Right, this is getting serious now!!!!!

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
anyone know how long Bi-Fems keep in the fridge.

well i may just be in a sensitive mood this week but i find that (and other comments ive read in this thread and more) rather offensive......im a person not a bottle of milk!! confused

note, only rather offensive biggrin

however, i would like to put accross my views on the subject of single bi females.....and i would be interested to hear from others....
the big thing that puts me off meeting couples these days is how im seen as some sort of commodity, an object, a sex toy, a fantasy filler, something to be passed on to other people, a 24/7 sex kitten (or a timewaster when ppl find out i actually have a life apart from my sex kitten persona and wont meet at the drop of a hat) and on the other hand im an unattainable goal or a special and rare jewel.....talk about putting someone on a pedastal......
im none of these things im just a girl! :wary:
i hope this doent offend anyone, i know no-ones being malicious....its just....well....oh i dunno
bolt

good point well made sexkitten!

4 Apr 2006

Quote by poshkate
good point well made sexkitten!

oh thank you kate...i was just re-reading it and worrying people would shoot me down for taking things so seriously! i am a sensitive and shy soul tho....... :boo:

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
however, i would like to put accross my views on the subject of single bi females.....and i would be interested to hear from others....
the big thing that puts me off meeting couples these days is how im seen as some sort of commodity, an object, a sex toy, a fantasy filler, something to be passed on to other people, ........

:thumbup: Not a single bi female but fully agree with everything you have said in that post!
I dont think for one minute that Firelizard or any of the others have mean any offense what so ever in this post, but I do know how a single friend of mine feels and she says she treated like a 'trophy' !

4 Apr 2006

phew im so pl;eased its not just me being moody! thanks NWC, and " a trophy"...yes definitely....makes me feel wierd, im really not that special! lol
and i know firelizerd and anybody else didnt mean any harm, most of it is friendly banter.......it just felt important to me as a single bi female to reply! but as some one who doesnt post very much, at least not with very important things, i was a little worried about offending people........so phew again biggrin

to you all x x x

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
phew im so pl;eased its not just me being moody! thanks NWC, and " a trophy"...yes definitely....makes me feel wierd, im really not that special! lol
and i know firelizerd and anybody else didnt mean any harm, most of it is friendly banter.......it just felt important to me as a single bi female to reply! but as some one who doesnt post very much, at least not with very important things, i was a little worried about offending people........so phew again
to you all x x x

I for one know you are not a trophy. You are a very kind, sincere, single lady who has feelings & is not scared of expressing your own opinions. I take my hat off to you sexkitten for bringing this up. (gets washed under the carpet sometimes). :kiss:
Anyway your a bit to tall to stand on my shelf as a trophy lol

4 Apr 2006

Quote by hisandhers
phew im so pl;eased its not just me being moody! thanks NWC, and " a trophy"...yes definitely....makes me feel wierd, im really not that special! lol
and i know firelizerd and anybody else didnt mean any harm, most of it is friendly banter.......it just felt important to me as a single bi female to reply! but as some one who doesnt post very much, at least not with very important things, i was a little worried about offending people........so phew again
to you all x x x

I for one know you are not a trophy. You are a very kind, sincere, single lady who has feelings & is not scared of expressing your own opinions. I take my hat off to you sexkitten for bringing this up. (gets washed under the carpet sometimes). :kiss:
Anyway your a bit to tall to stand on my shelf as a trophy lol

awww thank you sweetie, youre not so bad yourself! :kiss:

4 Apr 2006

Hello sexkittenhfs.
It was only meant as a bit of banter, if I offended you or anyone else for that matter Iâ€™m truly sorry. :giveup: redface

You make an interesting point though; I for one had never considered the pressures that you and others like you must be under before. I imagine you feel a bit like a fox chased by hounds from time to time. I guess itâ€™s as hard for you as it is for us.
For the record it was me Stormwalker not Firelizard who wrote the post, which is odd because itâ€™s usually her with her foot in her mouth. lol

Stormwalker

4 Apr 2006

thats a great way to put it hun, i do feel chased after sometimes......and im not good at being chased...because im liable to turn around and bite you back lol
i totally know no harm was meant, i wasnt even very offended lol it just made me want to bring my feelings to the forefront and see if other women felt the same....
so no white flag needed kiss

4 Apr 2006

I sooooo know how you feel sexkittenhfx.
I',m a straight male married to a bi-fem and I am so fed up with all these frustrated women chasing after me rolleyes

