I the same way that some of you guys have said that the behaviour of some 'single guys' makes you ashamed of your gender, this makes me ashamed of mine.
I don't think of men and women as them and us, although I know a lot of people do. I can't believe anyone could be that decietful, male or female, yet I know it goes on, my brother-in-law has 21 year old twins that came about in this way.
Can I say that not all women are that vicious and manipulative? It's such a shame that behaviour like this can sometimes tar us all with the same brush. Be careful out there guys, be safe and use your common sense (the one that comes from your head not your dick!) but don't forget to have a good time and don't forget that not all women are the same.
H.x
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Serious Question for you men
Sex God
I always practise safe sex
give a false name and address :giggle:
seriously, on the rare occasions i have a nose through the ads, if i do see one with 'bareback a must' i wouldn't even consider it even if they looked like angelina joliee's prettier sister.
with the amount of shag and go 'any holes a goal' blokes who use the site, you'd be crazy not to protect your own health. And if you think having a child from a random shag is acceptable, you're either too stupid or irresponible to be a parent in the first place
give a false name and address :giggle:
seriously, on the rare occasions i have a nose through the ads, if i do see one with 'bareback a must' i wouldn't even consider it even if they looked like angelina joliee's prettier sister.
with the amount of shag and go 'any holes a goal' blokes who use the site, you'd be crazy not to protect your own health. And if you think having a child from a random shag is acceptable, you're either too stupid or irresponible to be a parent in the first place
When I do arange a meet (which is a rareity in its self now a days) I practice safe sex, but a while back I had a regular partner that sugested as it was regular we should stop doing so 
My solution............................. run a fookin mile simple as that, the right one or the wrong one it was the decision I took for obvious reasons. :? :?
My solution............................. run a fookin mile simple as that, the right one or the wrong one it was the decision I took for obvious reasons. :? :? Quote by meat2pleaseu
with the amount of shag and go 'any holes a goal' blokes who use the site, you'd be crazy not to protect your own health. And if you think having a child from a random shag is acceptable, you're either too stupid or irresponible to be a parent in the first place
I never thought I'd see myself doing this before Meaty but.......
and NO I WON'T while I'm down there
Sex God
Quote by Kiss_Me
I'm going to stick my neck out here and probably get my face slapped!
Woman who see having children as a meal ticket to easy money or trapping a man don't deserve to have children!!! I think having a child is a privilege and kids shouldn’t be used as a weapon or as a means to manipulate others.
No slapping from me. I agree with you about that. Children are not a tool or a means to an end.
As for the long term relationship thing, surely the issue of children comes up in conversation and if one party wants kids and the other doesn't then I'd guess it would be a matter of respecting the other persons wishes or talking them around?
Depending on how important it was to your relationship.If it was that important then am I being nieve to say that a relationship is a two way street and compromises have to be reached between yourselves rather than tricking the other person?
The issue at hand I think are the people not within the long term relationships or the one night standers... but the women who's sole ambition in life is to get pregnant so they don't have to work, just live off the benefits they get from the state.
Personally I wouldn't want that for myself but I'm not about to decry those who do because there are probably reasons behind it whether they are concious of it or not.
Gem. x
Warming the Bed
As my Dear Ol' Mama Used to Say to Me...
If you're going somewhere Wet.. Wear a Raincoat!
Until you know someone real well... Best to go in Wrapped.. For Everybodies sake...
(I Actually know at least one Girl and One Guy who've arranged this kinda stuff in order to keep their Partners.. Both have now split leaving 2 kids with Broken Homes)
If you're going somewhere Wet.. Wear a Raincoat!
Until you know someone real well... Best to go in Wrapped.. For Everybodies sake...
(I Actually know at least one Girl and One Guy who've arranged this kinda stuff in order to keep their Partners.. Both have now split leaving 2 kids with Broken Homes)
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I was talking to one of the women I work with about her daughter.
