ive made quite a few friends from this site an denjoy comming on here.
But it pisses me off when people are rude to me. For example i met a couple tonight and everything was fine. The seemed genuiny interested and up for the same things as me, up until i told them i could not accomodate but would be happy to pay for a hotel, and didnt expect a penny from them.
Then the rudeness i got " we DO NOT do hotels, END OF!" and just left the room, and on top of that sent me a message saying "you got a problem, no one likes hotels, you're a prick you will never get a meet". i found this extremely rude. I am not pushy and the most friendliest person you could meet but it gets on my ass wen ppl are so rude. Makes it unfair that they get all the good meets and we dont get shit.
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Sex God
If you have the messages report them to a mod.
If theyve done it to you chances are theyve done it before and will do again.
Gem. x
If theyve done it to you chances are theyve done it before and will do again.
Gem. x
Sex God
Quote by little gem
If you have the messages report them to a mod.
If theyve done it to you chances are theyve done it before and will do again.
Gem. x
what she said.........
and whilst there are people on here like that...........there are also a lot of lovely people on here.........just ignore the idiots rabbit.........
Spot on Kate, I think you just have to put it down to a bad experience and difference of opinion. Out of every 100 you will most probably get a fair percentage of people with totally different ideas and expectations than that of your own.
Just put it behind you and don't tar everyone with the same brush.
Just put it behind you and don't tar everyone with the same brush.
Sex God
Quote by curvy-gal
hotels r good!
Exactly.
I can't accomodate either so I generally do the hotel thing. And what about munches and socials? If you travel you would often have to book a hotel to stay over. Then what - meet a gorgeous person/couple and say 'sorry, but since I don't DO hotels we can't enjoy each other'? That's daft!
Well whoever said that to you and then sent you that message is obvioulsy a pleb who is best forgotten! Just try to think that it was their loss and thank god you found out what they were like before you went to the trouble of booking a hotel etc.
It is a shame when things like that happen but forward their message and details to the Mods and then try to forget about it. There are loads more nice people on SH to help you take your mind of it!
It is a shame when things like that happen but forward their message and details to the Mods and then try to forget about it. There are loads more nice people on SH to help you take your mind of it!
Yep, what they all said. Believe me after a while you filter out the feckwits without thinking about it. If I took seriously all the insults I'd had in the chat rooms, usually in wispers, I'd be a jibbering wreck. Just consider it thier loss, I think you'll find they're in the minority in not liking hotels, I'm sure a cirtain chain of hotels would go out of business if that were the case!
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Quote by poshkate
If you have the messages report them to a mod.
If theyve done it to you chances are theyve done it before and will do again.
Gem. x
what she said.........
and whilst there are people on here like that...........there are also a lot of lovely people on here.........just ignore the idiots rabbit.........
Agree - this place is a cross section of society so you'll find all sorts here just as you do anywhere else. Don't be put off but perhaps ensure everything's clear before any meetings. Good luck.
Sex God
They were fucking rude i'll grant you , but the rude people that "ruin this site" no more ruin the site than rude people everywhere ruin the world in general - being sexually liberated is by no means a guarantee of social skills. It may also be in no small measure a sign that they have been stung by someone using the coy and vague term 'cannot accomodate' for less than savoury reasons in the past , after all there are some reasons for not wanting to meet at home that may not be to their liking . Anyways dont let a rude swinger get you down any more than a rude dustman ( or indeed a combination of both) just stoop to pick up the shattered pieces of your life and move on .
Peace
Peace
Warming the Bed
How do You 'Do'' a Hotel Anyway...?
That's a lot Kinkier than I'd go for...
"Oh Baby Baby You love it in the reception..."
Just a Thought....
That's a lot Kinkier than I'd go for...
"Oh Baby Baby You love it in the reception..."
Just a Thought....
Quote by de_sade
Whoever they were it sounds like you had a lucky escape.
