Sex drives

12 Sep 2006

Just been reading another thread about a poor single guy not getting any replies from fems and how rude he found it to be.
The general consensus from respondents was, as we all know, that most fems on here have hundreds of PMs to deal with in their mailbox and that it is unreasonable to expect them to respond to them all, especially when 80% are from TTTTs.
That raises a question in my mind as to whether the Maker got it wrong when He came to divi up the sex drives between men and women.
Now I know we are blessed hereabouts with some wonderful women, who have a pretty healthy sex drive, but the sheer imbalance of the sex drive means that as soon as they stick their heads over the parapet they are inundated with a tidal wave of testosterone laden penises.
Is that fair or proper I ask myself?
What would it be like if He had balanced things up a bit â€“ would it be better or would it be worse? dunno

:dunno: :dunno:
What if, indeed, he had put the boot on the other foot? :shock: :shock: :shock: Would any of us guys have any testicles left at all? Would we guys enjoy it? :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I think we need answers to these questions? And we need them now!!
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12 Sep 2006

I always thought he'd given it all to me! :confused:

12 Sep 2006

Personally I've found my sex drive has gone through the roof since I past 40 :shock: I was never this bloody rampant even in my 20s ! I just can't get my feet behind my head as easily :giggle:
They say that men reach their peak in the mid 30s and women in their 40s. I can agree with the women's bit but not sure it's true about men. From what I've had in my mailbox, they seem to be testostorone charged love bunnies from early 20s to late 50s!

12 Sep 2006

Hmm - recall seeing a programme on this very subject, the theory being that a woman has only one egg per month whereas a man has millions of sperm and as pregnancy is such a huge commitment, a woman is naturally more selective..
To test the theory they strapped a hidden camera to a man and a woman who then had the dubious honour of roaming a University campus asking the infamous question 'Will you go to bed with me'.
From memory, none of the women said yes to the man but around 3/4 of the men thought it was a pretty good idea and said yes to the woman !
They also showed that fidelity can be gauged by the average size of the males testicles - for example, a Gorilla has very little to shout home about but has no competition for his harem so it is not needed whereas a Chimpanzee has cannon balls - and is very promiscuous.
If you were wondering, humans are in-between !

12 Sep 2006

I have sex a normal amount with Steve, in fact lots and lots for a couple that have been married almost nine years. It can be every day for a week or so or every other day, but he'll tell you that I always want more. I had more than my far share of guys before him and he's the best lover I could ask for, still the only guy to make me cum, has great stamina, but still I'd like more sex...I tend to be asking him as sweetly as possible if we can have sex again in the middle of the night even though he has to get up and do a full day in a professional job...
You tell me who has the highest sex drive...we're out of batteries and I've burnt out/broken three toys in the past few weeks?!!
:undecided:
Holly
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12 Sep 2006

Chris and I are pretty evenly matched with one another, but I can be quite greedy in a swinging situation :twisted:

12 Sep 2006

I've been thinking more about this and there is a difference between sex drive and wanting to sleep with as many people as possible.
I think that many man are natural swingers in that they'd happily sleep with any number of women/men (depending on preferences), if they were able to do this conveniently and if it was of no consequence to anyone they might be involved with on a more intimate level.
This does not mean that they'd want to have sex more of the time. A guy's sex drive might fluctuate depending on the prospect or thought of new blood, realistic thoughts or just the fantasies of porn films, but this doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex all day every day, I think?
The fact that I like to have sex with Steve as much as is physically possible does not mean that I'd want to have sex with as many men as possible, even if they were all handsome, well mannered, friendly, skillful and passionate...I'm more interested in other men from the point of view of friendship, flirting and perhaps sharing them with Steve. Women, on the other hand, might be another story... :twisted:
That desire for variety isn't a numbers thing...if in my wildest dreams I had more pms from sexy women than I could reply to, I'd still just be looking for occasional sexy meets with different women or regular meets with a few/one special lady, of course in reality there aren't enough women for the women any more than there are for the men! :cry:
Am I making sense to anyone? For men its about quantity of sexual partners or quantity of fantasies, but for women it's about hours and satisfaction and the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people?
Longest post ever, sorry... confused

Holly
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12 Sep 2006

Quote by loveh4s
Am I making sense to anyone? For men its about quantity of sexual partners or quantity of fantasies, but for women it's about hours and satisfaction and the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people?

