After all the mad publicity and being inundated with time wasters, along with the worry that at any time one of the guys who turn up might be from the news of the world, I was wondering if it might be an idea for couples to recommend guys they have met who they know to be genuine and not time wasters.
I know this is open for some guy to log on as a couple and recommend himself but I'm sure that over time we could weed those people out as the regulars who recommend would become obvious.
Or maybe we can have some sort of way of recommending reliable people we have met ?
I'm not talking about rating them for their looks and performance, just on weather they are genuine and that they will turn up.
Is this a sensible idea ? I haven't thought it through really but there must be a way.
One thing I have noticed about this site is that everyone exchanges info on places or areas but not so much on people.
It's important that this is just about reliability and honesty though, I don't want people being slagged off.
But if it worked then maybe real genuine men would end up with couples contacting them more often than the other way round.
Just a thought
Anyone have a better suggestion on these lines ?
It would be helpful to know that a couple, male or female you contact is real and not just a surfer with nothing else to do.
Or maybe the admin on here could allow us some way of rating people on meetings
Alison x
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Thanks Jags, shame I thought I was onto something there, I specifically didn't want people being rated for performance etc. and as a couple who actually get off on meets with different people rather than just the same ones all the time the exclusion of newbies would not be good.
However maybe if it was done the other way round ?. If you have met someone who can verify you as real why not mention them on your profile as someone who can be contacted to check you out ? (with their permission obviously)
We met a really nice guy in Stockport nearly 8 months ago (not from this site), and although we don't go in for double meetings I would have no problem if someone had contacted us asking about him to say he was genuine, nice, and worth a meet with. He could have put our names as someone to contact on his profile no problem if he had asked.
Even if you haven't had any sexual contact but know them from a club or a meeting place you could mention them for verification.
Weather anyone reading takes any notice or not is up to them, it doesn't matter, it's just some more helpful info for people to take into account when looking up profiles.
I know it's still open to abuse, but no more than anything else on here.
I just think we need to act a bit more together and without excluding new people or being judgmental we could help each other a little more find what we are after :twisted:
Alison x
However maybe if it was done the other way round ?. If you have met someone who can verify you as real why not mention them on your profile as someone who can be contacted to check you out ? (with their permission obviously)
We met a really nice guy in Stockport nearly 8 months ago (not from this site), and although we don't go in for double meetings I would have no problem if someone had contacted us asking about him to say he was genuine, nice, and worth a meet with. He could have put our names as someone to contact on his profile no problem if he had asked.
Even if you haven't had any sexual contact but know them from a club or a meeting place you could mention them for verification.
Weather anyone reading takes any notice or not is up to them, it doesn't matter, it's just some more helpful info for people to take into account when looking up profiles.
I know it's still open to abuse, but no more than anything else on here.
I just think we need to act a bit more together and without excluding new people or being judgmental we could help each other a little more find what we are after :twisted:
Alison x
Hiya Alison,
I think, in truth, people probably talk a great deal more about their swinging partners than is obvious in the forums.
There is, no doubt, an informal version of what you suggest already going on. Anything more than that would just be too horrendously complicated to work without a great deal of time and effort being spent on it.
lhk
Kat
I think, in truth, people probably talk a great deal more about their swinging partners than is obvious in the forums.
There is, no doubt, an informal version of what you suggest already going on. Anything more than that would just be too horrendously complicated to work without a great deal of time and effort being spent on it.
lhk
Kat
Sex God
Just as an after thought on this, and we don't mean to single you out micknali, but we have found that many many people on here do not fill out the details on their member profiles.
Surely this could be a first step towards everyone knowing something about each individual/couple. We have noticed that many members do not even bother to fill in the area they live in. How can someone possibly hope to have contact made with them if this most important detail is ommitted?
How irritating it must be to contact someone, only to find they live at the other end of the country to yourself!!
Surely the start must begin with each of us doing what we can to be as open as we are able to be, without losing disretion, or giving out personal details which would identify us to the whole world, especially our mothers!
Whilst this system is not fool proof, it can go a long way to helping other members know who is in their area etc.
Jon & Terry-Jayne
Surely this could be a first step towards everyone knowing something about each individual/couple. We have noticed that many members do not even bother to fill in the area they live in. How can someone possibly hope to have contact made with them if this most important detail is ommitted?
How irritating it must be to contact someone, only to find they live at the other end of the country to yourself!!
Surely the start must begin with each of us doing what we can to be as open as we are able to be, without losing disretion, or giving out personal details which would identify us to the whole world, especially our mothers!
Whilst this system is not fool proof, it can go a long way to helping other members know who is in their area etc.
Jon & Terry-Jayne
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The problem is accentuated at the moment because many people (myself included) removed personal details following the SC story. - and then forgot to put them back up again! LOL
Right, off to rectify that now!
lhk
Kat
We understand that up to a point, but even if peeps put the region ie, NW, South, SE etc it would be helpful.
Besides why would you want to remove your details after the SC story anyway? It's not like we need put our home addresses on profile is it?!
