rules exactly as you state today and it worked.
It was great fun and the couple were the nicest people you could wish to meet.
I enjoyed giving more than receiving because the lady was so responsive.
I am married but my wife is not at present into this and I do this purely for fun not desperation and the relaxed approached meant we all had a good time and a lot of laughs along the way.
I would love to repeat this sometime and maybe a meet with you two would be a laugh.
I note however you are from the north although I do travel.
Take care and enjoy the sun.
Sandie

25 Jun 2003

If you are in the south my friend, then yes we are in the North, we are actually in the Midlands.
Send us a good cock pic and a face pic, we might be interested mate.
cheers, Mark and Linda