Why cant they understand that I'm just a guy, with all the feelings and vulnerabilities as everyone else dunno

sorry, couldnâ€™t resist :roll: (men)
on a more serious note I am really getting fed up with couples who contact you, pretend that they are interested in fmfm, then say, oh but before that we do always play with the fem first
Being such a rarity does bring it's pressures, :roll: yeah right, like anyone's gonna fall for that.
Or this one, couple ad:
"we are a couple, but the Bi-fem is happy to play alone"
so you contact them, have a chat, do the fem to fem phone call thing and everything is hunky dory when all of a sudden the fem phones back and says something along the lines of:
"oh hubby just saw your profile and would really love to come along" :roll:
I mean, what do you say? if you say no, you sound like really heartless bastards, If you say yes, its going to turn into yet another 4some.
donâ€™t get me wrong, nothing wrong with 4somes, love em :grin: but just occasionally you fancy just spoiling another fem, giving her both of your undivided attention. :dunno:
sorry, ramble mode is switched on again :roll:

4 Apr 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
Why cant they understand that I'm just a guy, with all the feelings and vulnerabilities as everyone else

:violin:

4 Apr 2006

Quote by Pete_sw
fancy just spoiling another fem, giving her both of your undivided attention.

ahh see now this sounds nice...in my experience tho its not always been like that.....its been focussed on their wants/needs rather than mine/a mixture of both and ive been a kind of tool, a means to an end.........dont get me wrong ive had some great experiences too......but the negatves started to outweigh the positives....i felt like i was some sort of charity sex worker, doing good deeds for the couples i met...how absurd! rotflmao

and when i get replies from people saying their dying to meet me...and i go look at their profile......."were looking for a slim female with big boobs" etc etc...the exact opposite of me.......id rather not be contacted out of sheer desperation just becasue im "rare"
hmmmmm my conclusion, i should choose more wisely! smile

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
and when i get replies from people saying their dying to meet me...and i go look at their profile......."were looking for a slim female with big boobs" etc etc...the exact opposite of me.......id rather not be contacted out of sheer desperation just becasue im "rare"
hmmmmm my conclusion, i should choose more wisely!

I think your pics are great sexkitten :thumbup: No offence to any very slim ladies but I prefer not to have sex with a woman who looks like she might snap if I am a bit too 'energetic'.
I like a bit of something to hold onto, I much prefer the feel of warm soft flesh against mine to bony ribs and hips. Plus I can relax more with a woman who is size 12+ like myself.
Like the way you think as well sexkitten ;)
Minx x x
Ps Soz for the hijack FL and Stormwalker, hope you find yourselves a lady :twisted: x x

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
fancy just spoiling another fem, giving her both of your undivided attention.

ahh see now this sounds nice...in my experience tho its not always been like that.....its been focussed on their wants/needs rather than mine/a mixture of both and ive been a kind of tool, a means to an end.........dont get me wrong ive had some great experiences too......but the negatves started to outweigh the positives....i felt like i was some sort of charity sex worker, doing good deeds for the couples i met...how absurd! rotflmao

god you're on fire tonight sexkitten
i tried to post something to this effect earlier but couldn't get the words right so gave up!

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
fancy just spoiling another fem, giving her both of your undivided attention.

ahh see now this sounds nice...in my experience tho its not always been like that.....its been focussed on their wants/needs rather than mine/a mixture of both and ive been a kind of tool, a means to an end.........dont get me wrong ive had some great experiences too......but the negatves started to outweigh the positives....i felt like i was some sort of charity sex worker, doing good deeds for the couples i met...how absurd! rotflmao

and when i get replies from people saying their dying to meet me...and i go look at their profile......."were looking for a slim female with big boobs" etc etc...the exact opposite of me.......id rather not be contacted out of sheer desperation just becasue im "rare"
hmmmmm my conclusion, i should choose more wisely! smile

No No NO NO. there is something very wrong with this picture :shock:
my god, if a single lady consents to come and play with us, we ............ no let me put this another way.
women - men, they are different. I know the PC brigade are so going to flame my arse for this, but we are, end of, and I don't mean just physically.
I could imagine no greater horror than going to a first time meet with a couple, as a single lady. (its hard enough as a single guy, back me up here fellas)
so, in our view, If a lady has made the effort, fought the horrors, and actually gone to the trouble of coming out to meet us, then of course we will treat her like a princess, and yes, both of our attentions will be focused on her.
Of course we have our own fantasies, and if those come into play, how great is that?
But we would never dream of trying to "lead" the situation to conform to some preset requirement, for a start that's far too clinical for us, we love spontaneity, we love relationships to develop naturally.
Maybe this is why we prefer friendship before sex dunno

Bloomin eck. I really am in ramble mode tonite rolleyes

4 Apr 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx
....I can relax more with a woman who is size 12+ like myself.

Scuse me Miss Binxy, but who was the girlie i met in room 405, the one sporting less meat than a veggies BBQ? :shock:

4 Apr 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
....I can relax more with a woman who is size 12+ like myself.