Don't judge everyone here on their behaviour though.
Personally, I'm with what whatsisface said above - that these were a pair of prick teasing messers.
Better luck next time - keep trying.
De_sade
"whatsisface"........perhaps i should consider that a compliment from "whatdoyahcallhim"
Quote by Rabbit69
I am not pushy and the most friendliest person you could meet but it gets on my ass wen ppl are so rude. Makes it unfair that they get all the good meets and we dont get shit.
I just wonder
Is that really how it is? Do rude people get all the good meets? I would not have thought so - but then what would I know
How much is it really bothering you that you "don't get shit"?
What stings more - their being rude or that you had your hopes built-up and ended up with "shit" again?
Was it the hotels bit that really caused them to being to be rude or might it have been your reason for wanting to use a hotel?
Its a shame that you had a negetive response to your meeting with this couple, the vast majority of people on here are very respectful (from my experience)
Just a little thought....perhaps you could add to your profile a little note stating your accomodation preferences? Perhaps this would avoid confusion in the future.
Please dont think that I'm excusing any bad manners, just rtying to be positive.
"The willow bends with the wind and in doing so lives to enjoy softer breezes" LOL
Just a little thought....perhaps you could add to your profile a little note stating your accomodation preferences? Perhaps this would avoid confusion in the future.
Please dont think that I'm excusing any bad manners, just rtying to be positive.
"The willow bends with the wind and in doing so lives to enjoy softer breezes" LOL
Quote by da69ve
Your probably find these kind of people never do meets.....they just like to build you up and then knock you back with any kind of poor excuse.....accommodate or hotel shouldn't make a difference at all really.....but they had to find a reason to knock you back and insult you!
Is it me or is Da69ve giving thoroughly sensible answers today? How positively out of character!
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Sex God
Quote by da69ve
Your probably find these kind of people never do meets.....they just like to build you up and then knock you back with any kind of poor excuse.....accommodate or hotel shouldn't make a difference at all really.....but they had to find a reason to knock you back and insult you!
My God, I was thinking just the same thing the other day! :shock: Spooooky!
to be honest im not surprised that you encountered rudeness in the chatroom........
the large majority of single males in there have given the gooduns a bad name.........and im not surprised either that a couple, who might well have been genuine........ have felt that your reasons for accomodating might be because you have something to hide... ie. could be married and playing away..........
thinking about it, how would they know that you were genuine and that if they travelled to said hotel, you'd even be there....... When i meet couples at mine,( which i only arrange afer ive been chatting to them for atleast a couple of days....... they know, because i give them my address that im not going to be wasting their time.
If i were them, and i was faced with someone who was trying every which way to arrange a meet...( and paying 50 quid for a room does smack a bit of desperation).. id think that you could well realise that suggesting paying for a hotel was a bit too generous, and pull out.....
its a little obvious by the last few sentences of your post that youre non too happy with not being able to arrange a meet............all i can say is... get over it......
the large majority of single males in there have given the gooduns a bad name.........and im not surprised either that a couple, who might well have been genuine........ have felt that your reasons for accomodating might be because you have something to hide... ie. could be married and playing away..........
thinking about it, how would they know that you were genuine and that if they travelled to said hotel, you'd even be there....... When i meet couples at mine,( which i only arrange afer ive been chatting to them for atleast a couple of days....... they know, because i give them my address that im not going to be wasting their time.
If i were them, and i was faced with someone who was trying every which way to arrange a meet...( and paying 50 quid for a room does smack a bit of desperation).. id think that you could well realise that suggesting paying for a hotel was a bit too generous, and pull out.....
its a little obvious by the last few sentences of your post that youre non too happy with not being able to arrange a meet............all i can say is... get over it......
