Sgt Bilko, you didn't enflame anything lol, just had conversations with people who have said they are giving up swinging because they have been messed about etc. Like Tobyjug, yourself and I have to add, the vast majority of people on this site, all we expect is a bit of honesty and integrity and I reckon the bulk of people using this site come with both, just a few "spoilers" that can unfortunately really ruin some peoples' experience.
Thats where we were coming from on the verification idea, not really anger enflamed more annoyance that a small majority can ruin things for some. Small example, we recently refused to swing with someone (via e mail exchanges), we got a torrent of abusive e mails, including one threatening to sort me out with a baseball bat! Scary stuff...almost put us off. I have to add that was on another site, not here.
Right, nuff said!!
Cheers guys
Stu of the "fran and" variety
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root out the timewasters???
If anyone has been treated the way you describe then please let either Mark or any of the mods know - if the contact has been made via SH that is.
We can't moderate against time-wasters, men pretending to be women, men pretending to be couples etc etc, those type of people are everywhere, but threats and abuse are something else.
Sorry to hear of your problems.
We can't moderate against time-wasters, men pretending to be women, men pretending to be couples etc etc, those type of people are everywhere, but threats and abuse are something else.
Sorry to hear of your problems.
I have and very recently been accused of being a timewaster, even to the point of being told I am male......my mother would be very interested in that!!!
My photo ad is there for all to see, with clear instructions of how to make contact and a criteria (don't ring before 7pm - facial pic only) I can read that!! is it in invisible ink???
I object to being called one by the odd single male (what a fantastic suprise and now regret fighting their corner!!)
Don't know what the answer is either, when you know, will you let me know???
Love and kisses
Claire
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My photo ad is there for all to see, with clear instructions of how to make contact and a criteria (don't ring before 7pm - facial pic only) I can read that!! is it in invisible ink???
I object to being called one by the odd single male (what a fantastic suprise and now regret fighting their corner!!)
Don't know what the answer is either, when you know, will you let me know???
Love and kisses
Claire
xxxx
Cheers Jags...I doubt that we would experience such crap on here, this has proved so far to be an amazing community, all I can say about the other site was that I know of a number of members who frequent here who had similiar probs there...gotta feeling that site is really the gutter..but hey never mind, got here now..wayhey!!
Claire, know your frustrations, thats the reason we started this thread, to generate, we hoped, ideas to limit the bozo element and it has certainly generated discussion, which is fab. We weren't expecting to solve the probs of the
I feel that we have exhausted our input to this discussion, but hope that all of you with an opinion will post, maybe someone could post a new thread with a poll, it might gauge the level of interest in running a fledgling system, hell we would even volunteer to run the verification process (e mails etc or whatever system was felt best). Perhaps a three month trial say and re-evaluate, take a poll etc, ask the newbies their opinion etc???????
Right enough from us! Over to you.
Have a good one! (or two or three or four....or as many as you can take!!!!)
Stu of the "Fran and" variety
Claire, know your frustrations, thats the reason we started this thread, to generate, we hoped, ideas to limit the bozo element and it has certainly generated discussion, which is fab. We weren't expecting to solve the probs of the
time-wasters, men pretending to be women, men pretending to be couples etc etc, but thought that the verification idea had some mileage, even if only one person gained by meeting another genuine person(s) in whatever way then surely it could be called a success.
I feel that we have exhausted our input to this discussion, but hope that all of you with an opinion will post, maybe someone could post a new thread with a poll, it might gauge the level of interest in running a fledgling system, hell we would even volunteer to run the verification process (e mails etc or whatever system was felt best). Perhaps a three month trial say and re-evaluate, take a poll etc, ask the newbies their opinion etc???????
Right enough from us! Over to you.
Have a good one! (or two or three or four....or as many as you can take!!!!)
Stu of the "Fran and" variety
The emails in the ads system are already subjected to a verification by Mark, but all he can do is send an email and get a reply. This in no way means that the person is genuinely who/what they say and it is very easy to open numerous email accounts. One chap I found had about 4 email addresses.
People get email email addresses verified and then close them down, don't answer emails or reply abusively.
On the other hand there are those who are sincere and I have found that those who come into the forum and take part in the exchange of banter tend to be those who meet others and enjoy themselves.
I think this topic should be locked, but I won't do it - maybe one of the other mods would. Don't want to be accused of stifling debate!!! (That was an in-joke which probably only Mark will appreciate!)
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People get email email addresses verified and then close them down, don't answer emails or reply abusively.
On the other hand there are those who are sincere and I have found that those who come into the forum and take part in the exchange of banter tend to be those who meet others and enjoy themselves.
I think this topic should be locked, but I won't do it - maybe one of the other mods would. Don't want to be accused of stifling debate!!! (That was an in-joke which probably only Mark will appreciate!)
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We can't moderate against time-wasters, men pretending to be women, men pretending to be couples etc etc, those type of people are everywhere,
As part of a cpl i have noticed there does seem to be a lot of single guys pretending to be part of a cpl or a single fem, in order to get pics or cyber or god knows what!! On another site they use a simple verification system (too simple imho), for the ad's, cpl's and single fems get a little 'V' next to their ad. so when you're chatting to sombody and they send their ad. No. and you see the 'V' you know its is a single fem/cpl you're chatting to, and not a single guy pretending to be a cpl/fem.
How do you verify cpl's/fem's?, i dont know, maybe from meets?, maybe get them to write their add number on a bit of paper and be holding it in a piccie?
Jags, Mark, thanks for your input, we agree that the topic should be locked, we merely looked for perspectives on it and maybe there will come a time and a system that will back up the work that the mods and ops are putting in already.
Sorry your baby won't sleep Mark, but have to say we know that one all too well
Lock and load Jags!!!!
Fran & Stu
Sorry your baby won't sleep Mark, but have to say we know that one all too well
Lock and load Jags!!!!
Fran & Stu