J & T-J
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Hi Ali.
Personally I wouldn't be guided by the opinion of someone I don't know as to whether someone else I don't know is reliable/genuine. The only way to find out is to get to know them a bit before you meet them. PMs, phone conversations etc. What's the hurry?
Regards,
Ice
Personally I wouldn't be guided by the opinion of someone I don't know as to whether someone else I don't know is reliable/genuine. The only way to find out is to get to know them a bit before you meet them. PMs, phone conversations etc. What's the hurry?
Regards,
Ice
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What about us secretive lot, that really don't want to know peoples' names? We like the idea of strangers watching us without exchanging pleasantries after.
Silky n Big G xx
Silky n Big G xx
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What about us secretive lot, that really don't want to know peoples' names? We like the idea of strangers watching us without exchanging pleasantries after.
Silky n Big G xx
Then I don't think you would have the kind of concerns that Alison is talking about, or at least not to the same degree. I suppose in your case a referral from someone who knows the person you're thinking of meeting might be reassuring, but how well do you know the person who gave you the referral? It's a bit of a Catch 22 I think.
Ice
The whole referral/verification thing has been thoroughly debated and altho' we feel like many others that it could be a useful, if limited tool, it is not likely to occur on this site in the forseeable future.
We agree that such a system could be useful and workable, but knowing the pressure mods have been under etc, we know full well that had such a thing been in place then the whole site could have gone under recently.
So, although we agree we think that such a system could be useful, we bow to the practicality of not having one.
There are many genuine ppl on here, its down to a little common sense to find them....
Stu & Fran
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We agree that such a system could be useful and workable, but knowing the pressure mods have been under etc, we know full well that had such a thing been in place then the whole site could have gone under recently.
So, although we agree we think that such a system could be useful, we bow to the practicality of not having one.
There are many genuine ppl on here, its down to a little common sense to find them....
Stu & Fran
xxx
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Wow - Sarge is that you, or some dashing stand in for the evening 
OK... As I said some time ago, I don't like the idea of an official sort of verification system. However, personally if anyone asked me about a particular person they know I'd planned to meet, I'd be quite happy to give my opinion. I figure this is the sort of thing you mean Alison? Obviously I would only go so far as saying something like...yes they're genuine, they turned up, they were polite... you wouldn't get anything juicier than that from me 8) . In the same vein, although I wouldn't post names of people who didn't turn up on the forum, I would, if asked, tell by PM the names of people who haven't turned up without explanation. I think lots of people do this already anyway and it is all part of the "natural" interaction of the forum. I think with the munches being held a lot of regular forum members are meeting each other anyway, so this is another sort of "verification" too.
I agree that people who prefer to meet nameless strangers (I do too sometimes) are in a different situation, I think the above only applies to those who want a social (in whatever way) interaction as well as a sexual one. This reminds me of a very cold outdoor meet I arranged a few weeks ago. It was some time into the proceedings, that I thought to ask a couple of the guys what their usernames were. I asked one guy in particular what his username on SH was and he said that he wasn't a SH member and that he'd just turned up at the car park on the off chance! The lucky bugger got involved in an arranged meet and didn't even have to post once! I named him "off-chance guy" 8)
OK... As I said some time ago, I don't like the idea of an official sort of verification system. However, personally if anyone asked me about a particular person they know I'd planned to meet, I'd be quite happy to give my opinion. I figure this is the sort of thing you mean Alison? Obviously I would only go so far as saying something like...yes they're genuine, they turned up, they were polite... you wouldn't get anything juicier than that from me 8) . In the same vein, although I wouldn't post names of people who didn't turn up on the forum, I would, if asked, tell by PM the names of people who haven't turned up without explanation. I think lots of people do this already anyway and it is all part of the "natural" interaction of the forum. I think with the munches being held a lot of regular forum members are meeting each other anyway, so this is another sort of "verification" too.
I agree that people who prefer to meet nameless strangers (I do too sometimes) are in a different situation, I think the above only applies to those who want a social (in whatever way) interaction as well as a sexual one. This reminds me of a very cold outdoor meet I arranged a few weeks ago. It was some time into the proceedings, that I thought to ask a couple of the guys what their usernames were. I asked one guy in particular what his username on SH was and he said that he wasn't a SH member and that he'd just turned up at the car park on the off chance! The lucky bugger got involved in an arranged meet and didn't even have to post once! I named him "off-chance guy" 8)
Thanks everyone for your replies, sorry I seem to have opened a thread on a subject that has been gone over before.
Like trying to re-invent the light bulb it's not gonna happen however there have been some points that I have got from your replies that are of help to us , more info on our own profile for starters, thanks Redhot point taken.
And thanks everyone else who took the time to give their opinions also
Alison x
Like trying to re-invent the light bulb it's not gonna happen however there have been some points that I have got from your replies that are of help to us , more info on our own profile for starters, thanks Redhot point taken.
And thanks everyone else who took the time to give their opinions also
Alison x