She's 22, but a bit young for her age and a bit clingy. Aparently she's been worried her boyfriend was going to leave her and low and behold she's "accidentally" got pregnant because she "forgot" to take the pill.
Now this kind of thing really annoys the crap out of me and I do know girls who I went to school with who see getting knocked up as some kind of career move.
As I was thinking about this I got to thinking of the guys on here. Does it ever worry you that you might be meeting up with someone for no strings sex, but they're actually trying to get pregnant and live off your earnings for the next 18 years?
Not that I'm in the market at all, but it'd worry me sick - so no way, no how would I ever sleep with anyone without a condom. Sadly too many men don't think before they act and they should do because getting a casual partner pregnant these days is not only morally unacceptable but could prove to be a very, very expensive mistake. This all of course ignores the not inconsiderable health risks associated with unprotected sex which ought to be another powerful reason for men taking responsibility in such matters.
Sexpert
I wouldn't be worried about offspring cos I've been to the vet's. Mind you it was too late, My Ex-wife had 2 kids before leaving me to look after them ( not that I mind they're great kids ). She ain't paid a penny in support either.
but people do need to be concerned about the possible results of their actions. I was married and I've now got another 13+ years to think about what happened. Still it gives me something do do in the evening.
but people do need to be concerned about the possible results of their actions. I was married and I've now got another 13+ years to think about what happened. Still it gives me something do do in the evening.
Sex God
Oops ... as Dambuster says, I misread the post 
I think you might need to re-read that.
I read it that she was the absent parent.
As someone that's been "involved" in four - yep four, you think I'd learn
- the funniest thing ever was when someone tried for a fifth time; about 6 or 7 years after I'd had the snip :grin:
Did I say straight away that I'd had the snip, or did I let her run the course of blood tests and the such ???????
That type of person is one of the very few that I have little or no time for.
I read it that she was the absent parent.
As someone that's been "involved" in four - yep four, you think I'd learn
- the funniest thing ever was when someone tried for a fifth time; about 6 or 7 years after I'd had the snip :grin:Did I say straight away that I'd had the snip, or did I let her run the course of blood tests and the such ???????
That type of person is one of the very few that I have little or no time for.
Sex God
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
As I was thinking about this I got to thinking of the guys on here. Does it ever worry you that you might be meeting up with someone for no strings sex, but they're actually trying to get pregnant and live off your earnings for the next 18 years?
I always use a condom for the same reasons as everyone else does - health reasons and to avoid unwanted pregnancy when it's a 'no strings' situation.
Case in point is a different matter though as I think whilst most sensible people practice safe sex outside of a relationship, when you're in an established long term relationship, the tendancy is that another form of contraception is used . We could discuss whether or not that is 'right' but I think reality is that this is the case.
It was of course, wrong and immature of the girl to get pregnant, accidentally on purpose ... and if the relationship is doomed, the presence of a baby may delay the break up but it won't change the fact that it'll happen .
Nope. I always go for safe sex. Though I do like to finish off by coming over breasts/tummies or backs/arses. I suppose I ought to watch out in case of surrepticious sampling into freezer bags instead of being wiped with super absorbant kitchen roll.
Or do as Brian Hanrahan "I counted them all out, and I counted them all back again" (c. 1982).
Re the young lady. I was the result of a similar circumstance 40 years back. I'm thankful to my mum for bringing me here, but she suffered socially and mentally as a consequence.
Or do as Brian Hanrahan "I counted them all out, and I counted them all back again" (c. 1982).
Re the young lady. I was the result of a similar circumstance 40 years back. I'm thankful to my mum for bringing me here, but she suffered socially and mentally as a consequence.
Sex God
In this instance,swinging,its all about playing safe,to mutually enjoy it but not pass on or catch any STD,and to not cause or be caused any harm physically or mentally.
As for the idea of concieving a chlld in this context,thats crazy!
As for the idea of concieving a chlld in this context,thats crazy!
There is another aspect to this which I had also considered.
