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First off: Hello all !!
Secondly, could I please ask that when someone takes the time to write a well thought out reply to your adds that it would be nice to get a response, even if it's a polite 'no thanks, you're not what we're looking for because...'
Although I do fully understand that people don't reply to one liners because it's probably just from someone who's trawling the ads and sending out about 50 emails a day smile
Anyhoo, thats enough from me, exam revision to continue with!
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Gallahad
The problem with that Gallahad even though it would be nice to get a reply just saying no thanks I do know that if a female or couple put a photo ad in they usually get swamped with replies and its bad enough reading them all never mind replying to them individually. So even though I agree with you in principle I can understand why we never get replies from females and couples.
I know mate,
Problem is, some ads are very specific in what they require, and it's just frustrating meeting all the requirements but then not getting a response smile
Ah well, will just have to get on with life and go down the pub as usual!!! hehe
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Gallahad
I think that this thread is one of many (I posted one a while back too redface) all talking about the same thing. But I think Alan is right when he says there are so many replies people don't mean not to respond it's just overwhelming for the recipient. I remember reading one post where a female had received 200 replies to a photo ad, try not to take it personally and be patient as I'm sure it will be worth it in the end. smile
Quote by Kiss_Me
I think that this thread is one of many (I posted one a while back too redface) all talking about the same thing. But I think Alan is right when he says there are so many replies people don't mean not to respond it's just overwhelming for the recipient. I remember reading one post where a female had received 200 replies to a photo ad, try not to take it personally and be patient as I'm sure it will be worth it in the end. smile

200? Yikes
Here's one I prepared earlier....
Quote by PoloLady
I wasn't going to say anything, as one day you will open your eyes and realise what utter tosh it is to be expected to plough through 100's of PM's - just to demonstrate good manners to a bunch of people you have never met and just don't know..... BUT...
something got the better of me (probably because I have just finished a 2 hour stint of answering PM's).
I set out once to answer every PM - even if just to say 'no thanks'.
Last week I had a moment of clarity - regardless of the 1000+ PM's I had previously sent replies to - I still found I had 1300+ PM's in my inbox (they had of course built up over a period of time). I decided that I had to bite the bullet and just delete the lot.
Now if as a result of doing that, some person I have never met thinks I am an ignorant bitch - so what? The alternative would have been to make replying to PM's a full-time job. I have a job already and I know without doubt answering PM's will not pay the salary I currently am rewarded with from my employer.
Since deleting all of the previous PM's and totally clearing my inbox at the begining of the week - I have had another 100+ arrive. I have managed to read, consider and reply to all of them (apart from 4 - which were so crap I decided to just delete).
Whilst I am at present back on top of my emails - should I ever find myself in a similar position as last week - I would do the same again.
Afterall - what is the point of answering all of your PM's if it is going to leave you with no time to actually FUCK!
Quote by PoloLady
I wasn't going to say anything, as one day you will open your eyes and realise what utter tosh it is to be expected to plough through 100's of PM's - just to demonstrate good manners to a bunch of people you have never met and just don't know..... BUT...
something got the better of me (probably because I have just finished a 2 hour stint of answering PM's).
I set out once to answer every PM - even if just to say 'no thanks'.
Last week I had a moment of clarity - regardless of the 1000+ PM's I had previously sent replies to - I still found I had 1300+ PM's in my inbox (they had of course built up over a period of time). I decided that I had to bite the bullet and just delete the lot.
Now if as a result of doing that, some person I have never met thinks I am an ignorant bitch - so what? The alternative would have been to make replying to PM's a full-time job. I have a job already and I know without doubt answering PM's will not pay the salary I currently am rewarded with from my employer.
Since deleting all of the previous PM's and totally clearing my inbox at the begining of the week - I have had another 100+ arrive. I have managed to read, consider and reply to all of them (apart from 4 - which were so crap I decided to just delete).
Whilst I am at present back on top of my emails - should I ever find myself in a similar position as last week - I would do the same again.
Afterall - what is the point of answering all of your PM's if it is going to leave you with no time to actually FUCK!

