Right person, wrong time?

19 Dec 2009

Quote by poshkate
I think Res has summed up what I was about to say on the topic really. I think if something really is right for both parties then you'd do anything you can to make it work Really there are only a couple of circumstances that you can't do anything at all to work round in some way. If someone isn't willing to compromise or change aspects of their life so that they can be with you then they just aren't that into you.

Oh now that was a classic SATC episode - thank you PK... I may have to dig out the dvd and amuse myself! kiss

19 Dec 2009

Quote by noladreams
Oh now that was a classic SATC episode - thank you PK... I may have to dig out the dvd and amuse myself!

:lol2: I was hoping you'd get the reference :kiss:

19 Dec 2009

Quote by poshkate

Oh now that was a classic SATC episode - thank you PK... I may have to dig out the dvd and amuse myself!

:lol2: I was hoping you'd get the reference :kiss:
Abso-fuckin-lutely wink

19 Dec 2009

Quote by jesster
I appreciate that time is complicated etc etc... but does it not mean that if the right person/wrong time thing is right, then you spend your whole life regretting that missed chance or that wrong moment?

When and if the time comes. we have 2 choices. We either use our head or our hearts. Only the person in the situation can decide what is right for them, be it right or wrong.
I used my heart 10 years ago and things didn't work out. Do i regret it?? Hell no, i have a son that i love :smile:
Same here Jesster, I have two children that I love.
And I've been lucky to meet a new someone so I have a second bite of the cherry :inlove:

19 Dec 2009

Oh goodness...... I don't think they can be right if it is the wrong time. For me the right person can only be right if it is the right time.

21 Dec 2009

I met the right person at the wrong time and had to go through tons of shite with the wrong person before it became the right time and I finally got together with the right person. However me and the wrong person made another person who will always be "right" in my life so maybe he was the right person for that time?
:silly:

23 Dec 2009

I truely believe that there can be a right person at the wrong time.... I am there at the minute and it's fecking hard sad

23 Dec 2009

Quote by Shireen
I truely believe that there can be a right person at the wrong time.... I am there at the minute and it's fecking hard

and I can absolutely empathise; it's a killer.

23 Dec 2009

so far i have only ever met the wrong person, lots of em, so cant really say, but will surely let you know if that changes, but dont hold ya breath x

23 Dec 2009

I met the right person at the wrong time. I was living with an ex at the end of a rather messy relationship, but still with him non the less.
I'm now married to that right person, nearly 9 years after we first met and we're about to spend our first Christmas together as a Mr & Mrs biggrin

*Her*

24 Dec 2009

Quote by poshkate
I think Res has summed up what I was about to say on the topic really. I think if something really is right for both parties then you'd do anything you can to make it work Really there are only a couple of circumstances that you can't do anything at all to work round in some way. If someone isn't willing to compromise or change aspects of their life so that they can be with you then they just aren't that into you.

If you are a parent who is married and you meet a right person? Its would be a very difficult choice to make to end a relationship and possibly fight for your kids in a court of law. Ive known one friend and a family member who have been in relationships that stagnated and the other half met a right person. I was confided in on one of these occasions and told that the person in question didn't hate their partner in any way shape or form but had just fallen in love with someone else. Rather than take the difficult decision to uproot the kids (possibly) and start on a new venture they stayed with their current partner who in their words did nothing wrong and nothing to deserve it. I knew all parties involved and saw the effect on all three. The jilted new lover moved 400 miles, the one who loves them pined for 4 months but seems to be ok now. The original other half looks decidedly uncomfortable whenever the other lovers name comes up in conversation by people who dont know.
Right person wrong time .... I guess there is

24 Dec 2009

on an emotive topic, I think its often easy to rose tint ex relationships. I've twice said lets meet again in five years, and ultimately beat myself up for it as at times I've reminisced on the bits I've missed. A more balanced view reminds me why it wasn't right though. I'm not holding out btw, and it was 10 and 15yrs ago, so I've missed my slots perhaps. Inevitably there'll be another right person and at the right time, or at least a person that occupies my thoughts and energies. I think I've been round a cycle and experienced it.
I think, and it is my two penneth, the perfection fantasy, it cant be reached, and shouldn't be sought or your paths are just narrowed to a point, so right is subjective I think and in any case can become wrong at any time of life.
Brief encounters can be heartbreakingly nice, eg, the girl in front of me in the queue in asda this afternoon, I was insane to not just ask her for a coffee or a snowball fight, it could've been beautiful, but right girl wrong time coz my nose was dew dropping like mad!!! bugger!!
Happy xmas folks

24 Dec 2009

Reading this reminds me why I dont often click submit!
Geographically wrong has been my bug bear.

Quote by raiderman77
on an emotive topic, I think its often easy to rose tint ex relationships. I've twice said lets meet again in five years, and ultimately beat myself up for it as at times I've reminisced on the bits I've missed. A more balanced view reminds me why it wasn't right though. I'm not holding out btw, and it was 10 and 15yrs ago, so I've missed my slots perhaps. Inevitably there'll be another right person and at the right time, or at least a person that occupies my thoughts and energies. I think I've been round a cycle and experienced it.
I think, and it is my two penneth, the perfection fantasy, it cant be reached, and shouldn't be sought or your paths are just narrowed to a point, so right is subjective I think and in any case can become wrong at any time of life.
Brief encounters can be heartbreakingly nice, eg, the girl in front of me in the queue in asda this afternoon, I was insane to not just ask her for a coffee or a snowball fight, it could've been beautiful, but right girl wrong time coz my nose was dew dropping like mad!!! bugger!!
Happy xmas folks

24 Dec 2009

Quote by raiderman77
Reading this reminds me why I dont often click submit!

Nah, it made sense - and you should post more often. wink

24 Dec 2009

I have met people that i was very glad had come into my life at that point, I sometimes think certain people are stepping stones to get us to where we are now. I`ve met some that i knew wouldn`t last long and so enjoyed it while they were there and taken it for what it was, one of those people introduced me to SH and consequently to the person who has turned out to be the love of my life, so i think we meet people for a reason, not always good but then thats what makes us experience things and makes us who we are.
Blimey I was on a ramble then :notes: