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Does anyone else have problems reading signals from other people?? I do, i can chat away to someone, not realising that maybe they would be interested in maybe a bit more than a chat. How do u know if someone wants you?? How can u tell?? Unless someone says to me "Suze can i have a kiss" or just comes in for the kill, i havent got a clue. Im sure ive pissed people off in the past, i dont meant to, thats the last thing id do!!
Funnily enough i can tell if im observing somebody else chatting, i can see the sexual attraction there but just not when it involves me!!
dunno Suze xx
Sometimes I can read far more into things than is really there and others, I don't see what's in front of me. Must be getting old rolleyes
btw, fancy a shag? wink
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Sometimes I can read far more into things than is really there and others, I don't see what's in front of me. Must be getting old rolleyes
btw, fancy a shag? wink

Now that i DO understand lol . So forward and i hardly know you :lol: :lol: (yes please)
Suze xx
signals of any description I find dificult to read... and am wary of trying to *show* signals also, for fear of misinterpretation, or indeed rejection.
though as you say yourself Suze, observing, I can see all sorts going on, and wonder why those observed have trouble seeing such obvious markers...
hmmm odd that
lp
I'd need a fecking Neon sign above someones head to read them :cry:
Now direct - even I can read them! lol
I'm not sure if i'm no good at reading signals or just too scared to put myself out there and take the risk of beng rejected.
You think you see something in a glance or a comment but then think, no not me, can't be - guess it also comes down to confidence. My confidence is improving so I guess I'll be jumping in a bit more - hell, if i'm wrong then nothing lost, just a bit of pride, can cope with that lol and if I'm right - Woo-hoo :haha:
I find forums more difficult than face-face. Do they really mean they want to tear your trousers off and bite your bum :grin: or are they just flirting in room and having a bit of fun.
Still learning this game, but having soooooo much fun.
J xx
redface
I just knew I should have been more forthright.
Suze, next time we're in the same jacuzzi, would you like to suck the dammiecock ? - For YOUR OWN pleasure. (Don't worry, I'm not being entirely selfless. I'd enjoy it immensely wink )
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redface
I just knew I should have been more forthright.
Suze, next time we're in the same jacuzzi, would you like to suck the dammiecock ? - For YOUR OWN pleasure. (Don't worry, I'm not being entirely selfless. I'd enjoy it immensely wink )

biggrin :D Dammie and HLB im just not forward enough am i?? Bloody clueless or what??? But ill get you next time...
Suze xx
She doesn't have a cock.
bolt
Crap at reading signals here too - have to rely on someone telling me they're interested. confused
I'm hopeless. Absolutely blind to them. Once, a long time ago, someone whispered to me "I want you", and I didn't get it. By the time I realised, we were in different countries. I had to be content with kicking myself for the next six months.
Confidence has a lot to do with it. She was young, very attractive, and gay. What on earth could she possibly have wanted me for?
Hindsight is so helpful. Her only experience with a man had gone very badly. I suspect she'd finally decided that not all men were like that, and there was a good chance that with me she could find out what it's like when it's not awful.
It's times like this that a time machine would be very useful.
Quote by Freckledbird
Crap at reading signals here too - have to rely on someone telling me they're interested. confused

That's just it in my case. I could flirt with person X, get on with them, but when it gets to the "well, what do we do now", and because I'm crap at this (and I certainly would not expect someone to be blunt - they shouldn't have to) Nothing ever happens.... :cry:
God I need to see a shrink, or have an intense course in flirting......
Crap at reading signs here too redface We must be the worst swingers in the world LOL. We're not forthright people at all and so often miss out rather than be knocked back, move on, take the chance.
If people just pm'd/msn'd me or just took me by the hand at clubs I'd get a lot more shagging done ROFL. And if someone could teach me how to do exactly that myself I'd get even more LOL
Cx
Quote by Freckledbird
Crap at reading signals here too - have to rely on someone telling me they're interested. confused

ditto lol
i dont have a problem with doing the asking.... but can I read the signals? can I fook as like! :doh: :lol:
Quote by Darkfire
Crap at reading signals here too - have to rely on someone telling me they're interested. confused

ditto lol
i dont have a problem with doing the asking.... but can I read the signals? can I fook as like! :doh: :lol:
You can say that again wink
Suze x
Quote by Darkfire
Crap at reading signals here too - have to rely on someone telling me they're interested. confused

ditto lol
i dont have a problem with doing the asking.... but can I read the signals? can I fook as like! :doh: :lol:
Dunno if I'd dare ask people, to be honest. :scared:
I would probable say I'm hopeless at it but then I don't have much experiance tbh redface
Signals :shock: wot signals???
I have enuff feckin problems reading me bludding TomTom mad Start shoving signals in me kisser & I'll give up & go back to bed! redface
Im terrible at reading signals too sometimes. It can take lengthy pm session before I eventually give in and just say fancy a shag then :giggle:
well I do say it a bit nicer than that :shock:
louise xx
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I'm useless redface

But what are you like at reading signals :giggle:
bolt
I can be really bad at reading signals unless they are full on and direct - but have found if I am giving out the signals myself, sometimes very obviously, fellas can be just as bad and just don't get them at all! It can be most frustrating! lol
I wish it was easier for people to just say what they wanted outright and get it over with! wink
Quote by Amber
I can be really bad at reading signals unless they are full on and direct - but have found if I am giving out the signals myself, sometimes very obviously, fellas can be just as bad and just don't get them at all! It can be most frustrating! lol
I wish it was easier for people to just say what they wanted outright and get it over with! wink

you have a pm :twisted:
I am absolutely useless at reading "The Signals"
A woman could walk round with a sign saying "Jump on me now" and I would probably still need to be told rolleyes
i am pretty shit at reading signals aimed at myself and am probably still a bit to reticent at straight forward asking
but i can tend to see it in other people
What signals dunno
Yep im not great at it. Made an error once so probably worse now lol
Of course as well as not being able to read the signals, theres also they worry that u may mis-read them and end up making a right tit of yourself!!
To be rejected is still horrible no matter how confident you are.
Suze xx
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Of course as well as not being able to read the signals, theres also they worry that u may mis-read them and end up making a right tit of yourself!!
To be rejected is still horrible no matter how confident you are.
Suze xx

I just dont approach redface OMG how on earth do any of us ever swing pmsl....... lol
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Of course as well as not being able to read the signals, theres also they worry that u may mis-read them and end up making a right tit of yourself!!
To be rejected is still horrible no matter how confident you are.
Suze xx

I just dont approach redface OMG how on earth do any of us ever swing pmsl....... lol
We just wait for someone else to do all the hard work obviously! biggrin
Quote by Juniper_couple
Of course as well as not being able to read the signals, theres also they worry that u may mis-read them and end up making a right tit of yourself!!
To be rejected is still horrible no matter how confident you are.
Suze xx

I just dont approach redface OMG how on earth do any of us ever swing pmsl....... lol
It's all pretend ... there are a "hardcore" of people who can and do ;) then there are the rest of us wanabes .. who so want to but daren't :shock: wink
:giggle:
Cx