The issue of having kids and reproduction in general is something which is often overlooked or treated without due respect by the population. This is because we are largely persuaded and educated into thinking that it all should be a very controlled business preferably done when we are mature enough or have acquired a life time job, house and financial stability or independence. Which is why many 'older' people are having kids and also having problems in having them.
So I think that many people don't actually fall into line with the current trends in ideal family rearing. They just get on with having kids regardless of common opinion.
For many people it is life itself to have kids, whether they can actually manage the situation or not. To them it is what its all about.
The issue of having kids and reproduction in general is something which is often overlooked or treated without due respect by the population. This is because we are largely persuaded and educated into thinking that it all should be a very controlled business preferably done when we are mature enough or have acquired a life time job, house and financial stability or independence. Which is why many 'older' people are having kids and also having problems in having them.
So I think that many people don't actually fall into line with the current trends in ideal family rearing. They just get on with having kids regardless of common opinion.
For many people it is life itself to have kids, whether they can actually manage the situation or not. To them it is what its all about.
It used to woory me when I was younger
Nowadays though I'm a lot more choosy who I play with and if a girl pulled a stunt like that to me she come very unstuck as I don't do unprotected sex no matter what she tells me. NOt 100% I kmnow but I'd have a pretty good idea if something went wrong myself rather than rely on someone elses word.
TTFN Abbey
Nowadays though I'm a lot more choosy who I play with and if a girl pulled a stunt like that to me she come very unstuck as I don't do unprotected sex no matter what she tells me. NOt 100% I kmnow but I'd have a pretty good idea if something went wrong myself rather than rely on someone elses word.
TTFN Abbey
i once saw an advert on a different site, it was a single woman who was looking for single males and couples, anyway we made contact and after a couple of months we decided to all meet up, but then her profile changed and the post read:
"sorry i am not swinging anymore as I am pregnant, can any males I have met up with in the last few months please get in touch"
I now wonder if this was her intention: :?:
"sorry i am not swinging anymore as I am pregnant, can any males I have met up with in the last few months please get in touch"
I now wonder if this was her intention
: :?: About 10 years ago I lived in Leicester, had a very good job, nice batchelor flat + posh car etc. I was always concerned that I would be seen as a meal ticket and actually considered the snip to prevent it from happening! I always used a condom but there were been a few occasions when it has burst, when this has happened I have insisted that I accompany the girl to the chemist for the morning after pill... Sounds tuff but there is no protection from the courts for single men that take precautions but get trapped, and a short visit to the chemist is far better than the sleepless nights waiting for the knock on the door...
Sad thing is I did get stung, but I fell for a far more clever stunt than "oops I'm pregnant"...
Sad thing is I did get stung, but I fell for a far more clever stunt than "oops I'm pregnant"...
Orgasminator
Had a vasectomy... pregnancy is not an issue as i've had it over 5 years now so even if i wanted to the chances of a reversal are slim to say the least.
Quote by osemlover
I was talking to one of the women I work with about her daughter.
She's 22, but a bit young for her age and a bit clingy. Aparently she's been worried her boyfriend was going to leave her and low and behold she's "accidentally" got pregnant because she "forgot" to take the pill.
Now this kind of thing really annoys the crap out of me and I do know girls who I went to school with who see getting knocked up as some kind of career move.
As I was thinking about this I got to thinking of the guys on here. Does it ever worry you that you might be meeting up with someone for no strings sex, but they're actually trying to get pregnant and live off your earnings for the next 18 years?
Not that I'm in the market at all, but it'd worry me sick - so no way, no how would I ever sleep with anyone without a condom. Sadly too many men don't think before they act and they should do because getting a casual partner pregnant these days is not only morally unacceptable but could prove to be a very, very expensive mistake. This all of course ignores the not inconsiderable health risks associated with unprotected sex which ought to be another powerful reason for men taking responsibility in such matters.
I do agree with what you have said.