I don't agree that it's necessary about quantity of sexual partners just for men. Or that it's about hours and satisfaction just for women. I do agree with this though: 'the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people'

12 Sep 2006

We are very equal, take it in turns to be demanding depending on what else is going on. Have to say I find equal sex drives (and certainly the woman wanting more) very unusual, certainly amongst many of our friends. We are known in our circle for having sex the most/being most adventurous etc but I see us as normal and them as weird LOL wink

:wink: :wink:
Also agree with Sassy that I get hornier with the years...hence why we're here biggrin

pink x

12 Sep 2006

Quote by Freckledbird

Am I making sense to anyone? For men its about quantity of sexual partners or quantity of fantasies, but for women it's about hours and satisfaction and the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people?

I don't agree that it's necessary about quantity of sexual partners just for men. Or that it's about hours and satisfaction just for women. I do agree with this though: 'the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people'
Well! yes. You make perfect sense but from my point of view and that which comes from a 30 year old man with a very high sex drive I personally feel that it needs two to tango.
In a perfect world should my partner/wife girlfriend be equal in respect to been able to match mine or her partners sex drive (as mentioned earlier "asking him as sweetly as possible if we can have sex again in the middle of the night even though he has to get up and do a full day"
would the question of wanting to look for greener pastures or varity be such a big one?? dunno

12 Sep 2006

Quote by Freckledbird

Am I making sense to anyone? For men its about quantity of sexual partners or quantity of fantasies, but for women it's about hours and satisfaction and the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people?

I don't agree that it's necessary about quantity of sexual partners just for men. Or that it's about hours and satisfaction just for women. I do agree with this though: 'the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people'
I guess that we're all different in what makes us randy. lol

There did seem some suggestion in the original post that perhaps if women wanted more male partners, or men wanted fewer women, then sexual needs would even out, but until we know that there are equal numbers of men and women on the site we'll never really know.
I do agree with the comment higher up, though, women are more likely to turn men down for sex than men women, even when numbers are equal. I don't think this has anything to do with how special the men or women available are either. I don't think that I'm the prettiest of women, or the best socially, but in my single days I usually only had to smile or tell a man I was interested if I wanted sex. I think that I enjoyed some intelligent and attractive men too, one of them was Steve. :twisted:
Somehow, though, I don't think those men would have got the same positive response with all the women they approached. I know that my other half did very well, but he is very loveable. :lol:
Holly
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12 Sep 2006

Quote by Robin Prince of Thieves
In a perfect world should my partner/wife girlfriend be equal in respect to been able to match mine or her partners sex drive (as mentioned earlier "asking him as sweetly as possible if we can have sex again in the middle of the night even though he has to get up and do a full day "
would the question of wanting to look for greener pastures or varity be such a big one??

This sounds interesting, but I'm honestly not sure want your trying to say. Can you elaborate?
This may or may not be an answer depending on what you mean:
If we both had a perfectly equal sex drive, we'd both still be wanting to meet people of our own sex to experiment with, he'd still like to play with other women (and me more when he thinks about this), I'd still like the idea of playing with some guys with him and we'd both still ideally like a meet occasionally rather than very frequently. We'd also feel passionate/intimate during sex in the way we do now and this would still be different from what we could experience with anyone else.
The only things that would change is that I'd masturbate less without him and he'd initiate more of the time.
:dunno:
Holly

12 Sep 2006

Quote by varca
Not sure about saying this but I have had 2 long term partners, 1 for 15 years (similar age to me) and 1 for 2 years (13 years older), with a few swinging 2/2's (similar ages or younger), a few 1/1's (similar/older) in between, all with the approval of said partners I might add My experience has been that I have nearly always had the greater appetite, multiorgasmic @me. :D Never really been left unsatisfied, just greedy I guess!!!

Good for you babe!!! smile

Holly
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13 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
...edit.... I just can't get my feet behind my head as easily

If it would make you feel any better you could always get them around my head - would that count ? :P :rascal:

13 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross
Would we guys enjoy it? :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I think we need answers to these questions? And we need them now!!
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I would do just what the ladies are doing. Take a look, pick the best, by my standards, and yes enjoy it!
I have always felt a pink a jealousy, women only have to smile for a hundred men to offer innocent

. What we poor men have to go through to get an offer. :cry:

13 Sep 2006

I have a much higher sex drive than my girlfriend. Also, when I had my only long-term relationship with a man, I had a much higher sex drive than him too. lol

I can empathise with the guys though because I am also chasing the lovely ladies.

13 Sep 2006

Quote by blueeyes6969
...edit.... I just can't get my feet behind my head as easily

If it would make you feel any better you could always get them around my head - would that count ? :P :rascal:
That'd work! :twisted:

13 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
I have a much higher sex drive than my girlfriend. Also, when I had my only long-term relationship with a man, I had a much higher sex drive than him too.
I can empathise with the guys though because I am also chasing the lovely ladies.