Awesome smile
I have a cool idea!
Mr webmaster dude in charge of SH: Please put a few extra buttons at the side of the inbox details for the email responses:
Button 1: No thanks, you're totally not what I/we are looking, p.s. you have been put on a block so you cannot respond to my Ads ever again.
Button 2: No thanks, you're not what I/we am looking for.
Button 3: You're response was interesting, but I'm swamped with reponses and may or may not be able to get back to you!
Button 4: Good god, where have you been all my life! Please come over to my house right now!
What do ya'll think of that???
Most well written on replys to photo adds are just cut and paste anyway so its not like your wasting time writing a reply out to ever add you reply to, secondly most replys i get are from people who i'm not even looking for, so if they can't be arsed to read what i'm after or if they do read it and choose to reply anyway why should i give them my time and reply? speaking personally for myself so long as its a polite mail from someone who fits into what i have said i am looking for i always reply, even if to say thanx but no thanx, if its from soneone who i have not stated i am looking for then no matter how nice and well written their mail is they not getting a reply, also you have to think of the shear amount of mail that women/couples on this site get sometimes it just gets boring reading thro them all lol
BTW - welcome gallahad....... (you'll soon learn) wink
Quote by naughtynymphos1
secondly most replys i get are from people who i'm not even looking for, so if they can't be arsed to read what i'm after or if they do read it and choose to reply anyway why should i give them my time and reply? lol

I have to be honest, I totally agree!
No one has any thoughts on my ideas for an upgrade to the email response system?? I reckon it will be awesome smile
Quote by PoloLady
BTW - welcome gallahad....... (you'll soon learn) wink

Hehe, I am young but I will learn.... smile
Quote by gallahad430
No one has any thoughts on my ideas for an upgrade to the email response system?? I reckon it will be awesome smile

It is still a button click - and every button click takes time. If you have no motivation to actually write something to someone and need to click a button - it may as well be delete lol
Aside from that you missed two options in your list....
1 - I don't accom so when is your place free?
2 - just feck-off!
Quote by PoloLady
Aside from that you missed two options in your list....
1 - I don't accom so when is your place free?
2 - just feck-off!

Ooops, yes I did forget those options hehe
Quote by PoloLady
Aside from that you missed two options in your list....
1 - I don't accom so when is your place free?
2 - just feck-off!

shouldnt option 2 read " just feck off... you minger (s) !!!!!
Quote by Kiss_Me
I remember reading one post where a female had received 200 replies to a photo ad,

I had similar response to that within 3 days of mine going up ! :shock: Needless to say it came down again within a week as I couldn't cope with the mail. That said, with the exception of winks ( which I specifically stated I would not reply to ) I did reply to every one of the messages I received, even if it was ( as in the majority of cases ) to say no thanks.
I think if someone has taken the time and effort to read my ad and profile then write a personal message, the least I can do is reply. It's just good manners really. Even the out and out smut muppets got a reply ( unprintable I might add :giggle: )
btw Hi Gallahad wave and welcome to the madhouse kiss hope you have fun here
Now get back to your revision ! smackbottom
Quote by Kiss_Me
secondly most replys i get are from people who i'm not even looking for, so if they can't be arsed to read what i'm after or if they do read it and choose to reply anyway why should i give them my time and reply? lol

I have to be honest, I totally agree!
absaflippinlutely!
oh and........... hello gallahad kiss
Quote by Sassy-Seren
...snip.... Even the out and out smut muppets got a reply ( unprintable I might add :giggle: )

You mean you didn't want all those smutty replies? Oh dear, and I thought I was getting you hot.
Quote by Sassy-Seren
btw Hi Gallahad wave and welcome to the madhouse kiss hope you have fun here
Now get back to your revision ! smackbottom

Hehe first exam done today, it was easy! This mature student malarky is not so bad really smile
I'm afraid this is going to go the same way as every other 'whinge' about non replies from ads - and that's to lock it. Don't take it personal, it's just we have people whinging about this all the time and there is absolutely diddly squat can be done about it - you just move on.
Mal