Scuse me Miss Binxy, but who was the girlie i met in room 405, the one sporting less meat than a veggies BBQ? :shock:
No offence Feety but you're a bloke and we all know blokes are clueless about dress sizes (waits for flaming ) kiss

Minx x x
Stop hijacking threads as well!

4 Apr 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx

and when i get replies from people saying their dying to meet me...and i go look at their profile......."were looking for a slim female with big boobs" etc etc...the exact opposite of me.......id rather not be contacted out of sheer desperation just becasue im "rare"
hmmmmm my conclusion, i should choose more wisely!

I think your pics are great sexkitten :thumbup: No offence to any very slim ladies but I prefer not to have sex with a woman who looks like she might snap if I am a bit too 'energetic'.
I like a bit of something to hold onto, I much prefer the feel of warm soft flesh against mine to bony ribs and hips. Plus I can relax more with a woman who is size 12+ like myself.
Like the way you think as well sexkitten ;)
Minx x x
Ps Soz for the hijack FL and Stormwalker, hope you find yourselves a lady :twisted: x x
No problem Minxy
This has turned into a really interesting chat actually. How often does everyone get to hear the views from kittens angle. Its educating!
I thoroughly agree with Pete though. Our attention would be more on the giving as that happens to be our fantasy anyway, we're not starved of anything in our relationship so we have alot to give.
I'm a size 10 in some shops and 12 in others. To be honest I don't look at peoples sizes I'm the sort of person who's more interested in whats behind the overcoat. But I'm definately more for the cuddlies than the sticks. I love sexy eyes though and kissable lips.
Anyway got abit carried away there. As I said though hijack all you like I'm enjoying every post!
Love
Firelizard xxxx

4 Apr 2006

Quote by BiWelshMinx

and when i get replies from people saying their dying to meet me...and i go look at their profile......."were looking for a slim female with big boobs" etc etc...the exact opposite of me.......id rather not be contacted out of sheer desperation just becasue im "rare"
hmmmmm my conclusion, i should choose more wisely!

I think your pics are great sexkitten :thumbup: No offence to any very slim ladies but I prefer not to have sex with a woman who looks like she might snap if I am a bit too 'energetic'.
I like a bit of something to hold onto, I much prefer the feel of warm soft flesh against mine to bony ribs and hips. Plus I can relax more with a woman who is size 12+ like myself.
Like the way you think as well sexkitten ;)
Minx x x
Ps Soz for the hijack FL and Stormwalker, hope you find yourselves a lady :twisted: x x
thanks for that minx, i totally agree, but i wasnt fishing for compliments...but while were at it........anyone got anymore? :giggle:
wink

4 Apr 2006

Quote by poshkate
god you're on fire tonight sexkitten
i tried to post something to this effect earlier but couldn't get the words right so gave up!

poshkate...ive no idea whats wrong with me.....im usually a tongue tied lurker....must have been that last creme egg gone to my head.....

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx

god you're on fire tonight sexkitten
i tried to post something to this effect earlier but couldn't get the words right so gave up!

poshkate...ive no idea whats wrong with me.....im usually a tongue tied lurker....must have been that last creme egg gone to my head.....
Oi Emily Pankhurst you've got some way to go yet before you hit my post count just because i'm a bit tied up with stuff, don't think your stealing my crown as the poster of most common sense confused

:? :? :? wink

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sheddy

god you're on fire tonight sexkitten
i tried to post something to this effect earlier but couldn't get the words right so gave up!

poshkate...ive no idea whats wrong with me.....im usually a tongue tied lurker....must have been that last creme egg gone to my head.....
Oi Emily Pankhurst you've got some way to go yet before you hit my post count just because i'm a bit tied up with stuff, don't think your stealing my crown as the poster of most common sense confused

:? :? :? wink

im not upping my post count im simply flying the flag for single bi females, rare and precious jewels (yawn) that we are!:P
hmmmm but just out of curiosity i wonder what my post count is now.....

4 Apr 2006

Quote by sheddy
Oi Emily Pankhurst you've got some way to go yet before you hit my post count just because i'm a bit tied up with stuff, don't think your stealing my crown as the poster of most common sense :? :? :?

How many times do we have to tell you Sheddy, it's not a crown, it's a tea cosy. now put it back cos it's not big and it's not clever :doh:

4 Apr 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu

Oi Emily Pankhurst you've got some way to go yet before you hit my post count just because i'm a bit tied up with stuff, don't think your stealing my crown as the poster of most common sense :? :? :?

How many times do we have to tell you Sheddy, it's not a crown, it's a tea cosy. now put it back cos it's not big and it's not clever :doh:
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