This doesn't surprise me Kiss! wink

Holly
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13 Sep 2006

Quote by loveh4s
I have a much higher sex drive than my girlfriend. Also, when I had my only long-term relationship with a man, I had a much higher sex drive than him too.
I can empathise with the guys though because I am also chasing the lovely ladies.

This doesn't surprise me Kiss! wink

Holly
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:shock:
What?
One of my many nicknames is 'sexpest'..... but it just isn't true!
cool

13 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
I have a much higher sex drive than my girlfriend. Also, when I had my only long-term relationship with a man, I had a much higher sex drive than him too.
I can empathise with the guys though because I am also chasing the lovely ladies.

This doesn't surprise me Kiss! wink

Holly
x
:shock:
What?
One of my many nicknames is 'sexpest'..... but it just isn't true!
cool

Holly
x

13 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Personally I've found my sex drive has gone through the roof since I past 40 :shock: I was never this bloody rampant even in my 20s ! I just can't get my feet behind my head as easily :giggle:
From what I've had in my mailbox, they seem to be testostorone charged love bunnies from early 20s to late 50s!

I totally agree Sassy, especially regarding how bendy I am now compared with 20 years ago!
Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...
Girls, don't you just LOVE multiple orgasms, how jealous are the guys???

13 Sep 2006

Quote by angieyorkshire
Personally I've found my sex drive has gone through the roof since I past 40 :shock: I was never this bloody rampant even in my 20s ! I just can't get my feet behind my head as easily :giggle:
From what I've had in my mailbox, they seem to be testostorone charged love bunnies from early 20s to late 50s!

I totally agree Sassy, especially regarding how bendy I am now compared with 20 years ago!
Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...
Girls, don't you just LOVE multiple orgasms, how jealous are the guys???
My ex used to count them :giggle: and he was dead jealous when he could only manage once a night :smug:

13 Sep 2006

Quote by angieyorkshire
Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...

Hmmm, that sounds like a challenge! :twisted:
I'm gonna get back to this one on a sensible level soon - I promise. I've been really encouraged by the quality responses. I half expected some derision.
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13 Sep 2006

Quote by angieyorkshire
Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...

I found one :twisted:

13 Sep 2006

Quote by Freckledbird

Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...

I found one :twisted:
Where did you put him then?? wink

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13 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross

Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...

I found one :twisted:
Where did you put him then?? wink

In safe keeping, ready for next time :twisted:

13 Sep 2006

Quote by linekerll
Hmm - recall seeing a programme on this very subject, the theory being that a woman has only one egg per month whereas a man has millions of sperm and as pregnancy is such a huge commitment, a woman is naturally more selective..

This is probably very close to the root of the cause methinks.

Quote by loveh4s

Am I making sense to anyone? For men its about quantity of sexual partners or quantity of fantasies, but for women it's about hours and satisfaction and the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people?

I don't agree that it's necessary about quantity of sexual partners just for men. Or that it's about hours and satisfaction just for women. I do agree with this though: 'the greater insatiable desire is sparked by a more limited number of special people'
I guess that we're all different in what makes us randy. lol

There did seem some suggestion in the original post that perhaps if women wanted more male partners, or men wanted fewer women, then sexual needs would even out, but until we know that there are equal numbers of men and women on the site we'll never really know.
I do agree with the comment higher up, though, women are more likely to turn men down for sex than men women, even when numbers are equal. I don't think this has anything to do with how special the men or women available are either. I don't think that I'm the prettiest of women, or the best socially, but in my single days I usually only had to smile or tell a man I was interested if I wanted sex. I think that I enjoyed some intelligent and attractive men too, one of them was Steve. :twisted:
Somehow, though, I don't think those men would have got the same positive response with all the women they approached. I know that my other half did very well, but he is very loveable. :lol:
Holly
:confused:
These posts, and similar ones, come closest to what the situation is now,I think.
When I first put this thread together I almost inserted **light-hearted responses only** - but I'm glad I didn't now because of some really thoughtful replies - thanks.
Angelica and I suddenly found this topic interesting over dinner the other night. We reckoned that, if sex drives were equally divided it'd make no difference to population levels but it could radically change human behaviour. Yup the boot'd be on both feet and the tally of PMs in male and fem's mailboxes could be equal but then we'd all have to think more carefully about responses.
So when all's said and done, we guys should be grateful to the fems, who just blow 85% of the chaff out of their Inboxes as they do now.
:twisted: Otherwise we'd have to do it.
Agreed?
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13 Sep 2006

Quote by westerross

Men always tell you they can keep going all night, but yet to find one that can really keep up with me...

Hmmm, that sounds like a challenge! :twisted: .
It is, though in truth I think I'm going to have to try a couple of guys at once one day - kinda hard to set up if you are a single fem - safely, that is...