sex are love

6 Dec 2005

they could have mine... as long as I keep the pay and expenses and I can still travel around and stay in hotels...

6 Dec 2005

Quote by dirtylittlemechanic
opposite ends of the scale, sex can be with anyone,love should be just for one but you don't need sex to be in love ?

Says who?
That's a belief made by some religions but not necessarily true for everyone - I'm not certain love follows a rule smile

6 Dec 2005

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7 Dec 2005

You can have love without sex and sex without sex with love is the ultimate for me :inlove:
Sex and love are completely different(then again I miss sex when its not there immenseley :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: )

7 Dec 2005

Just read through this - its quite interesting and has left me with the question which is more important, sex or love?

7 Dec 2005

Quote by sexy davey
so what,s the diffrence in sex and love are they the same are not some people think they are like the old saying it his better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all a load of crap if you have never loved you can,t get hurt but does sex lead into love am i talking sense not to sure myself

I agree with most of what has been said by others - A combination of love and great sex is an ideal - I have had it in the past an it was very good.... but often it does not last... if it does those people are really fortunate....
There are then all sorts of variations on the love and sex theme......
I have had some of my best sexual expereinces with people I have liked - neither of us were in love - but we had great sex......in fact I have loved some women but the sex was not as good as with women I just liked..... sexual chemistry. the right moments, two people who just connect - a wonderful mystery...... its why so many people cheat but dont admit to it - we all are in search of great sexual expereinces.....not just on the ceiling orgasms but everything else that goes with - the closeness, the build up, the excitement....the feelings that make us come alive.... people with low sexual drives or people who are repressed wrap it all up with the monogamy approach etc but the evidence is that for most people monogamy just does not work..... as a society we need a more open attitude....

7 Dec 2005

Quote by Cheetah
so what,s the diffrence in sex and love are they the same are not some people think they are like the old saying it his better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all a load of crap if you have never loved you can,t get hurt but does sex lead into love am i talking sense not to sure myself

I agree with most of what has been said by others - A combination of love and great sex is an ideal - I have had it in the past an it was very good.... but often it does not last... if it does those people are really fortunate....
There are then all sorts of variations on the love and sex theme......
I have had some of my best sexual expereinces with people I have liked - neither of us were in love - but we had great sex......in fact I have loved some women but the sex was not as good as with women I just liked..... sexual chemistry. the right moments, two people who just connect - a wonderful mystery...... its why so many people cheat but dont admit to it - we all are in search of great sexual expereinces.....not just on the ceiling orgasms but everything else that goes with - the closeness, the build up, the excitement....the feelings that make us come alive.... people with low sexual drives or people who are repressed wrap it all up with the monogamy approach etc but the evidence is that for most people monogamy just does not work..... as a society we need a more open attitude....
And so says the Cheetah trying to justify cheating. He's right though and has the balls to say it so good for him.
I believe sex and love can be totally separate and totally the same, depends on the chemistry between the two participants. Had love at the age of 12, remember that first pure total heart rending feeling? Well it took another 8 years before I had that again and that included sex, the best yet and I'm in my forties now even though I'd had sex with several different women by that time.
Something else to consider is can great sex lead to love? I think so, I'm still with my partner of many years from a start of great sex and now love her dearly.
Thats my

worth

7 Dec 2005

Ok seem to have the same veiw as everyone else....sex is different to love..
Sex is just sex and fun....but sex is amazing withsome you love...then it becomes making love i think..as you have all the emotions..
Love is strange there are different levels of love....love for your child..your mate and family...and that someone special...also the love for an ex partner..love your pets...these are all love but in different senses....
We all feel love in different ways and we all have our own beliefs...we are who we are and differnet things have made us this way....
Its strange to say but sex is something i enjoy but i can turn myself off when having it...i enjoy the moment then just get on with things after......however if im feeling things for the person i am having sex with then it becomes something different...its not just sex...
Hope you can understand my rambling lol

7 Dec 2005

Some of this is to much for me to get hold of.
What has some ancient Greek got to do with me feeling randy.
I do know that if you are in love with someone it usually alters your attitude to sex. Maybe I'm unusual but when having sex with someone I love, it's for them. When having casual sex it's for me.
smile

Present for Sexy Dave ,,,,,,,,,.........AAA BBB etc.

7 Dec 2005

you need to ask what the diffarence between sex and love? :shock:
could you shag a stranger? no? what you doing here then?
don't mean you love them

7 Dec 2005

Quote by Cheetah
people with low sexual drives or people who are repressed wrap it all up with the monogamy approach etc but the evidence is that for most people monogamy just does not work..... as a society we need a more open attitude....

But not an open attitude to people who believe in and practice monogamy? the rest of oh so enlightened people should treat their choice with disdain and simply label them as having a low sex drive or repressed rather than respect their choice?
Oh yes, that's a great attitude to have - if you don't cheat or swing, you're in sexual denial.
Good grief rolleyes

7 Dec 2005

Quote by Serendipity
people with low sexual drives or people who are repressed wrap it all up with the monogamy approach etc but the evidence is that for most people monogamy just does not work..... as a society we need a more open attitude....

But not an open attitude to people who believe in and practice monogamy? the rest of oh so enlightened people should treat their choice with disdain and simply label them as having a low sex drive or repressed rather than respect their choice?
Oh yes, that's a great attitude to have - if you don't cheat or swing, you're in sexual denial.
Good grief rolleyes

i think there must be many couples who are happy to stay with just each other sexually and have a very healthy sex life, you don't need to have sex with many people to have a good sex life :roll:
reminded me of the guy i met once who told me i wasn't cause i only had one female partner

7 Dec 2005

When I'm in love I can quite happily go without sex if my partner doesn't want it but when sex does happen it's so much better with someone you love. It's more emotional, more intense and makes me feel very very happy.
Sex without love is just sex. You can have intimate moments and displays of affection such as the cuddles, kisses etc etc but it is still just sex. I've been fooled before (years back) into thinking there was something more because he cuddled and kissed me and told me I was beautiful etc etc but apparently it was just sex, nothing more.
I now remember that everytime I have sex with someone I'm not in love with - emotions do try to get the better of me and sometimes it's confusing but in the end it's my head not my heart that I listen to.

7 Dec 2005

I think the distinction between Sex and Love is clearly established above but I'd like to draw a distinction between Love and Being in Love.
I can love someone and say so in a friendly way. What it means at the lower end of the spectrum is that I have more than just a high regard or affection for them. I s'pose it means I have a lot of time for them. At the other end there is something more intense but basically rational.
This, in my view is quite different to Being in Love, which is an extremely intense uncontrollable state to be in. You become illogical, besotted, preoccupied and totally swept up in the person you are In Love with. It is a real thrill but a dangerous state to be in.
Any thoughts?

7 Dec 2005

Quote by westerross
I think the distinction between Sex and Love is clearly established above but I'd like to draw a distinction between Love and Being in Love.
I can love someone and say so in a friendly way. What it means at the lower end of the spectrum is that I have more than just a high regard or affection for them. I s'pose it means I have a lot of time for them. At the other end there is something more intense but basically rational.
This, in my view is quite different to Being in Love, which is an extremely intense uncontrollable state to be in. You become illogical, besotted, preoccupied and totally swept up in the person you are In Love with. It is a real thrill but a dangerous state to be in.
Any thoughts?

I kind fo agree that you can't decide who you fall "in love" with but to love someone they have made a series of gestures which has lead to you feeling that way for example, theyre always there when you need a friendly ear to bend, they give you a smile when you need it most or a cuddle when you're feeling alone. All things that cost nothing but can mean so much it's priceless.
kiss

Gem. x