Sex God
Quote by Silk and Big G
They were fucking rude i'll grant you , but the rude people that "ruin this site" no more ruin the site than rude people everywhere ruin the world in general - being sexually liberated is by no means a guarantee of social skills. It may also be in no small measure a sign that they have been stung by someone using the coy and vague term 'cannot accomodate' for less than savoury reasons in the past , after all there are some reasons for not wanting to meet at home that may not be to their liking . Anyways dont let a rude swinger get you down any more than a rude dustman ( or indeed a combination of both) just stoop to pick up the shattered pieces of your life and move on .
Peace
:worship: :worship: thanks. i was too tired and emotional to reply to this last night, but that saved me a shedload of typing!
neil x x x
Yes it does seem very rude but I do think that things like that could be sorted before a meet really and sorry I think it sounds like an excuse from them. Although people say they will be honest about what they want to do I am sure some just back out at the last minute and need an excuse.
I think it must be difficult to sort these things out over a drink although over coffee I have always been very blunt and to the point of what I want/dont want/will and wont do lol.
Put it down to experience - not everyone fancies the people they meet and that works on all sides and all the ground rules I have read says no means no. I think sometimes people find it harder to say no and come out with bollox instead - their loss I am sure.
I think it must be difficult to sort these things out over a drink although over coffee I have always been very blunt and to the point of what I want/dont want/will and wont do lol.
Put it down to experience - not everyone fancies the people they meet and that works on all sides and all the ground rules I have read says no means no. I think sometimes people find it harder to say no and come out with bollox instead - their loss I am sure.
Sex God
Quote by corriefem
Yes it does seem very rude but I do think that things like that could be sorted before a meet really and sorry I think it sounds like an excuse from them. Although people say they will be honest about what they want to do I am sure some just back out at the last minute and need an excuse.
So true! But it is better to be honest isn't it?
Quote by corriefem
Put it down to experience - not everyone fancies the people they meet and that works on all sides and all the ground rules I have read says no means no. I think sometimes people find it harder to say no and come out with bollox instead - their loss I am sure.
I am sure that's true. But wouldn't it be simpler if people were just able to say 'Thank you - I've met you but you are not for me?' Don't lay the blame on the other party - just say it as it is - but truly!!!!
Tune
I agree with you totally but some people cant be honest through embarressment, cold feet or sheer rudeness. Not sure which is worse lol. God I can remember sending a pic to someone once and never hearing off them again lol. It was a sort of mumsy type pic which actually I liked :shock: :shock: best thing because showed their superficiality as I know I look fine if you squint hard in a dim room
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I agree with you totally but some people cant be honest through embarressment, cold feet or sheer rudeness. Not sure which is worse lol. God I can remember sending a pic to someone once and never hearing off them again lol. It was a sort of mumsy type pic which actually I liked :shock: :shock: best thing because showed their superficiality as I know I look fine if you squint hard in a dim room
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Sex God
We were turned down ages ago by a couple. They just said that we weren't for them. We said OK, no problem and appreciated the honesty. Finished up blocking them though because they wouldn't bloody shut up aboutwhy we weren't for them.
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We were turned down ages ago by a couple. They just said that we weren't for them. We said OK, no problem and appreciated the honesty. Finished up blocking them though because they wouldn't bloody shut up about why we weren't for them.
Lol now thats what I call pains in the backside lol. Sorry Frecklebird not laughing at you but at fact they needed to keep justifying themselves - why ffs????? god maybe it would be so much easier if we just threw the car keys into the middle of the table and just took it from there lol lol
Sex God
what i am about to say may make me unpopular in this thread.....
every story has two sides to it...... we have only heard one side...
we have been in situations before on the site where we have all leap in judgement not knowing the full story......
i hate to be a drag, however the other party are not here to defend themselves, either they have chose not to... or probably don't even know..
sean
every story has two sides to it...... we have only heard one side...
we have been in situations before on the site where we have all leap in judgement not knowing the full story......
i hate to be a drag, however the other party are not here to defend themselves, either they have chose not to... or probably don't even know..
sean
